Princess Arabia

I felt the dog story was fake. Was going to say it, but didn't want to offend if I was wrong. I forgot exactly what made me feel that, but somethings just didn't add up. Infact, I believe someone, maybe Ulax, suggested that too but no one cared much to address that. Don't knock him for doing it though as it was an experiment which he admits now to conducting. Try not to feel taken advantaged of or that you were fooled, because experiments are just that, experiments, and some need to do that to work or supposedly for the experimenter. As far as the other points and comments in the post, it's a matter of personal opinion which you're entitled to even though you did raise some good points. There will always be people agreeing and disagreeing with everything, so that's nothing new. My feeling is that when we start to expect things from life, disappointment follows. Life is neutral and we make of it what we make of it. There isn't any place for everyone, and we just have to move on with what doesn't resonate. I wish you all the best and hope you find a community that you more resonate with.

Let me get off the reality talk for a minute and talk about sex/relationships/dating. I just saw a comment on the forum saying how women aren't that interested in sex like men are and they gave what they thought was the reason. I don't know why that's the case, but most will agree with that assessment. Both men and women, and I can only give my pov on the matter. I think it's because most men don't take the time and energy to understand a woman's body, particularly the ones they're with at the time or just overall. I see time and time again how most (and these are generalizations and not all) men seem to think women want what they want. Think we see them the way they see us and are attracted the same way they are. They find it hard to see beyond that. So, sexually, they tend to treat us how they like to be treated or do things to us how they like it done to them. Women are different and very complex sexual beings so not all size fits all. Most men just need to be visually stimulated while women need more than just visuals. If most men knew what they were doing sexually, a lot more women would be into sex more. Why do you think the vibrator was invented and got so popular. I doubt a lot of women, except for mostly porn videos and a few in regular life are out sticking dildos up their pussies and getting really excited from that alone especially while having husbands and bfs around. You'll find them using vibrators, though, whether they have a mate or not because it's very rare a penis can do what that does. Some men will even provide a vibrator for the woman during their sex act and there are toys that allow for men to wear them during sex for extra stimulation for the woman. The clit is very sensitive and it's what gets the woman aroused most of the time. Just poking us, especially if we're not turned on, just doesn't do it while for the man, it's all he needs or what gets him excited, especially the younger ones who haven't gotten enough poking out their system. Another thing, a lot of older men can do without intercourse or don't crave it as much. They crave intimacy, the touch and feel of a woman and maybe oral more or cunnilingus but intercourse isn't necessarily at the top of the list. Older women will probably crave intercourse more the older they get because their clits got overly stimulated and they need to go deeper to feel. Not sure about this as much as I'm aware of the former. I've been in the escort business long enough to feel comfortable in my assessment that older men don't crave intercourse as much as what I've mentioned. A guy can pay lots of money to an escort without having intercourse and still be satisfied. Infact, most high-payers aren't necessarily looking for that. I won't get too deep into that, but I can say that most men of means and status don't care to poke, poke, poke. They enjoy other things with women because poke, poke, poking got boring and they've developed fetishes and or other ways of sexual gratification. Most young men will want that who are not over that yet. This is why cougars exist and older women like sex more because their partners probably aren't satisfying them in that way anymore. Anyway, I think if most men could rock a woman's world as much as how sex is good for them (or they wouldn't be chasing it as much), you'll find more women into it. Women are probably more sexual than men in certain ways and can be beasts, but you won't find as much willing to go out and just fuck anyone because they like to feel first and that takes a bit more than just visuals. A lot of drunk sex happens with women from clubs or parties because, it's the alcohol they feel. Their inhibitions go away and they loosen up. They don't need the guy to do the work in that way, the alcohol does it all. They're not thinking as much if the guy will be good in bed or satisfy them or think she's a slut. They are more open now and are more receptive to whatever even though the guy was still selected and chosen. Depending on how drunk she is, she'll still have reservations on who she goes with and will not go with any and any guy; but her reasons will mostly just be physical and not emotional as when she was totally sober....maybe. With every generation things change so who knows with this generation. I see people saying they've reached middle age in their late thirties and say they're going through a mid-life crises when before that wouldn't be until age 50+. So who knows.

So many different perspectives. So many different ideas and concepts. Which one is right. Maybe all or maybe none. This can be simple or this can be complicated. The mind doesn't like simplicity, it loves to complicate things. Something as Reality and existence to it is massive and needs to sound complicated or it doesn't resonate. It's likes profundities, it needs to think about Reality complexly. It loves to see nuances and will disregard anything that sounds too "abc-ish" or "123-ish". It needs to sound like "qycv13#@$". Notice how reality favors the intelligent sounding, the articulates, the ones who can speak and sound smart in their wordings and queries. The intellectuals. The college students and the brains of the group. The ones who've accomplished things academically. Reality gave those the advantage to get to know it and to be able to explain it wonderfully; so wonderful their explanations could achieve a noble prize. The ordinary man on the street, the homeless, the school drop-out or the one that can barely form a sentence doesn't stand a chance. They can still eat, talk, walk, see, and do normal activities no problem as long as they're fairly healthy, but when it comes to knowing about reality, defining it, explaining it etc, they don't stand a chance. Some people will know how to spell oxycontin and fail at differentiating the words "there" from "their". Will know what dopamine is and cannot recognize an aloe plant and it's benefits. Will break down the word Percocet into syllables but cannot tell when to use the words "every time" and "everytime" in a sentence. The intellectuals can, book-smart people can, most well-read people can, most University students can, people with English degrees can and professors. Most. They can explain away just about most things they're familiar with and have studied in impressive ways. Ways that show their intelligence and studious sides. Why can't they do so with explanations of the Universe/Reality/Existence if they've studied it extensively. Studied something that is fluid and without structure or boundaries. Something that the mind cannot grasp because the mind operates in a linear fashion and reality is timeless. Notice how most people that seem to know a lot about reality and the universe and all those things, notice how well they speak, how well they can articulate a sentence, how smart they seem overall and how well versed they appear. Reality doesn't favor the dumb or stupid or the average person who just knows about mundane things and how to survive and who just goes about life in the ordinary way. It loves people who can articulate it's nature. It gave those the upper hand. It doesn't want to be represented by dumbasses and people who can't speak or write properly. Notice that. A reality that is supposedly neutral and doesn't take sides sure is prejudiced towards the smart and intelligent and the articulate and seeming intellectuals and gave them the information about itself to spread the word. Sorry simpletons, you're too stupid to represent. I need smart people to get to know and understand me. Go chase sex and money and fame while I pick my chosen ones. Meanwhile babies and animals are probably the best teachers; but no, they're stupid and underdeveloped. We need smart people to show us the way and people sitting on a throne with a smelly beard. Hehe, just a little humor there. Is it there or their.

So many different ideas about what Reality is. I don't really think two people in the entirety of existence even have the exact same definition. I mean exact. It's like a fingerprint. No two are alike. I think that's something to explore. There are similarities and some agree on some things but no two are EXACTLY in agreement. This forum alone shows you that. Interesting.

Nice. I would describe it as the sound of FREEDOM. Just anything goes. I enjoyed it.

Yeah I get that but when you ask a question like that, I think it's just appropriate to answer in that way in the Spirituality section as I know you'll understand what I'm saying. I don't go around life being an absolutist and where else can we talk like that but on here. The practical answer I would give to your question is that we're all different and were raised differently with different upbringings and with different survival strategies. I mean, that's like a kindergarten question if it's going to be answered practically, respectfully speaking. It's obvious that we're all different so we're going to have differences of opinions. I just can't get back to the surface level of thinking anymore much when it comes to spirituality because once seen it's hard to unsee even if I'm mistaken with what I'm saying. I'm not an absolutist in the dating/relationship section or health section, it's mostly just here and in my journal.

Fair enough, but at the end of the day all one has to do is go about their daily lives to see what's really happening. Club atmosphere is different also and people usually look at looks and carry a more superficial aura. Those same people looking at looks in the club might not be in the outside world or who's looking to settle down. So it's just a matter of environment and stages of life.

It's not a problem. Both are opinions and not truths. It's my opinion that just because you spend time on a forum doesn't mean you think you're not good enough. That's all. Seems far-fetched. Doesn't matter.

Geesh, finally someone that recognizes this too. Although I wouldn't go as far as saying in the mind of God and it's not really a trap, but figuratively speaking because there really are no actual traps because it's the Infinite appearing as such. For the human it is.

Such crap and limited belief.

That's it. It's the shy part that gets them. A shy good-looking guy is probably in the same boat as a shy average-looking guy, maybe only a little bit above because of his looks, but the shy part is the killer for the average looking one. If he has game, there's no stopping him. With looks comes confidence and it's not the looks that gets the women mostly, it's the confidence that comes with it. All one has to do is look around to see hot girls with average-looking men. Those men aren't usually shy men. You probably have the whole package or most of it, but looks alone won't cut it for most good-looking men. From what i've seen on here with you, you seem fairly intelligent and seem smart in the way you look at things and communicate very well, amongst other things. So I would assume you get them with more than just your looks. Women can just look good and that'll be enough most of the time but not for men. Initially, maybe for starters, but the end game usually depends on his personality. At the end of the day, it's just a matter of perspectives so I'm not saying you're wrong or I'm right, just speaking from my own experience and what I've seen. We didn't even mention being rich, will can override all the characteristics and traits we've mentioned. Just being rich he can be shy, ugly or a crude and stick get plenty of women; but that's another story.

Well, you've made my point here.

So true. Biggest turn-off for a woman anywhere. She just has to even think he's like that without even seeing him in action for it to be a turn off and she can usually tell by the way he approaches.

Not necessarily. Guys usually like this in women but women usually aren't looking for that. Of course, don't look miserable and sad but a sad looking dude can still get dates if he's not bad looking and changes his mood if they ever start talking. A woman doesn't really look for the guy having the most fun or even fun at all. Women like to be "the one" and she might think she might be "the one" to change his mood. Not talking about being sad, grumpy, miserable depressed etc, but just normal and not necessarily look like he's having a lot of fun - just neutral looking. Guys love women who are having fun because he thinks that part of the work is done and he doesn't want to go over to a grumpy looking woman. She's not approachable.

Let a good-looking guy be an ass and see how ugly he starts looking. Let a hot female be a bitch and she looks even hotter. What I mean is if he's good looking he'll probably get a stare or two but it's not what gets him laid or keeps her interested. A hot female will pretty much act any way and the guy will still be attracted as long as she's not over the top. Maybe after he gets her, he'll wake up a bit and lose interest, but it won't really cause him to not want to sleep with her. Her looks will be enough initially. For a guy, he usually needs a personality to go with his looks to make her want to sleep with him and that personality will be what she likes in a man overall.

If you didn't know yourself you wouldn't exist. Knowing you exist is what's hiding the fact that you don't. The person/individual/sense of self, that is. Each individual is the knowing energy. Nothing appearing as knowing. Knowing is nothing and it makes no sense to the individual so it builds a story about nothing. It's endless because it's nothing. How can nothing end.

Hope never comes.

There's cause and effect appearing but it's the Absolute appearing as cause and effect. All the differences of opinions is the Absolute appearing as people having differences of opinions. It appears as linear, it appears as separation and it appears as everything that's appearing. It appears as denial of cause and effect, it appears as....you name it. Everything is empty and has no separate reality on it's own. You think they're people having differences of opinions because you think you're a separate being with opinions of your own so you see everything that appears in relation to you. Youre the supposedly center of the universe and you see others because you think you're an other. They are all just bodies and it's just voices and talking. It's free to appear as anything and appears as differences of opinion. Doesn't matter what I say, 'cause it's just the Absolute saying it and the Absolute reading it. Not really though, because there's just typing and reading with nothing behind it. It's freedom happening. Thoughts, feelings, disagreements, whatever, it's all Absolute happening. It also appears as a sense of separation. Which is where we come in and it's everything you think you know humans to be because it's also appearing as knowing. Knowing is an illusion that arises with the energy of me. That's our apparent demise because we're on a quest to know. We know we are but because we're not we keep seeking to know, but it never happens because there's no one to know anything since it's the Absolute appearing as such. It's fucked up. We're fucked. Not really. Freedom appearing as fucked.

Of course. That's why we make up stories to make sense of the Absolute freedom that everything is.

Not intentionally. They believe it to be true, with the exception for when they're actually making shit up. Either way it's all stories about what's appearing. A bird shits on a car. Thats freedom/Absolute/This or whatever appearing to shit on a car. That happened. Why it shitted on that car is what the person is making up.

No, not when there's no reason or cause and effect behind "what is". What is is freedom appearing as what is. Freedom doesn't need a reason or else it wouldn't be free. I'm trying not to sound too non-dual and woo woo, but any other explanation would just be another speculated story and even though this is a story it's more true to what's the case. To the individual nothing is a fantasy, except what it creates to be a fantasy. So it cannot see through anything that's "unreal", because, to it, everything is real, even it's own stories.

You might have also seen the end of the relations where he was probably being rude or being disrespectful.

Women don't care much about looks; that's just a bonus and maybe a plus at online dating because there's nothing else much to go off.

This question is the basis of everything. It's more profound than you can imagine; even though not really. My answer is this and, of course, there will be differences of opinions. It's all stories. What's appearing is not a story. What's being said about what's appearing is. How can we all have the same stories about what's appearing when the individual lives in it's own dream world. The person thinks it's real and everything that appears around that individual is real and it builds a story around what appears. Each story will be different because each individual sees itself differently. Out of that energy comes separation and it's own beliefs and ideas about the world it believes it lives in. This is also a story.

I wish you well, my friend. Didn't realize you were taking so many medications and suffered anxiety attacks. Good to see the meds are working and extremely glad to see you've managed to quit smoking . I know how much of a challenge that was for you. I think you'll be fine overall as I think you're a strong person inside and out. I wish you the best. Hang in there and stay strong. You got this.