Epiphany_Inspired

Is it weird that I think we already have them, Ghandi and such?

@Pelin, At age 12 I went to San Francisco, and never wore a typical jeans and a tee uniform again... lol... As a creative person, visual expression for myself and others is highly important and vastly overlooked. If you are only comfy in jeans and a tee, and that is truly you, great, rock it... I don't like stereotypes, but for the purpose of defining style, we can even say that there are may versions of jeans and tee's from rolled-up-rock-a -Billy-ish, to preppy, or frumpy, even "dangerous"... lol.... . that said, I find most people wear those exact items as a mask of conformity because there is so much societal pressure to be "normal".... sadly, because of this phenomenon, I have developed a terrible neurosis where I tend to avoid people that appear to be "normal", because the judgement they feel from others (must conform), often causes judgement in themselves... in turn perpetuating my judgement of normalcy... lol... if only everyone dressed as they truly wanted, in a beautiful circus of pure expression.... the world would be way more fun, for me anyway...

I agree, use both! As a visual thinker I do not take advantage of the power of visualization often enough in my own life, this was a good reminder. @Time Traveler, I think for you, a vision board may be a good starting point to get your mind in that frame. So, you could make a collage of goals for example with images that you print out, then use that as a reference. I watched an awesome tedX a while back (sorry I can't remember the name) with a really powerful technique that I've tried and loved; Take a huge piece of paper and divide it in half. On the left side draw your current cruddy or boring life (really emphasize what you don't like, can even be stick figures, in black and white). Then on the opposite, right hand side, draw what you want your life to be with all of the details, don't hold back and use all of the vivid colours you need. Have fun!

@Extreme Z7, your first post is my experience too, completely. I know I am always saying this, but the "shit sandwich" method seems to work best for me...if I have any chance of getting through, often I do... though sometimes, when they realise there is real work involved... they can give up very easily.... anyway: Bread: I say a genuine compliment or gratitude about the person. This is a nice habit regardless. Shit: I tell them the issue *with a spoonful of sugar*, and give them a realistic option for evolution, simplified. Bread: I tell them my vision for the amazing them, the new and improved version without making the current model sound obsolete. I'm as loving and genuinely compassionate as possible trying to raise their spirits for new possibilities and greater satisfaction in life... because like you said, on some level regardless of any niceties, I am still pointing out a perceived "flaw" from their perspective, and that can seem hurtful.

I am still working up to it..... but that Teal Swan method of connecting with your self through the eyes of yourself in the mirror looks intriguing... but very time consuming if you have a lot of "walls" as I likely do....I find making lists about yourself (do before you die, random things that make you smile, etc) brings so many amazing things to the surface...

@GoneI don't have the intention to read all 5 pages, so I'm sorry if I'm reiterating anything. 1. Questioning is great, keep it up! 2. Sure, if it's not helpful for you, give it up.... or, if you just have strong online addictive tendencies, use a timer when browsing/ posting etc... 3. My personal experience is that this forum/Leo/ actualised videos are quite helpful, insightful, motivating, and supportive.

I know there is the potential for the incredible.... beauty beyond any beauty we have ever known... I'm sure there are numerous positive benefits, perhaps there are ways this could help speed up enlightenment, etc...That said, as everyone is speaking only of the benefits, here's my "Debbie Downer" rant on the subject; When you mention things like being at Auschwitz...although experiencing that does have the potential to give a true understanding of the experience, there is also the potential for real trauma, and seriously negative effects to the subconscious.... maybe I've watched too many post-apocalyptic movies, but the danger of addiction, escapism, and resulting physical deterioration are also realistic concerns... and for me, the saddest part would be that the mind-blowing beauty of our true natural world, (the one that we already have around us without any digitization), may pale in comparison to this new fantasy realm.... causing humans to further loose touch with the oneness of the universe that we should strive to connect with more deeply....

I agree, good idea! I have PTSD (and long-term post-concussive) from a serious accident, plus, the following years of stalking by authorities (an attempt to damage my character to avoid compensation). That said, when you look at the root causes of our PTSD, they are quite different... just as a military veteran's would be as well... so it would be a challenge to have a video that encompasses all of our challenges.... that said, perhaps there are universal coping strategies, etc... that could benefit everyone....

I swear I posted something about Moringa (miracle tree leaf powder)...but I can't find it now. Anyway, Learn all about it if you like, it's amazing! Drink with water, in smoothies, or an alternative milk latte ( warm, not hot) with a touch of honey is yummy like matcha...

@joegarland My purpose is 50% drawing (In combination with one other thing). I believe it will have a huge impact, it will just take time and enjoyable hard work. I saw this amazing video clip of Mr. T , in modern times...he made a point of not sharing your purpose until you have achieved it... when I first discovered mine, it was odd how some friends became trolls and nay-sayers...so I won't be specific with mine, but I agree that art not having an impact is silly, there are too many examples to list... art has already changed the world for the better many times over. Even if you look at the negative side, how effective art is at manipulating consumers With advertizing images etc, you can see the power. I think finding your specific niche in art, (a more specific purpose, where you can envision the results of your combination with spiritual Ideas), will supply you with the nessesary drive to remove all doubt. From my experience if you are a vision holder, you need a facilitating outlet for creative birthing. This is why Leo dosent't work in gaming any more, and part of why I don't work crazy hours in front of a screen for the animation industry any more. Consider visualization/ meditation on combining spirit and art. An example: I have a friend that is one of the only westerners that exIbit their art in Tibetan temples. He combines soundscapes created by his musical son, and light with his paintings. These paintings change Signifigantly with daylight, moonlight, fire light, and black light. It is the spiritual element if his work that allows for the viewing in some Unique locations! Have fun finding your own amazing niche!

@JevinR I'm so sorry if you did not Feel supported. I took the time to answer your dharma questions to the best of my ability, my intention was of compassion, .. I told you it upset me, Etc, I only hoped for your understanding., not shame. I've been in negative spirals before too, one thing that might help is opening up to a more balanced view of Everything. Some social circles may be fake, others are genuine, truly supportive, and Incredibly beautiful. some elements of pick-up may empower you, other elements may dis-empower...see Leo's rant...there is no point in hating anything, you will only harm yourself...there is no point in assuming your therapist was 100% wrong, there was value to that approach too (Potentially more meaningful connections than pick-up)..just consider everything with an open mind and you'll be feeling more positive soon.. I can't speak for Leo, but I don't think he'd want your education fund. What I meant about genuine giving vs repayment would look something like; you find your purpose, you become successful (enlightened, financial, other) and maybe you record an awesome testimonial or something for Leo That in turn helps even more people actualize...

My system is a travel sized book where I custom make tabs for each section (Example: productivity) based on aprox space needs. This is for notes and quick exercises only. I journal etc elsewhere. If you like this method, but don't need a travel sized book( for workshops and random life lessons), I highly recomended a binder instead so you add to things, combine sections etc.

@JevinR I thought about it: Consider watching the life purpose course again, and again, even again... until you have one solid sentence to state what your life purpose is. This should be something that you can't help from working on (even if it involves calculus), you would be compelled. Your purpose description should explain to others what you are offering to the world/earth, humanity, etc. It would not be wish-washy like it is now. If those inventors are your mentors, read everything by and about them, find out every possible career option in that realm etc...You will know when you've found it... and if for some reason you grow to dislike it, move on... Gratitude is very helpful, I think you are on the right track there. You could start by expanding the gratitude you already have for Leo with the not suing you thing..(the typical less-conscious businessman could have kicked you off the community, etc...too)...I don't think it's about money... Leo deserves respect, to have compensation for something he worked so hard on... everyone does... your belief that your actions came out of compassion for your lost friends is flawed... Leo is not the "Sherriff of Nottingham", and you are not "Robin Hood", (if anyone is Robin Hood in this story it's Leo, lol).I don't mean to sound too harsh, sending so much love too... that said, we are west-coast Canadians, usually as respectful as a Japanese princess... represent... I know eventually you will find the ideal way for you to contribute to society... one that respects the integrity of everyone involved especially yourself...

@JevinR I'm going to answer your second paragraph first. The problem is, you essentially robbed from Leo's own Life Purpose to attempt to empower others. If you really want a utopian society, I doubt it would include those type of actions. I was able to know my purpose without that video, but I will buy it anyway (when I'm financially able) to support Leo (because he has helped me so much for free) and because there is always more to learn. Everyone makes mistakes, and it sounds like you've learned from this one... I'm am not trying to inflict guilt on you, it really upset me to hear though...I think as many gestures you can offer Leo without it being about re-payment, more about genuine giving; financial or beyond (personal) would be amazing! If you hated your job, you'd move on to the next... purpose: I would guess that unless you have experience with finding flow while doing things like calculus, that it is less likely your purpose (maybe something else in that field?)... that is not firm though ... if your ultimate goals involve a little calculus on the way, and you are really set on those goals... you could surpass that issue... Here's something to ponder... my variation from Leo's lessons: 1. If you were going to die in 6 months, and you had to work, it could be any job and your training was instant, what would it be? Consider the mundane/ menial tasks, equations, etch involved before your final decision. Really research daily activities, role play, spend time with a mentor in that job...something you enjoy doing and you are "good at", or want to be "good at", which skills & abilities do others always compliment you on? Example: I love all of that Tesla stuff too... if you asked me for concepts related to that science, some fun drawings, I'd love it... but when I even think about your calculus book, my head hurts too.... lol....

Difficult situation, past 6 months: What is the actualized route my higher self would take? *Adversarial; lawyers+ official orders or *Councelling (not recomended by most). Other Ideas? Situation info: 1. Totally "Bishop Skewered" (from Leo's toxic people video=temporarily reliant on another). We have a child= can never really escape. Next few months, need daughter's father to pay ALL bills for my property (beyond child support) .I've continued to let him live elsewhere on this property. *key notes: without this $, I'd loose our home = unstable for young child. He can't afford bills here +live somewhere else, I am currently unable to earn the $ myself* 2. After child's birth, overtime he became (with me, not child directly); emotionally abusive, controlling, not healthy so, I ended it (for me & child). Having him remain here=not fun; bitter comments, continued control attempts etc, but we are not in ":danger". 3. Legal Aid; to get funding for *Mediation or *Lawyer= tell them the worst+ get official orders. THIS WILL ESCALATE! Yes, he'd have no contact w/ me, but there are other things he can do(trust me, escalation with him=bad for us). He'd never forgive=no reasonable co-parenting agreements. 4.Instead of legal, trying councelling. Eventually make a "kitchen table" agreementl, sign w/ lawyers, find "root" of problems, deal w/ emotions (something Lawyers and Mediators don't do), & ease him into a good co-parenting plan etc. ...BUT... Am I doing this out of avoidance,or fear of escalation? So far, it's going so-so, he is making an effort ...but, if things don't go his way, he threatens; me unfit, cabin unfit, etc)... obviously myself and home are "fit" (just not mainstream). Do councelling disclosures put me at risk if things do go adversarial (ptsd, etc)? Are any possible risks of councelling worth the potential gains in this senario? 5.Most people recomend the aversarial "Lawyer" route. On some level it does seem more empowering. I took two pages of notes from Leo's stratigic mother-fucker video in case I need to do this. That said, adversarial also seems very destructive to our lives, compassion, and integrity (things would likely get "nasty"). My heart is telling me that "adversarial" is not a healthy way to resolve this. Is this actually just fear? Would an Actualized person stand up for themselves through Lawyers, and demand the guardianship and rights they deserve (even if they have to use intel and fight nasty)? or..Would an Actualized person try councelling, (even if the EX is abusive)? Try something else, (remember i need to escalate to get $ for *Mediation too)? 　 　

@Piotr Thanks so much! I hear what you are saying, I am still processing the message.... Good idea, I will make additional efforts to gently uncover more of my daughter's feelings and ensure there is no inadvertent manipulation from me. I am very aware of her level of consciousness (she is REALLY advanced in language, she can hold a conversation with any adult responding in full grammatical paragraphs, everyone is blown away). Anyway, I am so aware of her awareness, that it is me, telling my ex/ professionals/ friends, that she *does* know, despite all of my efforts to keep her away. I never underestimate any child's intelligence or their ability to accomplish anything in life. Admittedly, that doesn't stop me from trying to keep her protected from comments directed at me.... Also, she is only just turning 3, so when it comes to talking with her, there is a certain level of innocence to maintain... she doesn't need to absorb any "adult concerns" ...unless necessary, (we have to move or something)... of course I'd make those experiences as positive as possible.... There is quite the waitlist for free mediation, but perhaps it can keep things from escalating to adversarial... yes, he's out of the house, and the boundaries are soooo important! Thanks so much for sharing your story too!

Suggestion: 1. Slow-cooker soups (just chuck veggies, beans, etch in and leave it)... you can buy packs of bean and spice mixes, miso paste.... 2. Veggie platters and salad mixes you don't even have to prepare/cut, already done 3. Tempeh, it's yummy, it's fermented, and only takes a sec to warm up 4. Bulk-bin seeds/ nuts.... for snacks.... or quick prep like chia, oatmeal (add other bulk things, dried fruit, seeds, etch) 5. Fruit and berries, it can't get any easier... just eat it... at the most you may have to peel a banana or orange... no excuse to eat junk... 6. Happy farm eggs... there's no way it will take you 45 min to make eggs.... happy healthy eating!

Hey Jess, I too have this day-dreaming/ overthinking problem and will watch that video too... I'm not sure if this will be helpful, but personally I have noticed that if you are doing something in the realm of what you are meant to be doing....ie: life purpose type stuff, eventually you will enter "flow" (for many reasons; in mastery process, in alignment, etc.)... once in "flow" it becomes almost impossible to overthink, even if you did I doubt you'd be aware of it.... have fun, gratitude, and a willingness to dream big....

In support, I will post an emotional example... but it seems to me that you are at least feeling frustrated about not feeling... and that's an emotion too... trust Ayala's words: When I see a hummingbird, I feel entranced, like I've travelled to another dimension... this emotion is "AWE" (see fireworks, acrobatics, etc.)

@Kelley White Thank you so much for taking the time to share, I am so grateful! Still working through this, it's a challenging process, at the same time, I will only come out stronger, and wiser in the long run. I am not deluded, I know the relationship was not healthy...and that elements of the continuation to fully transition, have been equally rotten. That said, I still believe there is every possibility that everyone will come out having learned what they needed to from this situation, and ready to embrace an improved experience. In my opinion, as different as your perspectives are, you and @Henri are both right. To assume someone would always be unreasonable based on the statistics from similar individuals would not be living in my integrity. At the same time, assuming someone will be capable of reason, when they show over and over that they are not, could end in my madness. I am beginning to find a balance between these two. I am doing this with gratitude meditation, and developing an unwavering focus on my goal; * A healthy happy life for my child and I* I am obviously striving for a positive co-parenting relationship as well. I am visualizing that direct path, and starting to see the fears, stories, dramas, and obstacles as "fog"...I am just staying focused on making my clear path through to that goal. When I need support or assistance from others, I ask.... Don't worry Kelly, because my goal = healthy life for child, and even regardless of that, I would never allow her to be used as a pawn...Yes, trauma therapy is a great (apparently child is too young), I had some sessions already...I have not heard of those specific styles, but I will look into practitioners, thanks! I can only be victimized if I give someone that power. It can be very challenging to keep fear responses from being automatic/uncontrollable especially when someone has developed a mastery of finding and pushing triggers. I am working on strength to rise beyond those fears... and I've been having success on many levels... one of the main challenges still lingering , is my fear that my child could be exposed to comments that I may perceive as "damaging"... This desire to shelter her from that often comes at the expense of my own integrity, and liberation. Advice? Which is a better example for child; standing up for my values/ self,... or... strategically avoiding so that nasty responses to that "standing up" are avoided? So far, I've kept my chid away from verbal/emotional abuse toward me, by physically keeping her away, or by not responding to lead-ups. Would showing true power/strength in communication be the "better" lesson for her, or have I been right to avoid/be silent, go away, be-friend, etc. to prevent? I am unbelievably appreciative of all of the love and effort you both have shown me, thanks so much!

@Henri That is all so beautiful, amazing, and true... thanks so much! I appreciate your help more than I could ever express with words! So grateful!

Sorry if that sounded to victim-ish. I take responsibility for being in a relationship with coercive control. I just wanted to explain what's happened to my mental strength as a result!

@Henri Re: doing everything on my own...mental strength. Imagine if I was a morbidly obese person, no one would expect me to run a marathon when I've just started exercising (I could have a heart attack, etc). I feel like the mental equivalent. Before this, I was a brave, powerful, woman, (i'd even stopped an attempted murder - at risk to my own safety, plus so many more triumphs in the face of adversity or danger). That said, being under coercive control in a relationship is like being in a cult. The controlling party uses constant, repeated;, insults, threats, intimidation, isolation, manipulation, etc, (either intentionally or unintentionally/ conditioned) to damage self-esteem and create submission. I got out of the relationship, I got him out of the house, but I am still escaping the aftermath and nowhere near recovered. Is it ok to have a support person with me, or would that defeat the purpose? I have one more session with the psychologist and the father tomorrow (it was already booked), should I use that forum, or wait for another time? I know, I'm an adult, I am able to handle this....I just still feel really intimidated....

@Lorcan did you check out the Venus Project yet? They just released a new video for 2016 " the choice is ours", and it's super RAD! I think your idea to design a society yourself is really cool (there is a chance that you'd come up with some amazing revolutionary ideas). That said, if you can put your ego aside and hear me out for a moment... Jacques Fresco has this new society thing "handled" as Leo would say. Since childhood, he has dedicated his life to this, he has studied every necessary field, including our personal development! Would you consider other revolutionary ways you could help bring the Venus project into fruition. I am not suggesting you give up your life purpose and serve another's. Just consider tying your purpose in with his, he has already done all the work necessary to create this ideal society.... we just need the mentality of the people to change... maybe you could get through to them?

@Irina Irina Thanks, I will look for it. I wouldn't even worry about future relationships now though. I think Leo is right, that after codependency it will likely require about 2 years of personal development to ensure your next relationship is inter-dependent/ healthy! That said, you may be feeling this way with meeting new friends too, if you meet someone that is having an unhealthy impact on your life, it's ok to go your separate ways. Enjoy the journey to your awesome independent self!