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Good question. It’s actually entirely subjective and arbitrary. People all have their own different opinions on it. I think to an extent we will often subtly frame success in grandiose ways or almost in this deceptive manner where we are “here” and “over there” is success. And where we are here is not enough whereas over there, there is success, where we are enough. This is not true. Success doesn’t define our value. So for me I sort of have a very detached idea of it where I’m always a success and don’t need to prove my worth, that being authentic and being able to express your soul in balanced ways with all the responsibilities of life cause there are a lot of them (bills, family, health). I think this is where success becomes more of a game and something that we can be passionate about. But yeah I think success is not a carrot and stick. Defining it heavily with external stuff causes problems.

I’ve been contemplating success a lot recently and I’ve distilled it down to really just a few things. There are a ton of illusions about success prevalent in society today. Think of success like a slot machine, thanks to our head honcho @Leo Gura I got this analogy from. You get to pull the lever but not all pulls are equal… some pulls have much better luck at getting all 777s than others. And fundamentally it’s all random and unpredictable. You can increase your odds pulling the lever and getting all 777s if you master these concepts. Intention / Vision - what you want to do, heartfelt desire, this is where creativity and authenticity come from. This is your spiritual essence that’s open and desires to create and expand. Ideas come from here. There is tremendous power here. A strong relationship with yourself and actively clearing limiting beliefs will bring about clarity here. Commitment - this is where the rubber meets the road and where your intentions and vision come up against other areas of your life where you need to BALANCE everything and make it so your intentions are sustainable. Keep in mind our intentions don’t exist in a vacuum. We have relationships, physical heath, money, geography, many factors of our lives we need to balance and give consideration in addition to our dreams. Sacrifice your relationships for success if it’s worth it to you but remember you are responsible and if you end up lonely and isolated chasing success, that was on you. Spiritual alignment (dharma, responsibility, whatever you wanna call it) - this is where you manage your emotions and beliefs, your inner child that says “I’m not good enough let’s just give up”, painful emotions you create when you realize you need to go to bed early to get up for work instead of staying up late editing that video or working on your personal project. This is what decides if you live in flow or push against life and struggle to try and reach success and see yourself as worthy to be successful. Success stories are mostly Survivorship Bias. The people you are listening to and learning about success form are largely noise and at the end of the day you simply need your own principles which come from within. Tried and true principles that I believe are innate to people spiritually, commitment, perseverance, self love, ambition and vision. We need to stop treating success like the human systems that rewarded it are a sentient being that rewarded "true quality" and start seeing it for what it actually is: a high-stakes lottery. Most of the advice you hear from success gurus is rooted in. survivorship bias. They look back at their trajectory and invent a "Retroactive Illusion," connecting dots that weren't actually there at the time. They’ll tell you it was their specific habits and all sorts of shit but they conveniently ignore the thousands of people who did the exact same things and even plenty of other really creative and committed things but never reach the peaks they do because they didn't get the same lucky break at the right time. To not account for luck and the unknown we live in life is to not have a world view of success that is truthful. Now sometimes delusional success briefs can be helpful. Such a person wins the slot machine with them and it confirms to them their delusion. Sometimes even holding some beliefs lightly, like a playful game is very powerful. I tell myself every day I can be a big YouTuber because I’m a funny and smart guy. I’ve reached success with beautiful women believe every single one secretly wants to sleep with me (removed my approach anxiety). So it isn’t necessarily about being a stark black pilled nihilist. It’s about being able to hold all these elements of truth and moving forward from your authentic life essence, hold those delusional beliefs but don’t be a mark and trick yourself and forget they aren’t what’s entirely true about life nor black pill yourself and never try or give it a poor attempt because you can’t sit with the fact wile live in the unknown and don’t know what will happen 1 min from now for better or worse. When someone at the top tells you they "trailblazed" their way they are often just a lottery winner describing the method their winning pull on the leveler, never mind how they always forget they aren’t born retard or were abused or had a rich dad or are not from the Middle East with bombs falling on their head (fuck Israel btw). Still though, walk in truth and believe in yourself but don’t hypnotize yourself into ignorance. Playful delusions are ok and sometimes really powerful in our world when it comes to success and dating and money, but don’t lose sight of your inner spirit in the process. Summary: Sustainability, the “Rigged Lottery" mindset. Success in creative fields isn't guaranteed by effort; it’s built on the pillars of consistency, intention, and emotional management You do the work, it "rigs" the machine in your favor for when you finally get to pull the lever. If you can decouple your self-worth from success focus on staying in your creative flow and spiritual value, you stop being a victim intimidated by the odds but you embrace the unknown and accept whatever comes. This is the deciding factor between living in Wu Wei and the process being beautiful / fun vs life feeling like a constant struggle and fight

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Conservatism is viewed as terrible at the moment because it’s conflated with fascism and democratic breakdown in the USA. Keep in mind those two things are separate things. Many European countries are conservative but very democratic as well. The USA conservative is authoritarian and just an abhorrent braindead bunch so any real conservatism can’t really escape being seen as anything else currently.

Because it's something that is genuinely disgusting and sad to acknowledge, I'd say people as a whole are too ashamed to really move on these problems. It's easier to sweep under the rug problems in this world when they aren't at your doorstep. A large portion of the world has to actively come together, be on the same wavelength and take action and that rarely happens when there is an issue, but it can happen. Out of sight, out of mind, like they say.

Yeah, thanks for watching this cause I don't have any interesting in sitting through it. I have no doubt this guy is a perv. It is all too alluring to be a guru with women followers that he can easily convince to have sex with him. Guru hierarchy by design will almost always lead to a lack of integrity. I had similar fantasies as well when I met my now wife, we had such a good physical connection when we met, I thought to myself that our sex is going to heal her and me, etc. It's an altered state where you are tapping into love and the physical connection and potential of things but your bias and beliefs corrupt the experience entirely. Of course a guy like this sitting on a stage will run with such delusions and sleep with horny followers of his who look up to him (women are usually attracted to men they admire). The funny thing about it is yeah... never see these "healers" sleeping with fat women or men to heal them... odd? It's always some manic pixie type. They both are made for each other, the perverted manipulator and the wannabe victim who need to label other people narcissist to explain why they throw all their power and integrity out whenever they have a feeling about someone. These type of people will concoct all sorts of entity stories to relinquish their responsibility and of course it's no surprise this guy stoops even lower and asks for money. I've noticed there's always a guy leeching money from a woman in 50% of these cases. I have a friend who is the hyper sexual manic pixie type and she lent thousands to two ex boyfriend playboy types like this.

I never spoke of perfectionism here and catching them all. I think you lack vision on this. It absolutely can be greatly reduced and curbed especially online in terms of going after people who have taken action to hurt kids or congregate online.

yes and i think it would be honest to gently add a lot of these women create a whole host of issues themselves which they use to race to occupy the victim spot. how many a times has it been where a messy relationship gets tangled up in new age beliefs and becomes this knot of inner child reasoning, emotional logic and past traumas playing out? I'm not defending anyone, I'm saying that this is NOT the same as a predator that seeks out to impose his will with force on an unsuspecting person of weaker capabilities. this sounds like your typical corrupt guru and a follower of his who consented to unethical sex, lacking integrity, this how a 1 hour youtube video is born with all sorts of convoluted notions explaining how she was victimized. To a degree she was. It doesn't take 50 minutes to explain a situation like this. I am not sure any laws were broken, I'm sure Bentinho is corrupt and acts on his perversions, power is something many people are not capable being responsible for.

Hear about this all the time. The woman who was organizing ceremonies for the shaman who I drank Ayahuasca with (she was sleeping with him of course) had a huge falling out with him and of course a crazy tale where all the usual words like "dark entities and spells", "I was being manipulated", "narcissistic abuse", etc were used to basically explain how this guy that was like 20+ years her senior and from a sticks and stones village in the amazon jungle hooked up with her the Spanish hippie girl, and when she wanted him to get serious and move to the city with him he dumped her. And of course all sorts of drama unfolded. To be honest anyone with real integrity will keep their spiritual pursuits far away from their relationships and sex life. It's really the only way to be a teacher with integrity. If you are mixing sex/relationships with spirituality, there's a good chance it will end up like this. There is a reason a lot of powerful teachers are voluntarily celibate or some version of it. You can just noticed the difference between immature pervert gurus like Mooji and Bentinho vs people who have integrity. You don't shit where you eat.

I don't think the patriarchy lens is useful for these extreme cases. There are entire networks of pedophiles that need to be exterminated and it could be a reality if governments spent more resources on this and worked together, but they won't because this has implications for the Epstein class and Catholic church, Hasidic Jews, power points in society, etc and in addition it's treated similarly to healthcare or hunger, entirely solvable from a material point of view, but socially not able to be coordinated.

motherless is a disgusting website filled with sociopathic pedophiles. we need to develop entire police departments and social movements to track down these predators and prosecute them to the fullest. Not enough resources are put into cleaning up the internet and purifying our species of these people. 4chan too. these sites have acted as meeting points for pedophiles and violent sexual predators to share illegal abuse materials. I'm surprised more hasn't been done to hunt down these people more and shut down their communications.

These are some good questions. I think it depends some on your definitions of these words and the words and beliefs you’ve used to build your model. You could perhaps label beliefs as “unconscious” but it’s actually sort of a tricky label to give them because it usually implies that it is unreachable. I think “unresolved” is a better word but make no mistake all those beliefs that you maybe haven’t had a frank and honest conversation with yourself about aren’t in some far off distant place, they are shaping your life here and now and can be accessed here and now if you are open and willing enough to inquire about them with yourself. It just takes a bit of practice and walking in the right direction So, “a guy who believes he isn’t worthy because of something buried in his unconscious mind “ Let me slow you down here. The belief here is “I believe I’m unworthy.” Now usually what you will sneakily do is manufacture evidence and look for every way in your life that you believe confirms this. It’s confirmation bias. You will focus on your dating life and either point to it as evidence of being unworthy or you will self sabotage it, and assuming the outside world all aligned with how you believed it should be, which occasionally it does, say you get some beautiful girlfriend, you would then move towards something else to use as evidence to justify this belief that you aren’t worthy. Maybe sabotage the relationship or say you’re unworthy because you could be with someone who is better, etc. You basically need to genuinely question with your heart these beliefs. Is it possible for a person to be unworthy? What does that mean? Lacking value? Unworthy of love? Is this belief even true? When did you first choose this belief? As a child? Why? Who told you this belief that a person is unworthy because of their relationships? Relationships define people’s worth? “or all of those limiting beliefs are conscious and appearing on the surface” what you usually will hold at one time is one thought but it all traces back to the core beliefs, it’s like a loose string on a sweater, it holds together this seemingly useful story but when you pull at a loose thread it starts to unravel. “why can you be feeling bad without there being any apparent cause on the surface?” This is where you need to really slow down. Are you sure there isn’t an apparent cause? Don’t focus on feeling bad, speak it into words “I feel a painful emotion right now because I believe _______.” Finish it. Just try to be as honest with yourself as you can be. Keep in mind though you may not actually want to be so honest with yourself at first because you see obfuscating reasons as a sort of self protection. Better the devil you know. That’s the sort of inner child reasoning you need to educate yourself on and how to parent yourself from these old emotional coping patterns. The mind always wants to sit in the familiar and would choose that over venturing off into the unknown, “feel bad now to keep myself safe now, if I do this first I won’t be hurt.” But this does not work and will never work, we gotta move away from this. You are def right that low blood sugar and sleep also affect our balance and harmony. Life is sorta like a dance or playing an instrument. There’s different moving parts we need to be responsible for and manage. It isn’t about perfection and of course if you are low on blood sugar or sleep it can cause you to stumble a bit but remember, don’t use that as evidence for your “unworthy” belief, see it as a natural part that needs your care and attention, don’t blame yourself nor try to get out of being responsible for these different factors of wellbeing. I would say at the core it always starts from belief though. When you resolve a lot of these limiting beliefs like being unworthy (it’s impossible to be unworthy) a lot of stuff just falls into place, you handle turbulence better.

They unfold within your body, they are created from your beliefs and perspectives. You felt sad because behind the emotion you hold some belief/perspective about life/yourself on why this song is sad and what you believe about something. Just honestly ask yourself, I feel sad in this moment because I believe ________. Finish the sentence. Keep asking. You’ll get your answer.

I think the concept of the unconscious mind is largely misunderstood and steeped in needless mysticism. People always wanna play up what they don’t understand. There is the mind and your beliefs, and you can make your beliefs and story entirely conscious and entirely crystal clear as you start to trust that being honest with yourself is the safe and right thing to do. From a place of openness you can understand yourself.

@HopefulMan Many things. It doesn’t quiet make sense when you’re looking at it from a place of really wanting everything to be different, because usually when we want to change something about ourselves the intention behind it is coming from old childish falsehoods. So I think it’s not so much been a journey to change myself but more so shed the lies and falsehoods. That in and of itself brings about all sorts of really subtle but life changing experiences. You will start to think more clearly, feel grateful for your life, be happy that you are who you are, unique as you are.

I moved to Asia (Thailand) and I heard the supplements here are real good. Do you guys have any to recommend for mood, energy, clarity and overall wellbeing? I wanna stock up on stuff while I’m here.

To answer the question: Yes of course you can see and understand them clearly Now whether or not you are conscious and responsible enough to go against your biases and near sided desires is another question

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I get the sense you kind of know you already know the answer to your own question All relationships come with boundaries It’s not about being perfect in relationships but finding a harmony where both can flourish together. We have to be honest with ourselves. Relationships rarely match the ideas and aspirations we have about them in our heads, they change, they are prone to end for any number of reasons. They also are their own important aspect of life where you can create love and build something stable with other people. There is a lot of joy and wonder and surprises in that.

Spirituality has its Mt Everest aspects to it. I consider radical state changes with psychedelics to be of that nature. I don’t think you necessarily need to go deep into all that to live a good and true life. You most definitely don’t need to in order to cultivate wisdom and live authentically. Spirituality is not a competition where it’s a race to the top.

It’s actually very simple but it isn’t necessarily easy nor something that will unfold exactly how you think it should. Basically you will almost always want to come back to the familiar, we see this as safe but it’s sorta an illusion, usually emotional and childlike reasoning rings us back to states we want to obfuscate their cause because it’s easier to live in a sort of comfortable self chosen ignorance than venture off into the unknown. Changing your identity is just venturing into the unknown and trying new things, embracing change, being open. You will learn from resist this so all you must do is take a deep breath, come back to what is true now and most importantly give yourself love, support and acceptance for wanting to go back and sabotage yourself or return to the familiar. Do not beat yourself up. You need to be there for yourself and know deep down there’s boundless wellbeing and guidance in the present. You don’t have to do this perfectly. Just start inching a bit towards what you wish to be and create and whenever you start to sabotage or feel bad comfort yourself. that’s all.

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