Jacob Morres

maybe we need to use systems thinking to observe this phenomena

Very fair. Ik it helps a lot of people, but I do think it's overdone. You can definietely find doctors that are aware of this trap though.

Many psychologists are experts in abnormal psychology but not experienced in new psychology. Like the stuff you gain in personal development, life coaching, and most of positive psychology So their view will be limited. But it can be helpful It actually comes with a ton of limitations - One being is that they see everything in terms of a diagnoses or mental health issue - some doctors have a bias towards medication

1. Moojis wisdom and practice on tough emotions

Kindness requires presence and holism Emma seppala says #1 key for charisma is presence "charisma simply put Is absolute presence" ???? Giving advice requires a ton of presence to do properly... Playing competitive sports requires a ton of presence to play properly Perhaps the summary of all endeavors is presence "Mindfulness is about being fully tuned in to what is going on in the present moment, both around us and within us, with an attitude of openness and curiosity. By practicing mindfulness diligently, we become more objective observers of our world and our reactions to it. We begin to see work situations and challenges more clearly, and recognize our own mental filters and biases in how we understand and deal with them" https://www.hci.org/blog/four-steps-mindful-action As per my understanding, Presence is what allows for clear, holistic decision making, understanding and wisdom, unclouded by the biases of the mind. It's like we see better and clearer

Another reason could be she has a bf /someone she likes / is not ready for dating / etc. Maybe communication is key here

Cuteness =/= Kindness or Holism or Consciousness Guys who try to be macho/tough are trying to put on a masculine front. I think this is a disintegrated feminity (?) Becuase you're not accepting and confident in who you are, which is feminity -> acceptance (?). I see this in myself I noticed that girls who try to be super cute and like cute things like cute animals and stuff, I always felt a sense of toxicity from them. Some form of abrasiveness, toxicity, racist, "snapping back", attitude, ego.. And I kept getting confused because I'd actually thought that the cuteness and kindness were correlated. My expectations for feminity always fell short Is this just me? So my guess is.. Girls who try to be cute are trying to put on a feminine front. This must have a disintegrated masculinity or something if I assume (?) equivalency === I just remembered this picture that SamC posted here so girls that are " cute " but are also bullies have a masculine shadow Did I j make a connection wtf Yo am I carl jung or what Healthy integrated masculinity would be healthy conscious boundaries. Which requires some masculinity right? Conclusion: I am pretty wrong. I'm just keeping this up so I can contemplate on it later

13 blue 40 orange 45 green 2 yellow (percentage wise) im just taking a quick guess

Redefining kindness Kindness is inherently not an act, not a good deed, a gesture, donating money, being nice, hugging someone I think real kindness takes holism to enact you have to understand your own biases, your own weaknesses, the well-being of the other, your own selfishness your own biases can cause you to be selfish -> causing you to do harm onto others sometimes kindness is feigned in the sense that it is done "for others" but under the veil of its own selfishness . like someone doing something for your own good, ...but really it is due to their own fear for you. it might not be good for you either, and really just a desire to ease their fear. like an overprotective mother. maybe its kept in good intentions. i can be a bit jaded in this perspective or if they are donating for public approval, not out of love or empathy of the other person or if they are a Green company only because it would bring more profit! the veil of love (though all of it is human, and perhaps just a lesser form of love (?)) You need to be acutely aware of your own selfishness to be kind. Without this ,you will commit evil. This requires a level of consciousness and development Kindness =/= People pleasing Kindness =/= Being nice Kindness = Emotional intelligence. Awareness of other's emotions Kindness = Good intentions Kindness requires - High self-awareness - Low degree of selfishness/ High degree of selflessness (we are all evil/we must reduce our evil) - Holism and as I wrote a year ago... Kindness without boundaries is self-sabotage "Empathy without boundaries is self destruction Empathy with boundaires is compassion" To have a high degree of selflessness requires a ton of self love, detachment, healthy forms of coping and consciousness (awareness of the situation) TBC.

Very true, I am very low calibre human being I wish I could be as high calibre as you

recently been consuming a lot of this guy's work the reason I like him is because he can be nuanced and a bit un-biased in the sense that he explores many types of productivity strategies in his work, and has a general orientation towards healthy productivity over toxic productivity (but also is able to see the nuances and benefits in the toxic style) this isn't his only one btw he has a bunch of videos on the topic

thanks for sharing this how would you rate their marketing lessons? did you feel it was high caliber?

well i'm sure they are pretty skilled because i know a lot of them have a lot of experience with this also simulteanously id assume they only upload the good clips. i'm sure they fail a lot

very true, weirdos are just a judgement. my two best friends who i initially thought were "weirdos" were just my perception of them, not actuality. in reality, they were great people who had a ton of phenomenal qualities that my "weirdo" label had gotten in the way of seeing. i was projecting they also both became societies version of success as well and built a lot of social status too (doctor and successful entrepreneur), but really they were the same person all along

for what its worth i had a friend who seemed to have the same problem as you. he would say that he would want his alone time sometimes and shed try to have conversations with him. he moved out and likes living in a studio now

What is your favorite non-metaphysical video by Leo? For me personally, "what is ideology" had a massive impact on me As well as "power of asking questions"

@Carl-Richard haha yeah you could say so but they also swing the other way well

@somegirl gotchu. Sorry for that experience. Hinge from my understanding is a bit diff I think in its seriousness. Ik a lot of guys that take hinge way more seriously than tinder. It's like the new wave (at least in my circles) You can meet a ton of great guys there!! Don't give up. I know it I think this advice has to be given to men as well Bcuz when I hear a lot of advice for men it sucks because it reinforces a "not enough" complex. Be more confident, more charismatic, lead better, stay grounded etc. Signifying that you aren't enough as you are

have you tried Hinge? something i found nice was that you can list out your interests in a prompt and Hinge will find you matches with the same keywords. I find a ton of girls like this, it must be similar for men. i also live next to NYC so maybe my sample size is skewed but im sure any city should have it one demographic suggestion i can think of is people in tech - they are pretty orange/green, like people you see in silicon valley. ik a few people in that scene and those guys are orange but also have a lot of green in them. you can find ppl there that care about self improvement, are heart centered, ambitious and impact driven, some are very social, they like events like burning man

what are the men that you like generally looking for?

@zazen just realized it's a massive victim story. yes partial truths here and there but the whole dating apps sucks for guys is extremely disempowering! i think a healthier creator perspective is critical i cant imagine being poor and then looking at my challenges and then saying omg look how bad it sucks to be poor, no time no opportunity, it just sucks to be poor (ofc def not a 1:1 comparison) WAKE UP !!

it seems there are two types of purposes for the scientific method 1. more goal oriented science for ex: in terms of "how do I cure X?" 2. information based experiments for ex: "how does x react with y? i think 2 is required for 1 to create though 1. a foundation of literature, knowledge used to help fulfill a goal oriented experiment scientific method doesn't track true/false, it tracks strong/weak

wtf why does this journal have 1500 views stop reading this omg it is not that good lol

Shit has me locked in lmao

I tried it a bunch a while back. At the time I really liked it but looking back now I'm not sure. But I'm motivated to try it again, thanks for the post