Princess Arabia

You need to stop this idiotic reasoning. Lots of rapists are married or have gfs. Lots of flashers do it out of perversion not from sexual frustration. How is one getting their normal healthy sexual needs met by flashing. The root cause of sexual harassment is not from sexual frustration, it's from perverting thinking and a need to express this dysfunction.

Jamaica, beautiful island in the West Indies where I grew up, is known for it's cultural background. Our national motto is "Out Of Many One People" which alludes to the various ethnic groups among the population; which, to-date, stands at approximately 3million people. Here I will be posting videos and making posts about the different aspects of this very diverse Caribbean Island including, sports, food, music, politics, news, environment, and about the country in general. I'll start with this introductory video that states a few facts about the country.

Why do you think they are so many mental illnesses. Suffering, depression, anxiety, etcetc and so many go through the motions, it's because most are detached from reality. What seems to be the norm, isn't. If I speak something that sounds radical to the conditioned ears, I'm sounding crazy and depersonalized or seem to be detached or whatever else word is used to describe it. Most are so used to this way of living that if it's not the case, things seem abnormal. See someone smiling all day and they seem weird. Friendly people are suspicious and monogamy is revered. Most walk around with a chip on their shoulder, have a bone to pick with the world, seem like zombies and whatever else that seems like the norm. When I speak from a more natural way of what reality is like, I'm seen as the one detached from reality. The so-called human being seem to think the world revolves around them and that they're the most important thing in the world. They live in their own reality and keep on trying to fix things to suit their fancy and complain about everything and everyone that doesn't fit inside their illusory world. There's nothing natural and normal about a personal identity as it is a construct, yet we think it's what is. No it's not. We own everything and think we have to figure out how to maneuver this world to survive and be the best at what we think we're the best at. There's nothing real about any of this and something knows and realizes this. Nothing can be changed about this either nor does it need to. One is already detached from reality the moment they seem to realize that they are separate and there are others. When they seem to think they have autonomy and they are thinking their thoughts. When they think they have free will and choice and that there is a way to maneuver what is happening. When they seem to think there is a person in there with a life that is having emotions and doing things. That's the automatic detachment that confuses that energy into thinking it's a separate individual in charge of and responsible for it's own happiness and survival. It's ll an illusion and noone is doing anything ever and this is total and nothing is separate. No one can do anything about this because no one did anything to bring it about in the first place and there's no one anyway that can and ever will do anything. I'm not immune to this either.

Just random stuff about anything.

Ok. You're saying the same thing I'm saying. You just have a word for those guys.

I didn't say lots of men are. All I said was it's possible for a man to end up sleeping with a lot of women without setting that intention. Read my words for what they are saying, not for what you think i'm saying or your interpretation of it.

What's so silly about that statement. A man can end up sleeping with a lot of women in his life without setting that intention. What's so stupid about that statement. I just don't get it why that's so hard to understand.

Of course its harder for men to get sex than women. Women aren't going around trying to get sex just for sex's sake (of course there are exceptions) but it's a bit more challenging for them to find someone THEY WANT TO have sex with. Nothing impressive about screwing a bunch of women just because they look good or because they're willing to give it up. Something impressive about trying to find a man of means to help support you and your potential family or be of assistance in some way as a woman and has your best interest in mind and are able to find one. Just because money is hard to come by are you going to go rob a bank, no, you go do the best you can to earn it. As far as sex with women goes men see it as hard to come by, so that justifies my wanting to sleep with a lot of women and cheering on guys that do.

Unfulfillment appears in many different ways doesn't have to appear as wanting to kill yourself. You're seeking for other stuff, right. There's a 'next' in your book right. If I could just get that, .....then I'll be. It's disguised as many ideas....,spirituality, religion, being ambitious, striving for, a sense of need and want...that's all unfulfillment in disguise. He just expresses his as hopelessness and a need of not wanting to be here since his craving for a better experience seems far away and unreachable.

You wouldn't even know what fulfillment feels like. Nobody does. If they say they do, it's contentment and an acceptance of what is. Separation cannot feel fulfillment because fulfillment is the absence of separation which is already the case. Sorry to sound all woo woo, but it cannot be escaped, no matter how hard we try, we'll be back to square one of feeling unfulfilled. You're waiting for the next thing to happen to feel fulfilled. It'll never happen because there will always be a next. Never arriving.

Most here probably don't remember but this reminds me of where you were around 2yrs or so ago. Talking about how you hated your job of cutting trees and you're financially unset and how you hate your life and how depressed you were and it went on for awhile then I guess you started your Qichong business and now it's back to the grind only you seem a little more financially stable. Back to being emotionally unsettled because nothing has fulfilled you. It'll pass.

God is denying the existence of God.

So I just briefly did a Google search. Very brief because I didn't want to spend too much time on it. Men incarcerated for child support was like 2mil (USA). Wedding business is booming and is a lucrative business. Baby clothes is a lucrative business and lots of Valentine Day dates. This does not suggest that men aren't getting laid or are in relationships and that only the top 10-20% of men are the only ones getting dates and the rest of the incel reports. This is how you tell what's really going in in the dating world. Not listen to stories or look at fake stats. I'll tell you exactly what's happening. Most of what I mentioned above those women (not all, but most) are average looking women maybe even overweight or just ordinary looking. Most of what's being reported is coming from guys who want hot women. This is why they say it's only the top whatever percentage of men getting these women . Probably so. They can't find hot women to date and now there's an epidemic. Guys are having problems finding hot chicks. That's the fucking problem. Look at the video of canal street. Go look at Las Vegas shows that show the streets downtown and on the strip and other places like these. Tons of couples. Those women usually look ordinary but they're still holding hands with their loved one. This is what you do. Do the raw research. Not listen to some closeted incel or guys who sit in the basement or getting so-called rejected from cold approach where the female don't know him from Adam. That's not how you tell the raw truth. Go deep inside. Go to court tv. See how many couples there for domestic charges, stuff like that. All those reports about men having it hard......NO...they are having it hard finding hot females to date. That's it.

This is actually a dating and relationship journal. I threw the other one out because I didn't think I'd want to talk too much on this topic from a female perspective on a male dominated forum. I've decided to try again because I find myself wanting to say some things but without tainting my other journal which is mostly about reality and spirituality. Plus, I can. Some might even appreciate a female's perspective on this in this field and maybe learn a thing or two about how we think. I don't know, I'll just let it flow and see how it goes. I love the title I gave it. I think it's a but catchy. I'm feeling adventurous right now even though there's nothing adventurous in my dating life. Anyone can comment and jump in for some tea or coffee or some wine and cheese. Just don't overstay your welcome and leave after the date. Don't spend the night. I need a ring for that. Hehe.

That's no secret and nothing to get repulsed about. There are worse things that some men do that's more repulsive to women; one of them is calling women sluts and whores while he's slutting and whoring down the town himself and trying to get into every pants he can. Another one is men who deliberately want to sleep with a lot of women. I say deliberately because sleeping with a lot of women can just happen, but if that's your goal, it's a turn off for women. They won't say it, but it is. It's only other men that finds this impressive.

And that's smart.

Maybe, but at least she's looking out for her future, kids, lifestyle and well-being. What's big boobs or a hot woman going to do after 50yrs. She's investing in herself. Call that superficial if you like.

That's for men. Most women are craving the men, not the sex. The sex is usually the cream on top for women. We don't go around craving sex for sex's sake, like men do. Women are in it for the men, and that's where they fall short most of the time.

Maybe these women are traumatized, dysfunctional and have low-self esteem. Not all women are like this and not even most. I won't deny the bad boy thing being attractive and all but a rapist, misogynist and woman beater and abuse r aren't being saught after by the average woman and those don't carry an air of adventure and fun with them. The bad boy syndrome does and maybe a philanderer or a guy like Andrew Tate but not worse as in murderer or rapist and to that extreme.

Options for what. I'm tired of explaining this. Guy sees girl, likes what he sees...boom...it's on, let me try and get her. Woman sees man...nothing really tickles much until she gets to know him even if for a few then she gets tickled, that takes time. Options for men are in galore because all he has to do is leave his house and he'll see plenty of attractive women. For women, except for in the bars and night clubs and drunk scenes, cannot see the options just by looking, men can. On top of that, many men are already assholes and dickheads by default and she can't tell that just by him saying hello 'hello'. WOMEN DO NOT HAVE MORE OPTIONS FOR DATING, THEY GET MORE CAT CALLS AND ARE APPROACHED MORE....doesn't mean a thing.

Women aren't looking to follow men, they're looking for who they want to choose to be their leader. Women are choosing it all along the way. Men just think they're the ones making the call. Cannot lead a woman who doesn't agree to be led and who she doesn't choose to lead her. We might come off as children and seem flighty but it's a survival mechanism to feel safe because people don't like to hurt children and look at them as innocents. It's a passive-aggressive kind of energy thing and where she exercises her masculine side and role on a passive level. All you're saying is true, but I'm showing how it came to place and how it's not so cut and dry.

I do empathize and I do understand that both have challenges. I was responding to his statement about how most women cannot even imagine what it's really like for the abundance of male rejections. My comment wasn't in denial of male's challenges. Women get passively rejected by men every day. The tall one, the fat one, the ugly one, the small boob one, the buff teeth one, the pimpled up one, the very large waisted one, the very small butt one with no shape one, I can go on.... Pick the one you don't want and are not attracted to. If I can recall, you even had a post about a female you were talking to but didn't feel attraction to. Nothing wrong, just saying rejection galore on the female side, it's just they're not being told right to their faces 'no thanks'. I wasn't trying to be one up on the victim scale but trying to point out that most men's rejections aren't really rejections at all because people cannot really reject something if they really don't know what they're rejecting. Just because a woman might not choose you, it doesn't mean it's a rejection and just because she might choose you it doesn't mean she rejected the others. Life is a pick and choose game and the things that aren't chosen is left for someone else to have their pick with and need not taken personally. Divorce and the end of a long-invested relationship where one leaves the other and doesn't choose them any more for whatever reason is more of a something to cry and whine about than not getting a yes from some stranger who you don't even know her name but only because you liked how she looked. Plenty where that came from but not plenty where a true love has been rejected and one needs starting over. Give me a break with these make rejection sob stories. They are merely ego trips and a blow to how the man starts to see and think of himself which is an inside problem and inside job to fix. How a woman looks is not that easy to fix and gets passively rejected all the tome if nit up to par by the on-looker who doesn't initially care about personality which is most men in the initial stage. It's only after he's got her when her bitchy side starts to be a problem and he starts looking for a way out to go hit on the next big boob chick.