Princess Arabia

Can you please elaborate more on what you are saying. Are you saying, that I made it all up or the YT commentor made it all up. Not sure if you're saying she's distracting herself or I am.

Here is the video

Very powerful.

I believe in marketing you can if they are a bunch of unconscious controllable sheep. You can target people's emotions and senses just to get them to buy certain things. Fear sells. Instill fear and there they go. Numerous techniques will do the trick but only if you're not aware that this is happening. Sometimes even if you are. This is happening on all levels on a very wide scale. Control them, and you got them by the balls.

I think what @gettoeflsaid was on the money when put in the proper context. It's not necessarily so for one night stands but for long-term relationships.

From you saying this, I can tell you are a very passionate lover.

Nice explanation. Made me more aware of some aspects of attraction and sexuality. It clicked somewhere inside my psyche.

If I told you that's why you're having a hard time with it, because its your most pressing issue, you would come back with a long list of reasons why that ain't so. Since I have nothing else to do at the moment, I'll lay it on you. Take it as you wish. When we fight life, life fights us back. It's a mirror. When we smile at life it smiles back. When we sulk, it sulks back. Etc etc. This has to be understood in the proper context, though, as it needs a bit of understanding what this means and how the Universe works. You are Awareness, Reality is Infinite. That means everything exists. Creation is finished. It is you. Your true nature. Pretend you are a movie projector shining your light on the movie screen. Whatever is coming from the projector is within the projector and wherever the projector shines it's light is where whatever is within the projector goes. You are that projector. If within you are complaints then all you will see are things to complain about. If within you are fears all you will see are things to be fearful about. Etc.etc. If you focus on lack you will experience more lack. The Universe is abundant. There is no lack in the Universe. So what you are projecting from your projector unto the screen of space is an abundance of lack. Lack of sex jn this case. What you focus on you get more of because that is where you're shining your light saying you want to experience. The Universe doesn't differentiate between anything. Everything is the same. A cow is the same as a dog or a plane. But what it does understand is energy, frequency and vibration. All these different things which carries a certain energy, vibrate at different frequencies. Lack carries a particular frequency so it reads that and gives you more lack because it thinks that's what you want. How? By your constant complaining. It doesn't know you're complaining all it knows is you like this because that's where your focus is. Your attention is your most prized asset and it can make or break you. If you are constantly complaining about the lack of sex in your life you will continue to experience the lack of sex. If you say, no, I'm trying to get it, you will also keep experiencing "trying to get it". That's the nature of Awareness. Which you are. You have to not focus and complain about it. Let it go. See yourself there. Imagine it. Focus on what you want to experience not what you're pissed off about. The mind wants to keep you safe, so if you're venturing out into territories it's not used to, it will come up with all sorts of stories and excuses as to why you shouldn't venture out of your comfort zone. In your case, you are entertaining thoughts that will tell you why this girl is the way she is, why she doesn't like you, why what this guy says is true, why you should believe this video, why you're lacking sex, why you should be this way and not that way etcetc all to keep you locked in that "guy who doesn't get sex identity", and because you're not in control of your thoughts which leads to certain beliefs, which leads to cerain actions, now you have woven an identity that needs to stay alive and will look for things to confirm this. Whew! I'm tired. Figure the rest out ,

Yeah! Maybe, what do I know. I'm starting to realize I know nothing.

I think it's more of just letting the mind be. Not really ignoring it as much but allowing thoughts to be there and not identify with them. I'm speaking about the monkey mind, not when we need the mind to consciously figure something out, contemplate or just normal day-to-day activities. I'm noticing how my mind continuously concoct stories and ideas about situations and circumstances that are just ideas about them and my own interpretations. When I limit this activity, or catch myself doing it and retract, I find myself to be at ease more and have less unnecessary mindless chit-chatter. This practice, I believe will pretty much causes us to have less anxiety and or depression. The more I catch myself doing it, I stop and focus the mind elsewhere. Since I've been aware of what the mind does, I realized how I've created a lot of unnecessary trivial mental suffering. Half of the stuff the mind says isn't true and we tend to want to believe it because we don't realize it's nature. So now, I practice allowing it to do it's thing without reacting as much and it is slowly but surely not having as much of a negative impact on me where before I had a tendency to worry about things that were just stories and made up stuff that never even came to the light.

Do you realize that every action here is considered a post. I have two mega threads that I've started, actually now three. Powerful, powerful short clips and healthy foods and recipes. Each video I post is considered a post, not to mention the edits which I think also are considered separate posts, not sure. Plus, I'm all over. I comment on a variety of sub-topics. You, on the other hand, I see mostly in the dating section. That counts for less amount of counted posts, also. You have to consider factors when observing figures like post counts not just the figures. Just like how you've created a story as to why your post count is low, it's the same way you (and the majority of people, including myself) operate in our daily lives. It's all fucking stories. Not true. Based on memories, conditioning, programming, belief systems, paradigms, patterns, group think, societal norms.....the list goes on. Then we believe these stories and construct our lives based on these beliefs. I've seen through this shit. I've seen the patterns, in myself and others. It's fucking deep, real deep. So deep we have sunk. Drowning in our own bullshit. Then we complain and point the finger at others blaming them for our own constructed egoic patterns and cry and come up with excuses as to why we are the way we are. I'm not referring to autism, ocd, mental disorders etc, just our normal way of living and how we navigate Reality, live our lives and interactions with people. It's really clever and nuanced how the brain works and how the mind uses us and how we use the mind. It's so clever that it doesn't realize it's own shit.

You might have a point here. I've seen some on here openly admit to being bi while having problems with dating or getting dates. Something to ponder. Human psychology and behavior can get very complicated but can be simple if understood.

It's normal, don't worry. I do it all the time. Most people do. Then again, maybe it isn't. At least you know you blend in.

It's not about those fancy Spiritual terms and non-dualism and no-self, it's about how energy works and how the mind works. I don't care about terms and no self when it comes to the tricks of the mind. That's real stuff. You have a mind that can play tricks on you and you are operating on a program. All of us are. You want to be in control so bad and that need for control will make you suffer like it's doing with the energy of perfectionism. You can dismiss all you want the fact that you are not controlling jack-shit or you might take it upon yourself to start to understand how energy works, the mind works and it's tendencies to want to take ownership of things and how it likes to put label on things etc. Yes, we continue to do daily chores and live life normally like going to the dentist; but that doesn't take away from the nature of Reality and the mind. They are interconnected and intertwined. I am not just talking from my ass here, I have full-on experience on what letting go of certain things can do which brings us closer to the true nature of who we truly are; and why we suffer so much is because we don't have a clue who we are at the core, and we fight life thinking we know it all and then the result is you coming on a forum saying how something is making you suffer and now you want to dismiss what I'm saying as spiritual mumbo jumbo and give it fancy terms like Neo-Advaita. I don't know anything about that, all I know is energy is at play here and our minds will drive us down a hell hole, figuratively speaking, if we let it. One way to not let that happen is to not claim ownership of a condition that has affected it and it will slowly dissolve into the sea from which it came. What we focus on magnifies because of the light that is being shun unto it because your true nature is Awareness. Perfect and pure. It has been distorted and veiled and now you as Awareness is projecting that distortion thinking that it's who you are and now you suffer. "My perfectionism" has been brought to the forefront and now you're having to disown it but don't know how. You stop saying "my perfectionism" will be a start and looking at it from a distance, understand that it's an energetic pattern that has been woven and then try to deconstruct it from where it originated which is in the mind. Observe the thoughts that come to you when you feel this energy arise and try to see what belief is behind the thought that you are clinging unto. It is a false belief. Change it. Feel the emotion that arises with that thought and let it pass through you. That's as far as I'll go with this as I'm not even sure you'll resonate with what i'm saying, since you seem to very materialistic in your thinking and don't understand the mental vibe of your essence.

What you said isn't sexist but the way he phrased it sounded a bit so, but maybe my interpretation of sexist doesn't relate in this sense. Still, it's not a true statement.

Life seems so unfair specifically because it is so fair. So fair that God had to accommodate for the different beings that it knew would veer off track because of selfishness, fear and greed amongst other things. It's called unconditional love. Something humans are incapable of but is the nature of God. So, don't tell me life isn't fair, it's humans that don't know how to align with the fairness of life and who are seeking to pleasure themselves at any cost and cannot accept life as it is without judgements and input their own biases because we lack the mental capacity to see clearly and cannot see how everything is in alignment with everything else. If we remove the veils that skew our perceptions, we will clearly see the fairness of life. But that's impossible to do with animal like creatures who are only out for the survival of an illusory thing called the ego.

One of the reasons why time exists in nature (incase you didn't know, it's an illusion) is so we have time to plant seeds that we are unconsciously growing through thoughts. The 60plus thousand thoughts that humans receive on a daily bases of which some we emotionally attach to, believe are ours and act upon result in a less chaotic life because of the grace of time. IOW, if every time you thought about killing somebody, that action would manifest instantly, same with cheating on your spouse, poisoning someone etcetc. INSTANTLY. So kindly use that grace period wisely when interacting with people because not every thought that comes to your head has to be verbalized and repeated to another being just to show authenticity. Also, these thoughts that come to you are following a pattern, a vibratory pattern, so if you're constantly aware of thoughts that are derogatory in nature, maybe you should try to change your state of being so other kinds of thoughts can flow through you that are more in sync with what you're trying to accomplish; in this case you're trying to impress, not regress.

Watch it now, sounds a bit sexist. This statement sounds a bit degrading. Plus, most women usually don't develop their character because they have to but because they want to. Please note I'm not saying you're intentionally degrading women, the statement just sounds a bit like that.

Sounds like a prize to me. Gimme my rewards, baby. I won the prize.

Who is demonizing sex for pure enjoyment and fun? I know I'm not. I was just saying it's not for me anymore. I've had plenty of wild sex, threesomes, sex with women, sex with couples, one-night stands, sex with college kids, sex with strippers, even sex with hookers, sex with dildos, sex with vibrators, sex with strap-ons, sex with handcuffs, sex with cops, sex with whips, sex with old men, sex with pillows, sex with dolls, sex with cock rings, sex with nipple clamps, sex with dwarfs (no kidding), sex with DJ's, sex with bouncers, sex with strip club owners, sex with models, sex with John's, sex with chairs, sex with tables and last but not least sex with myself. Phew, that's a lot of sex. My pussy had enough sex for a lifetime. It's time to quit that shit and let my pussy breathe. Just kidding guys. Only 5 of that list count. I'll let you guess. Been drinking wine tonight so I'm a bit loose, I'll tighten back up tomorrow. This is Jeannie speaking, my other third. It's three of us, Arabia, Jeannie and Leonie. Boombastic! Ouch! I'm flagged. But seriously, sex is great. Just now want to do it with someone special.