Princess Arabia

Why do you need a woman to submit to you. It's not about submitting but being in your feminine energy while allowing the man to be in his masculine. There's a time and a place for the feminine to rest in that and for her to bring out her masculine side same with the man. A submitted female has no room for the balance. A man that needs a female to submit to him is just insecure within himself and needs a submissive female to rule over because he fears no having enough power to sustain the relationship without her being submissive.

Spirituality is an attachment. Truth seeking is an attachment. You're kidding yourself. You're not looking for a gf with same interests as you, you're looking for an attachment buddy. Someone to do drugs with so you can have a partner to hold unto while you hang on for dear life. You curse what you think gets in the way of your constructed little bubble and seek out anything that can add to it. It feels lonely trying to stay afloat where there is no ground and nothing to hold unto. You don't want truth or are seeking truth, you're resisting what is. You think that gf who seeks truth with you will be the answer to your relief. You seek relief from yourself but can't seem to be relieved no matter what you do, and you think it's the matrix's fault. You want to escape the matrix to find relief from the sense of separation you feel. If you were really seeking truth for it's own sake, you wouldn't care if you had a gf who didn't care about that stuff. Do you need to have a gf that eats the same foods you eat, uses the same soap, sleep on the same side you sleep on, you only care that she's a truth seeker to help to keep you stable. Others are dependents for your stability. Needing others to be conscious is seeking, it's a form of neurosis. Everything is life validates separation. You turn your back on freedom and liberation when you resist what is and truth seeking is a form of resistance. All seeking is. It's what you are. The seeking energy. It looks for company to validate itself and it's a way of avoiding it's death. To be truly free and liberated as a separated self is to die and you don't want that so you seek for truth. You cannot find truth because it's not accessible to the seeker. How can it be. A seeker cannot stop seeking it can only fall away or die to reveal it's own absence and you don't want that. You hide behind spirituality and truth seeking to not die. Now you want a stay-alive-buddy to keep you awake in the dream. Your truth seeking is no different than someone on crack, it's a dependency. It's a high you get from feeling separate where there is no separation and you want to keep it that way.

Something there intuits that something isn't right with this madness. It feels off and turns to objects and substances to try and feel a sense of balance. It turns to therapists because they seem to be in control of this and l8syen to teachers and gurus for a sense of comfort, safety and reassurance. This is all THIS being all that. It cannot truly be defined but if I was to define it I would say it has child-like qualities, actually baby-like qualities. It longs for and seeks safety, something to hold unto and cradle like a child does with a teddy bear. It seeks direction and guidance just like a child does and it is drawn to innocence and a sense of peace and tranquility. It can seem curious and combative, temper tantrums when it doesn't get what it wants and looks to authority figures for whatever it feels it lacks. This is what it appears to be like but in actuality it is already whole and complete and fulfilled. It could not appear as those opposites if it weren't. The limited cannot appear limited if it's not unlimited, that goes for every seeming dual state or appearance.

This screams to itself. It's everywhere. Somebody took my cheese. Some (body) took my cheese. There's a body that took my cheese. Nobody is at the house. No (body) is at the house. There are no bodies in the house. There's no one in these bodies. It's bodies apparently talking to other bodies with no sense of someone inside. That sense of a person is energetic and belongs to no one. That sense is the you that you think you are. That's the I AM. The I AM isn't real. Be still and know that IAM - Nothing is still or moving, knowing is an illusion and the I AM is an appearance of a sense of separateness. This isn't an attempt to change anything or to say you must realize this and awaken to your true nature or to stop being delusional or anything like that. Nor am I pointing to anything. It's just an activity called writing happening and something here intuits that presently. I'm not going about my life in a state of no one and saying to people you know youre just a body. No, that's not happening here. It might someday, because anything can happen but it's not at the moment. I don't care to live in that mode and don't care if they're anyone or not anyone in these bodies. Either way it is what it is.

Alrighty then. Thanks for the reminder to just chill. Yeah mon! Everting Irie. Lol

Not all guys are everything and not all women are everything. All we do here is speak opinions and from our own experiences and what we think to be true; another name for that is beliefs. That's what forums are for. Wikipedia is for fact checking.

Nothing I said was trash talking men, if that's what you're implying. Saying guys can get bored with women, find it harder than women to commit and have sex easily isn't trash talking.

I'm not saying they are bored with women in general. I mean particular types of women or a particular woman at that point in time. Even just recently I read on here a guy saying how he got bored with this woman and lost interest. That's what I mean when I say bored. Not with the female species in general.

Why do you assume I was referring to me personally. I can still state things I've observed men do without it meaning that I personally been through that with them as in not easy to commit. I can reference many things and sources that points to that and of course it is a belief. If I was to be stating all facts and truths when I speak my opinions and beliefs in life I'd be a mute. Most of what people say are opinions, beliefs, their perceptions and coming from their perspectives, not absolute actual facts because there are none. Not even interpretations of Truth. Personally, I've never had problems with guys committing because I rarely put myself in those situations. It's usually the guys that wants me to commit as I don't give anything out much without commitment of some kind in the first place. I don't really care about that stuff because I don't look for commitment from anyone. Marriage is just automatic. As long as they can provide that's all that matters and that's my guaranteed commitment. Anyone can cheat or stray at anytime but providing is hands on, direct and not in the future. Love is for the birds in relationships. I don't need a man to love me only provide and keep me safe. I have a cat. I have gfs for chit chatting and I have family for emotional support. That's my commitment.

I wasn't speaking about all guys and in every situation, with every female and all circumstances. I'm sure there are guys who have been bored with females. Lots of times with their sex and or personalities. I'm not talking down on men just stating the obvious and also my opinion.

Ok, you're right.

Your reasoning here is off. She cannot be responsible for his ideas of her. If he doesn't know what's on her mind that does not automatically make her manipulative and a bully. You've went extreme with the rapist and psychopath thing. She might not even have an opinion one way or another and is trying to feel her way into the situation. You have to understand that youth, immaturity, age and lack of experience plays a role in how people respond to each other in these circumstances.

This is the pill stuff you've been hearing and have subscribed to. Just because a female is dysfunctional and likes when a man disrespects her, doesn't mean he has to ascribe in that behavior to please her dysfunctional wishes. It says more about him than it does about her. Dysfunctional is dysfunctional, engaging in it just to attain something for your own benefit puts that person a step beneath. It's like a man thinking prostitution is an immoral thing and curses it but goes out and engages in it just because he's horny. Then curses prostitutes the next day or wants to kill them. You don't think too highly of women by saying that you have a feeling she would like being disrespected and not knowing her personally. Seems like a general belief you have of how most women are.

This is because of inexperience and immaturity. After a man has had enough engagements with women, he can tell the difference when one is playing games, the female herself is immature and too young to understand and know how to respond to him herself or if she's just being as a woman should careful with whom she lets her guard down with. It's up to the man to learn about how women respond to certain circumstances before he tries to sleep with any. If he misreads her intentions, that's up to him. Not all women are trying to manipulate and play games. It's a safety precaution mechanism that some younger women navigate very poorly because of inexperience and ignorance.

Sometimes out of reacting compulsively and out of control this may happen and forgivingly so, but it's not necessary or even the more mature way to deal with this. Most times if I've been disrespected or felt that way, my response as long as I'm not in a state as I stated above, is to respond back respectfully but in a stern manner and state that I'm through with the engagement or something appropriate depending on the circumstance. No need to disrespect back and turn two wrongs into a right.

That's the thing. Some men think it's playing games. They're not understanding the psychological part of it when a woman sleeps with a man. They sometimes think we're in disgust mode or don't want to; but the stigma holds when we're so used to be labelled as easy or too willing. Not to mention how prostitutes are labelled VS a man that sleeps a round whoring down the town placing his dick wherever he can. He's cheered on while she's black-listed. Not comparing but associating. Lots of things involved psychologically for the female. Not saying if she does, it's harming her, but it's way more that she has to lose. It's not easy for a way younger female to maneuver this while still interested but wants to make it a choice she won't regret and not seeming like playing games. It's very challenging. Especially if she wants to but more so wants to take her time. Guys thinks because they're so ready and willing that women who are not are just simply playing games. Maybe, but most times it's not a game of I'm just going to let you wait because I can, but my life and feelings are at stake here. Most times it's not even conscious on her part that that's the reason she's the way she is, it's innate. Instead of trying to understand, some men especially the younger one's think all women are like the ones that they label as 'did them wrong'.

No need to much when there's social media and Tinder. Restaurant bars, casino nightclubs and sports bars are the thing these days.

Guys get bored with women, It's easy to get laid with them and harder to commit. Just as you said. Doesn't matter gay or straight.

You're describing exactly what I said earlier (not to you but Leo) about men giving and women receiving. They are both giving and receiving but in direct action she receives and he gives. That's the sexual act itself in a nutshell. It is an expression of love.

Sounds like the typical guy. You're have women problems.

If I had to have sex by being a prostitute, I would have never become one or be in the industry for this long. I'm not lying when I say I'm probably the most sexless (intercourse wise) person on the planet since i've been doing this work. I had more sex as a non-worker than I have in this field. So much so that if a guy's dick is too big I'd give him a refund if he wanted to have sex. My belly would hurt and my pussy torn up. Ok that's way too much info. You guys are just unaware of what established men are willing to pay for. It's sexual in nature, yes, but intercourse is not necessary and far and few. In 10-15yrs of doing this I probably had intercourse like 10x or maybe less because I remember 5yrs straight of none. (in the field, that is).

I think it's because they won't turn it down if available but it's not where true fulfillment lies. (relatively speaking).

I'm just quoting this part, but yes, we tend to not engage for too long before the guy commits to a real date because talking and engaging too long for 'free' can be enough for some to get their 'fix' and just waste your time. It's something one learns in the process. Some initial getting to know is required but some guys will string along, especially if it's on the phone, just to be able to just talk and engage and that'll be enough. It all depends, though, and I'm never referring to street walkers as that's just in a different category that I don't engage in. I've seen where a guy would talk to a female for awhile who didn't know any better and kept his company for nothing on end hoping she'll convince him then a hotter chick cones along who doesn't play around and gives him the sexy look and ge goes straight away with her. The other female list out because she spent too much time cuddling his fancy and he was now ready fir some real fun but she now was in the friend zone and therapist zone.

😅😅it was meant to be.

It's a different kind of growth. I'm assuming you're speaking of learning from these men as opposed to growing because of these men. A man can get a different type of value from a woman than she gets from a man. Without getting into specifics and for brevity's sake, I'm not saying both don't grow but, imo, a man's growth from being with women is more long-term and highly beneficial to him VS a woman's growth where she might only grow from learning in that particular relationship. A man can learn and grow and know a lot about women, pursuit, leadership, confidence, etcetc from just being with one woman. The mile stretches further from him with less effort in terms of quantity. Not sure if that's clear. These are just my opinions, BTW, not absolute facts nor across the board with everyone; there are always exceptions. Not the amount of sex, perse, but the amount of sexual partners. I'm not speaking necessarily monetarily. How many guts of any value do you hear speak of wanting a promiscuous female. The more a woman who is not taken off the market by a particular guy, the more he tends to not value her in terms of long-term monogamous commitment. He will take the sex and string her along but won't invest as much because he's getting the cow for free. I've seen even men on here say how they'd sleep with multiple partners before getting married. They don't value those women as much to invest in them. I'm speaking investment wise.