Princess Arabia

Ironically, no thoughts or perspectives is entirely one's own. How do you think you were able to agree with everything he said. They were also your thoughts and perspectives.

You are not just the body. Who is the one that wants to leave the body. Investigate that and you'll find no one there.

Well, you did say, you think. The Universe is also masculine and feminine.

That's a feminine perspective. You haven't integrated your masculine side. Masculine men don't have this problem. If they do, it's not just in this area and carries over unto other self insecurity issues. Just like how a woman doesn't feel comfortable approaching, it's a masculine trait that should empower a man not demasculate him. Has nothing to do with rejection because no one likes that but the hurt of a rejection isn't going to stop a masculine man from approaching something that he sees and wants or make him feel desperate. Those are the things the feminine feels. Your feminine side overpowers your masculine side.

That's because we don't have any equipments that needs performance. Getting wet is also not necessary for sex to happen either. Neither sexes really understand the depth of what it really means to be a particular sex, I guess that's why I hear so many misconceptions on the men's part. They don't take me seriously when I oppose, though, and say we don't know ourselves, or we just don't get men or something like that. It's very rare I see a male on here genuinely caring about how we feel and ask us questions. They are usually asking other men and taking other men's advice over the ladies. The one's that do ask, I can tell even before that, that they were the type to care just from how they interact on the forum. @CARDOZZOis one amongst others. Davino is another. Breakinthewall to. It's easy to spot a sensitive man who cares about what women really like and whose just not about himself even just from online interactions. Luvboy too.

Are you saying here that he needs to be so attracted because after the initial lust thing wears off and he gets used to you, he needs to know he can still get hard even if he loves you as love has nothing to do with attraction. Is he thinking that long-term about this, if that's what you're saying.

Not sure, never had that happen.

I don't know about for my sake😛Plenty of drunk men can't get it up. I get what you're saying.

Yes, and that's why I found it important to try and understand rather than judge, criticize and hate. You actually helped in this regard with a comment you made to me. You said something under the lines of men are visual and looks mattered because they have an equipment to get up. Meaning, they have to get hard to be able to have sex. Before, I used to think it was shallow of them to only be interested in looks and it seemed so vain, but now I understand the underlying reason behind that now and i don't see it as vain and shallow anymore. It's probably subconscious on the men's part, but nature knows what it's doing and doesn't make mistakes. It's up to us to find the fundamental reasons for why things are as they are instead of hating them. What we don't understand we judge and hate but understanding is the underlying essence of loving something. Another belief I have is that most men don't care to understand women and they just want their needs met. I'm yet to find the underlying reason why this is so, so I can understand without a sense of judgement.

Awww, this sounds so sweet and cuddly to hear. Sounds like daddy looking out for his kids. This was a turn on. See, women get turned on by the silliest of things. Lol😜😜😜😜

Exactly. I'm glad you're bringing all this to the forefront. Our self-deception (if this is actually a self-deception) runs rampant. Humans make a lot of assumptions and it's partly what causes our suffering. Might not seem evident at first, but with a little backtracking we can spot the clues.

Oh ok. Never noticed.

Leo, you're doing affiliates now?

Yes, it is within the realm of impermanence and illusion. It can bring forth other illusions and feelings. What you are, however, is beyond the mind; and what the mind actually seeks is it's source, which is you and will never be satisfied because it cannot stand on it's own. You exist without the mind, but the mind doesn't exist without you. This is shown during sleep.

Do you think about your hand constantly or any body part or the sun or the moon and stars and the trees outside and the air you breathe or if tomorrow is going to come or if it will get dark tonight. No, because there's no feelings of lack here and these things are normal to you. (I'm not referring to if you're admiring them, but worried they won't be there tomorrow). Law of attraction states that we get what we are, not what we want. Thinking about money all the time suggests a lack of it and will not bring you more because, like I said we get what we are which is the same as what we expect. It starts with the mind but not about thinking of lots of money but feeling abundant and seeing yourself in scenarios as if you had the money. Money represents a feeling, and the mind can interpret that feeling which in turn can bring forth a physical manifestation if felt intensely enough.

Right!! Lmao

titch!!!

It's a mental universe yes, but saying everything is mind is like saying there's mind and then there's something that's mind. Like that car is mind. Which is it, a car or a mind. If everything is mind why would we need to say it. What you just said in your statement is MIND IS MIND. (food for thought).

The mind is bored because it keeps searching for something it will never find.

Don't kid yourself, there truly is no mind either. While we're at it, do we really breathe.

You're just spoilt and need everything to be perfect for that sweet little mind of yours. That mind is like a child throwing temper tantrums. Then when it gets what it wants, it's still not satisfied. You'd be crying for disorder if everything seemed orderly, fun and perfect. Yes, you would. Don't deny it.😛

Imagine something being fun for the rest of eternity - forever and ever and ever and ever and ever and.........now, that doesn't seem like fun.

How can humans truly know anything when all information is being filtered through the brain which is itself a filter.

Lol. It has to survive it's identity as an internet arguer.

I want you to, and this will all depend on where you're from and culture, but regardless, whenever you're out and about take note of how many men you see just staring at the average female. Look around from now on and be observant without being noticeable. Look if people aren't just going about their business, men and women without anyone in particular being noticed unless he or she is very, very attractive and just really stand out in the crowd. I don't need you to tell me because i know what the answer is. Everybody, most, are invisible to the next. The only place you'll see quite the contrary are in small settings, where people mostly know each other, at parties or in clubs where people are fishing for potential lays. They'll be looking around for people they are attracted to, to go home or make out with; guys checking out females and females checking out guys. The more attractive the more eyes they get, yes but that's not the point here. The point is every body is invisible to everybody else until the "everbodys" have an agenda or motive. Your mind has exaggerated things to expand it's feeling of lack with the opposite sex and is believing in irrational things like I'm invisible when in truth most people are invisible to everyone else. Please really see what I'm saying here. It's hard for you to really see how irrational and illogical you are in this context because you are trapped within it's confinements. I can spot them easily because I'm on the outside looking in. Not only that, things you say can easily go for me also on the general scale, but because I'm not going through what you're going through, I don't see them from the same perspective; meaning, I've been invisible many times but because I didn't care to be picked up or noticed in those moments, it wasn't a problem for the brain to be solved. I wasn't trying to be noticed, so I didn't feel invisible. The only reason you feel invisible is because you have a motive an agenda - you want to feel visible, you want to feel attractive, so you are focused on feeling invisible. If you didn't care at the time you were not being paid attention to, you wouldn't feel invisible. Most people aren't being noticed just in everyday life. You have to put yourself out there to be noticed, and that includes myself and depending on my motive and what I want to achieve. Nothing comes knocking at your doorstep unless it's the Jehovah's Witness. Not saying you're not invisible, but so is everyone else. Women don't go around cat-calling guys and most women who go home with guys, the guys had to put in the effort of an approach. Before that, they were probably invisible too.