Princess Arabia

Honestly, you know what I really think. I think everybody has something deep down in them that KNOWS the truth about what reality really is. Not the constructed, conformed or programmed ego, but something deep down; whether within the body or out or this BEING we talk about or whatever. They just need to hear it in a way they love to hear it. Afterall, it's all about LOVE, ain't it. You say Leo says it in a more profound way that is convincing, that's also a clue. Notice how we agree and disagree then agree and have mixed feelings about what people say about reality and will disagree and agree with the same things interchangeably? Keep an eye out for that. Observe how it all depends on WHO says what and how we resonate with things and how the WHO is important and how complicated and profound it sounds. Sounds too simplistic, doesn't resonate, sounds magnificent, complicated, like a big explosion of truth and filled with profundities and mysterious insights and sounds like something coming from a genius with cherries on top - those are usually greeted with more resonance than a simple reality just is.

I think you do have a point in some of the things you're saying. Not your experiences because they are obviously the case, but your interpretations of them. However, what I think you fail to realize is that a lot of people have been traumatized, are unstable even though they function well in society. People's attractor-factor may not be of a "healthy" nature and they gravitate more towards behaviors that aren't necessarily good for them. When you generalize and group what you see into "just how women are", it tends to veil your way of seeing women in general and now you think all or most women are like that or even that you have to mend your ways in order to attract the dysfunction. Obviously, being attracted to serial killers and rapists and people who aren't normally considered "good for anyone" is dysfunctional and you seem to be complaining about how you're not a part of that dysfunction. If I thought that most men were only attracted to bitches bad women of low calibre and air heads, I wouldn't complain about men for that, I'd just keep it moving until I found someone who likes me for who I am and that I feel comfortable being myself around and i wouldn't group all men into that category.

A narcissist can be bad for a woman, doesn't make him a serial killer. I was responding to the serial killer part and mentioned rapists and "bad" men in those categories not just men who are emotionally bad for women. Women love to "fix" men or believe he'll change for her, so that's nothing new or finds excitement and allure in bad boys; far cry from serial killers and rapists. Also it goes both ways where men are constantly going for the 'bitch" because she's more challenging only to get annoyed with them after a while. Believe it or not, nice girls also finish last sometimes and initially. It's the looks that men gravitate more towards bitchy or not, a menace or not, a pain in the ass or not. It's just easier for us to be chosen because men are more visual creatures and first thing seen is one's appearance. Guys usually have to be more than just a body. Guys get bored with nice, quiet women too, with high morals. Why do you think OF and porn sells.

That clip of Leo (not sure what video it's from) speaks of some of the stuff I speak about. Reality being nothing, appearances is the hollow-point or whatever he's saying in the video. I can understand what he says now because of exposure and comparison and my own insights. When Leo says there's no one or it's all nothing and just appearances, he'll say in an intellectual way with fancy wording, when I say there's no one or nothing happening, i get the gas chamber. Hehe. @YimpaForum secretary, do you know what video that clip is from. Would like to watch the whole thing, (again).

Running off to get stuffed. Lol

Maybe if he had given her a dollar. Lol. Then she would have been the desperate one.

I use this section to express my thoughts and feelings and they are usually sporadic and spontaneous. I write with intention and with a specific topic for each post, but the words just come out as I go. Now, I also use it to express how I feel about some particular post I've seen on the forum that i would not necessarily voice on the particular thread for consideration purposes even though I'm still cognizant of what I post here in regards to that, as I'm aware it's still being read; by whom I don't know and is irrelevant. I try not to start conflicts, and I try to keep a lot more of my opinions to myself and am not as boisterous and open as I used to be here and have toned down my rhetoric a bit on the forum because some would take it too personally or I would be misunderstood because of my style of communication. I'm very open and speak matter-of-factly and sometimes without censors and with lots of passion and sometimes without thought of the other person's feelings and just with the intention of getting my own thoughts across. That's selfish and unnecessary, and a bit arrogant so I've learnt to tone that down a bit as it really doesn't serve any purposes other than to piss people off. I'm a bit thick-skinned and can usually handle criticisms as long as they're respectably done, so I tend to see others in the same light or I tend to not be aware of when I'm going overboard in that respect because of my tolerance level. I don't see things as personal attacks as much as I see attacks as coming from something personal. About them. So I try to see my own attacks as such. It's not easy to self-retrospect and can feel painful, that's why it's rarely done, but for my own sanity, peace and compassionate side, I try to do it often, to avoid those feelings of regret. This forum has taught me a lot in these aspects and i've also learnt a lot about myself and human behavior. It can be utilized as a place for learning if one is interested about expanding themselves and their knowledge about human behaviors and ways of communicating. I tend to use everything as a learning tool even if it means being vulnerable and exposing my own human bullsit.

Wow, serial killers must be in the thousands and millions and roaming the streets. Dude, check your logics and see they don't even match up or make sense. Just because you met one like this, doesn't make it the norm. Just because you've seen women go for gangsters and rapists and "bad" men, doesn't mean most do. You are one out of 8 fucking billion. Try to see how we see the world how we are and that we have a tendency to think the world is only how we see it. It's natural. Be one up on the show to recognize how it's all your perceptions and not how things actually are on the whole. There's a situation for every scenario but we'll tend to only see the ones we believe in because that's just how the brain works and how the illusion becomes objective. Understand this and you'll start to open the mind go see other perspectives and not get so caught up in your dream state. Not denying your experiences, just saying you're seeing them as truth and cannot see it any other way.

Spiritual people will tend to feel more empty inside after a while than the hedonists because there's so much one can do spiritually and the options aren't as much as in the regular world. The ego is constantly searching for more and it WILL become bored with it's practices and WILL get to a point where it doesn't see itself advancing like it thinks it should. It will start to blame others or thinks it has to go seek out more advanced teachings or sources for it's growth. It will hop around seeking , and it depends on the reasons for it's search, it will get back to the initial point of 'not good enough". "They" aren't giving me what I want. I've outgrown this and it moves on and on, practice more and more, take more and more, until it just starts to feel empty and void because nothing is working to accomplish it's never-ending goal of feeling fulfilled. In the hedonistic world, there are plenty of things to do and new inventions are always in play to satisfy the ego. Always something bigger and better to strive for and consume. They can also get to a point of boredom, but their choices are more varied and more people indulging, so it doesn't become as empty for a while. Society makes sure of that. Always some new news, invention and marketing strategies to accommodate the ego. Lots of emptiness and loneliness in this community because it's limited and most are searching for something that's already there but can't be seen because of the search. Temporarily, yes, but NEVER reaching anywhere permanent. If its something they really and truly enjoy, not so much because that's self-fulfilling and speaks for itself; but if it becomes a chore or something to get, that's more transitory and will leave them feeling more empty than when they started and start to develop a grudge for the community until it does a 360° and it becomes a cycle. NOTHING EVER ENDS BECAUSE NOTHING EVER TRULY STARTED.

Ok, my chef teacher. I'll try that and hope I get an A next time.😏😉😼😛😜

Nice. True test.

Lol, the olive oil is. Hehe

Lol. Please stay awake for this. Hehe.

I don't look at what I want to become, I look at who I'm being right now.

The only thing I've found to bring about peace within is to not engage with thoughts. Nothing else. I still do engage; but whenever I catch myself and stop or change them, I find it works. I don't need to look outside of me for a peaceful time, it's all there already within. I'm doing an experiment on myself, not the world. I try to not bully myself and speak badly about myself. I try to see others in a compassionate way. I try not to only be positive, and I let the negative take it's course. I try to think twice about saying certain things to people and I try to see life from new perspectives whenever I start to feel down. I try to not blame myself or others and I try to see that things I worried about years ago, dissolved on their own naturally and to see life from that perspective. I say try because it's a work in progress but I don't see it as fixing myself. I see it as allowing. Paying attention. Not being sloppy with the way I view things and see life. Taking responsibility for the way I feel. Allowing for the good and the bad to flow through. I realized that those distinctions are made up. What's good and bad is relative to how I see it. I don't force myself to see the good and move away from the bad, I just see it all as thought. I don't try to stop thought, I practice how to not see them as true. What's true is being. Sounds wishy washy but it's what's there. Being. Peaceful being. No witnessing or knowing of anything, just being. Suffering comes, it's being, happiness comes, it's being, sadness comes, its being, everything just is.

Part of the problem right there. It's mechanical and seems desperate. That will only work for some and not every guy can pull this off. There are styles to each person and maybe you're better off playing the genuinely interested in her role. If the problem was with pick-up, no guy would have ever succeeded with it. Stop blaming the outside world for a start. Everyone has to talk to someone for the first time so that premise doesn't even make sense that people only want to talk to those they already know. Those they know, there was a first time. Maybe try and see women not just as sex objects and someone to fix your sex life. Abstinence and rejections beats prison. Your whole arguments scream it's all about me. Fulfilling my needs. What do you have to offer the world so the world can give back to you. Doesn't have to be academically or anything major great or flamboyant. Maybe show some genuine care for others, show you can offer a female a good time first, make them want to be with you. it's not about looks at this point because I've seen ugly men with women all the time, so I don't care what you look like. Maybe look at who you are becoming in the search and try to amend that and things might start to turn around. You sound entitled by that comment you made; and I only say that because of the rape comment because you are entitled to a great sex life, but not in the way you approach it.. We crave food. Do we go around approaching food stores demanding food. Don't we go out to get jobs and earn a living so we can satisfy our basic needs. Clothing, food and shelter are basic needs and I'm sure you've got that covered for now and didn't approach it as feeling entitled for them to be handed to you on a silver platter. Not saying you need to go out and pay for sex, but there's still some work involved other than just doing thousands of approaching. Treat it as a need that needs some inner work doing on your part.

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Why should I have to need someone to tell me who I am. Why should I have to inquire about my true nature. Why the fuck does it take a stranger to tell me where I came from. Why do I have to struggle and suffer in a world where I didn't ask to come. Why do I have to deal with the consequences of someone else's actions. Why do I have to do self-improvement to supposedly fix myself. Why do I need a purpose. Why do I have to figure life out. Why do I have to know myself. Why do I have to feel what I don't want to feel. Why do I have to learn anything. Why is ignorance a cost to pay. Why isn't everything free. Why is an old man with a beard sitting on a throne talking shit wiser than me. Why do so many hate people but social media is so fruitful. Why do I have to meditate to find peace. Why do I need to love myself. Why do I need someone else to teach me about reality. Why do I need to know anything. Why am I stuck in this body. Why do I have to be told I'm not the body. Why do I need anything. Why, why why. Maybe the answers to these why's lies in the fact that there is no I.

So many things in life keeps us on alert. No wonder why we need sleep, vacations, to unwind and relax. We have to watch the foods we eat, the things we say, the people we surround ourselves with, the type of media we consume, the way we dress, the thoughts we engage in, what we believe, how we stand, how we sit, how we speak, who we date, how we communicate. I mean we're constantly on the defense. Defending ourselves. Being careful of this and being careful of that. Worrying about the future. Dealing with traumas. People are convicted first then tried later. We try to protect everything. Our attempts to feel safe depends on others. We're just worn out and at the end of the day, we're tired. Just need to relax and watch a movie and soak our feet. Then we have to worry about what we use to soak our feet and to make sure the movie isn't an offensive one that pisses us off because we take things so personally. Men worry about being rejected and women about being used. Parents worry about their kids. We're concerned about making right choices and to not make mistakes. We're concerned about the weather and natural disasters. Have to worry about being scammed. I mean the list goes on and on. On alert, concerned with this and that, protecting this and that, saving ourselves from this and that. No wonder most people aren't happy. Most are depressed and anxious. Most suffer. Then we have sleep issues. Needing to sleep but can't. We take a pill for that or have to figure it out somehow. Then we're tired from not sleeping in addition to all the stress we encounter in the day. No wonder we move towards happiness more and try to avoid pain. Life is painful enough without even trying but happiness has to be saught after. Default mode is pain. Doesn't take long to show up, while happiness seems scarce. All of these things occurring and people still feel empty inside. Filled with nothing. Feeling numb to life. Tired. Stressed out. We invent comedy clubs. We don't need clubs on how to feel sad, that's free from life. We pay to have a laugh. We're so numb that we'd pay to be scared shitless as in the horror house. Beats feeling sad and miserable. Scare me please but don't cross the sadness zone. How to feel sad, depressed and anxious is a free show. Doesn't cost anything. No need to look far. It'll definitely show up soon. Happiness, however, seems to be over there somewhere, always. When it does show up, the visit is short. Then no one asked to come here but we have to deal with things. Do, do, do, do, do. Mend, mend, mend, mend, mend. Fix, fix, fix, fix, fix. Figure it all out. Find a purpose. I could also go the other way and list all the joys of life but that's for another post. The tone for this one is this because that's how I'm feeling at the moment. It's not a rant, just thoughts about the challenges of life and what it's like to be an individual at times.

Truth is a concept created by the mind, so is falsehood. Can't have truth without falsehood. Absolute Truth is redundant since everything is the Absolute. Relative truth doesn't exist on it's own and is relative to the illusory perceiver who thinks it's separate. It's the experience. The illusory experience. There's only being and presence so how can anything be relatively true but only to that which thinks it's separate. It's a dream if you may call it that. You keep using the word truth and absolute together. To me it's redundant. Everything is everything so what isn't absolute and where is the truth in absolute if it's everything. There's actually no distinction between anything but only to the illusory perceiver.

Like I said these terms are tricky and can have different meanings. If you ask me, there is no existence, only appearances. We call it existence but, by definition, existence means to stand out and nothing stands out. That's just semantics, though. I'm not sure why you're having such a hard time with the word appears or appearance. Whatever appears as in a cat or a dog or a cloud or a tree. There really are no experiences. Experience is an illusion. The one that thinks it experiences reality does not exist. That's what I mean. There's only a body and everything that appears is the Absolute appearing as such so where is the experience happening. It's an illusion. Nothing is ever the same. IT appears and appears and appears and appears and appears and appears and appears to seem as if it's always there moving about as the same thing but it's always different, fresh and new. There are no real actual experiences. It appears as a body having an experience. It appears as a dead body, no one really dies or is born. It only seems that way. Biological organism is also the Absolute appearing as such. There are no real biological organisms. It's all magic, my friend and the mind cannot grasp this.

How can I have a direct consciousness besides what appears. Not possible. Thoughts at also appearances. Potential is a concept that appears within consciousness which is, imo, a dream of the separate individual. Leo says it's not just something someone has and is fundamental to all of reality so idk. I'm just giving you my take. Appearances aren't illusory. When a cat appears, it appears. What's illusory is that the individual knows it's a cat and that the cat is separate from it and the stories surrounding that cat that it has a mother and has a brain or whatever story we give to the appearances. The rest i explained in my previous comment. Everything is the Absolute appearing so Truth is a concept and is not different from falsehood since it's all the Absolute appearing as such, only relatively speaking for the individual that labels everything and owns everything that arises within that energy.

Appearance is simply defined as WHATEVER APPEARS. The perception is the one that thinks it's separate seeing reality from a position. There are no positions to be had in timelessness and boundlessness, so perceptions really doesn't exist and is illusory. There are no ultimate context of existence because that context is also what you would call existence. These words are interchangeable and can be used as such, as in existence/reality etc. Depends on what one means when they use those terms. Experience is not appearances. The body seems to move and the one having the experience of the body is illusory because there's actually no one there. Show me someone. You can only point to a body part. So experience is the one that thinks it's a real separate entity that is experiencing life. It's not actually happening. Nothing actually moves as it's the Absolute appearing as movement. You've never been anywhere or done anything. It only appears that way. I cannot really explain what nothing is only I can say it's a mystery. Isness is being. Isness just is. These are my definitions and not Absolute. They are what isness is doing along with everything else even your questions. That's why there can never be an Absolute Truth because everything is the Absolute "Absoluting". There's nothing but that. There's no separation so how can there be an Absolute Truth. Everything that appears is what is. Relative truth is only a concept. It is and it isn't. Don't think I can explain it any further and that's just my take. Not saying it's right or wrong.

Of course, that's all we have to go by. Going beyond appearances would also be another appearance. Show me something that doesn't appear. There is no Absolute Truth, imo, because all there is is simply all there is and it's everything. It also appears as the idea of Absolute Truth. There's only the Absolute. EVERYTHING.