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I get that. The question goes deeper than that. Suffering is a thing, right. Why is it a thing. Why do we attach to thought then this thing called suffering appears. I understand it's the way it is, but how did suffering come about where we suffer via attachment. There's an existential reason for that. Not just we suffer because of attachment to thought. Why does Consciousness suffer.

. Your ego is very fragile. You can dish it out but can't take it. You whimp and whine as soon as somebody says anything to hurt your fragile ego and call it an attack. You're just crying for help. I told you what to do. Go out into the world and take control of your life, don't give it over to women by getting upset with them for calling you a creep. If you're not a creep, it shouldn't bother you. Move on and approach some more with confidence. Plenty of women out there. Creeps attract creeps. You're not a creep so you'll be fine.

No it's not. If that's the case every guru who teaches emotional mastery that tells you how you're giving your power away and to take control back is attacking you. The sensitivity is unreal and problematic. I feel sorry for you. You have given your power away immensely and thinking you're actually doing something brave. You're not, you're just whining because you've lost your power and don't know how to regain it back. I'll tell you how. Ignore the women who call you a creep and move on to the next. Done.

I can see why you wanted to help, your website says it all. You're in the field and can spot this easily.

If you call my statement a personal attack, you don't know what it is to verbally attack someone. Saying to someone that you gave your power away without realizing it is not an attack.

I can be talking to my husband and he might say something to me which I may respond in a joking way ,"ooh, that's creepy". He will say, no it's not, you're just being too sensitive, and I may say. I'm not, its just creepy. Then we change the subject in a flowing way, go home and have crazy sex. Why should I advocate to make the word creepy taboo. I call a spider creepy.

This is how much power women have over him, power he gave away without realizing it. It will forever haunt him.

If you really made the rules, you wouldn't be concerned about anything then. You think lawmakers in Congress worrying about civilians when they're making rules. No, they just make them with keeping certain things in mind, but they don't go around recruiting other Congressmen saying we are out-numbered and have to up our game. They just fucking make the rules. Why don't you just go make some dating rules in the real world instead of just talking about making rules. So how well that works for ya.

You go creep. Love it. Now go and show the world what a creep is. Now you know what it feels like when men call women sluts and whores just for sleeping with them. For having the same body count as them or less, for liking a dude and sleeping with him on the first date, while he gets called a player and how much he scored and he's the man. Women call men creeps and men call women sluts. Perfect trade-off. But whose hurting more. At least sluts and whores can get paid, where is this going to land you. On a forum talking about how women called you a creep and needing revenge. Your revenge is to act like a creep, a slut's is to be with the creep and get paid.

No one is suffering. One only appears to suffer.

Yeah, the only reason we suffer our thoughts is because we give them life and believe in them. See them as passing clouds and only entertain the ones we feel good about.

Awareness. Observing the bully mind. If I was to tell you half of the stuff your bully mind tells you, you would hate me, but you listen to the bully mind. Not just that, you obey it. It's your master. You believe it. It's not just neurotic and unhealthy, it's downright insanity. Pretend it's me actually saying these things to you and see how it feels: You're an idiot. You're not good enough to sustain a relationship. You mess up everything you lay your hands on. You're lazy. You can't get anything in your life right. You're such a fucking moron. Girls see you as a loser. You can't even stick to what you say you're going to do because you suck at life. I mean, you would curse me out and probably use the ignore button, if everyday I kept saying these things to you. Feel free to insert your own words here, I'm just giving examples. Now imagine these are the same things your own mind is saying to you repeatedly. Everyday for a month straight. Would you push the ignore button. Would you tell it it doesn't know what it's saying....no.....you believe it, you entertain it. The mind is having a hell of a party with you being the lovely entertainer. But you would ignore me. And probably report me. But with the mind you accept it to the point where you don't know what to do, you're asking for advice. Now who's the maniac here, you or the mind. Lose the mind and gain your senses. Leave the mind alone. Mind your mind. Use the mind, don't let it use you. You have made the mind your master and turned your heart into your servant. Do the opposite. For every negative thought that pops up, follow up with a positive one, and keep doing that over and over and over and over and over again. That's how you train the mind to be your servant. Your thought patterns will eventually change on it's own through repetition. Doesn't even have to be replaced with a positive thought, just a thought that you would like to entertain.

Love the way you phrased this. Such eloquence.

@EmotionalmosquitoToo many rebuttals. I can't handle. I tried.

Guys, my heart is open again for a relationship and you're not helping. Hehe. Don't need the help anyway, cause I'm my own person.

Well, if peace in a relationship is boring, give me boring please. I've had exciting relationships without the drama before. It's because people don't know how to be exciting with each other, so they feel bored if they aren't arguing. The point of the thread though, is the constant putting down of each of the sexes by the opposite sex. Not necessarily in relationships. Like the different pills and sits and isms.

Ok. I understand, maybe that's why I'm single. I don't want to be battling with my loved one. I was in both and the loving one felt much less stressful. I'm not really referring to normal day-to-day disagreements that couples have; every couple has challenges, I'm more referring to the differences we have that are not accepted by either sex or the slurs we use for them as in women are shallow and men are pigs. Amongst others.

Bottomline, YOU CANNOT WALK DOWN THE STREET STARING AT PEOPLES CROTCH without expecting negative feedback. The End.

Scary and creepy could mean two different things. Scary as in a man in the elevator looking all serious with a briefcase in his hand wearing a fur coat and people saying hi to him and he doesn't respond. That's scary. A guy in the elevator sticking his tongue out at me and grabbing his crotch, that's creepy. I'm sure those people you're talking about that you say they say when someone is black, they're scary surely not talking about Oprah or Denzel or Obama.

You know this is not what he meant. It's so obvious. Why would it be bad to look at someone's crotch you're about to sleep with or in a bedroom with. Your arguments are so way off.

Are you calling black people creeps. Seems like it; to associate calling someone a creep is like saying the N-word. Black people call each other the N-word all the time.

Why do you like to pick the pieces out that serves your agenda. I wrote a response with about 3 paragraphs making suggestions. It is more common for kisses and hugs to be a request than for family pictures and pictures of inside your home. As long as you're not forceful. Since all my years of living, I've never been asked for those kinds of pics from a man, but i've had countless requests for kisses and hugs, and i'm sure that's the case with most women. I also said the least she could say is no. I'm not going to argue with you anymore in this thread - I did enough of that already here, I just wanted to point something out to you.

This is why you have no merit. I went back through this thread and saw multiple responses suggesting what to do instead, including my own. I stopped at the second or third page. I saw enough. 'Also except for a video entitled creep, I didn't see where he was either called a creep or was demonized.

LOOKS ARE IMPORTANT. Let's get that out the way. But.....drum roll please.....women view looks differently than men do. Both equate to how that look makes them feel. Men see physical beauty in a woman, they like the hair, the body, the facial structure, whatever physical attributes you like, men see that first and that still equates to how that makes them feel. The rest comes later. Women, on the other hand, sees looks as how can this guy with his kind of look make me feel. They look for looks alright, but it's with an internal radar. A radar that can tell what kind of look comes with a particular personality and how that fits into what she's looking for at that time in her life. That's why, for a woman, her "looks preference" changes depending on what she is (LOOK)ING for. If she's just looking for a good time, then she (look)s for the type of guy with that particular look and scans him with her built in 'look's radar'. That's what's physically attractive to her in the moment. Player, player. If she's looking to settle down and for a long-term relationship, same thing; her attractor radar scans for the type of guy she THINKS is ready for that. If she's looking for marriage same thing, fat or not, short or not skinny or muscular or not. These play a minor role so I won't entirely dismiss it, but its not the major thing. If she's looking to be pampered and treated like a queen or spoilt, then she scans for that target. That will be the simple-looking guy who just wears simple but expensive clothes that doesn't stand out, maybe an expensive watch or shoes but still not flashy, the simplier the better without looking cheap. If her subconscious seeks out patterns from her childhood that makes her gravitate towards toxic men who will abuse her (she's unaware of this), she will scan for those by their looks and believe me she can tell just by his looks, but of course it's not all. If she seeks someone she can mother around or try to dominate or boss around, then, guess what, the type of guy with muscles and 6'6 ain't gonna be her type, no matter how gorgeous he is. He won't be attractive to her, You get the drift. So when you see attractive girls with average looking guys it's because of this reason. How does that type of guy fits into her agenda and views and also the stage she's at in life and how he makes her feel. Women don't usually go for men because they just want to get laid, they go for what type of feeling they want to feel; and even if they do just want to get laid, it's because she thinks she'll feel a certain way by doing it that has nothing to do with his dick, and whatever guy that can satisfy that feeling is who will score with her. Not just how physically attractive he is by societal standards, but by her standards. That's why it can baffle men so much when they see certain types of men with certain types of women. THIS IS WHY. Every circumstance, situation and person can be excluded with this dynamic and it is just a generalization and there are exceptions to every rule, but this is a pretty much accurate description of what looks look like to most women. It's internal, that's why we're so emotional and intuitive. All your trying to look attractive on the outside isn't doing anything much if she's not attracted to your inside, whatever that may be, and is not subjected to anything in particular and also includes toxicity. This is why your ugly buddy get's laid more than you do. Or the chump that's 5'5.

If he was just a regular guy off the street with that same look, he would have problems. But his status did the trick. There are no mistakes in the Universe. Men are providers. In order to provide you need to have something to provide. In order to be a container for provision, you need incentive. Tadaah! That's where women come in. We provide the incentive for men to go make something of themselves in order to be able to provide and protect their families. So that's why status becomes a value for women, whether they directly benefit from it or not. Our physical appearance is the incentive men need however that looks like to suit his desires.