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I don’t really think in these terms anymore. I’m only concerned about harmony within myself and I’d say truth is most definitely necessary for that as well as responsibility, and just embracing that I’ll make plenty of mistakes along the way. Living this way has made me realize how everyone literally is fucking up a ton as well and figuring their shit out. I don’t project out ideas onto the world how I think if only x or y we would all get along. Hippies have been diluting themselves yapping like this for decades. The change starts with you and I’d adjust your expectations what to expect from other people because half the time they will let you down and let you down badly they will.

But that isn't whats true, that's what you think. And of course reality is just reality. We aren't perfect and not everybody believes what you believe or acts how you wish they would act.

Does anyone here have a dog or cat. How much responsibility has it been for you? Has it been expensive? I'm considering getting a pet dog. I grew up with dogs but my parents were exceptionally stable while I am much less so.

I believe we have various personality outfits we wear around different people and in different places. Personality is like clothing of the mind. We change it, try on new stuff, some doesn’t fit us, some fits us really well, some is for working in, sometimes relaxing.

Huh?

We aren’t perfect. That is life as a human. Don’t like it? Go choose to live in a cave. I’ve been dismantling this perspective for a while now and have made great progress. This is life. There are people who seem to be living from a place that’s right for them and people who seem to be fighting the flow and with that creating all sorts of problems along the way. That’s not a judgement of value on anyone but on the actions. People are people. As soon as you can accept this and all the flaws and nonsense the sooner peace will be noticed more moment to moment in your life.

We decided that we want a small dog that can stay in a two room flat. Not too high energy. Maybe something that’s like 4-6kg max but I wouldn’t mind a slightly healer dog. If we fly can check them into cargo. I think the trips we will take together will be long trips and where we are going it’s not too difficult to take dogs there. Yeah I think this is maybe our first step towards shared responsibility to see what it’s like and how it goes.

Got you, sounds like a good bit of work, I think it ties into a lot for me i need to reflect on.

I plan to travel and take a number of trips next year (around 6-7 total), they range from a couple days to a couple weeks. This could be a blessing in disguise because I have been wanting to go alone. So my wife said I could if I get her a dog. This could be a good way for me to do a lot of solo traveling I have been wanting to do. Solo hiking, backpacking, forrest survival. She is going to be primarily responsible for the dog. I don’t mind covering food and helping with an occasional expense but I wanna make sure it’s not all sorts of vet bills from a sick breed or something careless. We need to sit down and discuss the costs and who does what. I also think this is a good opportunity to trust in myself and my boundaries. I’m usually the type of person to roll over and just do whatever to appease my family. But I’m going to be pretty clear here that the dog won’t be my responsibility and I’m not going to cover the majority of the expenses of it. I think this is what I believe is the main challenge for me, the issue is deep down about my boundaries and how I believe it will affect what I want to do and how I wish to spend my time and money. I don’t want to choose to just roll over and cover this vet bill or that airplane cost for flying with the dog. I’m trying to save up money as it is to grow my business and work on my passions. So I want to make that clear in this discussion with her and understand what our responsibilities are.

@Natasha Tori Maru Thanks for the info. It sounds like a lot. But also sounds nice. I am mixed on it. like 50/50

is it possible to get a dog sitter? how hard is it usually?

It's largely about an empire trying to regain it's glory. Putin has tremendous power over Russia and has dismantled all the checks and opposing forces in the country over the years. Putin believes he needs to reestablish Russia as a force to be reckon with and take back land that was part of Russia during the Russian Empire. There are of course seeds of resentment over how the Soviet Union collapsed and lost the cold war to the USA, equally so fears of being invaded dating back to WWII. But the safety concerns are largely a sort of "cover" to justify the real reason which is Make Russia Great Again. Russia has nukes. Ukraine is a weak country and there was no reason for Europe to attack Russia again. They had been entangling their economies for a quarter century. Putin got a bunch of crazy ideas while he was quarantined during COVID. He bought his own hype thinking he could pull a Cuba on Ukraine in a couple days with a woefully small amount of soldiers and now here we are today. He basically started it and the momentum he created has made it so that he has to keep going forward. Nothing here comes from long term planning. Every choice he has made has just been to try and put out a fire here, a fire there. Hence why it's so sloppy and why he can't back out of it. And of course the majority Russians are super conformist and will back whatever Putin does. Russia had an opportunity to become a sort of quasi authoritarian market country with more power spread amongst oligarchs and middle class. With that would of come more protests, less conformity, more demands for freedom and speech and whatnot. I think Putin has grown to fear that as well and the war has also come with the benefit of stamping out any sort of political dissent. So got relief from all the protests during COVID as well. It's a perfect storm really. No on knows how it will end.

That’s a good question and I do agree that conflict prevention is a very important part of diplomacy and leadership. I will answer for the Ukraine war and the collapse of the Soviet Union since it is more relevant today. It’s difficult to say because it’s pure hindsight and we have no other alternative outcome to compare it to since Russia has invaded Ukraine and that’s the truth. Let Ukraine keep its nuclear arsenal. In hindsight there should have been support from the west to support Ukraine with having the nuclear weapons that were left there when the Soviet Union collapsed. This was totally inconceivable at the time and it’s pure hindsight since at the time this decision was made it was from a very different context. I really only see deterrence as the only true driving factor to have prevented this war. I don’t believe any sort of diplomacy would have stopped Russia from trying to re-annex former Soviet Republics. Germany tried with economic ties and we have seen how that has turned out. If anything the Baltics in NATO have prevented Russia from going in there to this day, and a nuclear armed Ukraine would have prevented them from invading there as well. Diplomacy is not going to stop a former empire with a history of imperialist aggression from trying to rebuild their crumbled empire.

Those countries that joined NATO did so for the very reason why what has happened to Ukraine out of their own free will and sovereignty. It does not take a genius to know basic history and know you will be annexed if you border Russia. Not a single country bordering Russia trusts them not to invade. I don’t doubt that American foreign policy has its flaws and there is a lack of integrity in it but hinging everything that has happened on “if only the USA didn’t…” washes away the one responsible for the war and invading which is Russia. Russia is the only part of this equation who has launched a war.

Bro Yeltsin is dead. And was dead seven years before the annexation of Crimea. I fundamentally do not agree with how you divide responsibility.

Belief is very powerful when you consciously choose them and test them against what’s right within. Most religious beliefs are similar to childhood beliefs about our self esteem. It was either passed to us by our parents or we made assumptions with our perspective at that time and what we had available to us. We can choose different now.

Yes I agree, not all teachings connect with everyone equally. That is sort of the dance of life. Differences sometimes clashing, sometimes harmonizing, I guess.

Nothing is driving this war more than Putin's ambitions and the entire Russian nation which are like sheep, pure conformity for whatever the Tsar says. Arm's industry is just getting rich off it, they are not creating the demand.

Yeah, I do agree that this sort of world view clouds one's clarity. It is often times easier to stick with familiar beliefs than look in the mirror. Things go unresolved in the dating part of life. I would also give equal weight to the truth that there are alligators in the water you must watch out for.

Well looks like his trial is starting very soon

I'm applying my skepticism to sales. I know that at the top of the sales funnel there is some occasional application of AI overseen by a person. I know that having an AI bot send out a message to qualify a warm lead makes sense especially if the lead asked to be contacted, maybe you could push that to having it scheduling an intake call. That is very different from selling an expensive product, answering questions, taking payment and scheduling. Very dynamic stuff. A human has to step in after 1-3 messages. I previously mentioned how customer service has implemented it more widely because there is less risk after they get your money and to have you pass some information to an AI labeled chatbot to get some customer support. The dynamic changes entirely when you're contacting a company for support. We have had support chat and automated call lines for ages now and they have gotten somewhat better with LLMs but not enough to justify the hype.

You can test it but I can tell you now I do not trust that AI influencer guy. His hustle is making YouTube videos and selling you (the masses) these idea that this stuff works. This is not something that anyone is seriously implementing. Not because they don't know but because it isn't reliable. We can split hairs, of course you may have clients fill out an intake form from a bot (no different than that of a web form) or whatever that's transparent that they aren't talking to a person, you have may have AI ping out a message to see if they reply and qualify themselves for the service (not too different from scheduled emails and messages we have had for years), but having an AI agent step in to replace a salesman (human job) and schedule them up, answer questions, converse and collect payment? nah it's not really a thing right now except an idea amongst AI influencers.

I told him this twice already and he seems completely sold on the hype... Really @LordFall tell us how it goes for you. I'm not discouraging you but I would take pause to contemplate how you will feel when you potentially had one of those $5000 client but your AI bot went off and you scared them away. I know that no one serious is actually using AI to do sales for them or close deals or "feel things out." Technology has done little to changed the fundamental of sales. No one is using AI for their sales except selling you the idea that using their AI method or startup app will earn you money. We have marginally better chat bots for support after they have gotten your money. Keywords AFTER they have gotten your money.

Women are not children. In general I don't care for this comparison when it comes up in this forum which it has before. No, women and children are not similar in temperament. To me it is just a double standard society seems to hand wave away where a lot of women do not take responsibility for their emotions. Men of course don't take responsibility for it either but the consequences catch up far quicker for them when they do some outrageous unacceptable shit.

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