Princess Arabia

I thought energy cannot be created or destroyed.

This works because you're cute and it takes balls to say something like that to a girl, it shows confidence that, you're not trying to impress and shows you're fun to be around and don't rake things too seriously. If a guy had a certain demeanor about him, he was nervous, looked a certain way and had some inner intention of just wanting to fuck her and that's it, it definitely wouldn't work. But yeah, I could see you pulling off something like that to the right kind of girl.

Or change the way you play the game.

Don't ask, am I interrupting something because you are, but it doesn't matter if its a nightclub, bar or something of the sort, that's the beauty about these places you can just talk to people without a reason, just talk but make it spontaneous and flowy. How you're saying it here is too polished and please NO WHAT DO YOU CALL A .......JOKES. You had to even explain your joke in parentheses, hehe.

Noooooooooooooo, dont you dare start an approach like that. What's wrong with you. Can't you hold off on yourself for awhile and not get into your wonderful philosophical talks that may or may not bore or scare some chick away. Be playful, spontaneous, go with the flow, be in the moment. Whatever is happening around you at the time speak on that, the music, the people there, talk about the place you're at, ask her where she's from, tell her where your're from blah blah blah. Save that other shit for later even if it's the most important thing to you. Get over yourself in these moments and pay attention to what's happening then and now.

I respect all that you had to say and I understand your pov. I still stick to what I'm saying, keeping in mind there are always exceptions to any rule. Not saying this is a rule, just a figure of speech. Yes, men will feel that way too. I used the telemarketing example but getting a girl's number is at least a start and shows she MIGHT be interested. Not always. So you take it from there. Hold a convo and maybe set up a date. See where it goes. This is not a true statement. Anyone who understands the differences will tell you otherwise including John Gray who wrote the book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. As humans, yes, and certain general characteristics that both sexes share but when it comes to intimacy, relationships and sex we are not the same. Each individual has their own unique personality and likes and dislikes pertaining to relationships etc, but there are vast differences between the two. It's just how nature intended. Even nature has differences between its feminine and masculine characteristics. There's a reason for that. It's not about knowing ourselves or not. How many people are idiots, assholes, insecure, liars, manipulators and all the negative traits people have, if they knew these things about themselves how does that make for better relations with others. If that's the case then they'll just be better at being assholes, idiots, liars, manipulators to others in a comfortable way. So this statement doesn't hold up. Even if they had very positive traits, we're still dealing with other beings who have their own personalities and have traumas and issues and insecurities etc. It's being comfortable in your own skin and not be influenced by fearful thoughts and insecurities we have about ourselves. I'm not saying girls don't approach at all, some do but it's not the norm or we wouldn't even be discussing this. I'll tell you this, though, just about everyone I've heard guys say this, the next sentence that comes after is but she wasn't my type. Even Thought Art, our mod, said that in his thread about going out last night. Every time i've seen it on here too, but she wasn't my type. At the same token, I've seen guys say how they were attracted to a girl that was not normally their type and went for it. Not always, but subconsciously guys will like the idea and it boosts their self-esteem and make them feel good but it's not a trait that most masculine men find attractive in women. Automatically, she's not going to be your type for that reason alone, unless she's super hot or really your type, but the value still went down. I even read on here where a guy said he slept with a 9 then slept with a 10 and now the 9 looks like a 7. If a man doesn't have to work for something he finds valuable it doesn't become as valuable to him if it came too easy. It's all good when you're young and cute and teenagers are all over you and beenie bop girls are coming on to you or drunk girls or girls who are just being playful, but i'm speaking on a much higher level. It's just how we're made to survive, not just physically but to keep the species motivated to keep this reproduction thing going and the attraction process, in so many words. Study animals and it's the same kind of thing.

This is magical. I hate it sometimes when I feel bad about something, not because I don't want to be negative but a bit guilty that this is so beautiful and my petty little egoic concerns seems so trivial compared to the magnitude of what this is. I know it's a part of "this" but I wish sometimes to not have to deal with petty little human bullshit. Seems like there's always a lesson to be learnt or something to be transcended. Somehow I think us humans secretly or unconsciously love our challenges and suffering because were afraid to fully open ourselves to what we truly are and we keep playing this silly game of trivial pursuit because of boredom and we need the adrenaline rush as fuel to keep the dream alive. It's so deeply ingrained that we deny ourselves and keep looking for the next pursuit like zombies knowing damn well that it won't matter in the grand scheme of things as it won't last because we all "die" eventually and go back to where we came from which is nowhere. Then again, there's no one doing anything; its existence existing.

That girl in the black was eyeing you out and smiling real hard. Was that you she was looking at and was that one of the two that approached you?

Very nice. Sometimes when there's nowhere to go but up, this is the result. Someone else could have had the capacity to even go deeper down the hole but as the saying goes the Universe doesn't give us anything we can't handle, you were at your limit, which can be a beautiful place to be if it results in this. Unfortunately some give up and Crack, you opened up and expanded. Lovely. Nice post.

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Yes. I can see how the mind has a hard time with this and creates confusion for "itself". The egoic mind, that is. It is what creates separation in the first place and if we're not conscious enough at all times it can confuse itself and go right back into duality while trying to process and think about certain things. This is why no mind is a feat to try and accomplish for this reason and to only use it when logic and reason is needed or to accomplish certain tasks. Don't use the mind to get rid of the mind, it won't work. What is needed is to be in a certain state where the mind is silent. Is that correct.

I get it now. Not that I didn't understand this but it clears up the misnomer of calling yourself God when there is actually no you, there's only God, and as @Inliytened1said, God is you is a better term.

Hmmm, I like that. Never looked at it that way, even though I understood this; but saying it like this makes for a better understanding of the Self.

Let me explain something to you why most women don't normally approach men. Several reasons and I'll name a few. Most women are feminine (or to a certain degree), and the same way you expressed how you feel as a feminine man why you don't like to approach women is the same way they feel. Women like to feel desired and wanted and it is doesn't feel good to most feminine women and women in general to approach men because they feel it lowers their value. Do you like telemarketers ringing up your phone to try to sell you things you don't want? No. Most times you hang up the phone, even if you do it politely it's still kind of annoying because you don't want to be forced into purchasing something you don't want. Most men know what they want in a woman. They have a certain type and women would be getting turned down left and right by very secure and confident men who knows they can get have their pick if the norm was for women to approach. Men would also be fucking women they weren't attracted to just because she approached and it was an easy lay. So this dynamic is mostly a lose-lose situation. Men don't like to feel rejected but they also wouldn't want to be constantly approached by women they're not attracted to. It would only boost their ego but that wouldn't be a healthy situation either. Women's egos aren't being boosted in an unhealthy way by men constantly approaching them, men only think that. Women are feeling more desired by this which makes for a better dynamic for an intimate relationship with a man and she will become more receptive to him as a result of feeling desired which in turn makes for a more rewarding sexual encounter with her, I understand how you feel; but you have to understand that you will feel desired, needed and wanted after the initial stage of her accepting your offer for a date if she really likes you. A woman can like you and not approach you for fear of coming off too aggressive which turns off a lot of men. You say you are a feminine man and like the feeling of being approached, but you are complaining about the process. Do you complain about the processes you go through to get whatever else you want out of life? Like muscles in the gym? Do you wine and bitch to the weights and say can't you just give me muscles with one lift? No. You go out and lift your ass off, same thing with other aspects of your life. Why with women you feel it's a drag. A man WILL go after something if he wants it badly enough and he will get it. Maybe you just don't want it badly enough.

This doesn't equate to her not loving you as equally to her desire for children. You said you are glad you were authentic enough to state how you were feeling but you aren't saying her love for having children was authentic to her. Do you see the bias (if that's the word) here. She loved herself enough to break up with you because she felt she wanted kids and you said you weren't sure and you love your authentic self enough to say that to her but now you're saying her love for you wasn't stronger than her desire for kids. Neither one of you compromised; rightly so in this case because love of self is more important and in the long run would have jeopardized the relationship if one of you eased up and caved in for the other. So it is very one-sided of you to make the comment that her love for you wasn't as strong because neither was yours. Think about what I'm saying here before you come to your defense because it isn't easy to recognize this when you're in the trap.

Thank you.

It's the first thing most guys look at, women too, but for guys it's a sexual thing for women more of feeling, more emotional. Believe it or not, some people are attracted to ugly people like @bebetalk here, cant get his name to pop up, but you know, the guy who hates hot women because he can't get them to look at him. Lol

Shit. I keep dreaming. Time to wake up. Lol I guess there's no "I", if there's no us. I'm dreaming the "I" too.

Oh ok. Each of us are in our own separate dream? So, after Awakening, you're still stuck in another endless dream? Is this endless dream till we "die", then we totally awaken to the void. Is that why there are endless Awakenings.

oh ok.

Leo. Lol

Makes sense, because I know I am everything but then you are not the body didn't make sense with that. This was why a couple weeks ago I took a break from Spiritual teachings because a lot started to not make sense as I started evolving. Thanks.

You're handsome without a cockiness to it, girls love that.

You never bought a girl a drink because you don't drink?

This is actually funny to witness in real time. Hilarious as something just like going out to try and meet people is so nerve-racking for us. See everybody naked. That'll calm your nerves. Or see everybody else as nervous as you. They really don't give a shit, they're just worried about what they look like, not you. You're a handsome dude, don't be so hard on yourself, even if you weren't.