Princess Arabia

I actually read somewhere awhile back that not having compassion for others is not a bad thing and is actually a positive trait. Something about the self lacking in something and making up for it by showing compassion. Same for empathy. Forgot where I read it; some article or another.

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Unless there is no mind at all (which I doubt), you're having some thought or another. Next time it happens, observe the thought that's passing through. I don't really know how to answer that if you're saying you feel sad without thought. There's usually an emotion there that corresponds to a particular thought.

Mindset is not something that gets thrown out, it's engrained. Just a matter of what kind of mindset. Your comment is also of a particular mindset, so is mine.

You are a Legend. Jan 17, 1931 - Sept. 9th, 2024.

It's not about who's the provider and who's the receiver because provider men are also receiving from the act of providing and women are also giving by being the recipient of the provider/protector role. Both benefit in different ways and both are receiving and giving.

I kind of understand why OP posed this question. He sees gay feminine guys as "feminine minded" (couldn't think of another word) and thinks they like the same things straight women like sexually. He's actually not that way off and the only reason why the question can't really be answered with precision, is because, even though feminine gay guys and women are similar in certain aspects, when it comes to the bedroom and the actual act itself they are still going to behave like men and can never be like women entirely in this way just as how masculine gay women can never be like real men. Reason being because of their interactions and partners and the lens through which they are viewed. Sometimes we assign the people in our lives certain roles that's why people will act differently around others than you. Gay people aren't looking at their partners like they are opposite sex when they actually look like the opposite sex as in a man dressed like a woman, they know they are male and sees them as such. If a masculine gay guy is having sex with a feminine gay guy, he's not seeing him as a female so the feminine gay guy (no matter how he tries), will never duplicate a woman entirely. This is why some straight men enjoy tranny's so much because they get the best of both worlds - a person that looks like a woman but sexually mimmicks how they like to make love and have sex. Lots of men are good in bed with women because they've learnt how to be and took the time to understand what their partner like; but if given the opportunity to have sex how they really want it, it would be different than how women are usually with them and in a more masculine way. Men touch women how the men like to be touched and they have sex how they fantasize it in their head and a tranny does all that naturally. I know, I just took all that out my ass and i don't have a clue what I'm talking about, but to answer the OP's question, it's a very good one and seems comical but I know you're bi because you've said so before if I'm not mistaken, so you'll understand your inquiry than most who are straight, and no they don't have to be but a lot of them do and understand straight women in bed but only to a certain point that has nothing to do with the genitals but more on the emotional and mental level than the physical.

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Just finished arguing and trying to make points in the thread about prostitution. Have to constantly remind people that real and true dangers are lurking in the hidden and the not so obvious parts of life also. This thread just gave me something else to add to the list and had no idea it was actually a thing. Dangers are hidden everywhere and people who are used to being closed-minded, the ignorant, and people who just cannot see outside their little box of construction will never or have a hard time grasping that anything can be used as a weapon if it gets into the wrong hands of people who are intent on doing harm to others and not just the obvious things that people are used to.

People don't normally realize the correlation between eating an unhealthy diet and depression and anxiety and other neurologically related issues. There is one. Sometimes one results in another and sometimes one can be the cause of another. Not sure in your case; but either way, there can be a relation. The things that are in foods can alter the brain cells and can have an effect on hormones and dopamine. More often than not when you find a severely depressed or anxious person their diet is of poor quality. People who eat certain foods (on the healthier side)and are going through the same things another goes through can deal with that same exact circumstance in a more healthy way because of the proper nutrients they consume that can help in stress responses. I'm not qualified or knowledgeable to explain this in detail, but I know there's a link between both, and of course it's not always the case as different factors can also be involved. Just changing one's diet alone can reduce the way one reacts to life's stressful circumstances in addition to taking certain high-quality supplements that can target certain areas of the body that's responsible for stress management. Hope is for the future and will never get you anywhere. What must be done, is changing how we see ourselves, the changing of beliefs and to understand that nothing is permanent. Stop the comparisons to other people and to understand that life operates in patterns and that thought patterns and behavioral patterns are things that control our lives and we have to be vigilant in the observation of our minds and what triggers certain emotions that are responsible for the formulation of these patterns. In the end, only you can do this, and no amount of positive advice will turn the tables for you unless you set the intention to change. It seems to me that you are stuck in a loop because you're not able to see other opportunities that are so waiting for you but are impossible to see while stuck in your current frequency. My advice to you is to try your very best to start with your diet. Try to stop eating those foods you're eating and switch to more healthy foods. Envision in your mind each time you take a bite of something healthy (and educate yourself in this regard) how the body is transforming into the best tool you have to help you transform your mindset. Drink a green smoothie imagining the chlorophyll breathing life into your depressed cells and putting in your body life energy force that will stand guard and protect you from unwanted attackers like envy, jealousy, unworthiness and so on. Keep imagining the transition the body is going through at both end of the spectrum and see which one feels better. There's something else in your mindset that's happening and it's using this situation as a scapegoat and blame for why you're feeling the way you do, There's a familiar feeling you're addicted to and don't want to let go of because of the comfort it brings you because of familiarity and the unfamiliarity of the unknown. IOW, there's a pay off to this way of being youre getting and the mind is keeping you there because that's what it does. You have to have a vision of your future and not one of your past in order to overcome this. Nothing anybody said to you worked because it's more than what's happening in school. The school situation is a symptom not the cause. Lastly and on a Spiritual level, know that nothing outside of you defines you and the egoic mind identity is what's keeping you trapped in it's quest to stay alive; but not only that, to live up to it's false beliefs about itself and the world. None of it is true, but it doesn't recognize this because it's held unto it's false notion of itself so tightly that it's having a hard time letting go so that there's room for the true self to shine through. It's energetic and the true self is also this energy but it needs to be directed and certain things released for it to operate in ways that is aligned with it's true energetic nature. This is the power you have, you have the power to make things appear in ways within your awareness that you really don't want to see but because there's truly no one there making this choice, it's simply energy in motion that is being directed by frequencies and patterns. Sorry for the long reply, but this is what came out of me when I took in your comment and the response that happened to come out and what's in alignment with it. Hopes this helps. You are the only one that can do this, we can only be there to encourage this doing. Actually, except for cutting up that rope, maybe do nothing for now and let the life force guide you into action when it's ready, Take a mental break from everything and go for walks and enjoy nature for awhile.

I'm not speaking about identities and using the word loosely. I'm saying that some are only monogamous not because they never felt an urge but because they want to do right by their partner. They are only living up to a name and not only for the sole reason of never having the urge to sleep with another. Many people are monogamous but it doesn't negate the fact that they still had to refrain themselves and gave never felt the urge to sway. I'm not discussing what people should or shouldn't do. Still referring to the matter as what people should or should do or how they should or shouldn't feel. That's not my concern and what i'm referring to. Saying people only cheat when they don't live their partner is an assumption.

If someone pays another to go out to dinner or have a conversation for a few hours talking about wonderful things and in the process learnt a thing or two then go back to a hotel room for a fantastic massage or whatever else they engage in behind closed doors and then go on their merry way both satisfied with the encounter, where is the DISGUST and dysfunction in that. It was still prostitution. I could name numerous more situations and circumstances where there was prostitution taking place where it is not dysfunctional, disgusting or immoral. Get your facts straight before the use of a broad word as this. Did you know that a woman marrying a man for his money and having sexual acts with that man is, by the definition of the word, prostitution (engaging in sexual activities for payment), is just a glorified form of prostitution.

People keep talking about love. What's love got to do with it. Nothing. Loving someone doesn't make for a more monogamous mind. I can understand saying if they just don't have the desire to sleep with anyone else, but loving or not loving a person is not a requisite for monogamy. Someone can truly love a person while lusting sexually after another because sex has nothing to do with love. It's just a by-product. You can have sex without love and you can love without sex.

Because you keep talking about man-made laws when these same law enforcers are some of the ones violating them and also in this context. Sooooooo many are. Then they go out and lock up the same people they engaged with in the so-called illegal activity. Don't know about you, but I see something wrong with that picture. How about suggesting counselling, or other alternatives for people who need it instead of advocating to lock up people committing non-violent things in order to feed themselves and their family.

The only thing that will happen in prison is to breed more dysfunction, more sexual activities minus the $$ fighting and people engaging in ruthless behavior. Someone giving someone $$ for an act and both are satisfied seems a bit more humane to me.

Maybe we should just lock up everybody as just about everybody's family is dysfunctional. Not to mention the traumatized Christians and molesting Catholics

Lol. Go tell that to the hundreds of cops and judges that engage in these activities and prosecutors and lawyers that gather for conventions in Vegas and elsewhere. I'm first hand witness. Please save your morality for where it's really needed.

There might not be a deep understanding but it's not necessary as all is one. Consciousness implies something to be conscious of. What is being conscious and of what. Consciousness is fundamental but it's still within the dream of separation. Consciousness is what allows for the illusion to be seen. Without consciousness there is nothing. No-thing.

Just to make it clear, i'm more traumatized (well, not really traumatized, just saying), by the naysayers, the judgers, the criticizers and the people who look down on this work, and the regular ho Joe's who think they're better than or of a high moral standard than the ones engaging. That's where I have most of my problems. Not with the people I usually engage with as I'm not engaging with the low-lifes and I do try to choose my clients wisely. I've been used more by regular men who just wanted to get their rocks off by pretense. (That was when I was way younger, naive and didn't know any better) .

No, everyone knows here that I'm pretty open to this because I don't judge it or myself for doing it. It hurts me more that the food industry in the USA is knowingly poisoning people by approving certain chemicals in food that are known carcinogens and can cause tremendous harm to the body. It hurts me more that politicians lie to their supporters just to get votes. It hurts me more when a guy tries to lie to me about his feelings towards me just to get in my pants. It hurts me more to see men physically abuse their spouses and leave their baby mamas to fend for themselves and abandon their kids. It hurts me more to see how doctors can easily prescribe drugs to their patients without doing proper screening and now they become addicts. I could go on for infinity. As far as my work goes and how I engage, I'm not being used for anything, that I didn't consent to. It's an exchange of services and I conduct myself in ways that I'm comfortable with and I'm the one in charge. I'm not being coerced, and neither are my clients. I've had many wonderful times doing what I do and have met many beautiful people and have had some wonderful experiences. Of course, the opposite is also true, but that comes with the territory but the positives way out number the negatives. You have to understand and just like anything else, there are different ways of doing this work with different kinds of experiences and outcomes and what one does and how they carry themselves. It's not a one-size-fits- all kind of work, it varies.

To me, not wanting your daughter or son to do prostitution work is not closed-minded. The perspectives on what the work entails can be of a close-minded nature if it's coming from personal biases and judgements and is criticized based off of ignorance and a lack of knowing the ins and outs of the business and the different ways it can be exercised - that's where the closed-mindedness comes in and the refusal to see how it can be done in a respectable and non-threatening manner.

Politics is a way more nasty job, so is being a police officer and soldiers in war. People need to expand their awareness a bit and realize that the true dangers are the ones hidden. That said, sure it can be, especially for the street ones, but it's not a nasty job overall if done in certain ways. I've been doing this for awhile and have never gotten hurt nor has any of the girls I've been in contact with and barely ever heard of any "hurt stories" A housekeeper in one of the casino hotels was raped and murdered by a guest. Schools now have to do mass shooter drills and put their students through trauma and nurses in senior citizen homes have to watch people die everyday or attend to the old and sick and clean up nasty things all the time. Reason I'm saying these things is to show that people put too much emphasis on this and not realizing that all the things they say about this line of work can be applied to many other unsuspected jobs, occupations and aspects of life overall. It surely has it's benefits and draw backs, but so does a lot more things in society and some are way more dangerous.

Spirituality can attract suicidals. The Church can attract con-artists who just want to steal your money and Priesthood can attract child molesters, and the list goes on, casinos can attract addicts, bars can attract predators, hospitals can attract pill addicts, schools can attract mass shooters, airports can attract hijackers. Drugs can attract students, human traffickers can lure in regular people like teenagers and children and coercion can happen anywhere.

No, that's not being closed-minded, just protective.

The actual act, just like with basically everybody, is what's done in the shadows. Brothels are on roadsides, in Amsterdam women are in windows, prostitutes are on the streets advertising in the open and some bars and casinos, they're openly advertising themselves. Online, with pictures and bios, it's everywhere. The only thing in the shadows, for the most part, is the act itself or with people trying to hide the fact that that's what their motive is.