Princess Arabia

Maybe these women are traumatized, dysfunctional and have low-self esteem. Not all women are like this and not even most. I won't deny the bad boy thing being attractive and all but a rapist, misogynist and woman beater and abuse r aren't being saught after by the average woman and those don't carry an air of adventure and fun with them. The bad boy syndrome does and maybe a philanderer or a guy like Andrew Tate but not worse as in murderer or rapist and to that extreme.

Options for what. I'm tired of explaining this. Guy sees girl, likes what he sees...boom...it's on, let me try and get her. Woman sees man...nothing really tickles much until she gets to know him even if for a few then she gets tickled, that takes time. Options for men are in galore because all he has to do is leave his house and he'll see plenty of attractive women. For women, except for in the bars and night clubs and drunk scenes, cannot see the options just by looking, men can. On top of that, many men are already assholes and dickheads by default and she can't tell that just by him saying hello 'hello'. WOMEN DO NOT HAVE MORE OPTIONS FOR DATING, THEY GET MORE CAT CALLS AND ARE APPROACHED MORE....doesn't mean a thing.

Women aren't looking to follow men, they're looking for who they want to choose to be their leader. Women are choosing it all along the way. Men just think they're the ones making the call. Cannot lead a woman who doesn't agree to be led and who she doesn't choose to lead her. We might come off as children and seem flighty but it's a survival mechanism to feel safe because people don't like to hurt children and look at them as innocents. It's a passive-aggressive kind of energy thing and where she exercises her masculine side and role on a passive level. All you're saying is true, but I'm showing how it came to place and how it's not so cut and dry.

I do empathize and I do understand that both have challenges. I was responding to his statement about how most women cannot even imagine what it's really like for the abundance of male rejections. My comment wasn't in denial of male's challenges. Women get passively rejected by men every day. The tall one, the fat one, the ugly one, the small boob one, the buff teeth one, the pimpled up one, the very large waisted one, the very small butt one with no shape one, I can go on.... Pick the one you don't want and are not attracted to. If I can recall, you even had a post about a female you were talking to but didn't feel attraction to. Nothing wrong, just saying rejection galore on the female side, it's just they're not being told right to their faces 'no thanks'. I wasn't trying to be one up on the victim scale but trying to point out that most men's rejections aren't really rejections at all because people cannot really reject something if they really don't know what they're rejecting. Just because a woman might not choose you, it doesn't mean it's a rejection and just because she might choose you it doesn't mean she rejected the others. Life is a pick and choose game and the things that aren't chosen is left for someone else to have their pick with and need not taken personally. Divorce and the end of a long-invested relationship where one leaves the other and doesn't choose them any more for whatever reason is more of a something to cry and whine about than not getting a yes from some stranger who you don't even know her name but only because you liked how she looked. Plenty where that came from but not plenty where a true love has been rejected and one needs starting over. Give me a break with these make rejection sob stories. They are merely ego trips and a blow to how the man starts to see and think of himself which is an inside problem and inside job to fix. How a woman looks is not that easy to fix and gets passively rejected all the tome if nit up to par by the on-looker who doesn't initially care about personality which is most men in the initial stage. It's only after he's got her when her bitchy side starts to be a problem and he starts looking for a way out to go hit on the next big boob chick.

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No one has to or even can teach you how to stay present because it's impossible to be anything but timelessly 'present'. They can maybe tell you something they have managed to package up nicely in a wrapping paper to sell to you as the me to make you feel better about your non-existence for the time being that you may have to practice or go over again and again like a broken record and a robot and to ease some tension from than pervasive sense of self that's not really happening in the first place. Honey, let's go take a course on how to be present and learn about the power of Now by Echart Tolle so we can be more present and not live yesterday or last month or years ago or tomorrow or two weeks from now but concentrate on now that never comes either; because as soon as it's now, it's already next and neither exists in timelessness.

Just random stuff about anything.

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This is actually a dating and relationship journal. I threw the other one out because I didn't think I'd want to talk too much on this topic from a female perspective on a male dominated forum. I've decided to try again because I find myself wanting to say some things but without tainting my other journal which is mostly about reality and spirituality. Plus, I can. Some might even appreciate a female's perspective on this in this field and maybe learn a thing or two about how we think. I don't know, I'll just let it flow and see how it goes. I love the title I gave it. I think it's a but catchy. I'm feeling adventurous right now even though there's nothing adventurous in my dating life. Anyone can comment and jump in for some tea or coffee or some wine and cheese. Just don't overstay your welcome and leave after the date. Don't spend the night. I need a ring for that. Hehe.

For you, my love..😘

Notice how people think that their situation is the entire world and population's situation. Having it hard in dating? Now it's because there's a loneliness epidemic, the top 10% are reserved, online dating is hard, no one wants such and such or whatever reason one concocts up why they can't get a date, meanwhile thousands and thousands are having babies, getting married, having child support issues, couples are hand in hand on bourbon and Canal Streets, lots of dead beat dads in jail, the wedding and baby industry is lucrative - ask Mr Wonderful from Shark tank. These aren't being single issues. I even saw where someone said they used to have this problem of so and so, and when they changed so and so about themselves, the problem got better and got resolved. That means there wasn't an outside issue in the first place. When you start to see life from this place in most circumstances most things like personal problems fall away because you realize just change some things about yourself or just realize it's how you're seeing yourself and the world that's creating these types of challenges and they won't be viewed as outside problems but problems coming from the skewed observer. Notice a challenge you formerly had that isn't there anymore but not from the world or outside changing but from either you changing or the way you saw the challenge changed. Pay attention.

......,and this is the issue with men who think like this. That women don't have their share of issues and challenges in the dating world. Way more than feeling like someone doesn't even know your last name said no just like a prospective employer may choose another applicant because they seem more qualified for that particular job at hand. The person that didn't get a call back, or most people, aren't home sulking, crying rejection, telling other companies and prospective employees that they don't know what it's like to not get a call back from Wendy's or Nordstrom up the street. For most, it's just....NEXT. That cat at the shelter that you didn't choose isn't saying to itself and cat owners that they don't know what it's like to feel rejected it just goes about licking it's paws, eating and shitting and eyeing out the next victim that comes along and if it likes them, it might show a little more personality , other than that it's life goes on as usual. Now you want to make it about you and how haarrd it is to get a woman to say yes for you just approaching them with no incentive to say yes and come on a forum and write how women don't even know how hard it is while the women have to worry about safety, who just wants to get in her pants and her pants alone, if he's a dick or a psychopathic loser philanderer, misogynist, have to vet and make sure he is who he says he is as far as not being a rapist or that he's not actually married or already taken, and these are just some issues women have to contend with before even getting to know the man and is in the initial stage. If you ask me a little rejection or a lot of rejection seems better to deal with than the mental strains of all I mentioned and more.

What do you think instinct is. It's the absence of the me, absence of awareness, absence of autonomy, absence of meaning and purpose and value and all that has to do with the me energy. Instinct is the real, raw, uncut version of the Absolute. It's what animals operate from babies and even adults when the me isn't seeming to appear. Intuition too, when no one is thinking and appearing to attempt to manipulate what's appearing.

The me energy. (Not really there) it's illusory. It likes to own things: emotions, personal space, ideas, people, countries, problems, mental disorders. solutions, states, life, diseases, reality and the universe and all that it seems to relate to and think are things separate from and different than it. It likes to feel needed, wanted, important, special, loved, heard, understood and to express itself in any way shape or form, a sense of meaning and purpose and for things to make sense to it and it's construction and likes to find value in the things it relates to. It doesn't like to feel, abandoned, angry, lonely, bored, small, unimportant, depressed, perplexed, confused, sad, anxious, ashamed. When I say its not really there and that it's an illusion, I mean everything is appearing but no one is at the drivers seat, no one is observing anything, no one is aware or conscious of anything and all is just simply and effortlessly appearing as itself. The me energy, however, senses that all is in relation to it and therefore the term relativity is born which doesn't really exist but only as a part of the dreamt reality of the institutionalized me.......OH, IT'S A MESS.

Nice. Been saying this all along.

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Were you looking for that from any of your past gfs. Offsprings and to have kids tall, white, handsome and bald who called their daddy, Daddy Deo Lura. 😜

No, it's nothing to be ashamed of; i was pointing out how misleading the title seems to be after reading some of your added comments and responses. Doesn't seem like you have a woman problem but a 'getting my preference met' problem. We all have different preferences, wants and desires in this category, just be upfront and recognize where the root of the problem we think we have lies instead of going around in circles with useless advice from people that doesn't even understand what lies beneath.

Well, everything depends on region. It's like me saying to someone looking for a natty dread and emphasizing how important that is on a dating resume, that's not a criteria for dating; it's not, but for that person it is and so will a lot of other features. Are we going to point out them all. So, him just saying it generally doesn't count without OP saying that's what the girls in that region like. Just saying it off the bat suggests it's a Universal trait that's preferred and it's not.

You should change the title of the thread to 'help, I can't get the type of female I want'. So misleading and a waste of people's time and energy. You're not looking for a girlfriend you seek someone to carry on your off-spring with your preferred looks and status.

This is not an added bonus when trying to get dates.

Every time you turn around, there's a crises brewing among so-called humans; an epidemic of sorts. Loneliness, lack of purpose, feeling empty, suicidal. There's one denominator here. When are we gonna realize there's a certain energy here that's lost in translation.

Is that what happened to you; someone broke your heart.

He already explained why. Something needs fixing.

Seriously? Seems like desperation to me.