Princess Arabia

Every time you speak, you're shouting how unattractive you think you are. That's the basis of all your posts. I've seen attractive looking guys that I'm not sexually attracted to; and with women, even men, physical attraction varies. Most guys that are attracted to me aren't really attracted to the big boob, small waisted straight-haired 5'6" blonde with the high-pitched voice. I've heard guys say to me who wouldn't be attracted to you?. Plenty. I'm just not their type. They'd still say I'm pretty, beautiful or whatever but I'm still not their type. Same with women, honey. Not all attractive looking guys will be attractive to all women. We have our types too and not all of them you'd find attractive as a guy.

That's because the space and time is the "you". Take the "you" out and it's just this. No you - no space, no time which is what thought is.

So much spiritual nonsense out there. All made up. What is feeling an emotion fully. An emotion is an emotion. It doesn't need to be felt fully. It's like saying if I'm eating, i'm only eating halfway and i need to eat fully. I used to follow all this crap, until I realized it was all nonsense, all made up to make sense of what is. How can one feel an emotion fully VS not fully. Ok, so I'm sad. Am I half way sad, almost sad, kinda sad, empty sad. How can I feel fully what I'm already feeling. All you're doing is putting thought to that emotion. It is going to feel more intense with a story behind it for sure. Feel it fully, in spiritual terms means, please realize why you're feeling this way, understand that the emotion needs to be interpreted and by that you need to give it a story so you can feeeelll it stronger and now the brain is taking a snapshot of the images and next time you'll be feeling every single storyline you created to go along with that emotion. Making it worse. Every spiritual practice just about strengthens the sense of self. The person needs so badly to find ways and means to ease the tension of being a person that it will go to the extreme to find ways and means, only to need to find more ways and means.

Yes, but guys would mean it if they were single. Most women are not that eager to invite a male stranger into their home to live, short-term or not.

I would have probably made the invitation too and do a missing in action if he took me up on it. Hehe just kidding, but nothing says anything works if it never really happened. Most women are just sensitive to these issues and react in the moment.

I saw that Davino mod thread closing that's why I came over here to chit chat with myself. I actually thought at one time it was the your leader is a clown thread, then when I looked up and saw it wasn't, I knew then we were in for it. Plus, it was getting out of hand anyway and started to be a bit blah and pointless. Good call.

Lots of people don't like themselves that's why they might not like people. Other people reveal too much of the shadows. They can't stand it. It's like looking in the mirror. That's why so-called awakened people fit more into this bracket. Their senses are heightened and they see things more clearer and with more precision and the veil gets a bit more loose. The energy is a bit less contracted and now everything seems clearer and more as it is. Now, the stories begin that they are more conscious and people are just not into their bracket anymore and they can't stand to be around normal people and so on and so forth. No, what's happening is your bullshit is being revealed to you more clearly and the ego can't stand it so now it wants to recluse and go in it's shell. A mind like mind doesn't take things on face value. There's always more that meets the eye. The ego is very sly and the mind very deceptive. When the bigger picture is utilized and looked at in almost everything, these things gets revealed more clearly. We live in time and space and separation, but that's just an appearance and cannot be mocked; meaning, no amount of "I am separate" can conquer what really is the case. So, when you recognize this, you can usually see through the ego's bullshit and the mind's stories about itself and the world. I'm not exempt, so I'm not excluding myself. Infact, i can see through my bullshit too, sometimes. Why is it that social media is so popular, but so many claim to dislike people and can't stand certain types of people. In the same token loneliness is feared and not welcomed. So many are depressed are suffering and hate life but are afraid to die and do everything possible to avoid death. You would think most people would run into busses and jump off bridges if this was really the case. No, they hate themselves and are trying to escape themselves. It's not pleasurable to be a person that thinks it's separate from the whole. It's very painful and gets disorienting. The suffering is the separate individual. Not the other way around where the individual suffers. The suffering IS that energy. That's why it tries to escape itself. It wants to die but it can't because there's no one to die. It's the energy that's suffering itself. That's what suffering is. That's it's nature. It can't be anything other than suffering. Joy, happiness and every other emotion is the same thing. It's the individual itself. Those emotions aren't separate. THEY ARE THE INDIVIDUAL. They are energy that arises and the individual is that in the moment. The state is the individual in the moment. Not a state that the individual is in. It is that. If it's pleasant, and disappears, the individual seeks for it again because it feels like it lost a part of itself. That's why we seek out happiness and not it's opposite because it wants the feel good parts of itself to remain. There's no one there, just a bunch of sensations, emotions, states, perceptions, feelings and a storyline to perpetuate those things to keep the individual alive. People hate these sayings because it knows deep down what's being said is true and it doesn't want to realize it's unrealness. The energy isn't open to it so it turns away and defends it's unrealness.

No, men want just hot, that's why they get burnt. Hehe. Don't mind me.

This is why some men are considered shallow because they don't consider the mindsets of these women and the types of women that go for these men, only that they are HOT. Hotness, wears off and you'll have to deal with the disturbed mind that finds this attractive after awhile. It's fine, but don't complain when that hot girl turns out to be a cold bitch.

Here we go again. Did I call him abnormal. I didn't you said that. I never used that word, nor implied abnormality.

If you paid attention to the context in which I wrote the statement, and which I mentioned, it was meant as a loving creature that shows unconditional love. I specifically mentioned that. Any other characteristics of a dog wasn't meant to capture the point i was making. I never called her a dog, I said like a dog and went on to explain why. Geesh, this is why people live in so much confusion and the drama of life never ends with humans, so many wrong interpretations and assumptions made that wasn't meant to be the intent in one's storyline. You added your own story to the mix by saying I was calling her submissive and that was never expressed but only in your mind and what you THOUGHT I was implying. I'm kinda done with this convo, as it's getting drawn out and mis aligned.

Most of the foods nowadays are deficient in nutrients and lack any substance unless it's whole foods or real foods from nature. Msg can make one feel hungrier sooner and ready to eat again in a short span of time. Empty calories will do this too. Maybe, in some cases this is the reason.

Oh hush, that's why most people have pets to receive the kind of unconditional love that @Sugarcoatemits. It was meant to be a compliment that only her with that type of loving personality would not take offense to. Compare me to a dog or a cat, and I would find it complimentary in the context in which I put it. About the narcissistic behavior, I never said he showed narcissistic behavior with her, he was narcissistic and loved her personality because of it. If you read his responses here on the forum most of the time it was about him, him, him and never considered the feelings of others. His advices usually stressed the points of only looking out for yourself which is quite narcissistic behavior. I'm not saying anything is wrong in being a narcissist or anyone needs to change it, just saying it the same way I'm saying she's loving. It's just a different personality type.

Everyone is. There's no one the same at all times in every situation. It's impossible to respond to all circumstances the same way and all that's happening here in life is responses. Energy responding to energy. It's never the same at all times. You might just have not noticed. This is why people get shocked or surprised by other people and nothing remains the same. It's constantly moving and what moves can never be exactly duplicated. Hehe, always have a response for everything, eh.

In person, I'm more chill. Both are 'authentic', just that different environments brings out different energetical patterns in people. In person, I'm very easy going, laid back and chill. Out drinking, I'm different than when I'm home or doing normal mundane things. I can be very funny and hilarious and quite a character when I'm pretty tipsy. People laugh and say I'm pretty funny on those occasions. So it all depends on the circumstances.

Yes. Most will like that type of online forum presence. It's like having a loving house pet that never talks back and only gives unconditional love. Like a dog. Hehe See, I'm so comfortable joking like that with you and comparing your presence to a pet dog, I know you won't take offense.

It's just a different kind of online personality that's all. People appear different in different occasions; and for me, I speak from the heart without holding back too much and being too self-conscious, so my energy just flows naturally that way. In another circumstance it might not happen that way or I may respond differently.

Well, you're making my point. This response is in line with not being challenging, controversial and is pretty neutral. This is attractive to narcissists and people who like to control others. All i'm saying is your online forum personality to him was/is perfect, you never back talk or challenge or put up a fight. To him that's a win/win - for him. Me on the other hand is the opposite at times, even though it's respectful and doesn't condescend, he didn't like that. Once he actually told me so in a rude way. I never responded back because, I didn't keep it alive, I stopped the conversation right there. Talking to me....not.

Yes, but he doesn't notice those who just ignores him or never replies to him or had nothing to say, he noticed you apart from those people because you at least responded, spoke with or paid his posts any attention but without rebuttals and was always cordial and kind and without resistance. Perfect for the role he was playing. Your "no opinions" were still verbally expressed, so he noticed that. Those who just ignored, went unnoticed.

You only stood out to him because you never talked back to him and either agreed with what he said or had no relevant opinion about what he said about anything. You're not controversial or dramatic and don't give anyone here any shit and you basically are emotionless (according to you), so that works for his storyline and the construction he was building for himself. Anyone that stood in the way of that, was an enemy and a threat. Why do you think he acted the way he did upon leaving. His construction was tearing apart and crumbling, and it was a desperate attempt at trying to not care, but that attempt only showed a desperate cry for help.

You're right about that.

If this is infinite how can it end. How can it even have begun. The only thing i have to say about infinity is that there's really nothing to say about it because whatever I say about it, is also it. If I decide to go in a cave and not talk to anyone anymore and not deal with anyone ever again, that's also infinity appearing as that. It cannot be escaped. Trying to get rid of the self, is also infinity appearing as that. Saying there's no more 'me' and I don't feel a sense of 'me' is also infinity appearing as that. If one feels trapped in a body and feel as if there's no escape, that's also it. If one 'dies', that's also infinity appearing as a body that dies. It's incredible what this is.

This is why I gave examples of both. They are two separate things and not about mistaking one for the other. You're missing that point. I understand what you're trying to say but one cannot mistake needing to make a judgement call on a decision and bashing someone upside the head with a harsh judgement or criticism. They are just simply two different things.

I've noticed this confusion many times here on the forum and I'd like to make the distinction between the two. One is to understand something to the degree one can make an informed decision based on that judgement, aka judgement call. The ability to come to a sensible conclusion about something. E.g. I looked at both students' grades and made the judgment call that one exceeded the other by far and deserved the promotion being considered for Class President. The other is to criticize condemn and judge. To bash, to belittle. Forming a negative opinion of or expressing a negative statement about someone or something. E,g. That girl is very promiscuous, that guy thinks he's the shit and he's not all that, lawyers are some conniving full of shit assholes that should be put on trial themselves, those people in the backyard are so dirty and nasty and never pick up after themselves. Those are judgements also. Making judgmental statements about a person, place or thing. There's a difference between the two and I just thought I'd point out the difference. We don't have to make harsh judgements about people but we often times do need to make a judgement call about a decision we need to make. One can observe without making judgements, but to make a judgement call one needs to observe - Princess Arabia (yes, I'm a philosopher now).