Princess Arabia

Yes. If it's the one thing I've learnt in life is that it's all about us. There's truly no other and people are just a reflection of ourselves. When we interact with people, we get to understand ourselves more. What we don't like in others is not necessarily what we see in ourselves that we don't like, but there's something there that makes us uncomfortable about ourselves and the way we see ourselves. Life is truly a learning experience, and if we can learn how to look pass the surface and truly examine our likes and dislikes, our triggers and angers, there's a lot there to discover. We don't need to fix it, just become aware of it so we respond differently because life is about responding not reacting.

I also agreed with you; but because I didn't want to instigate, I didn't affirm. Now, he has gone too far with the insults bringing in your mother into this.

You have gone a bit too far I think with the mother's thing. I think we all have a right to express ourselves as long as it's respectful, even if it's something we don't like. This is defaming.

No, I get that. Just look into why. Always question why. You don't have to, I'm just saying it may reveal something more to you if you're doing it right than about the woman wearing the make-up not being authentic. Why do you feel she's not being authentic. Is it because you value looks so much. Think about it without judging yourself, you might be surprised. I've done this with my self on numerous occasions and got to know myself and my weaknesses many times so I could work on improving them. Whenever something bothers me about somebody, I ask why and it usually reveals something that I'm not comfortable with about myself. Just saying. Not speaking about crude, obnoxious and downright disrespect, but just subtle things or things that didn't really call for me to be triggered over.

It only feels that way because you take it personally and believe you've been tricked. You take it as her communicating something untruthful to YOU, when it could well be something that makes her feel better about herself. The mind is what's making the distinction between working on your self-esteem in a more studios way as in reading books, therapy, videos and just dabbing on some make-up and nice clothes to do the trick. If the end result is the same, what's the difference. Only to the mind there is one. Might I also add that a man is not going to put on raggedy clothes, and smelly shoes and dirty socks and torn underwear and fucked up hair to go look for a date. Same body, different accessories. There's no difference between a man dolling himself up with cologne, nice clothes and shoes and doing his hair than a woman wearing make-up. I'm sorry, there just isn't. Both are accessories and both are not who they truly are as a person.

It's not wrong, and obviously, not all men are like this. It's just that it happens so much, women see this as the norm for men. Even here on this forum, which you can't deny, most men here are just looking to get laid. Yes, by an attractive looking female, so I'm not saying they'll sex woman; but i don't see much here speaking on how they want to get to know women and how good a woman makes them feel and how much they love women for women's sake and would love to enjoy the sunset with a woman by their side and how they would love to meet a woman who can intellectually stimulate them and enjoy her company, and blah blah. All I see is HOW TO GET LAID. So, it's everywhere. Can't blame the women for feeling this way.

Your arguments go way pass me. I can't relate. If you think a woman is catfishing to get a guy's dick when she wears make up and accessories, you're clueless. A woman doesn't need that to get a guy's dick. How many ordinary, no make-up, no enhancers, no extra shit women do you think are out there begging to get laid.

Exactly, anybody will do. That's why nobody comes along. Women have a heart to protect and a vagina to nourish. It's survival. They know you'll say yes and but that's not the only reason she's there she really likes you. Most men only like the way you look at first, women love the way you are and that's what they're having sex with. How you made them feel. Can't just rile up several emotions just by looking, interaction is necessary for this. We need more than visual.

All I'm going to say here is most men are clueless about this. They'll watch porn with the dolled up female and get excited by her, pass the dolled up female on the street and turn their heads, approach the dolled up females with hopes of getting laid by her someday, call the dolled up celebrity beautiful because she's dolled up. When I say dolled up I don't mean like a Barbie doll or tons of extra shit to look like a clown or sometimes even noticeable, just regular stuff that women wear all the time. What men really mean, is if they know this is taking place, they might not see her as that beautiful anymore. They don't want the make up and the hair and the extra shit they want the female that's wearing it and half the time they're clueless. Sometimes a woman can change her looks drastically with the addition of just one or two enhancements. It's that powerful. So don't be too quick to say that, 70-90% of the time that woman you find so attractive that looks natural may be "enhanced up" with the very thing you say you hate it's just not that noticeable. P.S. Just so you're aware, many high-status men and men with a very high-value especially if they're well off and are amongst circles that are of high status, love when women enhance their beauty. They see women without make-up as bare and ordinary and not-well dressed. It's usually men who aren't in these brackets that say they don't like women with make-up etc. (note, i'm, not calling you that because I don't know you, I'm just saying in general).

This isn't true. Most women just don't go lay up with just anyone offering, while some men will do just that. Lots of women are sexless because the right partner hasn't come along. Some have to get drunk before having sex and regret it when they sober up. So, women CAN get laid whenever they want, all they have to do is approach 10 strangers for sex and 5 will probably say yes, depending on how she looks but how often do you see this happening. Unless they have a bf or are out on the prowl just to get laid from anybody (which isn't how most women operate), women aren't just getting laid "soon enough".

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It's clear you're unaware of make-up, cosmetic surgery and fake hair. Men are the ones stuck in this department. Women's advantage is the fact that their capacity to level up physically way outweigh their masculine counterparts. If you were to strip everything from every woman, take off all their make up, no bras, no girdles or waist enhancers, no high heels, no hair extensions, no fake lashes, no jewelry, no sexy clothes, no shaving of legs or underarm, no eyebrow trimming, etcetc, nothing, zilch, nada, men would far outweigh women in the facial looks department by a landslide. This is a general statement because on both sides there are people who, no matter what they do, nothing can help, not talking about those and even with the women here, they can still enhance their ugliness to look less ugly and level up somewhat while an ugly man is stuck. This is one of the advantages women have over men. In fact, there are countless YT channels that cater to women who wish to level up in the looks department so they can attract men of caliber and leave their dusty bfs behind. There are schools for this shit and women are graduating with honors with success stories. How many channels do you see for men wanting to upgrade their looks? Not sure there's any. For men it's mainly about personality and character traits. So you've got it all backwards here.

Yes. I'm just busting your chops. It's all up to Leo anyway, and anything is possible.

It's similar to like a magazine or newsletter. Do you query the editors and authors there. You just read or not and move on.

But he was referring to the blog. It's not a place for discussion.

Ok, Board of Directors. Let's not turn this thread into a how to redo Leo's Blog and forum.😛

That's what the forum is for. Plenty of that around here. In fact, it's mostly disagreements.

Yes, I agree. Already we're having suggestions about a dislike button.

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I check it first before I come to the forum most times. Even if I don't log in to see what's new and interesting.

The reason why is on the blog in the introduction.

I understand. I guess it's like how one learns like kinesthetic, visual and auditory. Depending on personality type or how the brain works. Not sure what determines that. I'm more of a reading and listening.

You mean yummy interactive drama. Hehe

Well, now you'll know as people make comments.

Those tips about reading books were good tips. I never really thought about doing that before. I read a lot of articles, magazines, newsletters etc., I'm interested in; and even though they're not books, I can still apply some of your tips to those. The book I'm currently reading, I don't think it's necessary as it's a book on Spirituality and things are pretty straightforward and looking up stuff might only be a distraction and maybe contradictions as it applies to the person reading it; but in the future, I definitely will start to pause and do some research and take mental pictures even though that already automatically takes place while reading. That Sahari is definitely beautiful. Very serene. Nice to watch when you just want to admire earth's beauty with no storylines attached.