Princess Arabia

Lol...I live in USA. Been for awhile. Not sure how much from US, but now you're up to plane fare and hotel fees. Sure you can handle this. We should stop this conversation before it turns real Spiritually spooky. Lmao

What do you mean? They wanted to pay for their own coffee?

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Are you flirting with me. You need cab fare for that...😜

When I'm reading a post that's well written and oozing with tasty vomit, I don't mind if it's a bit lengthy. I myself can write some lengthy remarks but sometimes that's what's needed to get a point across. People tend to have short attention spans for note-worthy readings and tend to give their attention to twerking booties and 3hr bloody movies that raises their blood pressure. A bit of humor there, but you get what I'm saying.

I'm Jamaican. Don't know about Nigerians. All of us girls are different, though. Nationality may play a minute role but it's mostly independently minded, as far as I'm concerned anyway. I think with women, it's mostly about how they were raised, past relationships, age, maturity and how they feel towards men. All those play more of a factor in dating than where you're from on an independent level, even though you can generalize certain traits using nationalities.

He's the one that got you here in the first place. Do not listen to all of Leo's dating advice. Some. The self -improvement parts are a gold mine and other things unrelated to the women themselves. You have to understand every guy is unique and if you go against your heart you will fail at this. He says, to let the women invest in you first which can be taken to mean different things. You're saying you're the prize when you have issues and insecurities about feeling loved for who you are because it wouldn't matter what she asked, for you felt triggered not by her asking but the fact you can't afford it. You are just trying to convince yourself of that prize notion because if you truly felt that way, you wouldn't feel the need to reinforce it by saying it.

That's a mature way of dealing with it and you will learn about yourself and your fears in the process. Your feelings of self-worth is the issue not her asking to pay for an Uber. I always now, since I've become more aware, look inside myself to see why was I triggered. Life is about learning and that incident is showing you your feelings about your self-worth not about her thinking she's got tits and ass. We are abundance, life is abundant, even abundance of scarcity and lack. You are God trying to become God. God is showing you that you are not in lack of anything by you becoming triggered by that. You are like that kitten whose afraid of love until it warms up to you. You are afraid of God's love and God is trying to show you, by your triggers how to go deep within and work on your feelings of lack. Don't want to turn this into a Spiritual teaching but it's all connected. Life is not about the dating, the sex, the beautiful girl etc, it's about knowing thyself and loving thyself. Those superficial things are just ways and means and carry with them experiences to show you the way. The contents doesn't matter. What counts is the knowing who you are. Every experience carries with it the potential for realizing God. Not just a psychedelic trip or meditation. It all does. That's the beauty of mundane life.

At least you didn't try to fight me this time. Fear of being broke can make you strive for financial success, and you may get it yes, but it will come at a cost. Love for feeling abundant carries a different energy and that's more sustainable. Love trumps fear. Focus on what you love over what you fear because love is all there is. Fear is an illusion that exists in the mind and will destroy you if you let it.

Do as you choose. Yes you're the prize and so is the mouse to a cat. I don't mean that disrespectfully, just trying to show you that anything can be a prize. Depends on whose competing.

I keep saying, you're saying this not her. The friggin woman can't help that she has tits. What excuse would you come up with if women didn't have tits. Don't you see its your mind projecting this. What about gay men..dont you think they pay for their dates. Yes they do, where are the tits there. I will stress that I'm not saying women dont use men just for $$..what I'm saying is dont automatically think thats the case.

I hear it in your voice. I feel your pain. It's not about her, it's your fears. I get it, you don't want to feel used. I understand where you're coming from. Now you're reacting to your fears. You're projecting them unto her. Your insecurities. Do you think that helps you, no it destroys you inside. I'm not even talking about the $$ now, because that's just a tool. I know you work hard for your $$ but that's used for something to help you feel a certain way and if spending that $$ on a date makes you feel used, then don't date until you've developed a better relationship with $$ because that relationship you have with it will keep it at bay and you will use it as a manipulation tactic with women. Not saying women don't do what you've said, but to go out on dates and automatically think the woman you're with is like that defeats the whole purpose of the date and is showing desperation on your part. Why bother then,

You're the one saying that, not her. It's just sad how a girl asks you for cab fare and you're saying what did you bring to the table, what did you provide, I'm not some fucking simp, I'm not desperate for sex...over a cab fare so she can get home safely...She didn't ask fora house for Christ's sake, not even a dress or pocketbook, its cab fare.

Thats not the point. That sounds like you're trying to take something away maliciously, not because you can't afford it. Just because you take some girl out and pay FOR ALL the date, it doesn't mean she's mooching. That's what you do. You're the one putting value on the money over her, not her. You value that $$ more than you value her. Pay for the date..no one says to pay $100, pay what you can. It's not about what does she bring to the table. Your whole relationship is fucked from the start worry about what does somebody bring to the table at first. How about some company and good conversation. Leave the $$ out of the equation by just paying without even thinking about it. You're having a threesome. You, her and the $$. That $$ will destroy your thinking more than she ever will.

That's not mooching. What do you say to guys who are mooching off a woman's body on the first date, wanting a kiss on the first date, wanting to touchy feeling on the first date.....nothing wrong with those things if you're both down but I would offer to pick up my casual gfs tab sometimes just for the kindness of it. Not to say you're mooching off if me. That mindset gets you nowhere.

You kidding right. Popcorn and movie tickets and a cab ride and you out. You have the wrong idea about investments. Don't let what others tell you fuck up your future with women. Don't invest in a girl too early just means don't fall in love too early, don't watch her every move, give her space, don't question her about her moves too much, don't invest too much time if she's not...i mean...it doesn't mean don't take her out and pay for the date. It's not a wedding ring or a house or car, it's popcorn and soda.

I can see through God's bullshit, don't think I can't see through your human shit. I know what you're saying, you Merkabah Starry fishtail you.😜😜

You might just want to follow me to my house if I really get real down and nasty on this forum that's why I try to behave myself and stick to the Spiritual aspects of things because my sleeping with women ain't nothing compared to what other toys I've slept with. You'll be begging to unfollow me by the time I'm done showing you. Don't mind me, they say it's the ones with all the talk that ain't doing shit. That's me. I ain't doing shit but all talk. Come here Amy, let's show them some talking.......blub, blub.....cumming Princess!!!

This happens as a result of judgement, judgement of yourself and others. When I say certain things, it's because i can sometimes see the bigger picture. What the results will be. A lot of times it's unknowable in the moment, but I know the result will not be satisfactory because of the structure. So, the results will be difficulty in certain aspects of your life, disappointments and disdain, just as you stated. And to address your last statement, the result of all that will be blame. Now you're blaming what you call uncultivated people for your suffering - which is a judgement to call them uncultivated. I'm not trying to come down on you, I'm trying to let you see you can't win when it's not love. If it's not love, it's fear. Judging people isn't loving people, accepting people or exercising empathy towards them. Those qualities are God's qualities. We are far from becoming the Godhead, but moving away from it will not sustain itself. Those negative qualities will need other negative qualities for anchors which will eventually lead to a crashing down of the whole structure. Having high standards is great, but are they coming from a place of superficiality and materialism or high standards for quality interactions with people and the outside world, quality way of being, qualities for expressions of love and creativity. If those high standards are for pretty women, fancy cars, nice clothes, expensive this and expensive that, those standards will not create in you a sense of worth, peace and contentment for long because it is not who you are at your core. You will start to notice that no matter what you do and what you try to achieve materially, you will feel as if you've not really achieved what you really want and that is to feel loved, at peace and filled with joy and contentment. This is why I said when we judge others, we are only judging ourselves because now we have set a bar that becomes higher than what we are judging, that we have to live up to and beyond, so we can feel worthy enough to continue judging others and now the internal competition begins with ourselves and when we are unable to live up to those bars we feel disappointment and disdain for others when in truth we are only disappointed in ourselves. It's a cycle. A good rule of thumb is to forgive yourself for your own self-judgements and to understand that people are where they're at in their own unique journey and that environment plays a role in how one is developed and that's sometimes out of one's control. Everything we give out comes back to us 10 folds. Learn the art of understanding yourself and others and why they are the way they are instead of judging them for being a certain way because circumstances and environments produced what you are seeing and observing. You are judging your ideas of them and not who they truly are.

Never know on this forum. I try not to jump to conclusions on that anymore. Learnt my lesson on that.

You're male, right.

That's why I said what I said in my first few sentences that weren't quoted. That was the important part that went with what you're saying here, please go back and re-read it, starting from "there are other call to action....." Furthermore no judgement is needed for survival. Observations, choices, proper discernment, refusals and many more facets are required but not judgement. Edit: I think I get it now. You guys description of judgement and mine are different. Using better judgement is not the same as judging someone. I think that's where the miscommunication is arising from.

Thought you were referring to my sleeping with women. Was gonna say you're not missing anything. The men is where it's at, for the gays that is.

Good, less to unfollow if you come out. Come out with anything.

People's beliefs aren't their own doing. These are just thoughts that were repeated over and over and over and over until it got cemented in the brain and now they call them their beliefs. No amount of 5min talk and forum explanation will change that. It would take a replacement with another repetitive thought to do that. It's a program you're talking to. Don't try to change the belief. Give some views on how you feel about the belief but leave it at that because the faulty wiring will electrocute him if tampered with and not carefully rewired.