Princess Arabia

It's not about a need. Do you need to eat croissants, but you do anyway. Jesus, give the industry a break, lots of people engage in paid activities they do not need to do. It's just something to do for some just like going to the movies or watching a movie or going to the beach. All these moral questions and talks about morality and need is just simply a projection and how one feels about the industry not what the industry is actually like.

Mostly about not being too available and accommodating, having your own life and hobbies, don't chase, showing gratitude to the ones treating well, respecting yourself to have boundaries, it all depends on the kind of audience. There's pickmeisha audience females who cater to men and say pick me, pick me, and you have women who know their value and level up to attract the men they want, either way it's all a game and one just has to know how to play it.

Do you realize not everyone has the same agenda. A man could have had ten real-life girlfriends and would love the feeling that comes with that but without the heartache and troubles of having a real girlfriend, so he hires one for a day. That's valuable to a man like that. It's only hopeless and pathetic to you because of how you see it and it's not for you.

I never said it was a good thing. I said valuable. A drug addict can get massive value from doing drugs, doesn't mean it was a good thing. You keep equating valuable with good or bad. Look into that because it doesn't mean that.

You have a 21yr old virgin in this thread telling a over 10yr veteran escort about escort work. How delusional is that. Hehe @Schizophonia

Yes, interesting observation and also quite relevant in realizing/understanding how energy works. It needs to create the illusion of other for it's expression. Like you said, hugging yourself isn't the same as hugging someone else. It's not a bug, it's a feature.

Women don't need advice on how to get laid. Mostly it's about attracting the type of man you want (usually high-value), how to keep a man interested, how to get a man to provide, etc,etc things like that, everything under the sun for women pertaining men except for how to get laid.

You flipped the script and spoke in the negative. Being productive after seeing an escort isn't equivalent to not being productive if one doesn't see one. Total negation of the point I made. Do you know how many times i've been thanked just by giving a release. These aren't street men, these are usually professionals or just regular blue collar. You just don't know the value this work can provide other than just ejaculating and cumming. I even saw on here where you've said you're angry you don't have a gf. There are men paying dollars to have a GFE (girlfriend experience). You're in your very early 20's still a virgin in this type of game; maybe listen and learn.

After this comment, not sure if I can ever have a serious conversation with you again unless your version of pick-up is by literally picking up. That's all these guys on here talk about pretty much.

You've just put conditions on true love. That's transactional, once you don't need anything. Why? Why not if you still need something. Because you have put stipulations on it. Be this way or else it can't be that way. Why can't a person truly love a needy person. How is truly loving a partner without need. You're fooling yourself here. One cannot truly love a person without need or wants. There has to be some form of subject/object relationship and just the fact of seeing someone there to love is already a need and a want. What you're saying sounds all good and fantastical but dissect it down to the very core it's still a transaction. Transaction being made using a different currency.

You've not understood totally what 'transactional' is. Go contemplate on it. It's all transactional for the person. Adult work is just using money, what you're talking about is a personality type transaction and how that transaction makes you feel and how it's working out for you because she's kind hearted and you called it valuable. You're using words without realizing those words are transactional related as in 'valuable'. It's valuable to you because you're looking for something in return. It's very subtle. Biggest form of self-deception. One trades sexual favors which is valuable and uses money in the exchange which in turn provided a feeling for the one paying that's the transactional part, both got a feeling from it; just swap the fact that you will still love her because she showed kind heartedness a VALUABLE trait, valuable because it's transactional. We are paying for feelings in life whether it's with our money or with our loyalty. It's still a transaction.

@Daniel BalanI mis-used the word shallow; I meant limited.

There you go, you started at the bottom. Many will do a 360 and use escorts after they're done with the dating scene but still crave that feminine touch or whatever it is they crave.

That is transactional. You've just in your sweet little mind buttered it up, made a distinction to suit your pretty little egoic structural make-up. You just gave me reasons why - that's transactional. It's just not using money.

Nice, however your view on the industry is very shallow and is not really what or who typically look to these services. Incels, aren't looking for sex as much as they're looking to FEEL a certain way that an escort cannot provide. What good is it if I feel insecure about myself and then go pay an escort to act as if she loves me. That's a double whammy. Incels are very much aware there are escorts and prostitutes around; most aren't interested, they seek to feel loved and wanted by the opposite sex. A married man has already sowed those oats and has proven to himself that he can get a woman to love him, incels are at that stage. Most men when they're young and at a certain age will swear off prostitutes and escorts but get them older and settled and see if that doesn't change for some. It will, it's just a matter of stages. Not saying all now, but quite a few. Statistics proves this. Look at how lucrative and widespread this business is and in every country and race and gender. As for the rape comment, rapists aren't looking for sex, it's about power. Lots of married men are serial rapists.

I respect your views on the matter but just so you realize, and to maybe open your mind a bit, IT'S ALL TRANSACTIONAL. No one loves or wants to be intimate with someone that doesn't provide some need to them on a personal level. Would you go love and be intimate with a rotten teeth, smelly, convicted thief, who just cursed your mom out and raped your little sister. The reason that person became a 'loved one" to begin with was precisely because of transactions. Suited and fitted to the consumer. Please think about that and really understand what's being said here and it's not an excuse to justify adult work - just something to ponder on. Life is a transaction. You are here because YOU are getting some value here, that's a transaction. You want sex with a specific type of person - that's an unspoken transaction with that person. Adult industry just makes the transaction seem more direct.

You sure that's the reason and not that the illusion is a bit lagging. Body actually woke up when the alarm went off but the person only perceived it later. Meaning, the body heard the alarm clock, it woke up but the observer (you, which isn't really there, perceives all these happenings in a time lag after it all happened and thinks the body woke up before the alarm when it woke up exactly when it went off but you are the one 'late'. Interesting to think about. Just another clue in this mysterious existence.

lol, I'd rather write about my cat - professionally anyway. I find that stuff so mundane now, it's like whatever.

Nothing can be done, without it being an illusion, about something that's not actually happening. Simply put. All you're describing there is not actually happening. It only appears to be happening to an observer. I'm not saying the body doesn't seem to speak or move or things aren't happening; what I'm saying is, it's not to or by anyone. So, the need for something to be done is subjective and subject/object related. There's none. It's all happening and appearing to itself by itself as energy in flow. The work being done on oneself is also the energy being the old self and transforming into the new. It's just seem to be different and appears different. It is also the tools used in the transformation; it is the practices and the processes. It's you and it's me. It's everything. It's done.

I'm kind of dwindling down now a bit and not so much like I used to but as far as how I would find work it would be in the casino night life or word of mouth or other girls or just meeting guys in general. It varies. No one way. Of course it fluctuates. I don't charge by the hour. I charge by the client.

I also for 5yrs straight, once a year, serviced the Police convention when they came into town. Yes, these were police officers and sergeants. They had a convention every year and for 5yrs they asked me to come back and entertained them. Won't get into the details but it was a party-type situation with booze and liquor in the main room and they all had their own private separate rooms. The main room even had female police officers and judges. They had strippers in the main room for entertainment for like an hour and then I would mingle with them all and stayed till dawn and did whatever. Made like $4,000 one three night trip. Never had intercourse. Teacher's conventions too, fire fighter's conventions, insurance agents conventions, boat shows, wine and beer tasting shows, all types of conventions plus just regular type dates with regular men and even couples doing anything under the sun; different strokes for different folks. So, saying you're an escort or working girl doesn't necessarily equate to a man cumming in some pussy. I had more sex non-working than I did working. Matter of fact, that's why I hooked up on the side because I wasn't having sex and it felt impersonal. The regular guys, only two or three of them for the duration, compensated for intimacy. They all knew what I did, I even lived with one for a few years and no, they weren't pimps. None of that here. I'm just showing how just mentioning escort is just not enough to firm an opinion about this work. It depends on the type of escort and the kind of work involved.

I remember I had a journal here just for a short while when I would talk about my work as an escort and even showed pictures of myself on the job. The reason I did it was to show the vast areas this work can entail and what a woman can get paid for. Once I was in a bar while getting paid to just sit there and flirt with men. I didn't even have to get up from my seat, just smile twiddle my hair and look sexy. Another time I made Thanksgiving dinner for my client while on a 3day resort. Both were married. That's why I didn't show their faces and also I didn't have sex with either and neither came or had an orgasm. Sexual stuff yes but no intercourse and the main thing on the date was having my company and providing a service that didn't require cumming in a pussy. I have many stories like that even though regular stuff too. It's very diverse what this field entails and it varies and ranges from very low-end to very high-end. The lower the end is the more work and less $$ and usually more on the single scale and the higher end is less work and more $$ and more on the married and relationship scale but not necessarily the case in either category. The flirt guy saved himself for his wife and the other guy well, cumming isn't a priority for him he aims to please. Get your facts straight. Many nomal things happen too like just normal sex stuff but i'm saying it's not all an escort does or what is even required to be one and even if you want to use the word prostitution. A prostitute can be a prostitute without even having sexual intercourse.

Just you saying this is whack. How do you know this. My job requires me to be sociable. How can you be more sociable than someone whose living requires them to be sociable. You're speculating a lot.

Anyone can make irrational decisions when they have a little money including going to get married to a female they barely know.

OK, for the record, i'm an escort and been for quite some time (over10 yrs) Just so you know. Single clients in this field is rare but I won't argue with you here on this issue. Single guys sees escorts, not saying they don't, but it's not the majority. In fact, the majority are married surpass even guys in relationships and even long-term relationships. Even a guy I would guess is single, turned out to be married. I once dated a guy who seemed kind of gay, turned out he was married to a woman. Most older single men are widowers and if they're pass a certain age and don't want marriage anymore.