Princess Arabia

👍Same here.

This, to me, is not what leadership in a man is. Not for a female to "follow' as in not have a life of her own, no opinions, no choices, seems like a slave to me. What you have described is some pill ideology that has been misunderstood and not understood in the proper context of the leadership role of the masculine. It doesn't mean the man do and be as he pleases and the female has to decide if she wants to get on board and follow. That seems to be a dominant/submissive dynamic and that's not what the healthy version of this dynamic was intended to mean unless both are just into dominant/submissive role play. Problem with this part of the "leadership role" (teaching), is it gets misconstrued into thinking a man should put a collar on a woman and lead her around like a dog. No. What it means, from my understanding and what a man's leadership means to me, is to be in control of the direction in which the relationship goes. Meaning, (1) if you want it long-term then take charge in trying to accomplish that and do whatever it takes to secure that. (2) Make sure to secure a safe place for both of you where the female gets so comfortable in your decision-makings that she feels at ease with you in that department where she relaxes and allows the male to take charge in certain things that comes with the masculine energy. (3) He has the container for when there needs to be important changes, he is ready and on stand-by mode to make those changes without things falling apart because he has the leadership skills to maneuver a relationship on demand without having to put the burden on her or put a strain on the relationship. In the initial dating phase of just getting to know her, he takes the lead in calling/texting her for dates/interactions/engagements. He allows her to suggests the venue/activities she prefers (quickly) so she can choose a place she's comfortable with - notice I said allows her (that's also leadership). "Quickly", so a gap isn't there for her to wonder about this part of the interaction and to feel comfortable knowing she can choose the place without seeming too aggressive or demanding. He sets the pace for how fast or slow the interactions are as long as she shows genuine interest in him and so she doesn't come off as pushy, masculine, needy and gives him the space he needs but to make herself reasonably available to him when and if the time comes without the need for playing hard-to-get games. I could list a few more, but its not about moving her around at a bar, telling her where to go on the date and having her follow you around on a leash.

To me, the best way is for both to be independently who they are without needing to change the fundamentals for the other person and then try to merge the similarities and accept the differences as long as the overall relationship is a match and both are happy with each other. E.g. I'm me and you're you. I like you and you like me. We both enjoy certain things similar and we do a lot of those together. Somethings you like and I don't, and vice versa. No problem. You do you, I do me while still having fun together and still enjoying our relationship when we're doing our separate things. She doesn't have to fit into your agenda and you don't have to change to fit into hers. This only works if you're really into each other for each others' sake and not what the other can give you. Good luck finding this dynamic. This is what I think would be the best kind of man/woman relationship. Marriage will be the same with a bit more nuances because that's more serious and living together requires for both to compromise a lot more but the outline pretty much the same where both are free to express however they want and at the same time enjoy the differences and similarities as long as basic respect and love is there.

On point.

Well said. That's your strategy and you're sticking to it. In the end, it's whatever works.

You do draw a lot of assumptions. That's my assumption, so I'm not saying that's exactly what you're doing, just seems that way. Reason being, I don't think nor have ever said, I got anything, there's nothing left to be done, I've arrived anywhere and nothing left to explore. These are all words from you and I've never said any of this. I get impressions can be arrived at, but to have this many impressions, to me, and this is also an impression and assumption on my part, that you're grouping me into a category that tend to have these beliefs after recognizing the illusion without any real basis from anything I've actually said for you to come to those assumptions. You'll agree most of what I've said is the case but then the rest are all just your own assumptions and impressions; and to me, they are not based on anything i've actually said but your interpretations and impressions on the meanings. Youve even went on to talk about Buddhist notions as if categorizing me into that belief system when I know nothing about Buddhism. Another thing you're not taking into consideration is that not everyone has the same goal, on the same path nor seek the same things. So, it's up to the individual to decide for themselves which road to take and when and what they think is enough to satisfy their curiosity or when they believe there's nothing more to seek. Please don't assume anything here and just take these words for what they are without thinking I'm speaking about anyone in particular, even myself, or that I'm saying there's nothing more to seek or do. In my book, there's nothing else worthwhile to do in life but to explore this fantastic and marvelous thing called life in every aspect possible; but without the need to know anything. For me, it's a joy and pleasure to do these thing; not trying to get somewhere because I'm trying to gain something but for the art of exploring where I see fit and to my liking.

You're making assumptions. I never said anything about discarding everything that's happening because "it doesn't matter anyway". You have put "words in my mouth". You have interpreted what I've said as my being above the illusion. If my head gets cracked upside the head, that won't be an illusion to me and i don't live my life bypassing the dual nature of existence and it's relative nature. It's all normal and back to reality - so to speak. Why is it when one speaks about this stuff it's assumed they feel they are above anything. It's just a discussion on a particular topic. Nothing mentioned here about how one lives. Even the so-called enlightened beings chop wood and carry water. Life goes on and everything matters on the relative level. No point in discussing the Absolute if it's going to lead to assumptions of one's personal way of living and how they see the world. Two different topics. The difference is that certain things do fall away energetically and the individual can become less neurotic and delusional.

Put your channel link in your signature.

What this thread is missing is that we fail to understand that it's not so much what persona the guy has. Whether he's nice, charming, narcissistic, kind, charismatic, asshole...insert whichever word you choose is not as relevant, but how it's received. How is this character perceived. We all have different traits and personality types, but not everybody is for everybody. Doesn't matter if the nice guy has "bad" traits and if the "bad" guy has good traits, who is on the receiving end of that is what counts. Talking all about the guy and what is a nice balance and all you're saying is great, and I do see your point; but there is such a wide variety of women on the receiving end and women are not just looking for a specific personality type, they like to be protected and provided for and feel loved and cherished by their partner. Nobody really knows what a person is like before interaction. All this nice guy/bad boy stuff and a balance between the two can fly out the window with women if you have just one great quality about you that she just can't resist or is so overwhelmed by. That could be the way you treat her kids, could be the way you talk to her mother, could be the way you smell, could be the extra way you care for her.....whatever it is. Women will work with any time of man if she can detect one thing that she just cannot resist and is extremely "floored" by. This is why we are surprised sometimes by certain "women's pick" and can't understand how he "got her". It's that one thing that's she rarely sees in any other man and how it makes her feel whether it's a good or bad trait, doesn't matter. They probably like the bad boys because they feel they're the ones to protect but want the nice guy because he's the one to provide and want the criminal because he's the one they can reform.

You say the error lies in the inconspicuous words "just" and "simply"; why are you not seeing the meaning of the whole instead of "just" picking on a few words that can be removed and the meaning still remains the same. Language is dualistic. The meaning of what one is pointing to is the key, unless it is so way off. The difference in the "just and illusion" and "divine illusion" is just a matter of the adjectives describing the illusion and does not change the narrative of the sentence. Still an illusion. I could have said " a piece of shit illusion", still an illusion. They are "simply just" words. How's that for a double whammy.

Yes, I'm familiar with her but haven't watched her in a while. I stopped watching these kinds of videos for a while for clarity and to just rest my brain from all this stuff. But, yeah, she's the real deal, I think, and I love her energy. I've definitely seen the shift in myself around all this so I could relate to what she was saying. I'm still working on my subconscious, though, from all those limiting beliefs so this was refreshing to hear. It's amazing the stuff that I've experienced and seen with my own eyes how this stuff works, it's like magic.

This looks so good. I think I'll make it tonight. If I do, ill share a pic. Yum, yum.

Title is misleading. Good video.

Nobody does. It can't be known. It's unknowable. There's nothing to know. It's Everything. What can get any simpler than that. You saying what you said here is also the Absolute. It's right here right now and nowhere simultaneously. This is not a contest. There are no Gurus, no teachers, no enlightened beings, no awareness no consciousness, no I AM, no individuals, no nothing. Nothing is happening and it is just one puff. Zilch nada. Nothing. Only appearances, stories, dreams, illusions, beliefs, concepts, ideas, parrots talking and birds chirping, apparently. Now, let's get back to our reality that has no ground, no point of reference, no source, no boundaries, no substance, no meaning, no purpose, just pure emptiness filled with lovely trees, gardens, animals, people and mountains until there's none. Time and space and the world disappears when you fall asleep and that's the Absolute for you, Absolutely nothing, but now it's everything and some, so let's enjoy while it lasts.

My "Spiritual practices" includes observation. I'm constantly observing that mind. My practices are day-to-day, 24/7, except when I'm sleeping. I've become aware of a lot of things just by being constantly aware and vigilant in my experiences. Didn't realize how deceptive the mind was before this. I'm constantly seeing this and I can also spot it in others. It's brutal.

I vote to give our secretary a raise. Good job, as usual. Your mind is an excellent filing cabinet, it's probably overactive, though because of this. You probably don't forget too much and remember everything that has ever happened to you, which can bring on depression to a mind like that. Just my analysis. Not necessarily the case.

That's painful to hear. I have to implement the "no other option" scenario with that.

Like you said, magical.

What about ants and cockroaches and beetles. Humanity is only divine art to the mind. It's all divine art or none is divine art. Humanity's ego is what's divine art; exquisitely invented to make statements like these to feel special from the rest. That's what's invented. The rest is just appearing. Nothing has been invented but human shitting themselves. The appearance is exquisite and marvelous and a sight to see and imagine, yeah. Humans created divinity. All will disagree but it's just what it is. Nothing wrong with that but the Absolute doesn't see divinity neither does a cat.

Yeah, sometimes that can be curative. Funny how the mind works.

I see. Yeah I can understand that. Takes massive mind training though, but doable.

Do you know how many times I caught the mind going left to Timbuktu and I had to bring it back. Sometimes even just a minute later it started going there again. The trick is to keep bringing it back and bringing it back and bringing it back, till it gets tired and weary of not getting that kind of attention, the thought that is.

I guess that's where the physical pain comes in. Hehe the shit that never came to pass. Funny.

You just hit the nail on the head right here. Nothing more needs to be said about suffering. I've come to this recognition a while back and it's amazing how short-lived the suffering got and how I realized the mind was doing it. The key is to bring it back to the present and recognize what is happening then. Most times you're just sitting on a couch or washing dishes. Where is the suffering in that. Half the shit i was worried about never even came to pass. Physical pain is a different story.

This is just another discussion and topic. Can't discuss it all at one time. If you'd prefer when I say what I say, I can also add "BUT" to the mix and explain away all you just did. This is why sometimes I see no point in discussing anything on the top level because it always comes back down to the dream/relative/dual level and then the "scare tactic warnings" begin. Don't know about you, but your mind can keep telling itself that it's in a prison. I don't have to engage with those scare tactics that the mind likes to present. I understand this level, but it's all relative and the mind sees it in many different ways since it's just stories and dreams. Mine sees it as just what it is; and whatever appears to happen, happens and I will respond the best I know how to the situation at hand and when I find it going off in lala land about fearful stuff that's not present, I bring it back to the light of awareness in the dream and it just chills. That's it. It's not that complicated and both worlds exist in the same sphere.