Melancholy

I appreciate the fact that you are trying to help me understand it. There are many misconceptions about what love between two people really is. One point of the chart stood out to me: "Based on physical attraction or popularity". Why? Because I have always believed that popularity is a huge key factor to make someone fall in love with you but is this really how love works? Just be popular and everyone will love you? What worth does it even have that someone falls in love with you? Someone can accept you or reject you, you can never know but what worth does it even have when it is based on pure luck? Wow, if someone accept me then I got lucky but when not then I got unlucky? I was suggesting it because I believe Leo makes very good videos and it could help me out hearing his thoughts and beliefs about it. It would help me a lot if I finally understand what real love means otherwise I always fall into the trap that what I am experiencing between another person is real love when in reality it is just based on how the other person looks for me (physical attraction) or how popular I am with the women (popularity). Howsoever, I appreciate your input but I believe I need a little bit more explaining to really understand it. There needs a distinction to be made what love is and what not. "My ex showed tendencies of limerence towards me. In the end its very hurtful to know that the person only wants you but doesn't love you. " I feel very sorry for you. I hope you have recovered from it.

In a nutshell: How to stop loving a person who doesn't love you without feeling hurt about it. I believe it is a good topic because it is essential to know how to deal with a broken hurt heart.

The first thing I would like to say is that deep down everyone has something good inside their hearts and the ability to change to a good person. If someone refuse to abandon their evil ways this happens out of ignorance and other possible reasons. This is just what I believe. I am an open-minded person, so you can offer me a different way of thinking if you feel like I am wrong what I am saying. Okay, enough of the beating around the bush. It's time for the real problem I have. The title pretty much says it. I am seeking advice for anger management. Sadly, I have serious issues with outbursts of rage. (or I don't know how I should call it, keep reading) If someone treats me in a bad way, pisses me off or keeps provoking me I turn into a passive aggressive person. I eat the negative emotions inside me and feel extremely pissed off but I do not act on my anger or act in violent ways but I am so extremely angry inside me that I imaging inside my mind to beat the shit out of this person who is pressing my buttons. The outbursts of rage I am referring to happen inside me and get reflected in reality in passive aggressive behavior. My question is: How can I deal with a very difficult person which has done something unforgivable to me, I hate deeply and have a grudge on? What are the most important things for me to do to deal with my anger? What can I do to be more likable to others? I feel like that I am very unpopular and hated by others. I am all the time aggressive and feel like I am pissed off all the time by other people. After a stressful day I am listening to aggressive music to forget about the world and all the suffering I went through in my life. Another thing I want to mention is that I feel like that I am miserable, that my life is ruined and that there is nothing I can do about it to turn my negative bad situation into a good one. It feels like torture. I always suffer hell. This suffering never stops because there is nothing I can do about it. I am way too incompetent to change myself and turn my negative bad life into a good one. I am very lonely, depressed and unhappy person who is very miserable deep inside me. I have learned to detest all people, because I had so much suffering in my life. I know I have many issues with myself, I know very little about the world and I feel like I am a failure. You can think of me as a very ignorant person who knows way too little about the world and has a lot of lower conscience thinking. (I know this is a problem) I hope someone can help me and give me good advice so I can change for the better. Thank you in advance! If you have questions ask me. I am going to give you more information's if you need any but only the things I am comfortable saying. Please help me!!! You can offer me a solution, so I can change for the better for everyone. Feedback is appreciated. Kind regards Melancholy, the owl.