Princess Arabia

I can sense and feel this in you. I felt the trembling in your typing voice as you wrote this. That's how sensitive I am. You probably grapple with this issue more than women because of your sensitive nature and your genuine love for women. It breaks your heart to see this happen to them and you're trying your very best to help the best way you know how, but it gets frustrating because you can only do so much. I get it.

Yes, there are sexual fetishes of the sort and rape fantasies that people play out. Not the same as the actual thing, and I don't see anything wrong with playing out those fantasies if consensual and no one gets hurt unwillingly.

Exactly. Some caveats to explore here, but definitely on the right track, imo.

What a shame if that's what it takes. I highly doubt how one dresses matters to a "real" rapist.

I don't have a problem finding "high consciousness" stuff on social media. In fact, I'm bombarded with them. It's as if the Universe is sending me more of what I'm focused on. I have to unplug sometimes. I go searching for the other stuff, the good stuff finds me.

Yes, without getting into the details, they usually have certain traits. Single, sex addicts, loves porn etc etc, but not subjected to.

You'd be surprised how many "normal" guys have this mentality. Not saying they'll actually go out and rape, but they don't enjoy it when the woman is enjoying it. They'll take it either way, but they're not turned off if she's hurting or seems disinterested or seems to not be enjoying it, matter of fact some get turned off if she's actually genuinely enjoying it. Guys of a good caliber don't realize how much of a precious gem they are, including yourself as I can sense from you.

You're right, BDSM is not about sex. Most of these people into this stuff don't crave sexual intercourse.

That's not true. But I won't go there. Makes no sense.

Oh yes, sure. I wasn't insinuating that to like it rough you're sexually unhealthy. I was just saying it could be coming from an unhealthy place (for some). There are times when I myself like it rough and other times I don't and that was just purely based off of the time of day, who I'm with and how I was feeling at the time and not some unhealthy sexual traumatized being.

Yes, as a woman, I have felt the disinterest when I was willing VS the excitement from when I was not. Don't tell me I'm a woman and cannot understand certain things (not you, just saying). No I don't know what an erection feels like but I can surely tell you what sexual violation feels like without being raped. And I can also tell you that some men get off more than when a woman is not willing VS being willing. Being willing turns off the rapist mindset.

Yeah, but you don't actually know if these urges are coming from a healthy space. Maybe the reason a man likes to have dominant sex and so called "fuck the shit" out of a women is because he has unhealthy thoughts about women and the same can apply to women who enjoys getting fucked the shit out of, even if its consensual.

You don't have a rapist mindset so it's hard to understand this. These men are getting off on the control aspect. It's the most powerful way to violate someone. They are able to get hard that way. How many times even on this forum you've seen guys say they weren't attracted but they'll sleep with her anyway.

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Most of you who find it hard to see how it's not necessarily sex related is because you don't have that mindset. You're not rapists. You can't fathom why someone would rape another, if it wasn't out of sexual frustration. It's hard for you to imagine otherwise.

Yes, this is what I've been saying throughout the thread and to be told I'm not a man by @Karmadhiand that I don't understand the males sexual frustration is just another example of power and control. Trying to undermine my perspective based only on gender. Smh.

I'm just saying as a general. If it was just the lack of a vagina, there's plenty of places to fulfill that need without rape.

It's hard to really put in words; but as an empath that absorbs the energy around me easily I can sense a lot by just feeling. Doesn't necessarily mean he's aggressive. No not at all. He probably won't be very submissive, but not necessarily aggressive. It's in his style and manner and how he is afterwards. Not saying all, and that I'm completely correct, as it's just a feeling I'm going off. I don't condemn from feelings.

If this were the case prostitutes would be catering to would be rapists left and right. Why would a man that just craves pussy just doesnt go out to a pro instead of raping.

This is what I'm talking about. This belief. It just doesn't get reported as much. What about Bill Cosby and the infamous Donald and so many more accused of sexual mis conduct. It's not about caliber, it's a mindset.

I can tell, just from having sex with a man, if he has the potential for rape or not. It's in his energy.

I can't seem to get through to these people that it's not about the lack of sex, the less powerful.....it's still about power but a different kind of power.

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Most criminals don't not commit their crimes because of fear of being incarcerated. A true rapist isn't thinking all this through. The urge is stronger than the consequences. Has nothing to do with morals.

I was waiting for this to come up. I'm not intimidated by this statement. It's just a way of trying to silence the female voice on these matters. I don't have to be a guy to know or understand why people rape. Your arguments are lame and only shows ignorance on your part.