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Children are so loveable and great to observe. They don't have a care in the world and they're not trying to impress or be a particular way. They just act. They do without thinking and are spontaneous and free. They always put a smile on my face. They have temper tantrums because, instinctively, they just want what they want, no excuses. They need to be trained and disciplined and told what to do and not do because they are raw and direct. They are without filters and a sense of identity. The very young ones. Both children and animals put a smile on my face except for barking dogs. I grew up with barking dogs and open gates and I developed a small tiny phobia surrounding that. Jamaica didn't have dog rules and laws and they would just roam freely around the neighborhood. Mongrel dogs. Most were tame and of no threat and the ones that were, were usually behind a gate, but sometimes you'd get a couple that were not and started barking at you. Never run from a barking dog, just act normal. I was a kid then and never got bit by a dog, but just the sound of one barking gives me the creeps. I'll pet a dog now especially over here in the states where most are just house pets, but I'll ask first if it's ok. Little chihuahuas don't scare me but the Rottweilers do. I've never petted a Rottweiler. I love service dogs, so quiet and loveable and smart. I just love animals. My fav, of course, are cats but I like them all. I love going to the zoo. Some people don't like the zoo because they see them as caged animals that need to be in the wild. They don't understand that most of those animals wouldn't survive in the wild as they were born in a zoo and that's all they know. My favs at the zoo are the monkeys, tigers, apes and dolphins. I like the elephants too. So intelligent.

No, that's how women fall in love, not men. Men will fall out of....if the woman loses her attractiveness. A woman can fall madly for an unattractive man who cares for her and he becomes to her the most attractive man in the room.

Not to keep breaking your ball's but I counted 19 threads that were started by you, all on the first page on the list and all just in June. Stroll down the pages and all i see is Santiago Ram. Don't you think that's a bit much and most of the comments are all made by you in most. Looks like you need a journal. No judgement, just observation. Are you drinking while posting? I only ask because you keep mentioning AA.

Funny how OP says men are more into truth seeking than women then goes on to speak about his gf's experience with 5meo. @OBEler Explain this please. Just asking out of curiosity and trying to understand why you say what you say.

I see.

No, I get that. In that way, yes I agree. Women have it easier in that way. Lots of men willing to take care of women financially and it's more socially acceptable while the opposite is not. If you had put it this way from the beginning, I would have agreed right off the bat. I thought you were only referring to relationships on a whole where women find it easier to get.

That was my only comment in this thread. Why argue over which gender is more spiritually inclined or who seeks truth more. Each one of us is only 1/8billion and most truth seekers aren't probably on social media advertising their quest for truth so no one really knows.

Women also work on their personal development. A man can also pay a coach on how to be more masculine. You're underestimating what it takes to be a woman. I don't down-play what men have to go through at times to get the women they want but for both, it's of a different kind of work and one is not more hard-working than the other. It's just in different ways. The same as how men can thrive in competitive roles and women might not do as good and women can thrive in unity-based and having great female role models, while men might not need that as much and strive to be more independent based. It's different for both genders. Women are constantly on the watch for predators also, it's a lot of mental work to vet a guy for safety. How many men have to worry about being raped or taken advantaged of sexually. Not too often. Women don't necessarily get the better end of the stick. There's a lot at stake there for us. Men too, but like I said it's in a different way. Neither has to put in any work, but men aren't necessarily putting in more. Just to get laid, yes some and maybe most, but that's just because all he wants initially is sex. Speaking on those who say they have to work to get laid. Women put in a lot of self-development work to get the guy that will provide and protect her and take her off the market meaning marriage. Most men will not just marry any woman. There are plenty of coaches out there teaching women how to get high-value men. Those men are not your every-day run of the mill and a woman has to know and understand how these men roll. They're not looking for sex, but a lifestyle which takes work and dedication no matter how you look at it if you weren't born into it. That's work.

Another women are the prize comment. Men don't usually need to be invested in to get sex from them. Neither one is a requisite for sex but you just made women's sex a prize or not by rating how it's gotten. I made a pact to point out how men automatically make women the prize without even noticing it. It's so natural that it's in the language and expectations. Your words says men should invest in a woman before sex is expected, if not it's called 'low investment', meaning easy prize.

I think you missed my point. The last sentence of your statements said what I meant by men a needing to work on their personality. As far as women need to just be, how many men would go for very unattractive women who hasn't put themselves together in some way or fashion, especially on a night on the town. They can just be after that, but I'm saying the work is done beforehand to attract.

Neither one constitutes what a prize is on it's own.

This is a misconception. Women or men don't get the better end of the deal simply because of gender. Not even looks for women or status for men. People carry a type of energy that attracts a certain type of energy. It all depends on the energy and not what the person has or doesn't have. This is why we see 'odd' couples all the time. Meaning an attractive woman with a very ordinary looking or ugly man or even poor or a man of status with ugly women or mean and nasty women or whatever the 'odd' in society's eyes is. Women put in work too, it's just they put in the work undercover to get baited. Men also put in the work but it's to catch the bait. Both put in work. Most women aren't that beautiful without make up or exercise or eating healthy, etc, that's work to a woman; men it's personality wise because that's what attracts women mostly while for men it's looks. Women work on their looks or try to maintain what they have which takes work, especially if they're older. Not sure about the Charles Manson story; not familiar.

Wouldn't you try to get all the prizes you can get. I'm not saying women are the prize all on their own but to men they are. Still not saying that without men they aren't but no one is anything without a relation. The dynamic leaves women to be the prize, Score? Isn't that a prize.

Another 'woman are the prize' comment.

There is no 'true self'. False and true are one. Neither exist. If the Absolute is a self, then OK, and it's all the self there is.

I will continue to bask in truth while you continue to seek it.

God is not a person or human nor does it see a person or a human. It doesn't care because caring is conditional. It doesn't not care either. It's energy, and energy has no bounds. It's not seeing things in a biased form or does it even see things. IT IS ALL THINGS. So your God is not the God that is. Your God is conditional, limited, personal, bounded, biased and should and shouldn't be and do. It's energy in seeming form and is all empty. Empty of substance. God is all there is and it doesn't care about your whining and troubles about the world. It also is the whining and the troubles of the world. If you had no sense of self, you wouldn't care or not care either, there would just be WHAT IS. Take that message or leave it and continue to suffer. Keep being neurotic, biased and selfish. Life doesn't care, it'll show you this eventually. Eventually when you grow tired of yourself.

There's no need to talk about people and how they approach spirituality. I hope I catch myself doing that, if I ever do. It's a personal thing and everyone approaches it differently. It's no sacred or divine than anything else because it's ALL sacred and divine equally. The mind has made the distinction. Not saying we need to treat it as such, but to recognize it for what it really is. Treat it special, yes, but realize it's a bias. You're saying God or the Absolute is conditional and limited if you think spirituality is special and divine. That's just for human corruption and self-gratification. We don't go in the health section and say, you're acting like a health nut and that you know everything and thinking you're some kind of expert on the matter or in the dating section and say you're not a coach so you have no business giving advice or even responding or saying someone has no business talking on the matter because it's divine stuff, why do it with spirituality. It's all a matter of pov's and how we see things personally. That's what a forum is for as long as we're not crossing the guidelines. Disagreements happen and that's to be expected. Spirituality talk is just that, talk. It's to be respected, though just as anything else in life and not be singled out or else we're singling out the whole for our benefit and how we see fit. I'm guilty too, so I'm also talking and messaging myself as a reminder.

Of course, it's all genuine human connection; intimate or not. Human connection doesn't have to involve intimacy. Are you intimate with the person you walk by on the street and say hi to. That's a genuine human connection. I'm genuinely connecting on a human level with clients; doesn't need involve intimacy. Why be intimate with every human connection. They come and go. That's reserved for close family and friends where grieving their disappearance is reserved. The thing is people take intimacy lightly and it's not genuine, it's only to suit them and their need for object-based love. I'm love itself expressed and i don't need to be attached to intimacy to express it. Human love is conditional so intimacy is also conditional, it's never genuine. So when you say 'genuine human connection' it's only genuine as far as the human's level of expression goes. It's all genuine, even the lack of intimacy. All genuine on the human level. No human, it's all unconditional. Just the mere mention of the word human, made it conditional.

It says ego and attachment, maybe it's the opposite and why the two can be separated with no problem. I don't see the correlation with sex work and 'regular sex life' and I like it that way regardless of the reason. In fact, if a man was to be with me as a sex worker but him and i were on 'regular' terms, at least he wouldn't have to worry or fear of me being attached to a date intimately, Some might say, I seem numb to sex work or detached from whatever. No, I'm not numb, I'm separating the two. It's that simple. No need to try and figure it out or all those conceptual ideas. Do you consider your job to be who you are, no, it's an identity. There are different identities at play here and i can play. Are you the same way with your mother as you are with your lover, no, different identities there. Same with sex work for me. It's an identity. When it's personal, it's a different identity, I'm aware we're all playing the identity role in life and there is no authentic person alive. Fool yourselves into thinking your ego is authentic all you want, you're setting yourself up for suffering and anxiety. I'm comfortable in my own skin and have not attached to either identities. They're there to navigate this thing called life and when it's over no identity goes with me. I'm happy to separate the two. There's no it's because of that or because of this it's simply an identity issue. No stories there yet it's all stories.

People are only basically looking for happiness because they're uncomfortable feeling sad. Getting comfortable feeling sad is the recipe to happiness. Being happy about feeling sad. Not feeling happy about feeling sad. BEING happy about FEELING SAD. That's hard to do but when you instill it within that the sadness won't last forever, that will BE something to be happy about. Neurosis is what leads to all this anxiety about needing to feel happy all the time. Getting comfortable with life's ups and downs and realizing the nature of it all is the recipe for peace and understanding that peace can also be disturbed in the world of duality. We're wanting the unchangeable in a world of change. If that's not neurotic, I don't know what is. It's amazing, see, that also amazes me.

I like talking and writing about this stuff. There are no teachings here. This is just simply expression. It's a joy and a genuine curiosity that emerges here about life and it's expressions of love. The curiosity that comes with awe and wonder. It energizes me, everything about it. Even the lows are looked at with awe and wonder. Seeing how they come and go, seeing how they flow with the highs, seeing how I can get so sad and miserable one minute and joyous the next. I look at all that in awe and wonder and with curiosity. I am amazed at life. I'm amazed even when I'm not amazed. Even when I'm miserable sad and suffering. I'm amazed at the mundane stuff, i'm amazed at people, I'm amazed at when I'm feeling shitty and feeling happy. I'm amazed at everything. Not amazed as in looking all excited and happy and all that, no, but amazed to myself as to it just being here. All of it. I will cry for no reason and laugh for no reason. Sometimes I wonder if I'm insane. I'm amazed at the thoughts, the way I see things, the way I act sometimes, it's all amazing. Not nice and lovely, but amazing. i don't see amazing as good and fluffy and all great and all i see amazing as the fact that anything is at all. I'm amazed at death - that is the most amazing thing to me, death. I cannot fathom death so it's amazing to me that there's even such a thing. I won't get into the concepts and how it's not real and blah blah, for now it is and I'm amazed that one can be living one moment and the next moment not. Everything is amazing, even an ant. Even when I just want to die, that amazes me. So, this here isn't talking about happiness but amazement; to me it's all amazing just because and for no reason. I don't know why, it just is.

Why conflate the two issues. I don't see a correlation between sex work and intimacy. How can two people that don't know each other or only know each other on the level of sex work be intimate in the true sense of the word. Sex work wasn't designed to be intimate, genuine intimacy, that is. Yes, it can be paid for but that's not true intimacy and is on the level of transactional. The problem arises when the one that pays expects otherwise. I find that a lot of men can conveniently separate this dynamic in their personal lives but when it comes to a sex worker, they expect her to be more "into it/him" I guess because he's paying for it. They can conveniently have sex with a regular female without feelings or love and it be purely physical but expects the sex worker to have feelings and do it with compassion and love. How can she when she doesn't know you. True Intimacy, sex and sex work doesn't go hand in hand. There's not even a close connection. Guys will get upset when this isn't the case, because they can have sex without true intimacy or feelings but expect the woman to. They'll get upset and say she's only in it for the money when they're only in it for the sex or whatever it is they paid for. It gets me sometimes that men can (some men) expect a female to want to have sex with a man they don't know or even like. They can and do it on a regular basis. Pick up is hard for the reason that women usually need to have a certain emotion 'touched' before they want to have sex while a man can just see a woman he's attracted to to want to have sex with her and without knowing her or even care to. He can pretend to want to get to know her just for the sake of wanting sex from her and women can feel that and that's why they can get so cold. As a sex worker, it baffles me how men can think the woman is turned on just because he is. Most will ask me what I like and want to do, if I asked them the same. I want to go home and eat ice-cream I'm thinking. Why would I WANT to do anything sexual with you, i don't know you, I'm thinking. I'm only doing it because I'm being compensated and because I can separate the two. Pick up guys will get offended by this while they're out there chasing strange pussy from women they don't even know or like or don't even really want to know. I'll be looked down upon for what I do while men will go out see big boobs, a nice ass, a pretty face and want to stick their dick in that strangers pussy for self-gratification; but when I say I'm only doing it because I'm compensated and it's a willing choice, I'll get looked down upon. Men will chase pussy and i will chase money. What's the difference. I'm making a living while they're trying to cum. Which one is more meaningful. Depends on whose looking, I've become numb to all the naysers because I've seen enough to realize that men are more impersonal than women when it comes to sex and they can freely and happily with a proud face spread their dicks around to strangers and strange women who are willing, while for me it's usually on the level of knowing, liking and respecting the guy to want to even have sex with him and after he's earnt his way to receive the love I have in store even if it's just for a brief moment. A guy wants your heart without earning it, but if I earned my way to his wallet, I'm looked down upon. At least I'm not looking to get it for nothing when I'm working. Most men are looking for sex without even trying to earn it. Yes, it's earnt, you're not entitled to a woman's body just because you exist. Do you go about life feeling entitled to other products you purchase, no. Only to a woman because you feel it should be that way. No it shouldn't. Everything in life is earnt, including sex. Doesn't mean monetarily, just earnt in some type of way. Sex work is a different category all by itself.

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