Princess Arabia

Awakening from suffering is equivalent to a bomb going off in your system. You've been perceiving life the wrong way and suffering so long that the suffering can't go anymore and pops like a balloon. The body has been warning you all along through the suffering but you weren't listening to it or didn't know how to reset it, so it goes into homeostasis and reset itself again. That's just the body doing its thing. Feelings of anxiety and depression are symptoms that your wiring is faulty and needs to be attended to. Smaller versions of this is anger but it can be so intense that it doesn't stay for long because it's too overwhelming for the body and it cannot sustain that type of intense emotion. That's why anger doesn't linger for long but it comes back after the cool down period. Overtime, stress will kill you but it takes time because of the adaptation process and coping mechanisms we use to stall the body's responses to it. Any negative emotion is a signal installed by Source for itself to realize when it's off course. When it's too immersed in the dream, though, it forgets and points the finger to something apparently outside of itself for making it feel that way not realizing that it itself has took a wrong turn and needs to navigate itself back on course. So when you awaken from deep, deep, deep suffering that awakening will feel very intense just like being awakened from REM sleep and the body feels like it just went through an electrical shock. The reason why most people don't awaken is because most people are just coasting through like thinking its normal but with consequences like anxiety, depression, mental illnesses like bipolar and Schizophonia and also the degenerative diseases because of the body's imbalance. They treat the symptoms which will eventually lead to other dis-ease. This is why this and many other Spiritual communities are plagued with mental disorders because the energy is seeking relief from the contractions. This community is its refuge but it doesn't realize that it is disconnected from Source mentally, and will continue to seek until it comes to the realization that it is what its seeking.

Nice story. Better than the movie I watched last night. Amazing this illusion i created for myself which is also an amazing illusion. I feel like I'm schizophrenic. Talking to myself and reposting this video to itself for no one whose watching. I'm just looking at this computer with a woman that's appearing and who will disappear minutes from now and i will believe it and have memories of it and then something else will appear in this lovely computer that I invented and believe in that too. God saved her from losing her legs just to see her become a stripper so he can torture her and put her in hell for the very thing that she used that he saved her from losing. Hollywood couldn't even dream this story up because they are a part of this dream and we will all die and wake up to nothing. Paradox is, there is no paradox and no one to die.

Exactly, the closest someone did was to post a video named creep. But still he didn't come off as a creep and was just asking how better to do next time in response to us showing him what he might have done wrong or in appropriately.

Yeah, but don't you use the logical mind to accomplish things.

Please understand that someone's flawed perception of Reality and seeing the world through distorted lens is not perfection. It allows through certain emotions and feeling to recognize where and what we're perceiving things unlike how Source sees it and through adjustment in our thinking we can start to perceive things in a way that's more accurate to how Reality really is. Everything being perfect is different than everything is perfection; meaning, its perfect that we see Reality through distorted lens and have emotions to guide us where we're going wrong because that's how we grow and change and evolve and things were put in place for this to happen, but it doesn't mean our distortion is perfection.

Paragraphs please. 🤣Once, a while back, I went on a rant with a post twice the size of yours here without any paragraphs and someone said to me, "paragraphs please", I never forgot that and every time someone makes a fairly long post without paragraphs my memory brings me back to that. That said, I somehow think you're making a mistake with your "there's nothing to know" stances and lack of interests in what any Spiritual "teachings" have to say. To me, it shows a closing off of oneself and a lack of curiosity. Only one thing is important is not the way of the Universe and everything is connected to everything else, as there are no distinctions but what the mind creates, so a connection of dots could pave the way for a broader perspective on things and could possibly open you up to certain things your mind is unaware of. You also say from time to time to drop the quest for understanding as that can get in the way to Awakening and distort the mind. Idk, but your way just seems a bit closed-off and trying to achieve what's unachievable to the human form. I love what you're trying to accomplish but, as a human, we have limits and to me it's just a matter of understanding who we are and to live from a place of greater understanding and to enjoy what it means to be human not try to break barriers to elude something that is a part of Reality itself. The goal is to integrate the dual and the non-dual, the Absolute and the relative since we need the ego to accomplish both, and to live from a place of recognizing that they are all a part of the Absolute. That's just my take and you approach however you wish. It just seems like it will be a never-ending endeavor as Infinity includes everything and is forever expanding even though it has its essence. I enjoy reading your posts, but it seems its the same feat over and over which doesn't seem to be getting anywhere only your attachment to try to overcome it. Much love. I say this not as a criticism, but genuinely and sincerely awaiting your response so I can understand where it is you're coming from with why nothing else is important to you and if you really think it's possible to accomplish this and maybe expand my awareness to allow me to see new light in something I've been unaware of.

This is exactly you and what it has done to you. Nothing in OP's post mentioned the word creep or creepy. Your past post that you started once does tho. The one where it went on and on and on. The one you shared here. So all you're doing is projecting your fears unto this thread and discussing stuff that wasn't said and you still haven't gotten over your "creepy" post. I wonder how many times will you use that for reference every time someone asks for dating advice unrelated to being called a creep, but only what you assume he's being called in your mind. He never said he asked her out. In fact, he said he wasn't even on a date, it was his first time talking with her. Again discussing stuff that wasn't said. You are also feeling some type of way and are also blaming women for it. So why should women put up with you. Complaining and saying all you're saying doesn't sound like its coming from a happy place. I wonder whose responsible for that. Your whole comments sound personal and did not stick to the point of the post. You kept going on and on about situations that never occurred with the OP and every single one was a projection of your own fears stemming from your own experiences.

Yes you are right; and she also doesn't have to meet his. You are one-sided. Just as you're saying she can cancel him at anytime because she doesn't have to meet your seal of approval for what social appropriateness is as in telling him to fuck-off if she chooses. She's adhered to your own rule, but you can't see that because you are blinded by your own fear and biases and beliefs and what happened to you in the past. Goodnight now, I'm going to bed.

No one doubt it wasn't fear. Why demonize fear. It needs to be brought to the light and shown some love and it will transform itself. But that isn't the point. Yes, it was fear, so what. It is a survival mechanism. You're acting out of fear too because of your criticisms and judgements of her. You yourself said if it's not love it's fear. Nothing wrong with her being fearful. We have our own reasons why we fear things. Who are you to determine what one should be fearful of.

This is speculation and doesn't have a ground to stand on much less expand upon.

It's not your ex you're trying to get over but your loneliness. If it were your ex you were just trying to get over, you wouldn't have mentioned that the only girls you have a chance with are unattractive to you. If they were attractive you'd be all over them and you'd be like, "what ex". So do yourself a favor and see through that self-deceptive mind of yours and try to get over what took place during the break-up and how it transpired and take the ex out the picture because you're not trying to get over her, you're trying to cure your loneliness.

@mr_engineerI just did a web search for those pictures and I found them and their connected websites. So you see, all that talk and I couldn't get the same thing from you that the girl refused to give him and you called it fear of whatever you said. You have to be able to back up what you're saying and not just talk and rebut all the time.

Lol

Plus your point here is invalid because you would never just go up to a stranger on the street and just say would you like to have sex with me right now. Would you. Your first conversation is just that. Would you like to have sex with me right now. No. Maybe approach her first, get to talking a bit, feel her out and if she's flirting with you real hard, maybe touching your dick or something like that, then you would find it more appropriate to ask her then. But why not ask her to begin with. Because of inappropriateness. Not just because of society or a rule book but because of your inner judgement. The way you were raised, common sense or just using your inner innate judgement and survival mechanisms because of the repercussions that may follow. So it's not about rule books or societal norms at all times but using inner judgement and your innate capabilities to use discernment as to what's Universally appropriate for living in a society where we are expected to adhere to people's right to their privacy.

I like you can you pm me a picture of yourself, your family and inside your home and especially your bedroom. Please. I'd love to see them.

Do you have an archive saved for all these links. You amaze me with how you have a link for just about every dating question. It's like you're the Google of the forum. Nice. You must have been through extensive coaching or did a lot of research about relationships and the dating world.

Love this post.

Yes, I loved how you said that and included the word identity. It's the identity we have chosen to become that will reflect back to us our experiences. It's not what we want that we get but who we are being that unfolds. The script has been written and circumstances will unfold in our lives that goes with that script based on whom we have become.

You have already changed, maybe because of a particular insight you've had or maybe you've just hit rock bottom and have no place to go but up. Same as when one has suffered a lot of pain which causes them to awaken. I say this because i've seen the difference in your tone and your approach to this topic and it's not the first time. It's been in succession now and i haven't see where you've turned back. Remember how you used to be where every comment was negative and you were just always like that no matter what. Now, you are a lot more calm and more interested in finding a new approach because you saw where you were only hurting yourself. I'm assuming here so correct me if i'm wrong. Don't wait to start dating because there will always be growing to do especially if you're older and already have certain things unrelated in place like finances and work related. It is in the actual dating that will allow you to grow through introspection and responsiveness, notice improvements or what you need to work on and give you the practice you need. So no need to wait because you'll never really get there because perfection shows itself in different ways. You're perfect right now for the compatible person which answers your last question. Try not to see it as improving yourself but changing the way you see things and being receptive when the opportunity presents itself. It's best to focus on the things you mentioned at this time but not with a mindset of I don't have anyone or I need sex so bad or I'm going to try not to mess up or somewhere along those lines, but more of a I wonder what it would feel like to have so and so my life or wow what would a woman look like in my bed right now and making beautiful love with her or its been awhile since and I can't wait to feel that again type of vibe. Yes, you can visualize and affirm but affirm in the form of a question as in what would it feel like not I have a woman or I am having sex. The regular mind won't accept that but the subconscious will set out to answer your questions and show you through experiences as in an "ask and it shall be given" type of thing.

Remember, everything is not concrete, especially in dating so situations and circumstances vary. First, you say "never seem to fit into what a woman needs". Unless she's looking for her expenses paid, a woman doesn't really set out consciously looking for her needs met. It's innate. Meaning, women love to feel secure, protected, wanted and loved while a man likes to feel needed, that's why you framed your question that way. Yes, we like our sexual desires met but that's usually the after effect of however that comes about. So to fit into that, attraction, as in what I stated in the OP, comes about first and then the getting to know each other aspects and during that phase maybe it may reveal itself if the right kind of conversation happens. There's always someone for somebody, it just takes a matter of making yourself available and giving off a particular vibe. Sometimes it may seem like one person chose one over another but the choice is being made for and indirectly by both because of the energy at play, that's why it's important to kind of embody that which you would like to receive as in if you just want a one-night stand or just to hook up casually you don't want to come off as serious, too rigid or asking too many personal questions, be flirtatious and casual and the energy will fjnd you, so-to-speak. Sometimes like attracts like and opposite attracts. The toxic girl can still be attracted to a non-toxic because the energy seeks balance but will drain the hell out of you and suck you dry. So sometimes these aren't conscious decisions it's the force that's driving the situation. This happens when you find someone being attracted to someone they usually aren't attracted to and are shocked by their attraction to them saying that's not really my type but somehow I find them very attractive - it's energy at play and they become a vibrational match to that energy. Glasses makes one look a bit more studious or even older but it doesn't matter too much generally for either sexes but for women it's better if they compliment her face and style. Guys can usually get away with that being unnoticed so don't be concerned with that. As far as satisfying a woman when she's horny, that will come after she's already decided to be with you so just be attentive to her in bed and either ask her what she enjoys or feel your way through it. Every woman is different. Tall and skinny with glasses won't matter if she likes your personality and she feels comfortable around and with you. You have to decide in your mind at least what type of woman you're looking for and then make yourself available as in hook-up only, go to bars or clubs or online for that reason. Relationship - online or everywhere you go keep your eye out and be available internally as in don't approach women you wouldn't have as a gf or be kind to just regular women you meet to give off the protector vibe and so on, If you sit at home moping all day about how single you are and how women suck or life suck...you will not give off the necessary vibe, it HAS to start internally, Not sure if I answered your questions to give more clarity but bottom-line is who you're seeking is seeking you, you just have to be open to receiving. No there's Noone out there for me or all women are this or that or I'm not attractive enough or anything like that. Just like how when people seek trouble they always find it because that energy is even stronger than love because there's more energy that goes into that.

Ok. I read your responses and respect your perspectives on how you look at things. Continue on your journey, much love to you.

Exactly what you see. That's not signaling; that's direct communication. No need to decipher anything there. Content is irrelevant. Just move on. In the meantime, do as you're doing now, find out how you're repelling girls and learn from it without judgement of yourself and the situation. It will depend on the type of girl that's why it's important to just keep it simple but engaging just like you're doing here. Do you see how it's just flowing; let it flow there too, respond, not react. Be curios without being too attached to how it's going. You're not doing that here.

Soooooo powerful. Very important to understanding how to balance the relative and the Absolute and how to navigate life with both polarities, Love this and it opened me up to a greater understanding.