Princess Arabia

This is the key. Not doing approaches after approaches after approaches. Someone can approach once or twice and get results; but if the mindset is to do plenty of approaches before you can see results, the mind will sabotage itself and not expect any results until it does a certain amount of approaches to get the same result.

This is your belief because you think I need to understand what it's like to be horny and need to get laid from a man's perspective. I don't need to know how that feels to be able to understand that more approaches just for the sake of approaches doesn't lead to better results or even getting better at approaches. All that means is that you are doing over 2000 approaches and developing a mindset of more approaches and being a master at approaching. Approaching isn't the goal.

This is what I'm talking about. It's a mind's game. Leo teaches this too so i don't know why he thinks this is any different. Numbers are important, but I think in this case it's the number of times one goes out more than how many women one approaches. 2000 plus, geesh. That's like an approach marathon, lol.

I never really had this experience, but I felt every emotion that you felt writing this. I could feel the pain you were going through. It will take time. Don't try to think of another woman you can, will or may love as much as you loved her for now. Try not to think about another woman now. I will say, and even though it's not the same, I know you'll understand because I sense an air of maturity in you that can see the similarity. I had to let go if a cat I dearly loved and had for 14yrs. I cried like a baby and swore I'd never get another cat. Guess what, I have another cat. About 2yrs in between but I never went looking, she found me because I opened up my heart and was mentally ready to the point where I started dreaming about cats and one day a stray kitten was found in the back yard. Long story there but you get the drift. I thought I'd never find or even wanted another cat; but it happened when I finally allowed myself to open up to the possibility of having another cat again. So, allow yourself to go through the emotions and when you're mentally ready, it will find you, but not before.

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It's not about approaching 2000xplus either. I don't need to be a man to know that that's burn out mode. Attracting things to you doesn't mean to sit on your ass and do nothing. It means going out with a particular mindset and let the energy do the work. That could still be approaching but not in numbers but in right timing. Anyway, I'm more into working smarter not harder. You can use other examples with this analogy and certain things operate the same way only in different contexts and contents. So, certain things are Universal and can be applied whether it be a male thing or a female thing.

That's because it's not a numbers game it's a mind's game. 2000x means you're trying to force something physical in a mental Universe. Also chasing implies something's running. I bet you pussy started coming to you when you didn't want or desire it and was even turning it down. You released the resistance of trying to get something instead of attracting it to you.

An apple doesn't know it's an apple. A cat doesn't know it's a cat. Knowing is separation. One cannot know themselves, they can only be themselves. This moment is eternal and that eternity is infinite and also cannot be known, it just is. When you realize this, the seeking stops and you just be.

It's not so much as needing it to fade but to see it in a way where it brings you joy to have had such an intense experience with someone that made you feel alive and you were able to express the love that you are and share it with someone. Now you have practice and can do it better next time around and now your capacity to love has expanded where the hurt won't feel as bad and the joyous moments seem to replicate themselves but through different people. Why would you want such joyous moments that you had with someone to fade...only if they were looked at as something to gain and not something to experience and your ego feels bad because it isn't gaining anymore, so let's fade it away, so I can concentrate on gaining from a new experience where i don't have to remember that other joyous lover i had because it was about me and what I'm about to hopefully gain from you too. You trying to get that ex out of your head is exactly why they are still there.

There are plenty of people happy in their "waiting tables" jobs and janitorial positions, and hotel staffs and whatever else kind of job that people like to put in categories. (including myself, so don't think I'm singling you out). It's not the job that matters at times but how the one doing it sees it. You have slapped a Life of Purpose unto the Universe and now you see one job as regretfully so and even though many people do regret their jobs lots enjoy being mediocre and are happy with mediocre jobs. The Universe is balanced and we would be happy seeing things a certain way every time not realizing that it has to be the way it is and cannot be any other way.

Lol. I hope your beau speaks as you do because that will be one funny convo trying to figure out what the other is saying.😜

I don't want to sound woo woo but it's only the mind that feels it's "regretfully" for many. The mind that thinks it's a somebody with high standards and goals and dreams and a life and is separate from. Other than that, someone waiting tables to the Universe isn't any worse than somebody playing music or fulfilling a life of purpose. Just saying. I'm sorry, but certain things just fall away when the world is seen differently. To me, its not regretfully and is just the case and I recognize that everything is perfect and as it should be because God or whatever you call it is all there is and that is perfection.

I'm not sure how this can be actual experience VS conceptual. Like there is going to be an energy that sees itself as a person that knows itself as energy and will say, "ok, i'm just an energy masquerading around as human" and for another energy like you to say, "well, I'm skeptical when that energy over there doesn't speak from direct experience and is only conceptualizing. There are no people talking from the mind. It's the mind talking and masquerading as people. You need to put down all those practices you're doing because all they do is separate you from the self even more. There's nothing complicated about this, when you don't see yourself as human, that's when things become clear. Not saying you need to go around saying you're not human, but in discussions like this, reference that point and certain things will be easier to grasp and understand. You underestimate the enormity and magnitude of the illusion and mirage and how it's design was meant to keep itself locked into. You think doing practices will undo this, no the mind has to realize what it is and that it doesn't and cannot exist on it's own without a source which is you. You as consciousness are lost in your creation thinking you're separate from it and that's where your confusion and dilemmas lie.

Of course, I see what you're saying here. What you describe alot though, is how to only be for yourself while never focusing on the other's needs. That's where I see the error. We have to first nurture ourselves before we can nurture others in an effective way but while still taking into consideration their wants, needs and desires.

Look into why you feel this way. This statement looks at women as victims. It says, women are weak and men are strong. Only thing is that only applies to the physical. Nothing wrong or right with either sexes having these emotions emerge but if they do, they need to be looked at as to the reasons. Men are human too and these emotions doesn't care what sex you are. It's like trying not to be a certain way only magnifies it. Trying to not cry only makes you cry harder, ever notice that. How are emotions that doesn't care if you're a man or woman be wrong only for that reason. Idk what you've been smoking😅but I want some when I want to unplug from my conscious mind and get into trance mood and start hallucinating, frfr.

Sometimes things aren't what they seem. Since we don't know the exact circumstances we don't know, but consider that sometimes people love another soooo much, they are willing to part with them because it's in the best interest of that person. A ton of reasons why she could have loved him even way more than he did love her. Just because he made this post and seems like he's having a hard time getting over it, doesn't prove she never loved him. People may or may not stay with another just out of love; they might have other unselfish reasons why they've decided to end the relationship precisely because their love was so strong and didn't want for the relationship to continue on a path that wasn't in both their interest. We can't make assumptions in cases like this. Too many factors at play and things we're unaware of in this case. You said what you said here because you see it as, the one hurting is the one that loved, while the other did the hurt.

This right here shows a sign of weakness. Wishing on a particular sex to relinquish their power and transmute it to fear worry and doubt, so you can easily use your manipulative tactics on them. You say fear doubt and worry is for women, but what's really happening is your fears, worries and doubts about women is the reason why you say this. You have plastered these traits upon women because you can only transcend these through women and when you see these traits being demonstrated by them, it makes you feel powerful and having something over them when in fact, these are the emotions you feel when in the presence of women and are trying to get rid of by projecting them unto women. In other words, keep them over there women, I don't want them here. You have done a good job making me feel these emotions so now I'm cursing you with them by saying fear, worry and doubt are for women because you can't stand to feel them and have felt enormous pain in the past by them. You're not realizing how you're revealing yourself in your statements. Anyone who knows how to, can see the person revealed in your statements. We know about people from their dislikes, and what their fears are. We can tell what people are really saying about themselves by what they say about others.

It's for him to have the capacity to provide and care for her in ways she feels safe in order for her to allow him to lead her so she can rest in her feminine and allow for his masculine to shine through and allow for them both to shine from within and create a more powerful dynamic for both.

That fear is the engine that drives this behavior to begin with. Why one feels the need to strategize in this manner. Why one is motivated to be what you've described. If there was no fear, one would just be and let in and allow for Universal flow to permeate their being without using manipulative tactics to protect themselves. IT'S ALL FEAR BASED. Love doesn't need to strategize.

Not necessarily. You're mostly referring to people who play games, these love games. He went through an experience which he will never forget and that's it. No need to spurt what he should have done and who would have been filled with love and making posts. He did it and you're giving him flack about it, now you're saying she should have been the one getting the flack. Either way, both are human and don't deserve to be in situations that doesn't serve them. You're making it seem like you're ok with her being in the position he's in. Neither one is close to you and it's not personal for you, either way. You showed in your comment here how you're just against women and see them as beneath you because it shouldn't matter which one had to go through what he's going through. IOW, you said if he had done so and so, it would have been her going through what he's going through, so "you let women go through all that bullshit, while us men transcend all that, stay strong so we don't have to". Why wish it on anyone. If you were for people in general, it shouldn't matter which one goes through hurt, but seems you don't mind if women do.

The type of sex worker I am is one that need not have sex, I work for myself, by myself and has nothing to do with porn. I will never have sex on camera and I can barely take in one dick inside muchless multiple in a day. Imagine calling yourself a sex worker but very rarely have sex. That's me. It's just I don't need to color coat it and say escort or whatever. I have made money throughout the years from men and couples providing a service and sometimes not. It varies on the circumstances. Porn does nothing for me but I sometimes have to pretend I like it for a customer and nothing wrong with that. I'm probably one of the most sexless person in the entire world who does mostly everything else but have sex and don't need to to make money as a sex worker. Just wanted to make that clear. My pussy is so tight right now from being sexless, My only fear in life other than spiders is a big dick and I mean that. I will not even consider it. It's been a few years like this and it's staying this way until, and if I find the love of my life. Even then, his dick better not be huge or it'll be a deal breaker.

Your AI robotic skills better be on point with batteries included and the heart monitor tuned into rejection mode 1on1 where it can be easily accessible and switch to being accepted mode to be able to recognize when someone is actually saying yes. Don't ask me to repeat because I have no idea what I just said. I'm still stunned by that 2000 number and how that must make one desensitized to women at that point - or even capable of having feelings for any.

No, nothing is set in stone, especially in this department. The fact that you're making a post about it, to me, says it impacted you quite heavily and has left a mark. It's hard to erase a mark that deep whether it's negative or positive. The brain has already taken certain snapshots and certain emotions were at play to keep those snapshots filed and tucked away in memory bank just to be rehashed and relive and revisit every time those emotions arise. Not saying she'll be remembered every time but it will take some overriding of that system for her to be completely wiped out. The length of time will depend on the intensity of the emotions felt and how many incidences to come that you will encounter that will affect you negatively as negative emotions are more intense than their positive counterparts and why they're considered negative to begin with as there really are no negative emotions but only what the mind characterize as such.

All this is just you explaining away what it takes to not feel this way. Should do this, should do that. All your way does is create another set of challenges. Different ones. No such thing in life as do it this way and then they're no problems. What he went through and is going through is an experience. He had a wonderful experience with a wonderful partner for a few wonderful years. Why are you trying to mechanize that. Occupied by this occupied by that, this is why game is important and fill that void with yourself buddy or you'll.......you'll turn into a loveless, narcissist who only thinks about themself like me who thinks that game is not caring about anybody but yourself and who thinks they are going some place other than every body else when they die. Nothing special about your approach except it leads to a loveless, lonely, and fearful way of being where we think our way is the only way and where we lose sight of what actually matters - the ability to share the love that we are with others.

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