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Boys are no longer coddled by society when they grow up, much less so compared to women who get help from others much easier. Women deal with many of the same cold truths but when faced with hardship they tend to be supported more through it.

The thing is though people try to stay on just one side of this duality and in doing so turn it into a pendulum at their expense, swinging radically from one side to the other. Masculinity / femininity are fluid qualities not absolutes about how one must live moment to moment in order to live good. It's not really possible to live aligned with truth from my experience if you try to live just as a totally feminine woman or a totally masculine man. In real life you have to find a balance of both and be able to wear both hats at times, it's like a dance or juggling, there's a rhythm to it in relationships. I've found the feminine values truth just as much as masculinity does. Men will not understand how women communicate and also lack experience in life, impose their expectations for how things should work, so they see women as less honest. I don't believe that to be true. Expecting someone else to see the world the same way as you and communicate in the same way as you is a form of self deception and not aligned with truth itself.

It’s because many women have been sold a dream where they believe a man will come and save them and relieve them of responsibilities. But this in general does not lead to a sustainable life and it also falls apart when you meet reality and you have all sorts of considerations like money, life path and how to raise kids. It’s a slippery slope to hand wave this away. It’s the girl equivalent of “boys will be boys” when women don’t want to be responsible, just like how men don’t want to be responsible for their destructive behavior, women don’t want to be for their careless behavior. The guy in the video does make some good points but I’d probably use different language to describe the points he made.

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Apparently the emperor has no clothes in Washington. Everyone against this madness (tariffs) is afraid to speak out. https://www.politico.com/news/2025/04/04/trump-tariffs-fear-lobby-business-congress-00006608

I think this is why the only way to really navigate living in the unknown like this is to greatly value ourselves and recognize our intrinsic worth but also be open to all the possibilities that can unfold without attachment. Most guys are so attached to the idea of how things should be or how they wish they were that they almost sort of cut themselves off from opportunities.

What you’re describing is very common with many people. I’ve done this as well. Let’s speak frankly, it’s called people pleasing. We look for value outside ourselves and almost sort of break our integrity by putting energy into relationships that aren’t as aligned as they could be with our path or values. You sound sort of regretful or resenting of these mistakes but I don’t think you should be. I’ve done this before and I’ve even managed to turn a relationship around from being out of alignment with my spirit back to being on a path towards greater authenticity. We have to honor our human side here that just wants to share love with others and it’s a learning opportunity every time we forget our own inner greatness even when there isn’t someone else there to reflect that back to us.

Can anyone else relate to having a conservative parent who is simply just unenjoyable or not relatable? My dad is in the USA and is conservative (self proclaimed independent) and he is just a very unpleasant person to talk to. Not always but maybe 75% of the time. He constantly references immigrants coming over the border, he wants lots of control, he has a lot of very negative and limiting beliefs. Half the conversations we have end up referencing USA politics in some way. He isn’t fun to talk to at all but he isn’t like an entirely rotten person. He does say supportive things about how I live my life and how I enjoy to travel and he has his moments where you can see he’s aligned with the way. I got off the phone with him today and I was reminded why I only go back once every other year to visit. On top of that it doesn’t seem like he has put so much care into me coming to visit because he doesn’t have a place for me to stay. I can see now why my girlfriend will have an inner child / ego reaction when I don’t think of her. I also had a talk with him about my videos and he thought it was cool but he had very cold comments like “so many people are doing it so it’s flooded and difficult, you have to have some other talent than just making videos.” Which I do agree with, many too creators show off some skill they already have or some amazing body they were gifted with which they can then use to sell diets programs. I’m making videos on travel which requires authenticity and allowing stories to tell themselves, you see all the best travel content creators just focus on the people and being genuine and honest about their interactions and just having fun while the videos are sort of an afterthought. I think I’m rambling a bit but it’s definitely my inner child. I know I have to love and look after myself when I’m around my 74 year old dad who only sees negative things and rarely acknowledges all the possibilities and the authenticity in taking risks and doing what we are passionate about even when it’s unclear where it will lead us. I do agree with him though, I’m not quitting my day job until my channel is so big I can do it full time. Can anyone else relate to this? Having an older parent that is just very closed down and living through all their past problems? I don’t want to live my life like this, I want to embrace each challenge and still keep my joy.

A lot of issues men face in dating is they have unrealistic expectations, this is not living aligned with truth. A lot of men will find out the women they are taking to aren’t as aligned with them as they believe and they then label everything as “misleading” or they realize that the dynamics between men and women has aspects of a pay to play system, needs and value exchanges, with no real oversight. But that is dating. Dating isn’t rules based order. Having realistic expectations about women, how you want to live your life, your boundaries, how money will be handled, how different paths between both people will be discussed. And in addition to that we aren’t given guarantees on anything. That’s life. We can live in accordance with reality and when we do that, that is being honest, not imposing our ideas of purity on reality.

What do you mean by “if you dare tell women the truth?” I don’t understand this. I think you can be honest and truthful and still do just fine dating. A lot of people believe that being honest is confessing and almost like exposing themselves to constant reproach by making themselves an open book. But having your own personal boundaries isn’t being dishonest. The thing is a lot of men were raised and told they have to be good, and their idea of good is almost sort of sacrificing themselves. To me this is not being truthful, navigating life of a way where you subject yourself to being split apart by competing interests is not being honest. You can definitely have a very balanced idea of honesty and integrity in your relationships and consider all factors when making considerations. Truth is not exactly pinning yourself to a cross like Jesus. The thing is many guys that get red pilled thought things would go their way, they had expectations that were untrue. So when they find out a woman is human and is alive and has her own needs and values to help support her own life and ambitions, they are shocked when they don’t necessarily align with that can can’t find someone who wants to be with them. I think we need to really define what we consider honesty in relationships, which I consider open and balanced communication that is appropriate for the relationship itself. Many guys do not make appropriate decisions and it’s equally a part of being honest as is saying what’s on your mind and not lying. You have to build up those skills and they require many considerations. The problem is guys just expected things to be their way even if they are just a wallflower who hasn’t worked on themselves.

Why the fuck is the USA still writing checks to Israel

I’ve been to China and as a foreigner I found it incredibly interesting. I think living there is very different. There’s a lot of people who really don’t take the time to understand China. I can also tell you that the USA has lost a ton of credibility and integrity with its criticisms of China considering who is president now. We are just economic competitors and we are intertwined as well so there is no getting rid of the other.

https://www.actualized.org/insights/facebook-corruption-exposed

Some of y'all are crazy but that's ok, you gotta be a little crazy to value spirituality and make it a central focus of one's life. thanks!

Claude is amazing for this and self inquiry. I have a whole project set up I use to understand my beliefs and so self inquiry with.

I’m not saying there isn’t any nut jobs on the left but this is a false comparison. Right wing brain rot and conservative ideologies are far more combative, oppressive and destructive to relationships, people and the planet by a wide margin compared to the nut jobs on the left Well yeah, of course. Like every child deep down wishes from their parents. But I’ve accepted I won’t get that from him nor should I build my life or perspective around being reliant on my dad’s support or approval (or anyone for that matter). He’s stuck in his ways and no amount of talking to him will change that. He has to want to change himself if he wants to change, all I can do is accept life for what it is.

All this doomer crap everywhere. Yea things will change and it will be very hard. Humans are incredibly resilient. Koreans are very proud of their country. They will survive. Bet on it.

Yes, this definitely is part of it. I think this may be one of the reasons there is a such a disconnect between generations these last several decades. We just see the world so differently. I wonder what a few generations from now will think as well? It’s so easy to see our beliefs as some truth about reality when they are just like sunglasses which can be taken off in an instant. The thing is I don’t want to bridge this at all, he is a miserable person to talk to and my energy only goes so far. Yes, every single person in the family sees him this way even my mom but she loves him and the odd thing is she is much more stage green, votes blue, quite liberal. Yet she makes a relationship work with him. I don’t not understand this. My dad is a miserable and controlling boomer conservative who is unsupportive of me. I just accept this, which is a bit of a hard pill to swallow sometimes for my inner child, but I know god is in me Andy true value so I allow myself to align with this and know regardless of my relationship with him I’m still valuable and life is beautiful. The funny thing is my dad was a hippy, I swear to god. He was born in 1950, went to Woodstock, smoked pot, protested the Vietnam war and studied to be an artist. He even did LSD a few times if I’m not mistaken. Thinking though old stories he told me about himself and how he used to live life, he used to be more moderate by comparison to now, he was more open minded. Somewhere along the way he shut down. He’s not like a totally miserable person but he is not pleasant to be around, very difficult to relate to and have a relationship with when literally every conversation culminates in something about Trump, or immigrants, or guns or some typical conservative fixation. He has talk radio blasting all afternoon. It’s not exactly possible to enjoy a relationship with a person like this even if they are your parent, it’s reality 🤷‍♂️

Of course he will try for a third term and even have people rioting for it, maybe even try to shut down the election. People already forgot January 6th…

Have you spoken to the average Trump supporter? They will find a way to mention politics or how the USA isn’t great no more almost every single day.

I’m fine and mostly accepting of the one I have. It would be nice if he were less negative but that is not under my control and I am fine with that.

Why is this though? I noticed this as well with certain old people from certain countries. Just insufferable.

I was creating very painful emotions and judging myself, someone told me about those 10 day vipassena retreats so I did a few, and then from there I started searching for stuff on meditation and spirituality and Leo’s videos came up. From there I did a lot of work on myself, got into psychedelics then quit. Then I started studying Taoism after really having a consistent and strong awareness of spirit during each waking moment. Here I am now ever learning and growing!

Reading is very helpful and incredibly useful. I don’t think it’s ever a time waste for most people if you are sticking to self help classics and spiritual texts. The thing is most people will benefit from reading more because they may lack a bit of information needed to answer their own question or set themselves up to move forward and discover something else. Do you want the guy operating on you to say he doesn’t read and learned everything on the job? If you’re so caught up in reading and literally doing nothing then it could be a waste of time but most people can barely finish one book a month so I would say it’s not something to worry about. Just choose the right books.

This clown fails to mention right wing efforts to ship labor overseas, right wing efforts to union bust, right wing attacks on labor rights, deregulation. It’s like how these jokers tout how the invasion of Iraq was a mistake yet it was fueled by right wing ideology…. Their ideology and policies caused the issues but as time passes and people forget, they can create some faceless boogeyman of elites who did it, most Americans are even so dumb they don’t even look at what caused the current situation they are in. They just scream how it’s a problem and how the left caused it.