Epiphany_Inspired

@Soulbass Thanks, this helps me

I would be grateful for any insight, I intend no prejudice, I am confused and somewhat ignorant: So, gay people, for example, don't have a "recruitment program", right? ... well, is it just me, or, lately does it seem like polyamorous people are really trying hard to convert monogamous people into this opposing lifestyle through "education", even coercion? I think of polyamory in a similar way to a person's sexual orientation ... even though to some it can simply be a philosophy or a practice... and there are many different situations and numbers of partners that qualify.... anyway, many polyamorous people seem to want all monogamous people to join this lifestyle, and insist this is the only natural practice for all humans... It seems as though there are various forms of this coercion ranging from adding workshops on the subject into fun events, or hosting dinners with this "education" as a subtle underlying conversation current, to creating communities/ cults, etc... Why does this lifestyle suddenly seem so brazen? Perhaps it's been suppressed throughout history and poly-people in the past, had to pretend to be monogamous and possibly cheat?.... regardless, the attempts to convert everyone seem a bit extreme to me... especially when a lifestyle with multiple partners increases STD risks, and it may be targeting vulnerable individuals... thoughts?

From my limited perspective, you have a couple of options: 1. You write the sweetest letter ...with flowers, or bake a pie, or good chocolate, and you give the letter and gift x2 to both this woman and to the Executive Director of the facility (* with no expectations*, you value thanking them regardless, for the time you did have there). Please try not to criticize, maybe just say how much you value the group, apologise for the mistake, won't happen again/ learned lesson, maybe mention how much the support means to you and why you continuing with it is of benefit to both you and them (what you have to offer, with your verbal and empathetic contribution, etc), request that they honour the original 3 day suspension, and allow you to return with one more chance, talk about your connections there, and why seeing your friends, even for a goodbye is really important...etc... If they still say no.... first take this as an important life teaching .... then: 2. You write down all of your negative thoughts about it on a piece of paper, and as you burn it, you release them fully and commit to finding some new support, and the best new life starting now, etc... in other words, you create the closure for yourself, internally, because really, you don't actually need anyone else for that

@Yonkon I love it .... and maybe add a golden glow around him too.... lol...

@Key Elements Hmmm, yes, true, I love the all encompassing respect in your first comment. Your second comment is a good point for those polyamorous folks trying to convert people, it would likely backfire a lot of the time... @Spiral Haha, yes of course, I figured that's why they seem to be trying to convert everyone... It makes sense that poly people would want more selection...... but is it acceptable the way they go about it? (targeting vulnerable people, sneaking their teachings into events, etc)? Is this a new form of cult emerging? and yes, I hear a lot of open relationship "lecturing" too, totally... but I believe that is a type of polyamory... (apparently, polyamory can just be one partner with multiple partners, or both, and it can be any number of partners, etc) @Jamie Universe Yeah, that's true, thanks. I was concerned that I may come across as stereotyping, but that was not my intention, sorry. I was talking about the polyamorous folks that are attempting to convert monogamous folks only, not the chill ones. I also didn't mean that you may have been converted to gay/bi either, sorry. I only meant that you don't often see gay people at events going around trying to convince all of the hetero people to try being gay, or saying that the straight people must not know themselves very well because being gay "is the only natural way to be", or sneaking workshops on how "you should all be gay" into events, etc... (the way these converting-polyamorous-folks seem to be behaving lately). Thanks for your great comment

@Eden If it's crappy shit that can happen, (other than death, and a few other life threatening things)...I've likely survived it... I still get out of bed in the morning, I LIVE. I walk along caring my child, a few friends, and a weighted bag of fears... with sturdy legs like a centaur and my head held upright I take forward moving steps regardless of the terrain... I learn from my mistakes, I pick myself up when I fall, I even sprout Pegasus wings and fly sometimes, I AM STRONG!!!

@MsNobody Is this individual practice, or involved with others? I would also have the same preference, but in some (*not all*) circles, Wiccans can be a bit extreme/ dark....classic Pagans might be better.... the study of Wicca on your own would be fine regardless... also ...maybe look into other earth based folks like: Animists, Druids, Bandorai, etc and find the best fit, or make up your own Sure, if you want to explore your clairvoyance or other less technical forms of drawing that all sounds great too Be happy

@Arkandeus TOTALLY! TRUTH! Obviously, the third song played in my head with your threads tittle....but I thought of these ones for you too...especially the Tuck and Patti one....

maybe he'd go insane...and only post 3 hour long-ish videos of nothing but hysterical laughter?

@Spinoza lol...I totally thought you meant internally...like from my inner-self....or in life...like from difficult challenges...that type of running, I'm a champion with gold medals, lol.... but physical running....only for a bus, closing door, or if someone or thing is chasing me...maybe briefly for joy in a field of flowers or something....but it's hard on the knees, you have to wear a sports bra.... this is why Kirkpatrick macmillian invented the bike! still my fav invention of all time....so far....

@Sahil Pandit I love it, so glad it's not a checklist though, or I'd have a super high score for getting trapped Now if you could please write me a 1-2-3 step process for easily avoiding all of these...I would be happy and successful

@Raphael From my personal experience, sometimes they are crucial life savers, other times they are like a wet blanket...(I saw some of them to "prove I was sane" lol...after truck ran me over/ accident... , and I tried to get help for myself & for my ex when we were separating, etc), plus, I've heard from friends that have mental illness or trauma that it can be a total mix.... so, many of these professionals are coming from trauma....they have a real desire to help, because of what they've been through....yet because they still have not resolved their own issues.... their current personal lives are often fucked up....they are often far too neurotic themselves and should not be in the profession.... others are power trippers and take up the calling for superiority and control.... then, there are amazing ones with profound insights and incredible intuition..... also, there are diligent intellectuals that could deduce the root cause of issues with brilliant detective work.... some are next level gurus.... some are just materialist zombie dumbasses.... just like every profession that exists....just like every human that exists...it's impossible to generalize or stereotype in that way Your personal experience sounds like you were open-minded enough to try this a few times, I have no idea what the technique used by your psychologist is intended to accomplish, or why you wouldn't have "homework"...I am not familiar enough with the profession or it's styles... I suppose you need to discern if you need this help, if there are preferable alternatives, etc.... I'm stoked you want to move forward

UPDATE: My lawyer broke his shoulder...and his dominant hand....he can't even sign his name...it's likely adjourned yet again... this may be a good thing in the long run... Positives include: I can spend my daughter's birthday with her - instead of fighting for her best interests in a courtroom... and I have more time to establish our new life Now: how do I keep my life from being "on hold" for this court outcome continually? (Needing to wait for these legal decisions in order to really move forward) how do I get back to that place I was before court in October, where I had total acceptance of any outcome and total trust in the universe? how do I emotionally survive an additionally extended period of quite serious uncertainty for myself and my child? how to do I get back to my good habits etc nesesary for my actualization, when my life had been revolving around working toward, or distracting myself from this never-ending-court-crap?

Hey, I have family court AGAIN (I know... he lied and got yet another trial)... on my daughter's birthday (of all days!!!)...in about a month, June 13th, 2018 (please send good thoughts) *I feel confident, and empowered..... still, I struggle to face a Judge/ authority figure that can control my life/ my child's health & safety, the materialist paradigm and it's rules, my former abuser/ stalker/ brainwasher, the "witnesses" that once loved me but now have dark and distorted perceptions, etc *I believe in truth, and believe truth stands with me in it's brilliant beam of supportive illumination.... still, I struggle with how the lies and manipulation of others seem to give them an upper hand at times *I have evidence, new community, incredible representation, and stunning witnesses myself... still, I struggle to bring everything together in time, and to be the "normie" mainstream society type I apparently need to be.... to acknowledge the violence from a place of survival, when the court may need "victims".... I struggle because her dad's behaviour never seems to stop.... and no matter what the Judge says, even with a no contact order, I am still stuck dealing with her dad for decades, regardless.... I am asking for your support, I am asking for your advice, and help, and prayers, and love I am trying to "win" my freedom, and my child's health & safety, and our new life... I am respecting the other parent's rights, I am attempting to do what is best for everyone.... Thank you! Woah, crazy...I wanted to add an image of victory... and the one I found of a woman...was about court with a violent Ex...lol.... love it https://diaryofarecoveringcodependent.com/2014/08/22/having-my-day-in-court-victory/

@Stella1976 Sorry, I am not able to read your whole post.... but I suggest you watch Leo's victim video first... it will help with wording this from the point of view of acceptance... if your husband "blames you" for being assaulted, then perhaps it's time to find a new partner...

@abundance I have a few awesome business ideas, inspirations that could improve my community, and myself....but they are not my life purpose.... so I often debate the validity of pursuing them.... and find my weird relationship with $ too much of a hindrance... Questions: 1. What were the top three lessons you learned from this book? 2. What do you think humanity/ nature is most in need of.... where you have related skills and vision... to step in with an offering? 3. What brings you bliss, and gives back to the universe?

@Growf "Alcohol’s activity on the dopamine site in the brain’s reward center produces the pleasurable feelings that motivate many people to drink in the first place." "may develop deficits in brain functioning that continue even if sobriety is attained. In other words, cognitive problems no longer arise from drinking alcohol but from brain damage that prior drinking caused. In short, long-term alcohol abuse can negatively impact the brain’s “hard wiring” such that even when drinking ends, the cognitive problems persist." https://americanaddictioncenters.org/alcoholism-treatment/mental-effects/ Personal experience: life is way more fun/ awesome/ vibrant without booze.... all I miss is the escape and the inclusion in that "club".... but I am done hiding.... and it's not really a worthwhile "club" to be in... at first, if you stop, friends may exclude you, but there are way *** better*** things to do

I loved that shift too

@DocHoliday I don't know...my only guess is that maybe you still have lessons to learn or growth awaiting as this version of "you"

@WildeChilde It sounds crazy, but yes....I have some abilities...mostly sensing over distances, with people I know, especially when they are experiencing strong emotions, or danger, etc...but also beyond that...my intuition has become powerful enough to have foresight potential, or see hidden secrets/ emotions, etc...I have been connecting with nature in a magical sense for so long, that I have some additional acquired abilities there now too...

@Leo Gura a belated Happy Birthday, or a very merry un-birthday...whichever you prefer...infinite bunnies for you http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_474BX-PJHzc/SruURLXKkvI/AAAAAAAABFk/O2-nF_W1Wpw/s1600-h/infinite_sketch.jpg @Joseph Maynor I wish my 40th had been as revolutionary as yours!

@Dan Arnautu Seriously? You would really help me? Even with all of your music, and personal tasks? Wow, I guess your backsliding is over and you are back to being a super hero... OK, I'd be foolish not to accept this offer, it is truly rare and precious! Sending gratitude in advance! So, your wild ride awaits: My biggest struggle is myself. I can't seem to navigate my priorities; I feel so very lost, confused, and overwhelmed. My energy goes so deeply into things that may be meaningless, while my fears keep me from exploring the potentially genuinely meaningful. Awareness of this imbalance hides from me most of the time...and my discernment is vastly flawed...my self-efficacy never seems to recover...I jump desperately from one bad unrealized idea to the next, like a game.....but...I love life and it's beauty ....only....it's while I slowly dig my grave awaiting a very boring funeral where all that could be said is "how bold and magic she once was, then she lived a boring life in paralyzing fear from x-year on"...."letting her dreams rot like compost in a wasteland of thistles and thorns"....damn, I'm emo today...lol...sorry I'm perpetually lost in a nowhere land that exists between what I "should" be doing, what I "could" be doing, what I often falsely perceive I "need" to be doing to move forward/ or even survive, my bad choices, my procrastination...if it were a painting, you would see me grasping at nothing through the thickest fog, while real life lies just beyond it...

@Shin I look forward to the new minimal forum you, have a lovely technology respite I am moving away from wifi/ net soon too.....but I will have to find a way to check in & still see Leo videos, etc... I am happy for you and your clarity (and I will miss you)... wishing you freedom ...and insights ....and adventures in bliss....

I feel really sad that I am not doing this with all of you...logically/ integrally it's just what I need...and from my heart, I feel such resonance...I am terribly ashamed that I don't have a clue how to order a booklist or a book with a computer... there is a "real yoga" center in my community...I've been debating going there instead.. but... with the exception of community dinners and Kirtan, it's likely too distracting for everyone if I have my child there... so, I go back to the Kriya plan...but...I have no online banking, or paypal, etc...If it's not too much trouble, can someone please walk me through the easiest process/options to order things... a private message is fine as I'm sure everybody else will already know how to do this stuff....thanks

@Shin Love them all, so good! @Moreira from my experiences: like minded/values/intention friends are a real gift that warms, lights and elevates the heart.... while friends lost in dysfunction can definitely become a burden... that said, they can also come with small gifts, even if it's just more lessons... I think the advice usually given on the forum is Quality over Quantity... you may not need to stick to animals if you can find a few awesome friends!... the ones that are worth your time/ that you enjoy being around!