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It is just where people center their love so it def feels like the familiar is being challenged and their whole world is under attack when they perceive anything that is out of their control which changes it. It’s simultaneously also a less conscious experience. Switch out culture for identity and self expression and you have what the liberal has built their house with. You take that away for a liberal and it’s the same thing conservatives are doing now for them. But I think a distinction has to be made here about who is more honest with themselves.

Went down a bit of a Reddit hole on him and apparently it’s been well known he’s a creep for well over a decade. I remember a woman I knew mentioning him DM her. He’s a perv demon who would use meet and greets for meeting underage victims.

I don't think it really matters. Relationships go the distance as far as your communication skills are developed + how authentic/honest you are in flow, and even that could mean the relationship authentically ends, it's no guarantee at all. Dating a lot of people at once can also reflect scarcity based beliefs or an imbalance. It's time consuming to date lots of people. I think culture also plays a roll. Seems like in more romance cultures like Latin America they are sorta slightly more open and flexible with this and secure in a more extroverted open relationship type of dating before getting serious. From my lens I obviously would not take any girl seriously if she is still seeing an ex or something like this. That's also usually a scarcity based belief system at play since people who are usually in their flow let go and welcome with open arms the unknown (new). So that's just my perspective, nothing I'm saying here is absolute and it's different for everyone. I've heard of one woman who got divorced and met her new husband like a month later and they've been happily married for 20 years now. Just do what's authentic for you. Test what works for you against your belief system, the rules that govern relationships and their dynamics are largely arbitrary and as unpredictable as a rushing river.

WARNING: DISTURBING YOUTUBE DOC ON SEXUAL ABUSE This is a truly fascinating and dark study of just how low things can get. It's genuinely sad and infuriating.

People who yap about seed oils being bad (their entire pov is based on a few Instagram reels they saw)

Please note that none of what I’m saying is meant to be taken as another proving ground or carrot on a stick to chase after. I’m not saying there are areas of my life I wish were different nor that life doesn’t have a lot of responsibilities which can be challenging, sometimes some really really painful things happen in life. Feeling bad about something is not a mistake. It is not some defect and it isn’t evidence you haven’t grown or have had real spiritual insights. It’s a signal for looking inward, a return, an inner unfolding. From a certain perspective if you feel unhappy and see that as what you are wishing to escape because it’s painful I could see this sense of unhappiness as an absolute that drives everything but I’m saying look just a bit beyond that, the space between it. It’s absolutely possible to call on this space with every action and there is peace and joy in it when doing so.

You need to live with integrity. You need to honor your preferences and look for the girl who matches your preference or accept whichever girl you end up being with. Do not act surprised and be insecure when there are things about her you do not wish to accept when they were clearly communicated to you in various ways 95% of the time. Then when the other 5% of lack of experience or knowledge rears its head you go and blame her for your lack of experience and discernment. Obviously any girl who is 27, hot and with tattoos fucked some other guys. You do not need her to wear a sign over her head saying that. You either accept that and stop judging your own value based on someone else’s life and continue to see her or you honor your preference for a woman that is different and look for someone else who aligns with your preference.

Let’s break this down to the fundamentals. Unhappiness is an emotion. You are the creator of your emotions, not the victim of them. Emotion comes from belief / perception. So you feel unhappy is actually “I believe, I want, I think…” example: “ I feel unhappy because I believe I don’t have enough success in life.” <- this statement implies you need success to be one/whole/love which is untrue. If unhappiness is driving you it means you have a belief about reality that needs to be examined. It is not a flaw or a mistake nor a measuring stick of any kind of your worth or progress, feelings are perfectly imperfect. It is an internal alert system that is trying to reorient you with truth. That belief which you cloud with a feeling label needs to be tested against truth. Obviously there’s more I can add here and how to do this, there’s more lessons and depth I can go into here on this, but I’m just saying this in relation to the thesis of this thread. So if you feel a certain way which you then add the label of “unhappiness” I’d examine why you choose to create that unhappiness. Cease to do that, and see what’s left. Stop deluding yourself and lying to yourself. Deep down you know what a jewel you have within and the power and responsibility it comes with. You really think unhappiness is all that drives humans and without it we would sit and do nothing?

You are the creator of your emotions and life. Not the victim of them. Why would you create unhappiness? If unhappiness drives you (which you choose to create whether you realize it or not) why not create something else? Don’t confuse acceptance with responsibility. I don’t deny anything. You misunderstand my post.

You have to be careful here in both your framing and perspective on this because entangling 2-3 things here can hurting you. You can have preferences for your partner / girlfriend / wife, etc. That is fine. You can honor your preferences and even pressure test them with your spirit and truth. Is what you believe in terms of your preferences aligned with your highest truth and authentic self? Are they principles you would teach your kids? Wanting your partner to have a certain degree of physical and psychological health are all fine. That can be linked to their past and prior experience and prior boyfriends/partners, sure. Wanting a certain type of experience with a woman is valid, perhaps you have a want to feel intimate because you believe you and your partner are on the same page and share a similar background when you have similar experiences. Maybe you want to feel nice that you get to show your partner something new they haven't experienced before. Keep in mind reality sometimes does not align with our preferences though and often times our expectations are not met the more expectations we hold. But having a preference for a woman with a certain background can be fine to hold or pursue. Where you go wrong is tying in your worth. You care what other men think. You define your value based on who you are with. This is where you doubt your value and cut yourself off from the Tao. You hurt yourself here and you cloud your reasoning and ability to act in flow on your authentic preferences when you care what others think or define your worth on your partner. Lastly I would say is really observe life, observe dating, gain experience, see what it is like where you are and do not draw conclusions. Are your expectations realistic? Would you look for a virgin in a nightclub? Would you look for a hook up in a mosque? Make sure you are not clouding your senses with how you think reality should be vs how it actually is.

No. It's either driven by fear or love. The way. the path, the flow, the current or a fight against it trying to go up river. Flow or resistance. The guy in the video has a one dimensional take on nature because he is able to see through the illusion that motivate people but he hasn't gone all the way. He has done some self reflection but he has drawn a conclusion that is an assumption based off of what he is aware of, but there is more to discover. All of reality follows the same way back to a seamless uncaused perfection and acceptance. This peace is not idle. It is a boundless cause for celebration and creation. You can become directly aware of this and align all your actions with it, or you can go against it and not align your actions with it. The former is a sense of wholeness and joy, people create what they love from here. The later is a sense of lack, people strive to fill this lack.

First it’s impossible to be rejected. Women can communicate their choice to you (she doesn’t like you), that’s fine. But be careful with your words. They build the foundation of your house. You can’t be rejected. Your value is inherent and always the same regardless of whether a woman wants to relate with you or have sex. I don’t know what stage you are at in life or your country you’re from so I can’t really say much else. This story you shared is sounds like classic zero game zero swag college dating where you have very little going for you from the relative perspective of attraction and the list of everything you need to do is like a mountain to climb because just by reading this I can tell you have a long ways to go. But do not discredit quiet momentum. There is a slip stream you can flow into where your efforts will compound and 4 years from now you will be so wildly different and able to pull. I would suggest you focus on your studies if a situation like this really throws you off emotionally and affects everything else you do. You are in college so it’s time to really build a strong foundation. You need to get into excellent shape and get great grades so you can earn decent money and I’d also really do inner work so you don’t have any doubts about your true value king. Once you have that honed in I’d say start finding ways to tap into your authentic self and develope swag, that’s when you’ll get the results you want.

I'm not entirely following the disagreements in this thread but there are few things I believe I can speak on. Truth and honesty is not a standard to live up to or a measurement or set of rules. It is more of a path or a way, an unfolding or a becoming. I believe this purity test of somehow removing mystique or striving for the most honest and open communication is not actually truthful and ultimately is a lie because it's largely motivated out of fear and trying to be "safe" in the relationship (a person who is threatened by this ambiguous unknown space can see it as harmful deception if they believe the other person lied to them or didn't communicate things with them). Purity testing honesty is a misconception and not actually what's true. This space is also what drives passion and attraction. A relationship based on truth and honesty is not wearing your heart on your sleeve when you go out to meet a girl. The space between attraction especially when you first meet a girl is what drives the intense passion in the first place and is part of the dance. This is the law of the jungle. You observe the world without bias and truly understand it. Courting a mate has a ton of ambiguity and ideals of the most honest and perfect communication is not the solution to your fears and expectations about how you wish it were easier to navigate and more predictable. This is not remedied by imposing some ideal of being completely honest and open. You do not tell your mom she looks terrible and fat when she asks you how she looks in a new dress she bought that doesn't fit her. This sort of layer of ambiguity is not a bug of reality, it is an integral part to relating. You need to not judge others for how they navigate this. All honest relating is just being true to yourself and testing your beliefs against your spirit. Rome was not built in a day, the same goes for a great relationship.

idk how his fans ignore this

Does anyone here have a facial skin care routine they follow? Something to reduce redness and make your face look healthier and skin clearer and nicer?

Well, yeah I agree. That’s why we date. We observe our environment deeply to see what the nature of it is and gather experience/info to inform our next choices. We see a tiger and see its nature is to bite us. You seem really concerned about future proofing yourself and avoiding a potentially problematic partner. I would still say there are no guarantees when it comes to that as well. I do think with proper discernment and maturity it makes it possible to make wiser choices though and we can build our foundation for who we choose to be in relationships with on this which circles back to living honestly and responsibly. But still there are no guarantees and there doesn’t have to be, we have ourselves living honestly. There are women who unknowingly married serial killers. That really happened on our planet. It’s so easily to retroactively look back and blame them but I’d pause on that and hold such judgement. They may have done everything right by themselves with what they knew before finding out the truth and that’s still what they encountered in life.

If I was in a relationship with a woman and I knew she was a psychopath I would have to be honest with myself and responsible and make the choice that I believe is right for my life which would be leaving her. I would hope that if I had enough time with her to choose marrying her that I probably already would have sense of the person she is and know fairly well she isn’t a psychopath but even none of this is guaranteed. I’ve heard of some of the most fairytale marriages that seemed so perfect from the outside break down and end in bitter divorce. The only certainty you get is being honest with yourself about what you believe and know to be true and being responsible for it when the moment arrives. That’s all you fundamentally need to do for your half of relating based on truth, honesty and vulnerability (I still don’t like this word vulnerability).

That would then come back around to being honest with yourself. Because if you know in truth what you know to be true that your girlfriend / partner is a psychopath and it is the wrong choice for your life, but you chose it anyways, you are not living honestly. That is being responsible. Now if you didn’t know that when you chose to be with her that is different, because we can only know what we know and choose accordingly with what we know. So I’m talking to you now and say a couple posts from now you send me some really nasty messages calling me names, I now have new experience to live by and adjust what is honest for me, which would be maybe asking you to not call me names and if you choose to not fulfill my request I can no longer relate to you. This is relating. It applies to your second point which I agree with but I would ask why would you marry a person like that? What does a marriage with a person who lies do for your life? Maybe there is some benefit for you? Be honest with yourself here. Are you choosing such women? Reflect on this.

We do not get any guarantees in life. I don’t get them nor anyone else here. Many couples married and aren’t guaranteed kids either because they can’t conceive. The nature of relationships is they can be steady at times and sometimes also filled with complete twists and turns and surprises, people change, things don’t always go how we like no matter how much we try to grasp and control them. It is an active process. You mention a relationship based on honesty and that is really the only one certainty you can get and it’s from you choosing honesty with how you choose to communicate and be responsible. You can show up and communicate your thoughts and beliefs and feelings honestly without judgement and that is the only certainty you can really get if you’re responsible to do so and it’s the one thing you realize is all you ever need to navigate relationships because in doing so you strengthen your integrity and connection with yourself. Everything else comes after that in a relationship and is more or less out of our control. Since we are unable to control people. There are the happiest most picture perfect marriages you have observed which have ended in divorce before. I would also reframe the concept of wasting time. We are always exactly where we are supposed to be and anything that unfolds just is and couldn’t have been any other way after the fact. It is not some grand mistake just life. We live in the unknown and we don’t know with complete certainty how things will ultimately go with the people we love. It’s useful and empowering to see it this way because it means there’s always a lesson there we are meant to learn and we are also responsible no matter what for being honest and living according with that.

Never understood this.

It starts completely with you. Are you true and honest with yourself, your self talk? How you live? The choices you make? Have you observed the field long enough to be honest with yourself about your observations on how it works? How have you been observing it? With expectations you laid on top of how you think it should be? What do you mean by date seriously? I will say you have to be careful how you approach relationships, your expectations for them and also your fundamental framing of them in the first place with your language and words you use. If you try to overly optimize or control them you turn it into another proving ground where there is a carrot on a stick you’re chasing. Everything that turns serious starts out as unserious. I would say if you are being responsible in your life and both truthful and honest with yourself first and foremost. the path becomes clearer and things seem to naturally unfold in due time. I’d say really do some self reflection on your beliefs about relationships first.

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how to have videos posted on subreddits? I mean do i do it myself or ? idk i hate posting on reddit

DNC sabotage incoming. I swear the Dem party exists largely to keep true opposition from forming. I do believe a new left leaning political grass roots party could come about in the USA.

So I am one person and I have to balance my other responsibilities while making videos. In order to grow on YouTube you need to produce decent content people wanna watch. Your videos need to be both good and hold people’s attention + be consistent in output since the platform is driven by frequent production of new videos. You usually don’t make one video then have a successful channel with a million subs. You need to put out lots and lots of videos. Therefore you need a system for your content in order to make it sustainable. As a single person you can put out weekly videos but they will usually be shallow and not very good if you are producing one a week. Because you only have one week’s worth of time to make it. If you are publishing once a month you have more time to produce the video and refine it but you are not keeping up with the algorithm. The big channels either A) earned the right to publish infrequently by having built up a core audience over the years posting frequently or B) still post frequently but have a whole production team that is able to bridge the gap between algorithm and quality. I do travel vlogs which is largely a passion thing. It’s one of the harder niches to consistently publish in and it’s difficult to sustain frequent travel. I’m not sure if it’s viable for the long term financially but there are views in it and hopefully a way to meet like minded people.