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That's why they're exes. Women usually appreciate this trait, not go out looking for it. It's a trait noticeable after getting to know. That's why it won't show up as much in her list and will choose guys who aren't because it's tough to tell in the beginning whose generally kind.

I was just explaining how manifestation becomes real, or why it's a thing. I don't care if you see life wonderfully or not. That's up to you and not my place to try and let you see it otherwise. I actually agree with you with mostly what you're saying in this thread. Mostly the parts where you say why are you here and how you should know why you're here and how it being mysterious sucks and how is this wonderful when you don't know anything, stuff like that. I've already seen through this shit, but I was once there, so I'm pass this. Those are legitimate concerns and naturally so because of your underlying sovereign nature and you feel powerless because you can't change it. If you notice my only contribution to this thread so far was just to explain the manifestation part. I wasn't trying to let you see life differently or to tell you to suck it up and trust and all that jazz. No, you don't want to hear that, you want answers. Well, the answers are in the questions. You already know what's up and you are voicing your concerns not to get answers or to feel better but to take the responsibility off of yourself as the one true being. The burden is being felt in your particular form and you are regurgitating. That form, knows deep down what it is; and it wants to stay in form so as to remain separate but it knows it will not remain in form forever and it is acting out because it knows there's nothing but a fucking void on the other side and it hates being in that void. What's so wonderful about that you say, you're actually cursing yourself and asking what's so wonderful about being. It's a phase you're going through, and until you realize truly who you are and accept yourself fully, you will continue to play this game. You're playing the game within a game and anybody that knows what they truly are can see through your bullshit games.

It's not that, it's just women have to be vigilant and always have to be on the lookout. We have to protect ourselves against predators, users, rapists, abusers, stalkers, liars, wannabes, fakers, manipulators, and men who don't have our best interest in mind. One-night stands, hook ups and just for sex doesn't have anything to do with this as some women are looking for just that too; it's just we want to feel safe around even those times and have to be on guard with strangers we don't know at all times, and now it has become instilled and engrained in us. Women can also lie and be all those things but what I'm speaking about is mostly for our safety and protection.

Nice is when you're trying to impress her, but using manipulative tactics. To get her to like you. Everybody tries to impress, but the difference with the nice is when he's insecure about it but tries anyway. Kind is when he really cares about her and her feelings, not wanting to mislead her and loves to show acts of kindness without compromising his own integrity and boundaries. Nice will do that just to get her then dislike her for him having to do things just to get her. Nobody is all around nice. Piss off a nice person and see their other sides shine quickly.

Yes

My life, my story, my trauma, my experience, my sadness etc...it's a felt experience and seems real and what's actually happening to the individual. It's not really happening to anyone but the feeling sense is so strong and the sense that I am that is believed in that it's hard to not see it as yours. That's the illusory nature of existence and what makes for a world to be possible.

The separate self sees other. The separate self sees itself in relation to other. Everything is about me, me, me. It can't help it. It claims everything to be his. It's automatic. Until it realizes it never existed. So trauma and bpd etc is being remembered and claimed but it's a separate kind of energy belonging to no one but the individual doesn't realize this. I don't want to offend anyone so I won't say much on that but that's why and the reason why I'm explaining it to you like this in the open is because I'm aware you have been exposed to some things where you can understand what I'm saying without getting offended that I'm minimizing people's apparent traumas.

Nice. Not much out there that hits to the core and most self help books just keeps you trapped into the illusion and the egoic mind identity.

You didn't need the book to realize not giving a fuck is the way to go because you wrote it. Hehe.

It's just another illusion making another illusion appear bigger and stronger. There is no power in either on their own. Even if you say well a gun is powerless on it's own and if i take that gun and shoot you, you will die. Really? Whose dying. That psychedelic can only show you more illusions and make for a different experience. There is no actual getting closer to what already is and where you're already at. It's all appearances just as how water vapor in the sky appear as clouds. Go try to grab one of those clouds.

This is because you're assuming reality is real, fixed and not illusory. I'm not denying it's real for you and for me, please understand this; but it only feels real and seems fixed. Don't get fixated on that part so much because the mind won't accept that or understand that and be repulsed by it. You cannot change reality as reality is already done. It's all infinite potential. You can only draw from it and attract or repel things to you that already exists through it's Universal laws and will depend on the law that is being applied - consciously or not. In the dream world and within the illusory world we can influence it. It is changeable because of this reason. If you see a bird in the sky, you see a bird in the sky, if you look through a telescope that bird will appear closer and bigger. Didn't you change how you experienced the bird? Didn't the bird appear different to you then? Still the same bird but appeared to you differently when you changed how you looked at it. Well manifestation is the same way. Nothing to change only to be experienced differently by changing the one that's looking.

I guess you read the book "The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck", by Mark Manson. I didn't, but I've heard about it.

Just some wisdom coming from the masters before us. They speak to you through me. It's your own higher self, that's why it felt good to hear and why it resonated.

The problem with these terms, such as in nice, is they get interpreted in different ways. Then guys become pricks or assholes just so they don't come off as nice because they heard women don't like nice guys. Then when they get dissed or left or ignored by women, they call us confused. You cannot remain nice for long if you're not truly nice and your bad-boy persona is short-lived and will come off as fake if you're just putting on a front. I've seen guys who are so bad, that their being nice is still bad. Not bad-boy bad, but bad personality wise. I've seen nice guys try to act like a bad-boy and they just seem awkward. These things are usually problematic for men because they try to impress us their way instead of getting to know the female and to see if they're compatible or to even adjust their personality a bit to suit the dynamic. We all have different personalities within us, and they naturally come out depending on whom we're interacting with so it's pointless to say just be yourself. That's cliche nonsense, and will be found out the hard way when trying to do that, because one cannot "not" be themselves.

Do not fear bad health, love good health instead. Focusing on bad health only creates bad health. Fearing bad health is feeding the energy of bad health. You have to understand this. This is how it works. Please don't take what i've said lightly, it is the foundation of how you approach life with everything. This is not about positive thinking either, it's about energy and life force. See yourself in good health, watch, read and listen to things that promotes good health. Living in fear weakens you, and will bring upon you what you fear.

First, nice you started a journal. I know it's been a while you wanted to do this. I'm still deciding what I want mine to be about and keep deleting the ones I started. I'll figure it out. Secondly, let all your self-inquiry and all the things you've been learning about yourself and reality kick in right now. Use this experience as practice. This is true practice. Not just sitting down to meditate (which is good) and processes and rituals and mantras etc. Life experiences. Pure rawness, pure aliveness. It's time like these when your pure being shines through. Not just intellectually knowing, but pure being as your title suggests. You're feeling like garbage not from what he said but from your own judgements of yourself. How you feel is what's coming from inside of you, not what someone said. If you didn't feel like garbage for watching it to begin with, no amount of what he said would have made you feel that way. It's a reflection of how you see yourself. You judge yourself, so now when someone judges you, it hurts even more. You judge others and when they judge you, you respond with disdain. This is why morality can be counterintuitive; it will come back to you and hit you in the face. Morality is the devil, so-to-speak, and it teaches us nothing. He was just there to highlight to you how you already see yourself. It's to show you to stop judging yourself for watching porn and the reasons you do it. Watch your porn without judging it. Don't watch it without giving reasons why. Either way. This is not about it's not really you and you're the watcher and it's just ego and all that, it's about allowing space for things to fall away, for the self judgments and criticisms to seize. This is not who you are, and that experience you had was to show you how you really see yourself and for you to start loving yourself more and to see yourself in a different light. That experience will pass and you will see how the remnants and after effects change along with it when you allow for it to subside without giving it any attention. Let it be. Let the feelings of feeling like garbage be there without doing anything about it. Don't feed it. Give it space to go back where it came from. It's like magic, trust me. I know. I've practiced similiar things over and over and it's like it never existed. It goes back to the void from whence it came. Cheers.

Well, I do, because those traits I mentioned will be apparent in whomever exudes them. One is still appearing attractive from the inside.

Men aren't trying to understand women as much. That's also apparent on this forum. How many times do you see where guys here are concerned about legitimately understanding women. In fact, they will try to tell the women on here about themselves, they will tell us that we're lying or not being upfront about certain things. They will tell us we don't know ourselves and what we want and will say things that are not in alignment with how we truly feel. Just on here alone. This was even prevalent in the thread with the pictures of the two men, one attractive and the other not as attractive. I forgot the name of the thread. What most men are mostly working on, to be more competitive in dating is to make themselves more attractive to women, whether it be externally or internally. That's great! But I'm responding to your comments; and by saying you wish women would try to understand men more, what you really mean is, I think anyway and my opinion, is you wish women would understand what men go through to try and get a woman, to get women to want them, how hard they have to work at this and what they sacrifice in this endeavor. Huge difference. Women already understand men, men aren't that difficult to understand. Look good, be feminine, allow them to lead, don't over talk them especially in public, laugh at their jokes, compliment them sometimes and don't nag and be good in bed. That's it, with a few more nuances, depending on the type of man. This is standard procedure and the woman that doesn't understand you will be the ones whose personality clashes with yours. You can find a woman who doesn't understand men at all being a great partner just for existing and exuding her femininity. The opposite is also true. People don't really need to understand each other, they just need to know themselves.

Will you guys stop talking about being attractive guys to women so much and start BEING what most women find attractive in men. Only little teeny boppers care about a cute guy enough to give him some sex. Isn't that what you all care about the most. Go find you the most attractive guy there is and ask him how many females are falling all over his lap without having the following traits. The same that are falling over the not-so-attractive ones, but who are charming, spontaneous, adventurous, witty, loves himself, caring, not needy, mysterious, smart, interesting, magnetic, personable, CHARISMATIC (huge), alluring, appealing. Ugly guys can have these traits and still get lots of women. Attractiveness to one is not to another. One's body symmetry can change depending on the traits they exude or have. It's very rare you find someone who is miserable inside, very hateful of things, who criticizes and judges a lot and who has a disdain for life overall and the people in it, very attractive to anybody, no matter what they look like. It will show on the outside and be a repellent. Worry about these things instead of just saying attractive. What's attractive enough to get you laid is what your concerns should be if that's the ultimate goal. Now, there are guys whose ultimate goal is to take care of a woman, provide and protect her, love and cherish her, be the one for her to fall in love with and want as a partner for life and so on and so forth. These men will already be men and have a basic idea of what women want and have already been grounded in this respect (after all, that's why they want this type of dynamic), they really don't need any personality improvements or traits as such but to be more masculine, learn more how to lead and to become a good provider. These guys will need to work more on the outside stuff than the inside like work, businesses, status and overall income and gain more stability this way. Most of these guys will already be the personality type so they won't have to work on that as much. Get it!!!!

It is not the reality of the situation. Just because incels are on the rise doesn't prove a thing. There are other factors involved . Study these incels and you will see other emotional problems or other factors at play. I've seen how some men find it easy to get women and some women are having a hard time. The problem is some guys don't understand that women get approached, yes, but that's the easy part. So what. Consider that some of these approaches are from married men, men who already have gfs, men who are unstable, men who don't really want them just approaching to feel manly and more....men are always looking at and admiring women and trying to talk but do you realize half these men are already taken then the other half aren't compatible and the other quarter are...you name it. I'm tired of explaining this. Men just don't understand. On both ends of the spectrum, it's a challenge. Also can be easy for both. It's just not an automatic thing that women have it easier. The only easy women have is to get laid that's it, because most men will be willing. She goes up the street and can get laid by any stranger if she looks good and sometimes even if she doesn't. And i'm saying this if she's looking to by anyone. Women aren't normally like that. We're not just looking to get laid like most men are. This has blinded most men to really grasp what I'm trying to communicate. You think we are the same in that regard. Women are having problems finding bfs too not getting laid. Incels are trying to get laid.

It's only since I've become more aware and noticing more things. No, I think the feeling and illusion of separation, makes for it to appear less weird. Everything, everywhere all at once is what's really the case. Imagine our brains computing that. We'd all be mad. Things are only appearing normal, when in actuality it's all illogical and chaotic. It's brilliant - the mechanisms for what allows us to keep the sanity and have a life. It's all construction.

I'll just stick to my natural solutions that make me stay young. I learnt from others and I try to pass on the information, but people give me flack and prefer pills, so I let them be and then the cycle goes on where other medications are needed to combat what the previous medication did. Then they say, I'm just getting old. 100 yr olds are doing marathons. It's a personal choice.

Did you know there are herbs like rosemary and others, I'd have to look, that grows hair. Probably won't influence you though because most people don't realize the same herbs are probably in these medications. They even have companies that sell herbal compounds for hair growth. Just an idea I'm throwing out there so you know you have safer options.

Nothing need be said. My post was a bit of an exaggeration, but still, life is amazing, but weird.

Bad move. Can't question thoughts. What's going to answer back, thoughts. That's what you're also battling with, thoughts.