Princess Arabia

It's important to note that addiction can be hidden and is not subjected to smoking, alcoholism and drug use. So just telling OP it's a coping mechanism or to just try and quit or to seek help, which is all good advice, will only lead to another addiction of some sort. We are all being distracted in some way shape or form and are all using coping mechanisms in some way shape or form. Do you not think excessive shopping, excessive need for sex, excessive need to always be working, excessive eating, drinking soda, eating junk food, excessive talking, excessive use of this forum,,.....i mean we are all distracting ourselves from ourselves. It's just cigarettes and drinking and drug use are the most noticeable. Life itself is a distraction and a coping mechanism. We have separated ourselves from our SELF and are finding ways and means to get back to the SELF. That's all that life's about.

If there is no "you" then there's no "other". Other only came from the distinction between things. The mind created other. There's no absolute distinctions between anything, only what the mind creates. I'm "me" and you're "you" creates "other". Notice how everyone says I AM. You say I AM, I say I AM, we all say I AM. Where is the "other" there? YOU AM? THEY AM? No There's only one I AM from different perspectives. Other is an illusion. Still exists, but only as an appearance.

@NightHawkBuzzPlease ignore @Creatorbeinghe's only projecting his own beliefs and is the one discriminating against you. Everything he's accused you of is coming from within him. You are asking a legitimate question which stems from what you have observed. That's called psychological analysis Mr @Creatorbeing.

C'mon, totally nothing to do with his post. YOU ARE THE ONE PROJECTING.

Why would you tell someone there is no truth in their observations. He never said why they acted that way only that they did. Saying why he believed they acted the way they did would be grounds for you to disagree or not, not with what he observed. BTW, it is true.

This wasn't necessary. He was just making an observation and wanted to understand why this is the case. Everything he said was true. They are more violent, aggressive, and fights break out all the time in these areas. He used the term ghetto which is just a term to describe the areas which he's referring to. It is a legitimate term and is even in the dictionary. Not once in his post did he seem discriminatory or prejudiced. Not once in his post did he mention race. You asked by ghetto, what race are you referring to but his post wasn't about race, YOU made it about that. Your mind went there not his. So be careful what questions you ask that aren't pertaining to the post because it's only showing your interpretation of what's being said. Nothing wrong with him wanting to understand why a certain group of people from a certain environment act the way they do.

Isn't this what most men are anyway. Men are usually taller and have larger frames than women, period. Your statement here isn't saying much.

You don't need to see Reality clearly. You are Reality. Whatever you give life to with your light of Awareness becomes real for you and is the only Reality there is. There is nothing outside of your own consciousness. Reality is not one way that you have to clearly see. You are creating it as you go. Thats why everything is changing and always moving to fit into your world. And mine, and every conscious being. There are Infinite Realities. That's Infinity. Your thoughts, beliefs, assumptions about yourself and the world is shaping your Reality as we speak and will determine your experiences. So see clearly how you want to experience your world because that's all that exists for you. RIGHT NOW.

Before you were "born", you knew of none of these things. Do you think your presence here changes that? Embody the unknown. It is not up to you. Allow the mind to wander without getting involved. This is just mind and thought. They have no life, only what you give them, which is groundless. They will not survive if you pay them no attention.

They're made of Consciousness.

You cannot lose what you innately are. You are what you are. You cannot lose Awareness. Awareness is what is aware of your fears.

It's not about loving more or loving less, but more about how you're directing the love that you already are. If I'm loving someone less, it's because I'm loving something else more. There's no escaping love.

You are loving every minute every day every sec because that's what you are. It is only being disguised as other twisted forms of emotions if it's not directly recognized. When you hate, you are still loving something. When you're depressed you're still loving. Loving as in the verb. You hate this because you love that. You're depressed because you're loving something that's apparently out of reach. You're anxious because you're loving something you fear might not happen because you're expecting something else to happen, You're being selfish because of the love of survival. You abuse your partner because you're loving whatever is causing you to abuse them as in alcohol or drugs or whatever. I can go on but you get the drift. There's nothing but love. So it's not about the more you love as it is to channel your love in a more positive light, because you can love more by loving the drugs you take some more, Love comes in all different shapes and sizes and can be disguised as hate and other negative emotions.

oh my, you scared me. I thought the Aliens were attacking my computer with all those @Princess Arabia's. Much love. Not trying to win, just express.

Nicely put.

ok, you're still navigating from a specific place and all your navigations are going to stem from those memories which is fine, but the rest of your narratives aren't coming from a place of where you'd like to go only from how you'd like it to be but you can't get from point A to B all by yourself and depending on whether you're taking the bus, train or car those navigations are going to have to adjust accordingly. So you see, it's not just about your navigations but who you're navigating with and that will take some twists and turns because you are still using something or someone for the navigation.

It means to hold yourself in high regard. To not let people walk all over you. To set boundaries for yourself that's in your best interest without it being selfishly displayed and hurting others in the process. It means to educate yourself about yourself. It means to know yourself. It means to nourish yourself and to feed it in a way in all types of ways that it grows in accordance with it's intended use and purpose. It means to show and display love to others the best you can because they are a reflection of you. To love others is to love yourself and vice versa. I could go on, but I'll leave it here.

That's not how an empowered person thinks. A woman cannot destroy your life unless you let them. So because you're not capable of securing your own, you set principles that you yourself won't break because that is your security blanket because you don't trust yourself to not lose yourself.

That's fine. To each is own, but it's still a form of protecting your wounds, because you wouldn't even know how to protect yourself if you didn't show vulnerability in the first place and was wounded by it. You wouldn't even know what losing yourself meant if you didn't experience it in the first place. Now, you got a taste and it didn't feel good and now you're making sure it doesn't happen again. Again, protecting and bandaging the wounds. That's why we fear falling in love, nit for the love itself but for fear if losing ourselves. You're revealing more of my point the more you speak. There are patterns that make up our individuality and memories that we cling unto. Nothing to do with conscious choices. You think you're doing it, but the decisions are being made for you. That's what your name implies, no-self, because if you were so much in control, you wouldn't be worrying about losing your SELF.

If you're aware that it's toxic behavior then you're only unconsciously hurting yourself. If you're unaware that it's toxic, you're still only hurting yourself. So, just from it being toxic period, it's of no value, only survival based. Nothing wrong with that, but eventually the so-called "value" will become invaluable in the long run.

The degree to which you love yourself is the degree to which you are capable of showing and giving love. So saying you'll love yourself more than a woman doesn't mean you're showing her less love than yourself, it only means that's how much you're capable of loving yourself.

What you're saying here i get, but I was referring to the fact you said "toxic". I'm assuming you know they are toxic but still stand by them, that's what I was responding to, not just merely having principles or boundaries and stating upfront who you are as a person. If one has toxic principles and are aware they are toxic, and will stand by them no matter what, that,s a wounded individual, that's why I used the word. Maybe your use of the word toxic altered your meaning. Also, stop saying I know nothing about game because I'm the one the game is being played on. I'm the referee in your game. I decide if it works or not. I may not need to learn fame but u sure know how to referee it.

This right here is coming from a hurt individual. A wounded character. If you're going to go into a relationship with a woman, boundaries needs to be set into place but cannot be selfishly and strictly based on principles that are only for your own gratifications. Compromise is key, and the other's best interest. You say if your principles are toxic then, oh well, I won't change them for a woman because that'll make me weak, ilm assuming that's the reason; but that's exactly what makes a man weak when he's not flexible enough to accommodate the woman in his life even if it means to adjust his own toxic principles. This is saying I don't care about you, I'm only protecting my wounds.

What he said is what happens a lot, the most beautiful or the most handsome is not always who gets laid the most or even gets approached the most. Doesn't matter especially with men, beautiful women will get more attractions but men need to step up their game more and it has nothing to do with looks.