Jacob Morres

what is toxic feminity? How are we defining it?

What would be considered misandry? Like what phrases and expressions does it show up as? I'm unsure of what it is and how it manifests in the real world and how I would spot it accurately

FOMO is a fear right? Maybe there are some techniques you could use that you know of that could help work through that fear

i dont have advice but i feel for u lol. i have been on both sides she's definietely marginalizing your opinion though, unconsciously i think because of her conditioned scientific mind. i think maybe you could bring it to her how u feel about it. i dont think you could change her mind but she might be more respectful to your beliefs. she has growing to do this area but maybe you could also assert your values and your feelings while simultaneously exploring the trigger and working through it. your feelings matter bro i do have super scientifically oriented friend but he just kind of "accepts" my beliefs. probs thinks im a little crazy for some things that i do but i dont get a sense of judgement or criticism from him

the way i determine what decisions to make is based off the context at hand. so i dont know exactly what the entire context for you is so i cant give you advice, cuz id be going off very little information that being said, doing anything early is great because you just get more value in the long-run, versus procrastinating or keep it off. it also sort of depends on what you feel is more important to you i think and what you value/need at the moment theoretically i dont see much wrong with doing pickup at a younger age. i would just say to filter it through what you feel is right/important

@LastThursday would you say this applies because i don't think OP is talking about sex

My value system generally wants to avoid taken girls The drama that follows in my experience is ridiculous Not to say all situations are the same though

I think it also has to do with men doing the chasing and women being chased. The dynamic gives women more options than men because it takes much more effort to put yourself out there. It's like a natural abundance versus scarcity. That dynamic that defaults to scarcity I think causes limiting beliefs in men which then causes the problems u relayed I think it can be way more nuanced than what I mentioned ofc but this feels like an important piece

yeah i agree. people are rationalizing bad behavior because they feel it's the right thing to do... fighting injustice with unjust behavior.

I think two questions that might help you here might be: What is the value of loving yourself in a relationship and what would that give to you? And what would happen if I didn't love myself? And what impact would that have in the relationship? When I answer that question for myself, i received some profound answers personally

Love it. Did u write this?

@Preety_India feel like saying something like that is like saying "Men like women who are "7+" on the looks scale." Pretty unnaunced

low social intelligence maybe? it's pretty rude. i've never had a negative response like that from talking to girls before she's also self-weeding herself for you if she talks to you like that

@MatteO22 my fault I vaguely remembered u saying it a few days ago. Ill try to find it

@MatteO22 i'm curious about what you mean about the blatant misogyny on the forum

+1 this is my perspective mostly

Also maybe see how they respond when you tell them an issue. Do they hold space? Do they care about your well being? Do they validate your feelings? Also seeing if they're able to meet your wants and needs seems important to me. So getting clear on that and seeing if they can fulfill that. For example if someone has a need for intimacy, and the partner isn't meeting you there, it may be beneficial to see how important it is for you. Some people say to list your non negotiables before entering a relationship. Things that are important or you walk Also getting clear on the other persons intentions and seeing if their actions match those words helps. If they don't, it's important to set strong boundaries and be willing to walk away. Feel and think abundance. Like if they say they are into a relationship with you but you catch them on Tinder, strong boundaries are important

@IAmReallyImportant lol all good

I employed the sacrifice all for LP mentality. Ofc that's not the reigning mentality here I think but you need to be careful, strategic and intelligent when making decisions.

@Preety_India intuition

na they dont hate you in fact green loves you. at least in theory should right? they support men who are more "feminine" i guess. but wouldnt say women find it attractive. but they support out of love and breaking gender norms i think it has to do with your inner child and healing rather than women i empathize with you though. i can think like that at times. it's a tough place if a woman actually despised you for being literally wounded and a suffering person (doormat type) i think that tells you more about them than you. and they're self-selecting themselves by not having empathy and some humanity for you. also it's weird especially since many women themselves have this issue (doormat type)

@Shin appreciate the effort to create positive constructive discourse. Very admirable

How far can you get with it? And if you had to compare it with an intimate relationship , can it compare?

my thoughts arent so deep on the topic but it seems unfair to have double standards. as long as she's loyal now idrc

yeah for sure. some good marketing and people skills can help you tremendously finding audience/customers, meeting people's needs, (being ethical,), advertisements, being different (some/none/other combination of these) etc. i dont know this space particularly but i know business generally and onlyfans is very lucractive personally i recommend to study the space a bit, see common tactics and then find a strategy you feel could work and then iterate if it doesn't onlyfans does have a subtle rep of taking adv of its customers so if i had to insert my own 2c. id look into the ethics of marketing and stuff, it could hinder success a bit if you take a hardcore approach with that