Jacob Morres

Part of you might be doing something that's keeping the relationship alive. Maybe you can't let go yet?

first shot sore arm, 2nd shot fever for a day and a half. worst thing tho is i had to take off my shirt in front of like 50 ppl cuz my sleeve didnt roll up LOL

i think if you become okay with those demons and find healthy ways to manage them that will be helpful and then find new motivations that you find useful and will help you. i suspect there will be a time period where you will lose your edge for a bit while you are reconstructing

this is true I think this requires a higher level of communication this is forum wide

I think eckhart can create some spiritual bypassing. Sometimes presence is not enough. Action needs to be made. Like the top comment in that video is "the problem exists only in your mind, accept her limitations" Oh hell no. I will use mindfulness but I aint letting no toxic mom on my shit. Fuck that lmao

@Leo Gura I think instead of fake it until you make it you can also real it until it becomes fully manifested

@Being Frank Yang hi frank

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Step one could be a clearish picture on the type of people you'd Like to meet

i actually agree with not derailing the thread so i apologize to OP for taking part of the derailing of it - i usually dont do that but i apologize to OP. @Preety_India you play way too much victim

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1521758802 Curt uploaded it here if some of you can't wait

They're just followed societies predetermined path for them. It's not conscious or wise - it's conditioning lol You also don't know their background and stuff and what that quality of decision was. For all you know it was a very unoptimal decision Anyways, I found 'the work' by Byron Katie to be helpful. It helps questions the thoughts that arise and see the delusions of them And then you can choose better ways of thinking once u breakdown old patterns

Lmao you should follow your own advices but no that is wrong of course lol. you can see if there blatant racism/mysigony/misandry on the forum, (which you personally are aware of happens) even if it isn't directed towards you, generally it shouldn't be allowed on the forum and it is toxic masculinity btw. men get called pussies, weak, shamed etc. for behaving a certain way or have certain emotions

I found Tara Brach to be a good resource https://youtube.com/c/TaraBrach-meditation Tons of stuff on emotional mastery. Loving kindness, self esteem, self compassion, vipassana, emotional healing She has a book called radical acceptance which I found to be very helpful and also insightful

Last thing I want to say is that if the forum stands against slut shaming (including you) Why wouldn't we stand against toxic masculinity? I find it weird

@something_else in a situation that requries violence and self defense obviously isnt toxic masculinity, its good masculinity - but you should still shy away from violence whenever possible but people who are violent are usually emotionally unstable, and I mean depends on what kind of street fight, if it's just two insecure guys swinging their arms at each other driven by their fragile egos that is not masculine at all lmao, especially if it was a fight for a girl. but yeah, unless when it is necessary ofc. a man is not a pussy in most cases for not being violent. and i would be careful calling him a pussy even if he didnt fight - just a tad rude lol. idk why i have to even explain this

@Preety_India when you call guys pussies what do you expect lmao

Violence is immature in most cases tho

As much as I disagree and ask for conscious boundaries, our triggers give light to the wounds within us

Interesting new take ? Actually initially the first thing that came to my mind was 1-2 weeks Maybe part of that answer comes to the person in question. Like how cold are they to the idea of it. How much are they worth it to chase. What factors are preventing them? Like if they're chronically into toxic men then that is probably a red flag

@Surfingthewave def large part of it is social conditioning. I can notice it in myself. Some stuff I only picked up recently and I noticed they were just a societal construction. Like I didn't even know some of them existed until a few weeks ago so they have such little influence on me Like some people are only into people who fit into a certain gender role. But that role is just a societal construction lmao. Great post though I learned a lot and I highly resonated Another point for me atm is a relationship is just loving them just as they are outside of gender roles. To me that feels more fulfilling then these arbitrary societal constructions

What is your intention with this?

time away from them helped me contemplate a lot. it helped ground my version of them. they were so many problems that i wasnt able to see while in the thick of it

concepts i want to google later: eq: is the ability to understand, use, and manage your own emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges and defuse conflict. sq conflict resolution meaning, happiness self-love, self-compassion change family structures cook-greuter balance between first indian and second gen american indian meta-learning unconscious competence is: The individual has had so much practice with a skill that it has become "second nature" and can be performed easily. As a result, the skill can be performed while executing another task. The individual may be able to teach it to others, depending upon how and when it was learned. flow is: is the mental state in which a person performing some activity is fully immersed in a feeling of energized focus, full involvement, and enjoyment in the process of the activity

I think the issue with state is that you feel only good when you're in a certain state. I think its better to own where you're at then always needing to be in a certain state. That in itself gets you in state easier