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This is such a sneaky grift. This dude was pro Trump for almost 10 years.

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I’m all about reliability. Do not buy an electric or hybrid car. They break and are difficult to do work on yourself and buy cheap parts for. Get a Honda or Toyota from 10-15 years ago used for like $6-7000 and drive it into the ground. You will get another 15 years out of it and save a ton of cash. There is no reason to buy a new car unless you have cash to burn and are an exceptionally stable person with a big bank account. Always go used, you will save so much cash.

Yeah they aren’t really warm at first and don’t really like dancing monkey vibes so if you’re like trying to be chummy with them they won’t open up and make much friendly small talk unless they see a reason to.

I heard there are a ton of hot Russian girls in Bali

I read this book. I give it 5/5.

I can’t speak on Bali, I have never been. On Brazil though, there are spiritual girls there, even a good bit into voodoo and African pan folk religions where they do rituals and whatnot, but I’ve spoken about Brazil here before. I intellectually didn’t click with the women there. It was more low intellect type women across the board, and especially in South America women have really commodified their sexuality, probably 90% of the hottest women there do some sorta sex work. So you have to grind almost just as hard there for a baddie as in the USA. Honestly I would just stick to Eastern Europeans for a balance of intellect but highly accessible beauty and they do sometimes have their own spiritual vibe to them.

Always something strange with you

Well see there you go, so that is your definition. So you choose to have your checkboxes and then of course you would have to live by that which I can see you are and it is working out how it is where you do not see anyone worth choosing. I’m not saying that as a judgement of right or wrong. You don’t need a person to be whole or to complete your life, a relationship is just a choice. So I would accept that choice you’ve made and be responsible and live by it which I can see you are. Putting myself in your shoes in your perspective I would probably end up mourning relationships and just letting them go too, like what you were planning to do in your OP, because I’d imagine that my check boxes would make it difficult to find someone compelling enough to commit to.

Your definition of consciousness in this context may be very different from mine. What you consider a conscious person can vary quite a bit from mine. For example, I would consider a person that has a ton of check boxes that limit them from relating with someone and finding a long term relationship to be someone who is lacking consciousness in this dimension of life. Because for me I see it as not accepting reality as it is and being unwilling to adjust one’s boat’s sails to align with the winds, make the best of how things are to fulfill one’s needs. From your perspective you may see it as totally and completely different, maybe protecting your interests, waiting for a person that is compelling enough to be with, etc. I can’t speak for you obviously. I would just say that from my perspective these qualities in a person are far more abstract. We would probably be far more easily on the same page about physical conventional beauty.

For more intellectual women I would stick to Europe. I would say it’s about as good as it gets in regard to intellectual depth but I would also keep your expectations in check still. South America is possibly the worst I’ve been. I did feel a little bad there because I saw myself as out of place and not connecting with people there because of how I am used to relating to people, if you want ultra normie in sense making go to SA. The average European woman isn’t going to want to discuss though what we discuss here. Do you think my wife would fit in with the conversations on actualized? Of course not. But we are able to talk about a lot of other things and share a similar path and values and are able to just enjoy each other’s company and be silly together. And even then we piss each other off regularly. I come to actualized for this dimension of depth and analysis and different perspectives of understanding to get new insights of my own. obviously I get more insights here and have my spiritual thoughts recognized here more and my thoughts on the dynamics of dating recognized more here than from my wife.

Her explanation was useful for understanding this preference and some of the definitions in this conversation. I would file this alongside really any other sort of preference one has in a relationship. When choosing a wife or husband they will almost always have their own quirks and uniqueness and may not be how we want them to be or be a certain way they are not. Many women / men we meet simply don’t check off enough of the boxes. If you believe you cannot relate with someone well enough in conversation and meet them in nuance on things than idk 🤷‍♂️ to me this conversation just culminates in a guy simply not yet finding someone he’s interested in enough to commit to. There are a ton of people who feel a bit down and disconnected because they haven’t found someone they can connect with through conversations which suit their preference, usually people will word things vaguely and in nuance when they’re having some sorts problem. I’m not diminishing his issue at all, I just believe it’s better to word it very concisely and clearly to get to the bottom of it. Finding a life partner can take a lot of time and for many people these days they simple just never meet anyone compelling enough to choose. From an internal perspective this is an issue of perception, you can sometimes change your perspective and make the best with what you got but simultaneously also it is just what one has encountered in life so far, sometimes it’s hard and rare to meet someone we like enough to commit to. The more boxes on one’s checklist the more difficult it will be. I think I’ve made my peace with that my wife / partner won’t always fit my expectations or how I wish she was but I’ve made my choice anyway.

Ok got it. It does sound like you have reflected on this a good bit and I trust that you know yourself well enough to stand on this. I do think for some people our uniqueness doesn’t always fit perfectly with what we desire. You have your own uniqueness and maybe due to that and maybe the trends in society, it makes it difficult to navigate and fulfill what you were hoping to. A few things I’d suggest sitting with. I would question your needs here and your definitions on them. What does it mean no intellectual intimacy? What are you believing about women and dating and what were you hoping to get out of it? Getting much more clear on your definitions and expectations. Intellectual intimacy is a very abstract thing. What you consider to be deep may not be deep to another person. What do you consider limitations in your partner’s thinking? I do know that though sometimes you’re in a place and things just click and you feel good because you believe and see another person has a shared experience with you and similar values. You say you’re holding back but what are you holding back discussing? Why do you need to hold anything back and when you don’t hold back what are you afraid will happen? A few questions to mull over.

You aren’t going to meet anyone who is physically attractive there if you aren’t able to bring something exceptional. It’s that simple. If you’re willing to choose a post modernist relationship with a woman who isn’t conventional attractive you will find someone. If you want a hot girl you better get to work.

Bashar is great. Love his messages and kindness even if it’s a bit looney.

I make travel vlogs. It is not easy at all. One of the hardest niches since you have travel often and it can get expensive and difficult to take trips all the time. But I live abroad so it’s fine.

Dude chill out you don't need to approach as many girls as possible, you need to calm the f down and try to actually pull one back. Slow down. Have a drink. Get into a good conversation and just chill. You're doing too much. See who likes you. They will laugh and give you singles if they like you. Do you know how to read body language and gage if a girl is warm for you or if you're somewhat in her fuck zone? Basically she will put energy into the interaction, laugh a little while speaking to you, smile, you will feel the tension. Step into the room and see who makes eye contact with you. Read the room. You gotta pick up on the signs and see who is somewhat into you. Obviously you can cold open and sometimes it's a little tricky to tell off the bat but you should sense it as you're enjoying yourself who is enjoying being around you and attracted to you.

dating apps are complete shit in the USA. it's always like trans women flooding the straight girl stack and a lot of really overweight women. tinder is an absolute nightmare in the USA. I haven't been on it in a few years but I imagine it's still darn good in Europe the further east you go. USA/Canada are shite for dating in general.

yeah same, sex is all about the beautify and fun and excitement for me personally, closeness is obviously a part of it. It is kinda like coffee. You mix a bit of the strong beans (love) in with the smooth beans for taste (beauty and excitement). My wife is beautiful, I wanna enjoy her beautiful body lol. We rarely have some deep loving sex and I am not saying it's not a great way to bond, i just enjoy the more passionate side of it. The love side I much prefer words of encouragement and thoughtful actions. The 5 love languages is an easy book to get an idea of what you want from a relationship. I hit peak love experiences on my own through self inquiry and meditating.

I’ve followed this thread and I think I can speak on a bit more of the core issues it revolves around and perhaps also a bit of cope as well for lack of a better word. There is a notion here in this community that goes something like “spirituality is in opposition to raising your consciousness or exploring this domain.” I’m not really sure I agree with this. I believe this is an expectation one sets and it becomes true the more you believe it and can be used as a cope as well when you have your expectations about the world and it it doesn’t align with reality. A marriage or girlfriend isn’t two bros having a beer no string attached. You aren’t going to be able to do 5meo enemas all the time while you have a family to look after, you’ll have to find balance with it and with this balance it can add new depth to your spiritual pursuits. A drop of water in a desert is invaluable in comparison to it in the ocean. There is also the idea of needs, why you want a relationship and what you hope to get out of it in the first place. Are your needs realistic? Are they something you can honestly expect another person to help with or have you created a bunch of standards and ideas about how you think the world should work? Not everyone needs a relationship and that is just fine. Sometimes we take part in them partially because of old beliefs we have about needing approval from other people. What I see is a lot of different beliefs here. I would do a lot of self inquiry on this and put precisely into words what needs you have and how relating has fallen short for you. I’d then very soberly also exam your expectations. What are you expecting form women? What is a conscious woman? Is your idea of how the relationship should be a personal bias or actually in flow with truth? This is a very sneaky topic because there is a lot of bias and your own mistakes and perceptions that could actually be clouding your path towards finding fulfillment and enjoyment in this area of life.

I've decided to delete this app. I believe it does more harm than good. For what I'm doing I don't need it on my main phone. Has anyone decided to detox fro social media and short form videos? I believe I'm done for good with the app. It is just a gross place and it's not worth being there for me anymore.

Some of you guys are brainrotted wackos. Good lord, did some of you guys form your opinion from the Instagram comments? The thing is that yeah, the world does interpret highjacking planes and doing all the Arab Muslim terrorism stuff as barbaric and playing dirty. Of course what Israel is doing is awful, but the optics is much cleaner. It’s not some grand conspiracy that brainrot folks try to set it up as “it’s just the mainstream media!” It’s easier for a normie to see a country drop a bomb and it’s president making speeches about how they are sorry for casualties and gave out warnings to leave etc vs some guy stealing a plane with civilians and crashing it into the ground. It is much harder to sell the idea that crashing a place like that is self defense and justified.

Yeah fetlife is a weird platform I didn’t even know it still exists

Be honest though, would you date yourself? Like are you able to relate and keep a long term relationship with a woman? I’m not saying anyone has to. There are great benefits to being single. But I wouldn’t just set up normal life stuff like relationships and whatnot at one oppositional end of a dichotomy with the other side being spirituality. Maybe some people aren’t wired for long term relations with women? Not as a spiritual truth (although I think it could be one aspect of it) but just your own authenticity and uniqueness not boding well with the female populace. Maybe some people simply don’t see the benefit for them on their path. I can’t say being married is so so much better than being single. But it’s nice to have a family and be together with someone you enjoy the company of.