Princess Arabia

You're right, BDSM is not about sex. Most of these people into this stuff don't crave sexual intercourse.

That's not true. But I won't go there. Makes no sense.

Oh yes, sure. I wasn't insinuating that to like it rough you're sexually unhealthy. I was just saying it could be coming from an unhealthy place (for some). There are times when I myself like it rough and other times I don't and that was just purely based off of the time of day, who I'm with and how I was feeling at the time and not some unhealthy sexual traumatized being.

Yes, as a woman, I have felt the disinterest when I was willing VS the excitement from when I was not. Don't tell me I'm a woman and cannot understand certain things (not you, just saying). No I don't know what an erection feels like but I can surely tell you what sexual violation feels like without being raped. And I can also tell you that some men get off more than when a woman is not willing VS being willing. Being willing turns off the rapist mindset.

Yeah, but you don't actually know if these urges are coming from a healthy space. Maybe the reason a man likes to have dominant sex and so called "fuck the shit" out of a women is because he has unhealthy thoughts about women and the same can apply to women who enjoys getting fucked the shit out of, even if its consensual.

You don't have a rapist mindset so it's hard to understand this. These men are getting off on the control aspect. It's the most powerful way to violate someone. They are able to get hard that way. How many times even on this forum you've seen guys say they weren't attracted but they'll sleep with her anyway.

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Most of you who find it hard to see how it's not necessarily sex related is because you don't have that mindset. You're not rapists. You can't fathom why someone would rape another, if it wasn't out of sexual frustration. It's hard for you to imagine otherwise.

Yes, this is what I've been saying throughout the thread and to be told I'm not a man by @Karmadhiand that I don't understand the males sexual frustration is just another example of power and control. Trying to undermine my perspective based only on gender. Smh.

I'm just saying as a general. If it was just the lack of a vagina, there's plenty of places to fulfill that need without rape.

It's hard to really put in words; but as an empath that absorbs the energy around me easily I can sense a lot by just feeling. Doesn't necessarily mean he's aggressive. No not at all. He probably won't be very submissive, but not necessarily aggressive. It's in his style and manner and how he is afterwards. Not saying all, and that I'm completely correct, as it's just a feeling I'm going off. I don't condemn from feelings.

If this were the case prostitutes would be catering to would be rapists left and right. Why would a man that just craves pussy just doesnt go out to a pro instead of raping.

This is what I'm talking about. This belief. It just doesn't get reported as much. What about Bill Cosby and the infamous Donald and so many more accused of sexual mis conduct. It's not about caliber, it's a mindset.

I can tell, just from having sex with a man, if he has the potential for rape or not. It's in his energy.

I can't seem to get through to these people that it's not about the lack of sex, the less powerful.....it's still about power but a different kind of power.

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Most criminals don't not commit their crimes because of fear of being incarcerated. A true rapist isn't thinking all this through. The urge is stronger than the consequences. Has nothing to do with morals.

I was waiting for this to come up. I'm not intimidated by this statement. It's just a way of trying to silence the female voice on these matters. I don't have to be a guy to know or understand why people rape. Your arguments are lame and only shows ignorance on your part.

There's probably 100 men right now in a particular town who are sexually frustrated another 200 that crave sex and not getting any, but not one of them is a rapist. There's probably one rapist in that same town, married with kids and can get pussy anytime he wants. Don't be fooled guys, there's a difference between a rape fantasy, and actually going out and committing the act. Or even thinking about rape from frustration and anger and actually doing it. One doesn't become a rapist by just thinking about it. Many people think about it. Just like you might think about robbing a bank when you're broke, but never actually doing it.

What I'm saying is, if one doesn't have the other attributes that leads to rape, they're not going to likely commit the act from mere sexual frustration or the fact that they crave sex. A person doesn't become a rapist out of sexual frustration. They can be sexually frustrated, but it's not the underlying reason. It's these kinds of belief systems that sometimes make these perpetrators feel justifiable in committing their acts or simplify the act of rape and boil it down to a mere matter of sexual frustration. There are men turning down pussy just so they can derive pleasure from the one that was harder to get or that they had to manipulate their way into getting. It's a type of mindset, guys. I'm not saying that rapists don't get sexually frustrated.....but it's not why they rape.

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THERE'S NO POINT THERE. Rape is not about sex.

If one doesn't already have a rapist mentality no amount of sexual frustration or craving sex will lead one to actually go out and commit rape.

It pains me to see this statement.

Yeah, you're right. It's important to note also that in the mind of a rapists, seeing prostitutes is the last thing on their mind because they don't really get that same satisfaction. It's about power and with a pro, there's no power there, in fact she's the one with the power in that instant. So a real rapist isn't interested in prostitutes, that's usually where the serial killers come in. There are different categories to this shit. It's amazing how it works. That's why they have people that study these minds. It rings deeper than some mere sexual frustration. My cat gets sexually frustrated.