Jacob Morres

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Every morning when i wake up and right before I sleep. I keep a book by my bed so i just pick it up as soon as i get up and start reading and when I'm in bed i read a couple of pages. Helps to have a genuine desire and intent too Also if you have resistance, finding books that you genuinely want to read can help

This ^ Please google "harm ocd" and see if it resonates Harm ocd can be a subset of pure OCD (pure ocd is ocd is that happens solely in the mind rather than as external compulsions for example like compulsive handwashing) "Getting rid of the thoughts" is the whole trick of OCD -> by trying to get rid of them, it actually enforces the compulsion cycle. So instead you have to surrender/be okay with/allow/observe that fear without engaging in that compulsion cycle One technique people use is whatever that fear is "i love that X fear. I greatly desire that X fear" and allowing that fear to spike and pass without reacting to it (this is called imaginal exposure) Also noticing that fear is just a fear with mindfulness can help In science, the gold standard for treating OCD is exposure and response prevention but the treatment is evolving with combining erp with acceptance and commitment therapy as well as mindfulness based practices (btw I dont know how severe yours is (also dont know if you have ocd 100% but sounds like it is to me. im also not a doctor so i cant diagnose anyone)) Also OCD is well studied and there a ton of resources on it. You can find a patient + skilled ocd specialist if it's really bad or you can do it by yourself. This is where I learned about conquering OCD first from but I also encourage you to do your own research: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2ADA7A35723646F6 Also amazon sells this book as well: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07YW8FZ5Y/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1 Personally imaginal exposure worked for me as well as vipassana (but I heard good things about ACT as well) also if it resonates - I'd like to say that you can also indirectly affect your OCD by taking account your stressors and what makes it worse. Like for example poor sleep can indirectly affect OCD. And increasing happiness + fulfillment can also indirectly help OCD.

I heard general advice for this is to work up to it

Sounds like way too much effort. I think you need more detachment and self respect. If you're not feeling his love or investment I'd go find someone else who is giving you that For me there are girls I meet who give me the latter much better than other girls. Some girls are just way too aloof. There's def a happy medium but if it feels too one sided idk But what do I know ?‍♂️ I didn't even read the whole thread lol

Philosophies that I highly resonate with right now: 1. Everyone deserves love. I think we are all somehow broken and healing and when you deeply understand someone you can sometimes their humanity and the evil that you once perceived washes away. Evil is a lens that we use, and we can choose understanding and compassion instead 2. Look at others not a reflection of you, but rather as an extension of themselves that is detached from you. Their perception of you is their own mental perception of you and as you observe them instead of taking their opinions of truth you will see that their perception is happening in their own minds, and not an objective truth of reality 3. Indecision can fool you into thinking you're just deciding but you need to be careful that while you're in decision, there are natural consequences to it. Not confronting an issue deals with many consequences and they do not go away just because you are "deciding". One being lost time. Another being not taking responsibility for things

@Lyubov regarding that, you could say many men need to go through a lot of emotional labor into becoming an attractive man. That definitely balances the scale by far

make friends with other entrepreneurs

Sorry bro. Homosexuality is a beautiful thing. I wait for the day it becomes fully normalized Plus I think everyone is somewhat on the spectrum. I highly doubt people are 100% straight

Skills I deeply desire: Socially: Great advice giver Empathetic Great role model High social intelligence and adeptness Meta: The ability to get what I want and need (LoA, Success Principles, Meta Learning(?)) Phenomenal decision maker High self esteem (self confidence in terms of competency and worth) Strong consciousness ability Ability to calm down my emotions well Use mindfulness strategically and well Career: Career skills that I find deeply fulfilling and make me a lot of money Task: define each of these things and what their specficity

While I love constructive criticism and eloquent discussions about the limits of 'masculinity' in our culture there is a difference between conscious discussions and demonizing men out of pain..

the shaming part of your post is your unconscious masculine, unironically divine masculine is non-judgmental

never move it gg. ooo nvm i assumed it was upside down on a table

@blessedlion1993 i agree with what ur saying for the most part in ur last post i was mainly arguing against the negatives that come with hierarchies in terms of feeling superior to others . not to argue against the benefits of where hierarchies are important

@blessedlion1993 part of me does feel like youre rationalizing hierarchy mindsets similarily to how someone would rationalize racism like ive heard before like 'yes racism exists and we have all have racist biases so it just do be like that'. but it doesnt actually rationalize racism nor does it remove us from the responsibility of working on our biases and working to making change on systemic racism also regarding leadership, some form of leadership is more conscious than others. like you have tiger parenting in asian culture which actually produces high results in academics and the work force. but there are many costs to it. lack of emotional development, happiness, autonomy and a weaker bond between the child and parent i dont think the military is a good example of conscious leadership because of its authoritarian style. nor do i feel like many businesses that are too profit oriented choose profits over ethicalness & meaning to an extreme level. but yeah they work in producing results

i think it's product of social conditioning, but it's the not the most ethical. i still have those biases actually but ive worked through a little of it. i think ideally we'd want to see everyone as equal. like 'humans of new york' if you know that page you might "feel" above that person, but he's an equal to you. hes just like you but unfortunately was given lesser privilege. but also i have a lot of this bias as well so i cant have no holier than thou attitude as that makes me a hyprocite

My therapist has this very unique ability of truly comprehending what I'm saying. She's so adept at it that it's much above my level of awareness. She can read people . she might be a top 1% therapist Socially and emotionally, the wisest ive come across . but she's not perfect

I don't feel afraid to commit I just haven't found one that lights my soul lol

yeah it's how it should be done actually.

I didn't like the habit of ferocity as well. I just felt i got such little wisdom from it I bought the all-access pass and i'mma be real, idk. I tried a bunch, and like the intro videos and a lot of it just felt underwhelming - except for ken wilber's course. I love Wilber, I watched a couple videos of his and felt I got a good amount from it Idk what it is to be honest. I just couldn't resonate with it. I dont think they built enough trust in me

dudes projecting a lot - gary vee cares a lot of what people think of him. he talks about it a lot in his speeches but at the same time he talks about how some of his underlying motivations is to prove people wrong lol. which i think sort of birthed his whole shift towards "empathy" cuz he is sort of speaking from arrogance when he's talking about it id peg him at orange with a little green. i dont think he's a green entrepreneur, he has hasnt embodied his values of kindness and empathy because he rants on ppl soo much in his speeches. idk thats just my opinion

@Terell Kirby I disagree, trying to help people with ridicule is mostly emotionally unintelligent. It's like a short term strategy

@The Rainmaker I agree with u. We must see the human behind the anxiety

thought the same at first then i watched it. i found the busting limiting beliefs part very healing

mark manson speaks in too many absolutes and needs nuance in his work. contrarian viewpoints get clicks - its a marketing strat used in self-help LoA is great. What hes mentioning is a trap in LoA where you can reinforce the negative, if the affirmation is too outside of your reality. but he uses it as a way to discredit the entire thing