Princess Arabia

Ok, so this is what I'm saying. Just being born = suffering. Can't escape it. Goes hand in hand. It has to be that way. Designed that way. The process of cutting that cord is what birthed suffering. That's how suffering came about. Not saying the cutting of the cord, per se, but the energetic meaning behind the cutting of the cord. Separation. Pain, hurt, trauma. Inevitable, just in different degrees. It's what it means to be born. That's why we suffer, have trauma and experience hurt etcetc, Not from the contents of these mental pain but as as an effect. Is this what you're saying too.

Please don't tell me questioning = suffering. You sound like the pastor in the church that says don't question the Lords word. I will not buy into that rhetoric. I can see where attachment= suffering or wanting something to be different, but not questioning the nature of Reality. Being curious means I'm devoted and have a deep interest in learning. That's not suffering.

Thank you for this explanation. I am very curious by nature and Spirituality is something I'm still curious about and probably always will be, especially pertaining to the existential nature of existence. I want to have a deeper understanding of certain aspects, even though I recognize the power of not knowing. You explained it perfectly - the balancing of the two. It's just the same phrases people keep repeating and the same Spiritual lingo, at least you give examples and break down the language barrier a bit for a deeper understanding.

I get that. The question goes deeper than that. Suffering is a thing, right. Why is it a thing. Why do we attach to thought then this thing called suffering appears. I understand it's the way it is, but how did suffering come about where we suffer via attachment. There's an existential reason for that. Not just we suffer because of attachment to thought. Why does Consciousness suffer.

. Your ego is very fragile. You can dish it out but can't take it. You whimp and whine as soon as somebody says anything to hurt your fragile ego and call it an attack. You're just crying for help. I told you what to do. Go out into the world and take control of your life, don't give it over to women by getting upset with them for calling you a creep. If you're not a creep, it shouldn't bother you. Move on and approach some more with confidence. Plenty of women out there. Creeps attract creeps. You're not a creep so you'll be fine.

No it's not. If that's the case every guru who teaches emotional mastery that tells you how you're giving your power away and to take control back is attacking you. The sensitivity is unreal and problematic. I feel sorry for you. You have given your power away immensely and thinking you're actually doing something brave. You're not, you're just whining because you've lost your power and don't know how to regain it back. I'll tell you how. Ignore the women who call you a creep and move on to the next. Done.

I can see why you wanted to help, your website says it all. You're in the field and can spot this easily.

If you call my statement a personal attack, you don't know what it is to verbally attack someone. Saying to someone that you gave your power away without realizing it is not an attack.

I can be talking to my husband and he might say something to me which I may respond in a joking way ,"ooh, that's creepy". He will say, no it's not, you're just being too sensitive, and I may say. I'm not, its just creepy. Then we change the subject in a flowing way, go home and have crazy sex. Why should I advocate to make the word creepy taboo. I call a spider creepy.

This is how much power women have over him, power he gave away without realizing it. It will forever haunt him.

If you really made the rules, you wouldn't be concerned about anything then. You think lawmakers in Congress worrying about civilians when they're making rules. No, they just make them with keeping certain things in mind, but they don't go around recruiting other Congressmen saying we are out-numbered and have to up our game. They just fucking make the rules. Why don't you just go make some dating rules in the real world instead of just talking about making rules. So how well that works for ya.

You go creep. Love it. Now go and show the world what a creep is. Now you know what it feels like when men call women sluts and whores just for sleeping with them. For having the same body count as them or less, for liking a dude and sleeping with him on the first date, while he gets called a player and how much he scored and he's the man. Women call men creeps and men call women sluts. Perfect trade-off. But whose hurting more. At least sluts and whores can get paid, where is this going to land you. On a forum talking about how women called you a creep and needing revenge. Your revenge is to act like a creep, a slut's is to be with the creep and get paid.

No one is suffering. One only appears to suffer.

Yeah, the only reason we suffer our thoughts is because we give them life and believe in them. See them as passing clouds and only entertain the ones we feel good about.

Awareness. Observing the bully mind. If I was to tell you half of the stuff your bully mind tells you, you would hate me, but you listen to the bully mind. Not just that, you obey it. It's your master. You believe it. It's not just neurotic and unhealthy, it's downright insanity. Pretend it's me actually saying these things to you and see how it feels: You're an idiot. You're not good enough to sustain a relationship. You mess up everything you lay your hands on. You're lazy. You can't get anything in your life right. You're such a fucking moron. Girls see you as a loser. You can't even stick to what you say you're going to do because you suck at life. I mean, you would curse me out and probably use the ignore button, if everyday I kept saying these things to you. Feel free to insert your own words here, I'm just giving examples. Now imagine these are the same things your own mind is saying to you repeatedly. Everyday for a month straight. Would you push the ignore button. Would you tell it it doesn't know what it's saying....no.....you believe it, you entertain it. The mind is having a hell of a party with you being the lovely entertainer. But you would ignore me. And probably report me. But with the mind you accept it to the point where you don't know what to do, you're asking for advice. Now who's the maniac here, you or the mind. Lose the mind and gain your senses. Leave the mind alone. Mind your mind. Use the mind, don't let it use you. You have made the mind your master and turned your heart into your servant. Do the opposite. For every negative thought that pops up, follow up with a positive one, and keep doing that over and over and over and over and over again. That's how you train the mind to be your servant. Your thought patterns will eventually change on it's own through repetition. Doesn't even have to be replaced with a positive thought, just a thought that you would like to entertain.

Love the way you phrased this. Such eloquence.

@EmotionalmosquitoToo many rebuttals. I can't handle. I tried.

Guys, my heart is open again for a relationship and you're not helping. Hehe. Don't need the help anyway, cause I'm my own person.

Well, if peace in a relationship is boring, give me boring please. I've had exciting relationships without the drama before. It's because people don't know how to be exciting with each other, so they feel bored if they aren't arguing. The point of the thread though, is the constant putting down of each of the sexes by the opposite sex. Not necessarily in relationships. Like the different pills and sits and isms.

Ok. I understand, maybe that's why I'm single. I don't want to be battling with my loved one. I was in both and the loving one felt much less stressful. I'm not really referring to normal day-to-day disagreements that couples have; every couple has challenges, I'm more referring to the differences we have that are not accepted by either sex or the slurs we use for them as in women are shallow and men are pigs. Amongst others.

Bottomline, YOU CANNOT WALK DOWN THE STREET STARING AT PEOPLES CROTCH without expecting negative feedback. The End.

Scary and creepy could mean two different things. Scary as in a man in the elevator looking all serious with a briefcase in his hand wearing a fur coat and people saying hi to him and he doesn't respond. That's scary. A guy in the elevator sticking his tongue out at me and grabbing his crotch, that's creepy. I'm sure those people you're talking about that you say they say when someone is black, they're scary surely not talking about Oprah or Denzel or Obama.

You know this is not what he meant. It's so obvious. Why would it be bad to look at someone's crotch you're about to sleep with or in a bedroom with. Your arguments are so way off.

Are you calling black people creeps. Seems like it; to associate calling someone a creep is like saying the N-word. Black people call each other the N-word all the time.

Why do you like to pick the pieces out that serves your agenda. I wrote a response with about 3 paragraphs making suggestions. It is more common for kisses and hugs to be a request than for family pictures and pictures of inside your home. As long as you're not forceful. Since all my years of living, I've never been asked for those kinds of pics from a man, but i've had countless requests for kisses and hugs, and i'm sure that's the case with most women. I also said the least she could say is no. I'm not going to argue with you anymore in this thread - I did enough of that already here, I just wanted to point something out to you.