Princess Arabia

The Piraha are naturally enlightened.

The ego thinks it owns the ego. Nice read.

That's what I said.

It's all one of the same. Can't separate the two. Spirituality is at the core of life, PERIOD. Try as you may to separate them, and you only become a fool trying to chase your own tail and end up spiraling up your ass and down the rabbit's hole. No, but I know what the feeling is like for whatever caused that snake bulge. Feelings are Universal and are not gender based. The bulge is only a symptom of the cause. Stop using that excuse to dismiss a female's perspective. Female doctors also treat male patients' sexual issues.

The beginning of the masturbation, in your case, started with your disdain for porn, so yes, they are related. Can't solve a problem without going to the root. Masturbation will soon become the enemy because it was borne out of porn.

So is Youtube, instagram, social media on a whole. Even this forum can be addictive. I could also name other things, but you get the drift. These I mentioned aren't porn, just other avenues to allow for the addictive mind to express itself. THE MIND IS WHAT'S ADDICTIVE. THOUGHTS ARE WHAT'S ADDICTIVE. These abstract objects have no life until you give them life, until the mind succumbs to it's own neurosis. Please try and get this. I'm not trying to be cute. I'm trying to open up your mind to see things on a deeper level and not just on the surface. I'm also a victim of the mind and that's why I can recognize it. I'm speaking from experience, just different content, same structure. It's all the fucking same. All boils down to one thing - ESCAPISM!!! If it's not porn, it'll be something else because there's only one denominator here - you.

I suggest you use this thread to help in the grieving process. Make it your little diary where you post things that you can reminisce about and express your thoughts and feelings about your devastating loss. When my mom died, that's what I did and it helped me to go through that difficult time. I ended the diary when she got buried. I was still grieving, still am, but it's at another level where it's out of love and not pain. I'm lying!! I just shed a tear writing this. It's OK, it's still out of love. It will never go away, but it's a healthy grief and not destructive. Death of a pet, which I also experienced about 6yrs ago, my beloved cat, pumpkin, was also hard and I swore I would never get another cat. Then Titi, my current cat, appeared out of nowhere 2yrs later. I say nowhere because I never planned it. One never knows. I feel your pain. Let it take it's course, however long it takes.

What would make someone watch those things in the first place. They are not on TV, on billboards, or being advertised as trailers. Even on porn sites, one has to click on those types of videos and titles to view the content. Plus, the only way it could have a negative effect is if one stayed there and actually watched it. You are blaming the porn but not acknowledging the type of mindset that would even click on that content to begin with. Plenty of stuff exists in the world that you don't know about mainly because you're not focused on those types of things, amongst other reasons, and the Universe's natural algorithm lays dormant and out of reach for you until you express interest or are at a vibrational match to it.

You're asking some real questions. Questions that really gets to the core. This is why they are so hard to answer. These questions force one to go within to the real issues and because we're so used to looking outside and blaming "dead objects" for our "alive" problems (images and memories VS our feelings in the moment) we cannot answer because the answers are the real issues we face which has not been looked at and dealt with because it's easier to put the blame on what we've been focusing on, which is the outside world.

Nice. This is how we mature Spiritually. Good example. ❤️

@Adrian colbyBeautiful. You expressed that very well, imo, and you sound pretty grounded. It's so nice to see someone speak with such eloquence on such delicate matters and seem unbothered by the changing world. Reading that was very inspiring and could set an example for others going through the same thing or similar.

Such a beauty. So sorry for your loss.

Great points also.

You're just making shit up and telling me my life story. I never said I've retired from anything and that I never said whatever. "Better ways of making money" is your description. "And that's fine?", thanks for the permission. Vast work experience? Transactional relationship?. You know what, you sound just like another forum user called Bambi that doesn't come on here anymore. Maybe, maybe not. But he thought he knew me and my life better than I did and told me off about it. You're doing the same thinking you know what my job entails, how I see it and what i've experienced doing it. I've read more things on this forum from how guys are with women what they want from women and how they see women including yourself for me to even be concerned with your limited views on what you think are the only options women have in this field. Your idea of vast work experience and my actual vast work experiences are so wide apart that your limited little puny mind couldn't even imagine what's vastly possible to experience in this field. Guess what, sex isn't one of them. Established men aren't looking for sex they're looking for companionship. Your sex starved mind can only see this line of work through a certain lens.

When you see how humans use their minds in such a limited way, you get to understand how we fall into certain traps (seemingly anyway) and be fools for life. A person can say they're a Doctor and get massive respect while raping, molesting and abusing their patients in some way or fashion. Just by saying you're a Doctor. Say you're a prostitute gets you in the gas chamber. A prostitute by definition gets paid for sex. OK. No questions on where she works, how she conducts herself, who are her clients, etc. All the molesting, rapist abuser has to say is, he's a Doctor and also be a legitimate one and he's admired and all the loving, hard working, mother of 3 looking to eat has to say is she's a prostitute and she's condemned and stoned. Something is wrong with that picture. Just saying.

That's why I said above that I understood it. It's a culture thing. I recognized that. No conscious human being thinking for themselves would want to choose for another person who they sleep with. Mistakes are meant to be made and lessons meant to be learnt. Thats what the relative world is about. You have showed in your statements here another reason why we suffer as humans. We want to hold on to what cannot be held on to - CHANGE. It's all that's constant except for all that is. Not saying you're wrong because you're right; we only want change when we're doing bad, just making a point.

You're the one that called me a prostitute, I never once said I was that, I say I'm a working girl or maybe an escort. Cant be that much of a prostitute without having much sex, now can you. That's why I stay away from that word as a description. I escort for a living and I work. Take that how you wish. I don't look at sex any how, you're projecting that belief unto me. We've never sat down and discussed how i view sex so that's your idea. If a male and a female both decide to do transactional sex, you seem you'd point the finger at her and her alone for doing it transactionally. I look at a job as a job. I can't see how you can have sex with someone you don't care for. Such intimate details shared and such intimate parts being used. How can you. Transactionally, maybe. You do me and i do you. Please, don't be a hypocrite.

How about trying to do your best to raise her in a way where she can be responsible enough to make her own decisions on the matter and maybe act in ways where she can use you as a role model for how she chooses her former mates.

Sorry but I don't consider my engaging with someone in a respectable manner, having a great time enjoying life in the moment through some form of creative aspect in life as in going to dinner, dancing, going out for walks or vacationing while getting paid something that belongs in the sewer. I think tricking an unsuspecting girl to get in her pants just to shoot a load is.

Also the opposite. People with the opposite traits of what you mentioned above are also liked. Not unfriendly, but even socially awkward and introverted. Some even search those people out. Saying stuff like that may make introverted people and who are socially awkward feel they have to change to be accepted. Maybe it's us that needs to change and adapt to these people and accept them for who they are. Your main message is great, though and I also suggest that.

Lol. One reason why humans appear to suffer. They think they're controlling anything. When life shows us otherwise.....WE WAKE UP...hehe good luck with that. I understand, though, it's a culture thing and a social conditioning. I remember your statements from a past thread about feminist women and how you're in control and blah blah blah. You'll definitely be a turn on to a very submissive woman who likes to be tied up, whipped and be dominated by a dominant male and who she can be a servant to and maybe have role play sex of you choking her to the verge of asphyxiation as she climaxes and screams for more. That's your ideal mate. Sorry, I went a bit overboard there, I was lost in fantasy...

How am I USING men for their money when they're the ones that come to me, approach me, knows exactly what they're getting into nobody gets hurt, nobody gets lied to and it's between consenting willing adults. By your statement everybody in life is using everybody else for everything. We can argue that. Why are you on this forum. You are using this forum to get some need of yours met. Why does your employer hire you. He's using you to do a job he needs done. I could go on for decades. Do you say an employer is using their employees and that the employees are using their employers for money. No, why in this case. Plenty of rotten unsuspecting wives are out there right now using their husbands for money but are fucking respected on the outskirts by people because they are wives and not hookers who are doing a job. Hookers aren't using their clients, it's a fucking job, unless you look at having and doing a job as using people. Lying to get sex is not a job. Using a woman for sex is OK but only if she's willing and is OK with being used this way. That's the difference.

This is why I get upset with men who talk down working girls. They will literally do worse things than what a female does as an honest job just to get laid. It's hypocritical. They'll create society's on the matter and plot and scheme their way into a woman's pants just to get laid, but will look down on a female doing the exact same thing but doing it so she can eat and support her kids and herself. Not all men, but some. I understand why it's the case, but I still don't like that it happens. Tough shit. Best I can do is let it work in my favor.

Women have to be taught these things. Sad that there's a need to have to trick. I don't think a guy who honestly cares for a woman, has her best interest in mind, wants her for more than just sex feels the need to have to trick her into bed. Why do men think women should adjust themselves to meet their horny standards is beyond me. We don't need to understand why you're so hungry for sex. You need to understand that's your position and to find ways and means without having to trick your way into it to get those needs met.