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You really are bored.

On point.

The very desire to be happy is what's creating the unhappiness. You're telling yourself that you're not happy by searching for happiness.

You're right about this. I wasn't suggesting, though, to go into spiritual matters but to take a different approach where the addicts don't have to introduce themselves as addicts. That's an identity and one that will leave the mind having to defend. If they understood this as leaders, they would realize how that impacts their recovery. I've seen how EFT works and they do have programs that are efficient and impactful because they do take this into consideration and approach their healing practices holistically where their patients heal and not depend on other things to cope. I used to date a cop turned detective that was an alcoholic and he would say once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic. This was after his recovery period started and he never went back, but he had to be cognizant of his weaknesses to avoid triggers. He had anxiety issues and would be easily triggered by traffic. So, they still had issues, just dealt with it in different ways and expressed their anger outward because deep down he wasn't healed. Plus being a cop didn't help. I dated him after all that and after he retired, but the remnants were visible. I knew him for years before while he was a cop but didn't date him then but I could tell he was still dealing with coping issues. He never drank for years but still thought he was an alcoholic. It's because he kept identifying as that.

lmao.😅

My problem with AA is that it teaches people how to stay alcoholics and make them dependent on the system. The "recoverers" aren't aware of this and believe it's the only way; but the main thing is how they introduce themselves. "My name is Adam, and I AM an alcoholic". If you know anything about how the mind operates, whatever you say after I AM with conviction and intensity and believe to be the case, you become. So, these unsuspecting addicts will remain in that state forever to the point where they mostly believe they are still alcoholics that can never be cured.

The reason why I started the health food mega thread about a year and a half ago, I believe, was I was going through a period of OK, seems like a lot of arguing and disagreements. People were criticizing the forum and I was kinda of like I don't know nothing really good happening. It was also a short phase which ended after I decided to do something about it and delved into a hobby of mine and interest and decided to feature it here on the forum because I didn't want to lose interest or make threads complaining like others were. Now, leaving has never crossed my mind, no matter what I go through here and have since started three other Mega threads Powerful, Powerful (AudioBooks), and Powerful (The Mind), where I post videos in their respective topics. I do it to try to give back and be of some service and not only to argue about there's no you and who's doing 2000 approaches. Just kidding here, but yeah, only boring people get bored.

I will post in the Audio book section.

Thank you.

Oh I googled, too much information. Sometimes I'm just kidding around. But I get it. I'll tell Susan to tone it down.

Not sure what that means, please tell me.

It's natural for me. I took up psychology in college because I was so curious about human behavior and the concepts of "why" from an early age. So, it takes practice to be able to acquire this skill. I know the more you acknowledge them out loud, the more they present themselves. Today alone I had two. Real quick, I was talking to somebody today about cats and they asked me my cat's name; I told them. They then started to tell me theirs and before they got the name out, I said to myself I bet it will be a name of a cat I've had before. Nope, it wasn't. Guess what, they proceeded to tell me of a cat their mother had named........guess what, it was the same name of a cat I previously had. Things like that. It's a fun game I play with the mind. It's not just about your needs and wants, just a playfulness with life. Infact, the more you use life for your needs and wants instead of giving back, like I try to do here and in my personal life, the more life takes from you because life mirrors back to you what you present to it. If you say take, take, take, life says, take take take it takes from you. Just approach life with genuine curiosity and wonder and it will show you things that puts you in wonder. Go within more, stop focusing on what others are doing as much, focus on thoughts, feelings and your state of being. Watch stuff that puts the mind at ease including movies, music and people. It's a way of being and the more you rest in awareness the more you become in sync. My life isn't perfect, and I do face challenges, but it's how I see them that counts and the way I respond to them that makes a huge difference.

My kind of guy. Work it babyyy, lol. I don't have to worry about nobody sticking their huge overload in my precious little kitty and give me stomach pain and blisters around my labia minora and majora. Hehe.

I would suggest things to get rid of a cold fast, but whenever I do, I get flack and get called a witch or that my suggestions doesn't pass the science test, or that the FDA will not recognize it as poisonous and recommend it to the public and slap a price tag on it. So I won't anymore. Let these other people who keep getting sick suggests something.

If I wanted to kill you and i know I can get that done by inviting you to a nice candlelight dinner to my house with lots of good food and I made your special meal and blaze blah, but I ended up poisoning you in the end and you die, that was bad intention. If I ended up poisoning you unknowingly because I didn't realize that blue Slurpee i made you was made of windshield wiper fluid and you die, my intention was good. Nothing to do with moralizing. I could use other examples like if I gave a crack head $5 not realizing he was a crack head but just a beggar that needed food, and he bought Crack with the $5 and overdosed, my intention was good. And If gave a knowing Crack head $5 to go by Crack and they overdosed, bad intention.

I'm responding to the whole post, but only quoted this part because it's essential for why you're going through what you're going through. My response might sound woo woo but it's up to you to get what I'm saying or not. Some try to exclude these Universal truths and end up in positions like yours or other unnecessary challenges of other kinds. Except for the obvious illness or biological deformities etc, that needs to be attended to and return to balance, THERE'S NOTHING TO FIX. The very notion of you thinking you need to fix yourself IS THE VERY THING THAT IS CAUSING YOUR INTERNAL PAIN. Imagine a table in perfect order, nothing wrong with it and you're trying to fix a broken leg where there's none. What would that look like. (that's just a random eg and can be extrapolated to anything). You would get frustrated and worn out trying to fix something that didn't need fixing. If you tell yourself you need fixing then you have, by your own claim CREATED something to fix. The mind now has to imagine things and put into your psyche things to fix. It will not work because it's all imaginary. (I don't mean that in the existential sense, but more on a practical level as you thinking about something, imagining something). The mind loves to solve problems and if it believes there's something there that is not, it will try to find the answers where there's none. It doesn't understand that it's not a real thing and it will create things that calls for tangible, real solutions in the physical world. Imagine trying to get rid of a ghost by shooting it with a gun, or trying to hit a thought with a hammer to make it go away. Same thing. I'm not saying don't go to therapy etc, what i'm saying is, do it under the mindset of maybe I might get to understand what the mind is doing, or why do I feel there's something wrong with me or to try and understand your emotions and anxiety or try to see where you can get better at understanding the underlying reason as to why you feel there's something wrong. That takes a special type of therapy; but not try to fix anything. Trying to fix implies you know there's something wrong and need to find solutions on how to fix it, VS reaching out for help as to why you have those beliefs and recognizing they are false, and trying to find solutions on how to replace those beliefs. I will also suggest that you try to not include those past stories about your mom and sister and half-sister and all those stories of the past into your quest for help in trying to defeat your challenges. All that does us feed the mind some more of why it thinks it needs to fix something. It doesn't realize that that is partially the cause of your challenges because of not being able to stay present but live in the past and future. You have created those memories again and again and again, and is the reason why you cannot get pass this. Please understand what I'm saying, it's chain of events for the mind, NOT REALITY. This comment is already long even though I could go on to say a lot more, to get you to really grasp what i'm saying and I've seen cases like yours over and over again and they all are under the same category - living in the past, having beliefs that triggers certain emotions that makes the body relive those circumstances and not being able to recognize that they are doing this unconsciously. It's the things in common that all you have in cases like these. You're not alone; in fact, it's quite common. I'll stop here, any questions feel free to ask.

I forgot the story but it goes something like this. A man went to church to try to look good a man tried to seek God in a bar. The bar man went to heaven. Something like that. IOW, intention is the key. Doesn't matter the outcome as much as what was the intention. That's more powerful and can override any outcome.

Yes, I get that, that's why I brought that part up. I was just bringing to attention the other uses of the word's verbiage. It's very difficult for ordinary people here to get into the biology of silence, since that's usually the work of biologists, so it's going to be challenging for proper responses to procure appropriate answers.

Well, In my opinion, everything has a Spiritual connotation to it; depending on how you classify Spiritual. The way you did is not what I mean, so it doesn't relate to what I mean by "everything". I do understand what you're saying, though. I also am under the understanding that, Awareness is in the silent background from which everything appears and to sit in silence for a few minutes a day, can reveal a lot and brings forth wisdom and understanding that no other kind of practice can. In that way, it can be Spiritual. Hearing that silent sound is, however, biological in a sense so in that way, I agree, without getting into the existential nature of how we hear sounds and what a sound really is. That's a different topic.

In so many words.

I had a thread with this topic in Jan. Here it is. Not sure if it answers any questions but just thought I'd share.

Thank you. By inner guidance I mean, listen to the heart. Sometimes I ignore the heart and go with what the mind says, and I realize that if I had just listened to the heart I wouldn't be in the position I was in at the time. It takes awareness and keen observation to start to trust the difference between the heart and egoic mind. One feels tense, contracted, loud and anxious, doubtful (ego) and the other, very quiet, intuitive, makes one feel less anxious, relaxing, pure, non-resistant, like it's coming from a higher source and it feels like the right thing to do. It's kind of hard to explain the difference on paper, but one starts to develop this as they are more in tune to the body's response and how it makes you feel afterwards. A lot of people ask advice or ask for suggestions on how to do things because they are in conflict with the mind and heart. (not speaking about practical "how-to-do" questions like how to fix things or how to get a job done perse, more like how should I deal with this situation or how to cope with such and such abstract questions, then they'll rebut your suggestions or give excuses as to why what you're suggesting is wrong or won't work. Reason is, the heart already gave them the answer but the egoic mind identity is what's running the show and they are in conflict with both. Listen to the heart, it never fails. Just have to learn how. It's usually the one that feels good.

Yes, you are stating the obvious. Nothing was said in this thread about getting results from those approaches. Only about doing 2000 approaches and that wasn't enough; 10,000 is needed for mastery. To me that sounds like years and years of approaching. Five years when you do the math of approaching 2000 in a yr which is still quite a lot. Nothing was mentioned about the techniques used in the how to get laid series either. You are just mentioning that. To me, it's like the emphasis is on approaching and not the results. Why say you need 2000 approaches when you can get results within the first 100. Anyway, it's not my place to argue with guys about their approaching techniques and style, so I'm out this convo and I hear what you're saying and understand it. Thanks for your replies and I hope you get the results you seek and get better at socializing.

Great video to understanding human attraction on the Spiritual level.