Princess Arabia

Only broke men or insecure men get concerned and worry if women love them for them or not. Wealthy men and men of status don't have these concerns. They're too busy making the doe and derive their worth from their success not women.

Yes, that's what some of them do. Here's the deal, men find worth different from how women do. They crave to please and are driven to be needed. Whether they realize it or not. If they're not doing anything to feel worthy of your love, they'll resent you for it because you've settled and they want to level up themselves to feel worthy. A lot of men are motivated by women, to be loved by women to be wanted by women and that's why some of them pursue success. If you accept them broke their motivation is shattered and they feel worthless and that's why so many low-income ones become abusive and beat on their women and cheat on them etc, because they don't respect them for settling. You have enabled them to stay lazy, but when they have found the motivation to level up for whatever reason, they leave you for the woman who wouldn't have accepted them broke.

This is just your experience. Believe it or not, lots of women say the same thing about men. This is what can happen when men chase after women. They'll be opportunists and just say yes for what they can get out of you. Men should approach women, but allow her to freely reciprocate. Never continue if she seems disengaged and not interested, even if you think she's playing hard to get because that's just game playing. Somewhat reserved, yes, but learn how to spot the signs that she's truly interested. Men are too busy wasting energy on boosting their egos instead of diving in and really investigate how women really are and what makes them tick and how they are when interested. No clue.

Exactly. That's why men are so critical of women because they see these qualities in themselves in the opposite way and think all or most women do the same with men. They refuse to see how a woman is justified in being concerned with how her family is going to be taken care of if she falls for a broke man. They themselves don't even respect women that does this. They level up while with the one that accepted them broke, then leave her for the one that wouldn't after they get their shit together.

It's what you believe that matters. There are no definites in the Universe we create them. You create the someone for you by bringing it forth first in the mind; and how you do that is to become that person that doesn't care if there's someone for everyone and operate from a place where that someone is already there because they literally are, waiting for you to draw that experience to you by aligning your frequency to one that attracts relationships but you can't do that with doubt and insecurities which are at the core and are the basis of your question. Asking that question shows doubt and doubt is the opposite of surety which is what aligns you to your desires. Doubt repels it.

Isn't it. Time for everything. I can't be serious all the time, I'd get depressed. Lol

Fear, that's all it is. Operating from scarcity, lack and fear. That's what it symbolizes to me and that's why those signals in the beginning tells a lot, so I'll pay for both and jet without an argument. Tells a lot right from the beginning. How you do one thing is how you do everything.

It'll give me an opportunity to practice detachment😜 Great. BTW, I saw that Samadhi documentaries on the same Channel. Will check them out later, maybe post them in the original powerful section.

I'm actually listening to part one now and you're right. I actually was going to post them in the original powerful section when I was scanning through the video but said the title still fits in this section somewhat; but you're right. I'll leave it here, though, since it's such a great listen. No one will mind. I'm enjoying listening to pt 1 and probably listen to pt2 right after. I usually watch the videos before posting them but once in awhile I may post while or before watching when I sense they will be pretty good. Seeing Rupert and Donald Hoffman sealed the cake. Please post some videos if you like that's suited for this section please. That would be nice. .

No, what you're saying now is different. I was referring to the paying half part, that it proves nothing. Serious and planned is fine if that's who you are; probably need a female whose opposite to that though, both of you serious and planned....hmmmm, idk, seems like we're a perfect match after all cause I'm definitely the opposite of serious and planned, but I'm def compatible with that type (not too serious and planned, though but somewhat), to balance me out.

Regardless, irrelevant still; it's a first date we're discussing here, should be fun and spontaneous. Anyway, people are different, not for me. I want him to look at other things, things like, does she have roaming eyes, does she interrupt me often when i'm speaking, is she kind to the service people, does she ask me questions about me and not just talk about herself...these kinds of things, not is she willing to foot half the bill. A gold digger can still foot half the bill and still take a man on a ride later, proves nothing.

It's even worse if this is a concern on a first date. Is this a marriage screening, a life-long partner situation. Things happen afterwards, and anything can happen in the long run but if this is a concern for a first date that did not start out as a screening for marriage or long-term live in relationship, it's even worse. But I'm just sharing my perspective and we don't have to keep this up, I saw your comment and just wanted to respond with my perspective. To each is own. Why would a date be concerned how someone is regarding money on the first date. Beats me. Says more about them than the other person regardless of which gender is concerned.

If a man asks me out and asks me to pay half or my share, I'll pay it all and say it was nice knowing you. I don't need to be scrutinized on whether I'm willing to pay for my half of the date when he asked me out. I don't ask men out on dates; so if I'm on one, it's because I was asked. If a woman asks a man out in a date, she should pay yes, but it still shows the trajectory of the relationship if he allows her to, whether it turns out to be serious or not. Let her reach for the bill, if that's what happens but interrupt and say you got this. If a man is only concerned that she's willing to foot half the bill on the first date, and sees her as a good match because of that or even one that won't use him or whatever his concerns are about financial issues, it's not worth my time. He's the one making it an issue not her by doing that. I don't care about the other 100 dates that he may pay, I just don't want to be tested in this manner, test me to see if I reach out to open your side of the car door or not while I'm already seated; that test, if testing at all, is a better indicator of a good woman, imo, or if she ever embarrasses you in public.

Yippee. Love it. Post away. Powerful stuff - the mind is.

Make biological art. Paint the human anatomy and create 3d art showing the biological structure of things.

I remember once a few months back you started a thread about the male/female dynamic and the problems they face. I remember you saying something about shame being at the core of some of these relationship issues and you went on to explain it in detail. His response to you shows how what you wrote was on point and how shame can be such a deal-breaker if one is going through this emotion and how it can negatively impact us if not dealt with at the core. If you can find that thread,(no big deal if you can't) it would be nice to share it here for reference.

That's lust. Another form of love, but don't confuse the two.

Love this.

This has started to be my new catch phrase lately, (in my personal life). People look at me like, wtf are you talking about. I'd be like, "that shit came outta nowhere". They be like, Ah, ah, nope, it came from my ass putting it there, or somebody else". I'd be like, "Well, where was it before that", they can't answer or come up with stuff like, somebody else had it or it was in the bank or some logic like that. I just leave it alone at that point cause then they're going to have to explain it backwards to Infinity. Hehe

No answers to your question will satisfy that inquiring mind. What i've quoted here from your post is more relevant. Try to work on that fear. Try to get comfortable with the uncomfortable. Life isn't about to make you comfortable in every endeavor. Learn to face your fears. You have anxiety, I can tell, no need to ask. These kinds of fears are what's fueling it. It loves these kinds of fears. The one's that cannot be prevented ahead of time. Who knows, no one. I could be facetious and say the same amount of time it takes you to fall in love, is the same amount of time it will take to fall out. Learn to take chances and be open to the unknown. That's what life's about. If you knew every step of the way, hour by hour, minute by minute, every second what was in store for you for the rest of your life detail by detail and exactly what will happen, how boring that will be you'd want to kill yourself or still get anxious and can't wait for the good parts, still suffering from anxiety. We fear the unknown and we fear the known. We fear everything. Overcome that, relax and try to see in the mind's eye what you would like to experience and not worry about things you don't. What we fear, we create because fear is a very intense emotion and we create from being focused and attentive to where we place our energy.

Learn how to give love. Giving is receiving. When you start to give love to others you are giving it to yourself. That's how you fill your cup in this regard. Love is Universal and when we start to see it as something we should have it blinds us, over shadows us, because it is what you are. We try to gain it from others and tell ourselves we have to have it to give it, then we become hoarders of love thinking we need to start loving ourselves first then we can start to love others. We need to fill our cup with money before we can give that away, fill up on gas before we can drive, fill up on knowledge before teaching, but when it comes to love, it's the energy force that drives the engine to want to give away things that represent the love we already are. So, we don't need to fill up on love to give love, we need to fill up on the things that represent love so we can express the love that we already are.