Princess Arabia

The bum on the street, talking out loud to himself constantly, the ones you see that are always talking to themselves no matter when you see them, they mind their business, they look at you like you're not even there, they may dig through the trash, laughing out loud and smiling and looking like they're having a conversation with someone, you might see them for years doing the same things, they are actually in silence. You, my friend, who are constantly in your head, worrying about this and that, contemplating about that and this, every second there's a thought, thoughts haunt you everyday, you're constantly in quiet mode but the thoughts are rampant, you, my friend, need a retreat, you need meditation, you need to learn how to quiet the mind or how to not identify with thoughts. Notice how those bums are always smiling, never looking worried. They talk all day about nothing and thoughts aren't there. Their thoughts are being spoken out loud while their insides are quiet. Outside doesn't matter, it's what's inside thar counts. I always talk about bums because I find them to be more directly in tuned, less neurotic and more sane, happy and content than the rest of us in a weird kind of way.

Yeah, maybe.

Nevermind, I don't know what I'm saying.

I'm speaking more on the initial attraction level. Of course, we love interested men but that's usually much later on and after the attraction phase. The word enjoy implies on an ongoing level which suggests she's already invested time into getting to know you and is now enjoying the decision she made. I'm speaking more on what it takes for her to even get to the enjoyment phase. I guess it's more of a choice of words and fascination just doesn't cut it for what it takes for a woman to feel romantically inclined.

That's what I was referring to when I said that. Before I even read this part, I was going to comment this when you said men aren't fascinated........ - then you said it. Men are fascinated with a woman's beauty, women aren't fascinated with a man's personality and charm which is what is used to tickle her fancy. If she feels fascinated, you're in the friend zone and being admired that way, not to make her moan and groan. She's fascinated with her cat's or dogs tricks. It may work if you're a magician doing tricks or if you're displaying some type of talent, not just by your presence.

Ok.

Women aren't looking to be fascinated with men. You seem to be describing the emotions that some men respond to when they see a woman at times. Fascination and mystery doesn't tickle a woman in this way especially to want to be with you intimately. You're describing a toy or a present. She wants to feel spontaneous, raw and direct emotions not anything that puts her in the future. "To find out" is future. The only thing she wants to find out is what she's presently feeling, how you're making her feel now, not how you will make her feel. I have a feeling you're thinking women respond in this way like how you respond. No, it's different. Men are more logical, women more emotional. Emotions are felt in the present. Think of it this way.

Lol, you made me choke reading this. 😅😅

Guys, if it's just about sex, listen to Leo, if it's about a relationship, don't. You'll be lost and confused. Women love that you care about what she likes, it shows you care about her as long as you're not kissing her ass. Here he comes, I'm not listening. I don't care what you like. Lol

You want a pickmeisha. Lol. Poor woman, chasing a dog. She'll catch you and you'll be like next. BTW, not calling you a dog. Figure of speech.

No, that's what men want. We don't care about your mysterious self, just come direct.

The word "my" should tell us that that's duality and a dream. Reality screams this shit.

https://www.actualized.org/insights love this too. Leo is on fire lately. I love when he talks about Reality, even though I may disagree sometimes or haven't seen what he's referring to yet. Relatively, of course. This post is relatable, understandable and says a lot.

Notice people that post (start threads) constantly, excessively like maybe 3or 5 posts a day, then on to the next one the next day, maybe 4 or 5/wk or more, just posting excessively in a short period of time like maybe a month or two usually disappear for a while after that. Maybe even forever or a year or many months. It's something I've noticed. When I say I excessive I mean to the point where it's noticeable. Not like one every day or 2 or 3 a week or so but as I mentioned above. Never fails. I would say to myself I bet this person doesn't log on for awhile. That's energy exploding. Like a hurricane or tornado or tsunami. Then comes the calm. It needed that expression Lots of pent up frustration. Needs to go somewhere. This is an excellent place to relieve tension. A place for safe expressions. Judgements and criticisms here aren't taken too lightly because that's like criticizing someone's expression. It's taken personally and as an attack. I know I've felt that way before. I've even noticed that since I've started this journal, my responses, threads, posts and comments on the main forum have reduced dramatically. Energy is being expressed here. It's pretty stable and not eruptive and loves to talk to itself. Express itself in writing. Some days it's more, some days it's less and some not at all.

Definitely not the Bible. Just kidding.

As long as she's not really ugly. 😜

If there was someone in the body, a me or an I, there would be no need for the use of these pronouns. These pronoun's uses are there for narratives to place them within the body as a representation. The only reason there's a person in the body is because you put it there. Now you have to name it and call it 'me' or 'I' to make the distinction. You, them, us, our, their, etcetc are all a representation of what isn't there but is abstractly placed. All the pronouns. A 'you' must come with a 'your' and a 'them' must come with a 'theirs' and an 'us' must be accompanied by an 'ours' and a 'me' must be accompanied with a 'mine'. It will take a special kind of thinking to get what I'm saying. A something that's actually there doesn't need a name, doesn't need to be pointed to and doesn't need to be seen. If something is seen, it's already not there. Heard, not there, smelt, not there, touched, not there. That's what the senses are for. They are there to give the illusion life. Can you see absence, the absence of something, no. You need eyes to see it. That's another 'sense'. Just like hear, touch, feel, taste and smell are senses, absen(s)e is another sense. That's the real sense. That's why we seek, we seek our absence. No self, nobody, no this no that...it's all absence. Not non existence, but the existence of what's not there but needs a sense to pick it up.

Corny. That's for a husband to keep telling his wife or an already established date. "Telling her she's beautiful, I mean". No need to tell a stranger you're trying to hit on/date/sleep with you find them beautiful. Ugly females might care, but a beautiful woman or even an average female doesn't really care about these lines. That doesn't hit an emotion. It's generic, cliche and puts you beneath her right off the bat. Telling a random female she's beautiful just for telling her she's beautiful and keep it moving is a different story. Nothing awkward about that. It's the one's you're trying to pick up where it makes a difference. What if I wasn't beautiful, what if we get married and I lose my looks, what if another beautiful woman comes along.....these are subconscious responses going on in her head without her even saying a word. The compliment is nice, but it's not a way for a female to see you differently or someone she really wants to get to know. Exceptions are there, of course, I'm speaking generally and from my pov.

An insight came to me today. The human seems to be the only organism, thing, person....whatever that seems to carry this separate energy that thinks it's a somebody with free will and choice and blah blah blah. We have heard it been called 'contracted energy'. That's what they call it in non-dualism. Now, when a woman is pregnant and is about to have the baby, she experiences contractions. We all have heard about this before, and mothers can contest to that. Maybe this is the cause of the 'contracted energy' in humans. Usually there's also pain and suffering involved in the birthing process and maybe that's why this energy experiences pain and suffering. Animals seem to experience pain too but remember the mother also has contractions. Maybe there is some similarity there. The energy is innately contracted and it arises within the body from the mother's contractions. It tends to seek relief and is a seeker by nature. All the characteristics that come with this energy is what being human is all about. Maybe. Food for thought. I find this insight interesting even though it's just a story and there really is no contracted energy, only appears that way.

Ok

He's probably getting these advice on his cell phone. Wait...throw away your cell phone but after you've read what I have to say on your phone. Throw it away tomorrow. The phone is not the problem, he'll just pick up a new time-wasting habit instead. Advise on how to do other things or spend the time, not throw away the phone. We're always putting blame on objects, without the phone, he's still there.

It's not about having a cell phone or not, it's what you do with it. Stop telling the man to throw his phone in the trash or get rid of it. That's asinine.

@RazeYoure not going to find women talking on camera and making a big deal about being attracted to "non-toxic" men. The only reason it's being talked about is because of its essence. How much "non-drama" situations do you see getting exposed. They do exist, you know. No one cares, everyone loves drama. Drama sells. So when you see these things on social media maybe they are the exceptions and not the norm or rule.

So Silence revealed itself to me. I'm more clear on the matter now. This is why I write these things out. Somehow, I've noticed that things that get queried, asked about, talked about, wondered about gets answered somehow or reveals itself, it's like Solipsism at work in a way. You don't know how many times the clues of that has revealed itself in subtle ways, but It's just a hunch. Anyway this isn't about Solipsism but here goes. Silence is probably the only Spiritual practice needed for truth to be revealed. *Silence reveals your true nature. In silence, there are no concepts present, no thought about anything, no idea about what life is who I am. All descriptions, labels, stories, definitions, distinctions, boundaries, ideas, are absent. All that is left is being what you are, free from any notion about what that is or what that will lead to. There isn't even a notion of time there, so there is no idea of next or before either. There is no personal identity there. There is no notion of gain or loss, ignorance or awakening it is just a pure being what you are. This is the practice to know yourself, be as you are, rest as you are, already and always, and your true nature stands revealed.* This was revealed and an opening resonated with that. I will continue to deconstruct every practice until I get to the bottom and can't go any further, then and only then will I be able to see for myself the truth. Not Absolute Truth because I still think there's no such thing since it all is, but the truth of why I'm doing what I'm doing and not because I was told to. This, to me, is a true spiritual practice. All said above is the truth of the matter and I see now how silence is the key.

@aurumYou're making some really good points here.