Princess Arabia

I guess there's a right way to commit murder and a wrong way to commit murder. A right way to steal and a wrong way to steal. You just made a judgement by saying that anyone who says morality is relative is saying it to be true and correct. You just went into other's psyche and made a conclusion that they believe what they have said to be correct. Your statements are also contradictory and saying there's a right and a wrong way to do something is in itself a moral contradiction. nd

I guess it's just because she has a vagina. Hmmm I guess when your wife get old, fat, has some stretch marks from child-birth and doesn't want to submit and cooperate with you because you're being a jerk, she'll get dumped for a woman with youth, beauty, physical fitness, femininity, submissiveness and cooperativeness. Sounds like love to me. Then you talk about Sheraseven who teaches women how to secure the bag. I wonder why she does that. Maybe because of statements like yours that leave the other loving women who don't have those things to the dogs. Listen sir, you cannot have your cake and eat it too. It's either you're looking for true love or a barbie doll because just the way your love is conditional, women's will be too, and at least they are looking for ways to secure themselves as opposed to some men just looking to screw hot submissive chicks. Don't hate on women the way you do because you are the ones who created this dynamic for yourselves without even realizing it and making statements as the one you stated above is proof of that and most guys will second what you said because I've seen it quite often. If women start to feel that when they get older they don't stand a chance (which is not true, btw, as it depends on how one ages and the person looking), they have no choice but to secure themselves in a way where if they get dumped for the superficial qualities you mentioned above, they won't get bitter and resentful towards their mates as much and don't have to worry as much about their security because they are not good enough anymore for their mates, because of their decline in looks. This is such hog-wash and is just a belief that doesn't carry any weight in the majority of the population in low-income/average income households where this stupid feminism shit isn't even recognized. The correlation between high-earning women eating more fatty foods and causing weight-gain in probably the most absurd thing I've ever heard in my entire life. Have you ever checked the obesity rates and notice it has nothing to do with income. If anything, it is related to poverty and the low- quality cheap foods that are available in low-income areas not excluding just about everywhere you look and available to the masses. If that's the only reason you're approaching women, then don't complain if you think women are manipulating men, because I'm sure you're not approaching these women saying "hey, i just want to have sex with you". You are engaging in manipulative tactics to get laid and using women for your sexual needs. If you say men are attracted to so and so and then turn around and say men have no other choice but to approach women, you have trapped yourself into this dynamic because you are indirectly telling those women who doesn't fit into your criteria that you're not interested in them and now you're stuck in having to approach the ones who you find to be attractive while complaining that the ones who don't fit doesn't approach. You see how you've indirectly created this dynamic. No, you're too busy finding faults and pointing out what doesn't align with your worldview in regards to dating while limiting yourself in the process. This is part of the problem right here. You are operating from a place of anger towards unsuspecting women and will be a victim to your own past circumstances and carry this over in every part of your life and make choices from this place of feeling resentment towards women if you don't eliminate this from your psyche and wipe this site clean and stop blaming women for your not-dating-getting laid past. The women of your future nor these women you had the pleasure of feeling resent and anger by were not the reasons for this nor did they have anything to do with it. When you derive pleasure from these things it will only hurt you in the long run because of the mindset you've developed and will lead to your own demise and feelings of guilt and shame from not embodying the energy of love and empathy. I will stop here, because I could go on, but reading your post tells me you have unresolved issues pertaining to dating and relationships, like so many of us do, but reiterating them doesn't help, and what is more effective is to try and develop yourself into the best lover and person you can become and to try and understand why both men and women do the things they do in their relations with other and to try and overcome these challenges with empathy and understanding instead of demonizing, criticizing and projecting your hurts and ignorance towards the opposite sex and to realize the perfection within the imperfect,

That's a Leo's quote. He made a video on that. Doesn't mean all socializing makes you stupid. Discernment is the key here and it matters what type of socializing you do. This is just a belief. People can assist in your Awakening especially your loved ones. Why? Because they are an extension of yourself and you can use your experiences with them as a mirror to analyze your own state of consciousness. Being alone doesn't do anything special to help you to Awaken or not, all it does is isolate you and can cause you to immerse yourself deeper into your own dream. Having alone time is crucial for your development and can have positive effects but to say it is better if your priority is to Awaken doesn't mean anything.

This book deals with trauma and how to find relief from it. EMDR is a powerful remedy which is also discussed in the book.

This isn't true. If anything, it's quite the opposite. Go check out the gurus. Go check out these conscious public figures. Sadhguru was married, not sure if he still is, Moojii is married, Aaron Abke (not a guru as much but still conscious) is married, Sunny Sharma is married, and I could go do a search. It's just the ordinary folk who has a problem integrating the two lifestyles and think it's best at that time in their life. Or people who got frustrated with the opposite sex. Nothing to do with level of consciousness.

There is nothing to be done. This will play itself out. Has nothing to do with high consciousness or not. Teenagers go through this all the time especially the girls. It doesn't even have anything to do with not attracting or being attracted to boys her age. Nothing to do with what any of you are associating this with. There is a cause, as with anything else, but it's hard to tell from the little we know about the situation. To the OP, my suggestion is to not worry about this to much and allow it to play itself out. The fact that you're here asking for advice for ger and on the situation tells me the teacher will not let this escalate, that is most important. She will get over it eventually, just a matter of when.

I guess you're alone here too. Why bother write anything.

You're not living as God, God is experiencing living as a human. Big difference. A cat is also God, can you live as a cat. Go ahead and try dressing as a man for a female stripper job, see how that works out. Don't conflict choices with what is.

Fendom cat. My cat loves to be slapped too, but I don't do it that hard. I can't punish her with a slap 'cause she comes back for more. Also on the same spot.

That's the key right there. You had a mental list and it checked off. You were specific. You looked for compatibility, similar to yourself. "We don't get what we want we get what we are". Some of us have heard this quote but have no idea what it means. Some of us are seeking what is not a vibrational match to ours and then we complain how we're not getting it. That's why it's important to change ourselves and become what it is you'll like to attract. The girls who are looking for the high-value man won't attract him unless they become high-value themselves and vice verse. But high- value is also relative so it depends on your version of high-value.

The part that really stood out for me (the whole thing did, but this part especially) was, quote " When the mind comes out of the Self, the world appears. Therefore, when the world appears (to be real), the Self does not appear; and when the Self appears (shines), the world does not appear". I see that in a new light than how I previously did.

It wouldn't have registered if I didn't already know this deep within. Sometimes it takes for a different wording of something to relate to us differently and to be understood from a different angle and gives us a deeper insight into this knowing. Saying something is profound doesn't insinuate that is was a surprise, those are your words. Even if it did indicate that it was a surprise, I don't think another being can tell another bring what should surprise them or not because we are all seeing Reality from our own perspectives and are interpreting it from our level of Awareness and States of Consciousness. I can read a book 10x and each time I can get something different from it that I never noticed before or understood at the same level. Calling something beginner is completely relative because a kindergarten's beginner is different from a college student's beginner stage. I will forever be learning about myself and trying to know myself and I will choose the pace at which I feel comfortable in doing that and grasp every little intricacies at the level I'm at.

Not a mistake, and it can only hurt you by you keeping it alive. You are reliving the experience again by remembering it and now you will experience others' traumas by just hearing about it. It is not personal to me so It won't affect me as it did you because you were the one experiencing the emotions as the events happened and my brain didn't take snapshot of it as yours did. I can say, though, that by reading your story it did release some chemicals within me and made me briefly think of certain incidences unrelated to yours. But because I don't dwell on them and have not identified with them as being real in the moment because of my Awareness, it's not a big deal to me. You are unaware of the body's response to emotional triggers that's why you might not think twice about doing this but it does affect it negatively somehow if not backed up by a corresponding positive emotion. The body is being constantly traumatized on a daily, weekly, monthly and yearly basis without us being aware of it that's why we tend to react to things the way we do and feel negatively towards them even if it's nothing to be worked up about; but it's the emotions that we felt from what happened that may trigger a completely different scenario that we react to and not the scene itself. So we are constantly being in these states, so why contribute to it if we don't have to. Anger, resentment, guilt, shame are all from snapshots we have put meaning to from the past and now a new event that happens to trigger those snapshots puts us in those states and it becomes a cycle.

This is very, very profound. When you read this and really grasp what it's pointing to, it can change the way one sees themselves and the world. We would have no problems if this is really understood and if we lived from this place. This is really what enlightenment is, nothing to really achieve but the recognition of what is already the case.

Isn't it enough that you're reliving your own traumatic story by keep telling it. Now you want to add others' to your memory bank. The brain doesn't know the difference between what's real and what's being imagined, so every time you tell your story the body is going through that experience over and over and over and over. The more you place that story in your Awareness, and give it light, you are reliving that experience over and over and over again. The brain will release the same chemicals that it did when the event happened and the body will contract. This is why you'll forever feel traumatized because the mind believes it's actually happening again and you will forever need to go to therapy or have them reminding you of them whenever something happens to you in life that triggers a snap shot you've stored in your memory from the incident If you keep repeating those stories instead of trying to find ways to get over them and release the stored energy in the body. Asking people to tell you of their traumatic experiences just for the hell of it will only prolong what may be necessary to help you heal. Please don't take this as being insensitive to what you've been through as it's coming from a place of love and care and having your best interest in mind. Sometimes the body can get addicted to these feelings and we tend to sabotage ourselves by seeking out ways unconsciously to be able to feel those feelings again. You do not control the body, your thoughts do, and if you have not gotten to a place yet where those events haven't been completely gotten over and you have no more trauma, you will be unaware that the body is even doing this because it has gotten so used to it and can cause you dis-ease. Sometimes others telling their story may potentially make us feel like we're not alone, but it doesn't really do any good but only reenforces the trauma.

Of, course, I would be silly to deny that. I dress to attract all the time because it's what I do for a living. But you see, my dressing to attract may not come off as dressing to attract because of what I wear and how I wear it. Believe it or not, the types of guys i'm looking to attract, doesn't require for me to dress in very revealing clothes. Sexy, yes but that could still be just wearing a pair of jeans and a nice top with some heels or boots. Or a simple dress or clothing that's not considered "slutty" as some may call it. I'm more conservatively dressed most of the times as a working girl, trying to attract, more than some of those girls partying and clubbing on the week-ends and I still get dates. Why, because I concentrate more on the face and hair. I'm very tall 5'10" and I already stand out in a crowd when I'm dressed mainly because of my height and pretty face (not bragging but been told all my life so I must be), so I don't have to dress too out there to attract. Just enough to look feminine, but you'll have to love pretty women and nice hair only because sometimes I'm very covered up and even wear jackets and coats trying to attract. I don't need those revealing clothes to do it. Plus, I can hold a good conversation to keep him interested wherever it goes. It's all mental.

Yes, but you and I know this wasn't the kind of consequences he was referring to, but I understand where you were coming from with this. It's not about dressing to attract. There are feminine clothing and there are masculine clothing. A happily married woman dressing in a short mini skirt and going out with her gfs is not trying to attract, she might just enjoys wearing mini skirts. Most of the time women dress in ways they like to dress not necessarily looking to attract anything. Men are the ones that seem to think we're always trying to attract them by the way we dress at times or even do our hair and make-up when it was just solely for the purpose of how it makes us feel. Sometimes women may dress purposefully to attract a mate, but it's not most of the time. Women's clothing is different from men's not because they were designed to necessarily attract the opposite sex but for the sole reason that women's bodies are different than men's and it's what fits and compliments her figure.

Well, i was getting ahead of myself in my imagination. I'm sure you'll handle the pace at your comfort level and are capable of not getting too much ahead of yourself on your own. You know I had to squeeze in a bit of humor there. Right attitude my Prince. Love it. Ms. Nosey hear wants to hear briefs about the trip so don't be shy. At some point, I'll be "unnosey", but at least brief me a little bit on how the trip went. I don't want these other nosey people to get too much into your love life like myself, hehe, so I'll understand when the right time comes for you to cut off on giving us information but you'll use your discretion when the time comes and when you see fit. Hope you enjoy the trip and have a blast.

Thank you.

Women don't prefer a man having high values and men of status because they lust after them. The definition of lust is to have a sexual desire for. They do it because of how secure those men could potentially make them feel. Why do men lust after attractive looking women. Nothing to do with security.

And how exactly does one dress like a slut. Is it by wearing shorts and a tank top. Wearing a mini-skirt. Wearing a short dress. Wearing a top that shows cleavage. Or is it wearing a garter belt and stockings with stilettos and just a bra. Maybe tight jeans with fashionable rips in them that shows some skin, or a sexy black or red dress that sits just above the knees or a little bit higher that shows what she naturally has and cannot be avoided by wearing that type of dress. Is wearing a bathing suit to the beach considered slutty or only if its worn other places. Is it appropriate for a hooker to dress a certain way as in very revealing clothes, but if a regular girl wears the same thing now she has to watch out for the consequences. And how exactly, sir do women not dress like sluts. Wear baggy pants and sneakers, corduroys and flannel, wear a Habib and a tablecloth, or is it what you consider to look slutty because of what society has brainwashed you with in addition to your own thoughts and beliefs about certain clothing. Why do women have to live their lives worried about how they dress because of the consequences, and I'm sure you weren't referring to indecent exposure to the point where the authorities has to get involved because of public nudity or a similiar violation of the law. What are the consequences, may I ask, is it rape, is it unwanted gawking or somewhere in between. As you're so aware of the consequences, could you enlightenment me as to when these consequences happen more often so I try to avoid going out those hours and avoid going to those places. Aww shoot, doesn't matter because I've heard of little girls getting molested without having to dress in revealing clothes and even females dressed in conservative looking clothes even in their school uniforms and pajamas. So, I guess I'd better beware of the consequences just by leaving my house, anywhere anytime, wearing whatever. Nothing in the video suggests what this girl was wearing at the time she was being looked at. It was your ideas of what you assumed she was wearing and the only consequences a woman should face by the way she dresses is if she's violating the law where she's located to the point of public disturbance not because you have a problem with it and it makes you feel some type of way on a personal level. I wonder what are the consequences men face by dressing a certain type of way. Hmmmm, i'm not sure. If he walks around with no underwear to the point where it is noticeable, are there any similar to the consequences women face according to you or if they go topless or wear tight pants, are there any similar consequences, if not why. Answer that and you'll see how ridiculous your statement is.

WoW! Nice going. I wanna come!!!!. Lol. That's lovely. I'm soooo happy for you. Seems like it happened at the right place, with the right one, at the right time. I can't wait to hear about the grandkids running around like little Buddhas. Seems like she's not only beautiful but a nice lady who likes you a lot. This is amazing!!

Welcome to the forum. Hope you have a blast.

Trippin' are we. I would say to it, please don't make me start 5 threads in one evening.