Jacob Morres

@Emerald just as a thought experiment, you could notice how this could be a projection, take exactly what you said and try to *at least* notice how you yourself *could* be doing that exact thing, *without* deflecting, diverting or rationalizating. Might be a bit painful or uncomfortable just try to notice that You do tend to a ton of boxing on this forum (which you yourself stated)

Problem with ops advice is its too moralize-y and doesn't consider the man's pov. It's like you got brainwashed by some feminists talking points. It's also givin advice like every dude is in the same position and is the same person There's very little alternative for developing social skills. So if you Just say don't cold approach provide some strong alternatives Also some of your statements like 'just don't be desperate' is really divorced from reality. Actualizing that is quite tough esp for many dudes with no attention/validation from women. You need better solutions for that Though op you raise a Good point about comfortability so teaching social intelligence is important. But Blanket stating "don't cold approach" is a weak. I've had tons of girls enjoy my company and have had several explicitly tell me they wished more guys approached women I think a better conclusion would be, teach *socially calibrated* cold approach. Not get rid of cold approach in general These absolutes and lack of nuance is just so silly. Like mf sees some cops make some bad decisions and wants to completely defund the police

Therapy is often ineffective but can be effective with the right therapist and fit Like they can teach you emotional management tools, help you process trauma, listen to your issues You can also generate insight on issues, find solutions. Conversations to a trusted person can be helpful for this Problem for me I found is therapists that I don't trust + don't make me feel safe. These therapists are very counterproductive. Kind, empathetic and trustable therapists are Key. Also, I found that certain therapists don't have the right skills for your issue. For example- if a therapist is not trauma informed and is trying to help with trauma. Or if you have OCD and the therapist isn't trained + skilled in modalities best suited for OCD. You have to do your research, figure out what modalities is best suitable and find who would best fit your issues Also get clear as fuck with what you need help with. Without clarity and intention, you will be going through the motions Also, Fuck people who say everybody should go to therapy. I used to say this too and I appreciate the pro therapist movement. But not everyone is ready for it, needs it, doesnt work for everyone, or can be better suited for something else. Therapy is great but there are a ton of things you can do

@mr_engineer yeah was pretty happy to see some positive stuff about men too lol . The man hating stuff made me Hella umcomfy. Good to see a shift

It's a phenomenal philosophy on resilience and potential It does seem to not come from a great place though, as he seems like he's trashing his old self to be a new self

this philosophy seems robust. i just asked a ton of questions to chatgpt and the concept is very holsitic. it doesn't deny pleasures, material success etc. but includes it in the philosophy. very interesting

@StarStruck keep your casual racism about Indians to yourself bud you've said stuff like this several times already

- One thing is I'm definitely curious at the level of self honesty of the people who take this test. I'm highly skeptical of the self awareness of the average person. Being conscious of your own evils is tough. It takes sacrifice and development - I remember my sister telling me she was the most empathetic person she knew. When from my angle I saw a ton of judgement, a strong lack of EQ, manipulation, and a lack of empathy in honestly most situations. Though I might be exaggerating a tad bit - she definietely was nowhere close to what I've seen. In shadow work there is a technique called reversal -> (I asked chatgpt what the name of the shadow work technique was) "The technique you may be referring to in shadow work is called "reversal." This involves looking at the opposite or reverse of a statement, belief, or pattern in order to gain a deeper understanding of it. This can help to reveal hidden aspects of the self and bring unconscious patterns to consciousness." But basically whatever you identify with, I am smart, I am strong etc. The opposite is your shadow

1.4 2.2 I put a lot of effort into being ethical

@zurew fair I was talking about something else actually ignore me lol

i used to think you could always be kind in every situation - but problem is some people do not respond to conscious communication. like they'll continue to be toxic, not respect boundaries... despite efforts to communicate respectfully. theyre way too deluded in their ego. sometimes people will be so deep into their ego the only way to get to them is by being a dick you can easily take that too far though. but if you always be kind youll become a doormat

As someone who's been on the other side of this I recommend no. You'll end up hurting the dude. Unless it's like stated explicitly and done consensually I recommend not exploring like that

Ur not above that jsyk

@no_name not invalidating your opinion or saying I'm disagreeing- but women say that stuff to men all the time and nobody bats an eye. You can even say that you hate men and that's pretty socially acceptable. Js

@Something Funny Reminded me of this meme ?

Isn't life purpose unique to the individual and what they find meaningful and fulfilling Even making tons of cash can be a LP for many people, given a stage of development.

? I wasn't aware Sorry about that Noted of this word

I've noticed this happen to me too with girls For me, I won't really want a girl but when I see her moving to other guys it makes me possessive and insecure I still don't like the girl though So yeah def drop this hoe

chatgpt is so fucking insane. it helped me do my taxes a bit today LMAO waiting for it do therapy and life coaching. there is one tool right now called wysa but it only administers cbt. needs a few more years to get fully developed

There needs to be stricter moderation imo I think ur a bit lenient leo. Some people here who haven't been banned yet need to be banned

maybe intimate sex, bdsm is more fun. There's a lot of things to explore and try in sex Idk about low conscious tho

lol

???? Been there done that. It's a painful experience. Still recovering and trying to move with integrity now

there are a lot of powerful principles you can use in it - theyre actually just success principles. but a trap is if you think you will attract/get things by just sitting there and doing nothing about it.