Princess Arabia

It's normal, don't worry. I do it all the time. Most people do. Then again, maybe it isn't. At least you know you blend in.

It's not about those fancy Spiritual terms and non-dualism and no-self, it's about how energy works and how the mind works. I don't care about terms and no self when it comes to the tricks of the mind. That's real stuff. You have a mind that can play tricks on you and you are operating on a program. All of us are. You want to be in control so bad and that need for control will make you suffer like it's doing with the energy of perfectionism. You can dismiss all you want the fact that you are not controlling jack-shit or you might take it upon yourself to start to understand how energy works, the mind works and it's tendencies to want to take ownership of things and how it likes to put label on things etc. Yes, we continue to do daily chores and live life normally like going to the dentist; but that doesn't take away from the nature of Reality and the mind. They are interconnected and intertwined. I am not just talking from my ass here, I have full-on experience on what letting go of certain things can do which brings us closer to the true nature of who we truly are; and why we suffer so much is because we don't have a clue who we are at the core, and we fight life thinking we know it all and then the result is you coming on a forum saying how something is making you suffer and now you want to dismiss what I'm saying as spiritual mumbo jumbo and give it fancy terms like Neo-Advaita. I don't know anything about that, all I know is energy is at play here and our minds will drive us down a hell hole, figuratively speaking, if we let it. One way to not let that happen is to not claim ownership of a condition that has affected it and it will slowly dissolve into the sea from which it came. What we focus on magnifies because of the light that is being shun unto it because your true nature is Awareness. Perfect and pure. It has been distorted and veiled and now you as Awareness is projecting that distortion thinking that it's who you are and now you suffer. "My perfectionism" has been brought to the forefront and now you're having to disown it but don't know how. You stop saying "my perfectionism" will be a start and looking at it from a distance, understand that it's an energetic pattern that has been woven and then try to deconstruct it from where it originated which is in the mind. Observe the thoughts that come to you when you feel this energy arise and try to see what belief is behind the thought that you are clinging unto. It is a false belief. Change it. Feel the emotion that arises with that thought and let it pass through you. That's as far as I'll go with this as I'm not even sure you'll resonate with what i'm saying, since you seem to very materialistic in your thinking and don't understand the mental vibe of your essence.

What you said isn't sexist but the way he phrased it sounded a bit so, but maybe my interpretation of sexist doesn't relate in this sense. Still, it's not a true statement.

Life seems so unfair specifically because it is so fair. So fair that God had to accommodate for the different beings that it knew would veer off track because of selfishness, fear and greed amongst other things. It's called unconditional love. Something humans are incapable of but is the nature of God. So, don't tell me life isn't fair, it's humans that don't know how to align with the fairness of life and who are seeking to pleasure themselves at any cost and cannot accept life as it is without judgements and input their own biases because we lack the mental capacity to see clearly and cannot see how everything is in alignment with everything else. If we remove the veils that skew our perceptions, we will clearly see the fairness of life. But that's impossible to do with animal like creatures who are only out for the survival of an illusory thing called the ego.

One of the reasons why time exists in nature (incase you didn't know, it's an illusion) is so we have time to plant seeds that we are unconsciously growing through thoughts. The 60plus thousand thoughts that humans receive on a daily bases of which some we emotionally attach to, believe are ours and act upon result in a less chaotic life because of the grace of time. IOW, if every time you thought about killing somebody, that action would manifest instantly, same with cheating on your spouse, poisoning someone etcetc. INSTANTLY. So kindly use that grace period wisely when interacting with people because not every thought that comes to your head has to be verbalized and repeated to another being just to show authenticity. Also, these thoughts that come to you are following a pattern, a vibratory pattern, so if you're constantly aware of thoughts that are derogatory in nature, maybe you should try to change your state of being so other kinds of thoughts can flow through you that are more in sync with what you're trying to accomplish; in this case you're trying to impress, not regress.

Watch it now, sounds a bit sexist. This statement sounds a bit degrading. Plus, most women usually don't develop their character because they have to but because they want to. Please note I'm not saying you're intentionally degrading women, the statement just sounds a bit like that.

Sounds like a prize to me. Gimme my rewards, baby. I won the prize.

Who is demonizing sex for pure enjoyment and fun? I know I'm not. I was just saying it's not for me anymore. I've had plenty of wild sex, threesomes, sex with women, sex with couples, one-night stands, sex with college kids, sex with strippers, even sex with hookers, sex with dildos, sex with vibrators, sex with strap-ons, sex with handcuffs, sex with cops, sex with whips, sex with old men, sex with pillows, sex with dolls, sex with cock rings, sex with nipple clamps, sex with dwarfs (no kidding), sex with DJ's, sex with bouncers, sex with strip club owners, sex with models, sex with John's, sex with chairs, sex with tables and last but not least sex with myself. Phew, that's a lot of sex. My pussy had enough sex for a lifetime. It's time to quit that shit and let my pussy breathe. Just kidding guys. Only 5 of that list count. I'll let you guess. Been drinking wine tonight so I'm a bit loose, I'll tighten back up tomorrow. This is Jeannie speaking, my other third. It's three of us, Arabia, Jeannie and Leonie. Boombastic! Ouch! I'm flagged. But seriously, sex is great. Just now want to do it with someone special.

I bookmarked. Lovely post. That's intuitively what would be sexually fulfilling to me, I think, that's why I don't desire personal casual sex anymore. I've felt what if felt like to really feel loved and to be vulnerable and surrender to life. No casual sex can compare to that. It's a beautiful feeling to feel the love of God inside of you, penetrating your every cell and bones, knowing that you are unconditionally loved no matter what and all i want to do is to give that love back anyway I can with the recognition that I am that love.

Nothing wrong with that. Just don't get attached incase you both get bored with this dopamine hit. Which you will at some point.

Men are like that even when they get older. Not saying they don't start to appreciate high quality connections and start to look for that, but it won't stop them from still sleeping around, even if it's with another high-quality connection. Not all men, I have to stress, but a lot will eventually do this. Women too. Maybe not as much, though. Men will disagree, but it is what it is.

No need to get triggered. Most of these guys are just looking for sex, not relationships. Nothing wrong with that. They have to get that out their system first before ready for real commitment, if ever.

Oh my! I'd be like get that shit outta my face, you dork. Lol

To each is own. Been there done that. I like more than just lover. I can love myself. Having a close intimate relationship with a man that doesn't require sex for us to bond is more stimulating to me than just a lover. Then the sex will be magnificent.

Get out! Lol

Yes, it does. This is one reason why I stopped having sex. Even with what I do for work it's just work. But on a personal level I can't and won't just have casual sex anymore. I don't even have to try and force myself, I just don't have the desire to. A guy with so-called "good game" can't even break that barrier unless we end up in a committed relationship, which will take a special type of guy for that with me.

Ok, well yes. Understood. Regarding what you said before.

Not necessarily. I don't know about a high-value woman because that depends on whose evaluating. The term high-value means something different to everyone. Lot's of decent healthy women will sleep with a man without being in love.

A Course In Miracle. Believing is seeing.

Lots of lemon water might help.

This is BIG!

I get that there's nothing to get.

Ok then, right on!

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