Jacob Morres

@Preety_India what do u mean by security?

@Preety_India Im pretty sure these gender roles are stage blue Nothing wrong with it ofc

I don't like the idea of paying for girls. I'm not a sugar daddy lol If a girl needs that from me I'm down. But she shouldnt expect it from me.

You can find it yourself by asking that yourself why you do that. Some inner insecurity probably drives it On a side note if the genders were switched this would look really bad lmao

You can definitely make 30 hours/week work if that's what you desire One way is to up the money potential and another way is to reduce the spending To survive pay check to pay check even in manhattan is doable with $20/hr with 40 hours a week. It doesn't suit my needs personally but it's doable. Personally I need more $$ for investments, security and fun But if that's all you desire it's definitely doable I'd just do the math TBH just a suggestion - maybe considering making more versus saving more? It can give you more freedom.

arent they being selfish for not supporting the grind for your dreams because *they want* to see you more calling someone selfish can sometimes be selfish - when it's proclaiming a judgement for not meeting a certain need of yours (which is your thing)

Idk bro A man who is not ruthless to a woman, will receive ruthless from the woman? Hmm. Yes u must have boundaries and assertiveness but if she's ruthless to you, she's not the right girl.

online dating can be valuable imo. but it requires patience and upfront effort. but after you get good at it you can afford to put in way less effort later

@Javfly33 ik what's it's like but if you optimize your profile and learn detachment you can get decently far with online game - even without much effort

@Nos7algiK never wrestle with a pig bcuz you get dirty too and the pig likes it emerald said she is here to spar and win

@Vzdoh American indian?

@Consilience Idk tbh I think it could be I dont agree with taking your anger out onto people, and I would never recommend it But in the past when I did feel angry at others and I applied love to myself, I have actually been left with the desire to hurt others (I didn't go through with it, because I was conscious enough). I think if he continues to apply self-love he will grow and develop but at the exact stage he is at, that IS the self-love move. With time and more development it will weed itself out. But still I'd encourage and strongly recommend other more conscious ways of coping Idk. Also self-love I don't think, is corresponded to being conscious of others inherently. I think self-love (lowercase) might be a "selfish" act. But sometimes it can show up as what is considered as unselfish as well Just contemplating self-love Open-minded to being delusion lol

The reason I recommended a therapist is I could see you were not being heard/seen by the commenters. That was all.

@Preety_India A beautiful wall of projection

This forum needs a consciousness awakening

@StarStruck I didn't mean it negatively. I just meant in the sense maybe a professional could hold space for you. I think such issues need to be handled with delicate care Youre not alone. And what youre doing and feeling is understandable. But yeah I would really try to refrain and find different strategies in the future (which is what you're doing now) I'm not trained in this but I hope and know u will find the healng you need

i would get a therapist or a life coach man

??? interestingoso never knew this

i support the side that's willing to have conscious, empathetic discussions lmao but these civil rights movements are always so ugly fr. at least it's better than having a war lol

@sholomar Good point. But I do hear from some people that they have a lot of trouble balancing both.

it's literally textbook spiritual bypassing lol it's like saying "well all there is, is the present moment, so don't worry about it" but that's only if that philosophy is truly embodied which takes a lot of work

agree no way. way too spiritual and not practical. human needs like intimacy with others can take years to transcend . this is 'spiritual bypassing'

This Leo himself says that teachings that come from judgement and criticism are not holisitic and will be very narrow and to generally not trust them. It's okay. The only reason I know this is because I've been on both sides of the coin. So I have empathy for it But I def don't think it's an appropriate (or even useful) method generally.

@flowboy yeah p sure it's gaslighting

@Emerald personally it's just too judgemental for me too take it seriously. I would prefer if you offered your opinion and wanted to have conversations. Like the way you talk about people who do pickup, just the wording is sort of insulting. But that's just me Anyway hope you can reconsider your approach. If not, I get it