Princess Arabia

Thank you for this. I didn't stress on the safety issue because I didn't want this to be about fear and distrust. It is a major concern, though, and most times, especially if it's on the street us ladies have to be cautious of who we even smile at or say hi to. Most guys don't think about this because they really don't have this problem as much except to be drugged and robbed and that's not very common and usually in high-risk circumstances.

You're telling me about the one who is original. I'm not looking for an original man. I'm not even looking for one that looks beyond the body because I want him to be sexually attracted to me, just sees it as an accompaniment, not separate than - meaning, " oh, and her personality is great too". Not that, sees the whole package. I also don't need for a man to intrigue me. I'm not looking to adore or be "wowed" and to idolize. You are still projecting your beliefs unto what you think I want or desire in a man. Nothing in my post suggested any particular trait or what it is I'm looking for. All I did was expressed how it's not easy for us sometimes and that us ladies are also finding it challenging. You keep telling me what I want in a man and telling me how I don't know you and misunderstand you, when it seems to be the other way around. Please read my post again, to see how this is not about what I'm looking for in a man but that we are also having trouble be cause of how we date.

No, I'm looking for compatibility. One that complements my character. I don't need an original or one that stands out from the crowd. Even this right here shows how we're being misunderstood. I'm not doing a model search where they need to stand out from the crowd. Standing out from the crowd means you've already assessed the crowd to not be your type and he needs to stand out from the rest. Nothing in my post suggests that most guys just aren't my type. What I'm saying is, we have to do more than just look at a body to know this and it takes time and energy to realize if he is or not. Please don't project your existing beliefs unto what I'm trying to portray here and try to read and understand what I am saying VS what you think I'm trying to say. My post is pretty lengthy for this reason, so I could make myself clear on my position, plus I don't need a guy to have game.

I'm not referring to this. I'm not speaking about how others are being perceived by onlookers. I'm speaking about romantic relationships. Maybe be clear on what type of relationships you're referring to or just generally speaking. Also, not showing respect to someone who shows love to themselves isn't a bug it's a feature because on the flip side what you're seeing is a case of how you react to that. How does that make you feel and does it diminish how you feel about yourself. You will double down on your self worth if their disrespect and jealousy doesn't change how you feel about yourself and you understand that it's about them not you. Idk, I don't look to be loved, I look to be love. Sorry if my words sound woo woo and all but I cannot change who I am and my way of thinking and being is being reflected in my writings and it's just what's coming out.

Yes, I'm not speaking about non-duality. If we love ourselves, we will see others love us back in proportion to that. We cannot expect from others what we haven't given to ourselves.

If we love ourselves. We only get from people how we see ourselves.

Exactly.

Don't care about tik tok and social media dating stories. Nothing new under the sun. Just more publicized because of social media and our obsession with it. Watching that stuff and focusing on those types stuff does nothing but embed in our brains what we think the world is like, when in fact; successful, great quality, and happy relationships don't make the news as much or shown as much because it doesn't satisfy the mind's quench for drama and problems. By watching these stories you are not empowering or helping yourself, you are weakening and disempowering the mind to be more in a victimhood state. What are you getting from it? CONFIRMATION OF YOUR EXISTING BELIEFS - beliefs that are not serving you. You are a victim to your own circumstances.

Might be is speculation. Women aren't having sex with themselves.

Who the heck are these women with, themselves? Makes no sense.

I don't know, but it seems these women you're talking about that can easily find a man, these men are also with these women. Saying women can easily find a man yet complaining how hard it is for men to find women seems like an oxymoron. Obviously it's not hard for men because these women aren't with themselves or other women. IT'S MEN THEY'RE WITH. Your post is a great example that we have belief systems that aren't true; and we make them up as excuses as to why we're not accomplishing our goals. This one isn't obvious and kind of hard to see through because so many also believe what you're saying about how women finding it easy. So, you'll hear, "yeah man, you have to go out more and socialize". Yes, that's true; but how about addressing the fact that you're believing something that isn't true and it's showing up in your direct experience as so. I'm so sick of hearing about how women find it easy when that is also a misconception. Women can get laid whenever and by whomever, but women don't want to be, so they also have it hard finding the perfect lay, men are not as picky if it's just a lay they're looking for, as shown in your first sentence. Women have to usually feel something, men don't. It's not a judgement; it is what it is.

Haha, I tried to Google too and a bunch of recipes came up. Still not sure what it means. The did look good.

It's more of a pasta thing no matter the kind. Only if I'm doing Italian like Chicken Parm/Cacciatore/Meatballs or stuff like that with the red sauce; and even then I might sub mashed potatoes. Plus, not a fan of the spiral. Penne is good and spaghetti. Chick pea pasta is good.

🌚lol

You mean zucchini with stuff inside?

That vinaigrette looks delicious. That salad too, only since I'm not a big fan of pasta, I'd use romaine instead. Thats how I cook sometimes. Lots of Mediterranean style eating.

You're being pretty funny and more relaxed lately. This side of you is refreshing to see. Something has changed. This is how observant I am. I can tell.

Yes, it's delicious if that's your kind of thing. My main style of eating, though, is Mediterranean as Jamaican food, depending on what it is, can take some effort and time to prepare and cook and sometimes I don't want to be in the kitchen for long. Mediterranean food is a lot more healthy, simple and easier to prepare. I can whip up a salad in no time or some fish or beans like hummus or some veggies and a side of whatever.

This is what i mean.

Just so you know this is about you and not the women. You were disowning and judging parts of yourself and now you've learnt how to accept them. The women were only tools and a reflection of what was going on deep inside you. As a result of this, you will also see positive changes in other areas in your life that you're challenged by, kudos to you.

You keep putting words in my mouth. Where in my comment did you see the word random. You have a very unsettling way of communication. You seem to hear only what you want to hear but not what's been said. Your interpretations stem from that, and in that brings complications and misunderstandings. been said.

When I was typing "parts have been solved", I didn't feel good about writing that. Something fell off, but I kept it there because if you notice the length of this thread, it was crazy busy and flowing and i felt it would have been missed and didn't matter. You quoted the only part I wasn't comfortable with and that says a lot in of itself.

It's all purposeful to the egoic mind identity, but not to life. Life is it's own purpose and is doing it's thing perfectly. I haven't seen life disappear yet. Life isn't saying I must do this or else, of I have to be this way or else, life is just life and how ever it is, is how it is and cannot be any other way. We're the ones putting our ideas unto life and turning it into "about us". Life is impersonal and doesn't see a human. There is no life and then you either because you are life. It's the mind that's doing this.

You should make another one of those Actualized trailers. That was epic.

❤️