Princess Arabia

I know this forum is mostly male, but do you ever see any of the females on this forum making threads about toxic men and how men are this and how men are that in the dating world. How they've watched videos on dating and they say men are this and that, and is it true. No, we don't care about that stuff. We go out and see for ourselves and be with these men to get the experience for ourselves and decide from there and we don't need toxic videos about men to tell us anything. We're not afraid to delve right in and be hurt or whatever. We don't view this stuff logically and strategically. This is what happens when one is afraid to face life head on. We try to analyze everything and see life like some puzzle to be solved. Get out there and leave the thinking mind out of it and get your hands dirty. No one has the perfect formula for dating. You'd be surprised how chemistry works and it can lead to exciting and unexpected things that you can't strategize using the mind alone.

Wrong type for him.

May I ask what usually happens in this case. The women pursuing you - what's the usual outcome. I'm curious.

You're just staring at the wrong type of women, that's all. End of story. If one's story never changes, it's them. The world is revolving, but your perception of it remains the same. That's a red flag that something in you is static. PERIOD. Same ole story for the last 5yrs.

Bravo!!

Happy New Year!!

You're too stubborn to see others' pov. There's nothing to take seriously in this context other than a woman's identity means more to her other just trying to seduce men. You said men love to have sex with beautiful women and that's why they're obsessed with beauty. I'm responding to that. Beautiful women aren't obsessed with beauty, if they are already beautiful. Men are. Beautiful women just want to maintain their beauty and hold unto it for as long as they can for beauty's sake. There is such a thing as pretty privilege also and it's not that they're happy to get more men to sleep with but for getting privileges. Getting more men to sleep with is not a privilege for beautiful women.

That's those girls. Like I said, not saying what you're saying doesn't happen or apply to some women but it's more than just because men love beautiful women why women are obsessed with beauty. Those girls aren't killing themselves because men aren't sleeping with them either. It has nothing to do with men but more of their own self-image. Plenty of women with low-cut (almost bald but just as low-cut as men are very beautiful and are attracting lots of men. They have to have the head for it and a naturally pretty face for that cut to work, but it does for some women. Sinead O'connor was bald, as are some top models.

You're right. Lol. I don't sometimes, but I do now mostly that I'm more conscious and aware. I was more referring to the fact that I'm aware of how most women think because I'm a woman and have been around women who talk about this stuff. You're right though, most people don't know why they do what they do, including myself but I'm more conscious of my actions and intentions the older I get.

@Leo GuraI'm not saying in certain instances, what you're saying isn't true, but it's not like it's the reason for the invention of make-up or why women are obsessed with how they look. Men are the ones obsessed with beauty, so is society, and yes, women like to look their best when attracting men; but it's not on a general scale. It's personalized for the specific woman and her likes and goals and what she's trying to accomplish. Some women just love to look beautiful, not necessarily for alluring men.

I don't have to kid myself, I'm a female and I'm aware of the reasons why I do what I do. I guess all the Hollywood celebs who are taking hours and hours to put on their make-up are looking to get the best men, even the married ones. I guess the women in nightclubs who took 5mins to put on their make-up to go out are obsessed and looking for the best men. I guess Oprah is looking for the best man. She takes hours to put on her make up. I guess the model who has to keep her looks, is obsessed about getting the best men. It's not all about men with us as it is with you guys. My mother cared about how she looked at her age and she wasn't trying to get the best men. Once I took care of a 90yr old woman who would go to the hair dresser once a week and put on make up just to go to the grocery store and she wasn't looking to get the best men.

Some men just can't get that beauty for a woman can be a commodity. It can get her far in more ways than one. Sex ain't even in the picture just for sex's sake. She might use it or her sex appeal, but it's not for the purpose of having more sex or so more men will want to sleep with them. Women aren't going around putting on make-up for more sex. It's so ridiculous sounding even when I'm saying it. Even if a woman wants men attention, doesn't mean sex, it might just be to make her feel beautiful. That's why so many men will say women are a tease because in their minds their thinking sex and in her mind she's thinking attention or to feel feminine or whatever else other than just having sex. Also, which is the main reason, it's just a feminine thing. This is why old women will do it, married women and lesbians. None of these groups are putting on make up to try and allure men its just a female thing to do.

Don't kid yourself. Women aren't going around obsessed with beauty for men to sleep with them. The most beautiful women aren't the sex-crazed ones. It's the fat ugly ones who aren't getting much attention usually, but not always. We're obsessed with beauty because we like to look good. We feel attractive and it makes for a more confident woman overall and it does have it's perks. Men are sleeping with any woman willing. Men love to sleep with the beautiful women, but not all men have access to beautiful women. Some men are fine with an average looking woman too. A beautiful woman is very valuable in society. It is what it is. But don't get it twisted they're not enhancing their beauty thinking to themselves I want to sleep with more men. Matter of fact they're not even thinking about sex that much sex just happens. I'm not talking about women in relationships, just in general.

No one thinks, thoughts just happen. No one pees, peeing just happens. No one speaks, talking just happens. If you say otherwise, please write a short paragraph below how you have managed to do these things. Nothing is happening to you. You have attached yourself to everything that arises because you believe you're a separate being. It feels real, but it's all illusory. At the same time, there really is no attachment because there's no one doing that. Guys all that we talk about here about noself, no me, illusion, no doer, all the crazy seeming stuff......it has to not seem that way or else there would be no world. No continuation of a life, no seeming reality and experiences. You'd all just be zombies walking around just hearing sounds seeing colors and movement and feeling sensations. No story behind all that and everything would just seem empty, meaningless and pointless. Somehow this energy that we call "me", comes with it all this stuff that makes it appear so real. Enjoy it while it lasts because when it does or fall away there's no more you, even though there's none already, but it would be like you never existed. There's no one to even tell the difference.

So true. Everything is lost. It can feel terrifying. You "pinch" yourself back to reality. You're like wtf are you doing, get back here. Many times I've intuited things even though it's not really an intuition but something tells me things. Hard to explain. Then I'll experience something in everyday life that's weird and gives you a sense of "fakeness", like it didn't really happen, or it was kind of mystical or a strange happening. Life's weird. That's all i keep telling myself. Something weird is happening here.

These statements aren't really correct. Homemade food just means it's made at home, not chemical/toxic free. Plenty of homemade foods are poisonous. A female can use a vibrator repetitively on her clit to the point of damaging her clitoral nerves and making them numb where they aren't as sensitive and where she can't feel a thing anymore. Also, for some women, sexual intercourse with men can be very painful leading to severe stomach pain or even a torn vaginal wall.

His comment made me cringe.

Such silliness. Treating people like substitute resins, Believe it or not, there are some human beings that really do enjoy the company of other human beings and value them just for existing. Distracted from what? Doing "the work", meditating, self-realization, making money, the monkey mind's chit chatter?

This is like saying eating out is just using another place to cook.

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