Jacob Morres

it's valid and understandable based off the stuff he has been putting up with One solution is inner child work and conscious boundaries

Yes, 50/50, no? a lot of girls still expect guys to pay for dates, even in progressive areas What do yall think?

by principle i believe it it should be equal 50/50 especially since most girls split 50/50 after the first date (this is a non-negotiable for me unless she's suffering financially, or isn't entitled to me paying for her stuff) but im just worried that ill lose otherwise good girls by holding to that principle for the first date i might just go for free + coffee dates instead like you guys mention > It all works. Depends on the situation and type of girl. If a girl truly likes you she will not mind about this that's true

some form of self-therapy might be helpful, these are opportunities for more compassion + empathy (towards yourself and others) all negative judgements stupid, lazy, uncaring, selfish, etc. but when dug into, reveal healthier and more accurate perspectives this channel leo linked a while back illuminates what im tallking about

Talking to girls (and developing social skills and with woman) isnt inherently unethical There's def ways you can do it with good intention and social acceptableness ?

i thought this was a good talk

hmm, maybe priority setting would be helpful. what is most important to you? what are your goals?

I think a book on boundaries might be helpful here

Nice win and approach dawg. just try to watch for social cues about her comfortability. If she's not feeling comfortable I wouldn't pressure her too much

drinking with my boys gave me some of my best peak experiences. laughing, having fun, going crazy alcohol also has a unique experience to make you more emotionally open you can also get some good insights in a in a tipsy- drunk state i think if you're using alcohol for fun, connection or sometimes even insight, it can be useful ! Ofc! use your wisdom when approaching all drugs imo. try to only do it in social settings, or as a means of getting insight. be careful of self-deception

Bernie lost despite his massive base, mass appeal(imo, but ig not) and clean history I'll see Marianne winning in like 50-100y maybe I just think America is still too spirally low for her.. I wish Look at the last election, and how many people voted for someone like trump... we had a near 50/50

Stem has little practical value unless your career directly requires it Um, and even then a lot of it won't even be used on the job I'd find which careers you're looking for, what kind of work is required to land those jobs

Fair. Though, at a soul level, people may appreciate it. If that makes sense But a good soul isn't enough

@Emerald very interesting thanks for sharing i think thats important for development in general - what's life without those qualities you listed? though have you seen this video? curious on your thoughts. skip to 11:08

What do you define as the feminine? Kindness, empathy, vulnerability, compassion etc.?

i mean yeah dude it's not easy. it takes a ton of work and character development i'm not really talking about shady guys. i'm talking about if u want to be able to get consistent dates, or a good sex life.

this is the one i said i mean yeah i agree with it - most are very picky nowadays. but i also agree with putting in the effort to solve it from the man's POV but i also think it's a complex systemic issue rather than women's fault. there's tons of factors that lead to the dating crisis for men these conservative view points dont interest me so be careful putting everyone in the same bucket

Both leo and frank are right in their respective ways

meh the video doesnt describe my pov

Dude whatever sources you're consuming man change them Most girls will be happy you approached them Watch for any social cues or Non verbal communication if they feel uncomfortable that's all

Yeah i get that fr. When I was a virgin life was hard I wish society destimagtized being a virgin like how slut shaming is largely destimatized now in liberal areas at least There's a TON of shame attached to being a virgin. At least for some ppl

i see what ur saying. is she bad, no. a lot of unethical behavior comes from wounds. personally tho - and id say for everyone tbh maybe - id want a girl who is more emotionally and socially mature is what she did enough to warrant ops response, and ending the relationship? id still say yeh. he responded perfectly imo i used the word socially unacceptable but maybe socially toxic was a better word. but na yeah i get it. shes not a bad person. i see what ur saying

Well said

There's a certain impact you have [on others] with your choices - you shouldn't be unconscious of your impact his reaction was valid. It's definietely quite rude for that kind of behavior. First dates are for meeting a potential partner and it's pretty socially unacceptable to entertain other people while on a date - it definietely speaks to some larger issues within that person I think. While this is true - you should be compassionate towards others and their flaws A lot of girls are low in ethics tho and you gotta have high boundaries and self respect. Perhaps if she was generally a good person and generally showed respect, compassion and a desire to mend/repair I could see it fixing I've definietely tried this with a few girls - problem is some girls seriously lack ethics. It like spoke to a larger issue in the girl every time and they ended up being rude in different ways. This is just my personal exp imo - tho not 100% set - this is enough for me to leave Also isn't the adage that first dates are where the person is trying to set the best impression of themselves? She's doing that, at her best lol.

That's a good insight When struggling try to remember that. But also take accountability