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Boys are no longer coddled by society when they grow up, much less so compared to women who get help from others much easier. Women deal with many of the same cold truths but when faced with hardship they tend to be supported more through it.

The thing is though people try to stay on just one side of this duality and in doing so turn it into a pendulum at their expense, swinging radically from one side to the other. Masculinity / femininity are fluid qualities not absolutes about how one must live moment to moment in order to live good. It's not really possible to live aligned with truth from my experience if you try to live just as a totally feminine woman or a totally masculine man. In real life you have to find a balance of both and be able to wear both hats at times, it's like a dance or juggling, there's a rhythm to it in relationships. I've found the feminine values truth just as much as masculinity does. Men will not understand how women communicate and also lack experience in life, impose their expectations for how things should work, so they see women as less honest. I don't believe that to be true. Expecting someone else to see the world the same way as you and communicate in the same way as you is a form of self deception and not aligned with truth itself.

It’s because many women have been sold a dream where they believe a man will come and save them and relieve them of responsibilities. But this in general does not lead to a sustainable life and it also falls apart when you meet reality and you have all sorts of considerations like money, life path and how to raise kids. It’s a slippery slope to hand wave this away. It’s the girl equivalent of “boys will be boys” when women don’t want to be responsible, just like how men don’t want to be responsible for their destructive behavior, women don’t want to be for their careless behavior. The guy in the video does make some good points but I’d probably use different language to describe the points he made.

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Apparently the emperor has no clothes in Washington. Everyone against this madness (tariffs) is afraid to speak out. https://www.politico.com/news/2025/04/04/trump-tariffs-fear-lobby-business-congress-00006608

I think this is why the only way to really navigate living in the unknown like this is to greatly value ourselves and recognize our intrinsic worth but also be open to all the possibilities that can unfold without attachment. Most guys are so attached to the idea of how things should be or how they wish they were that they almost sort of cut themselves off from opportunities.

What you’re describing is very common with many people. I’ve done this as well. Let’s speak frankly, it’s called people pleasing. We look for value outside ourselves and almost sort of break our integrity by putting energy into relationships that aren’t as aligned as they could be with our path or values. You sound sort of regretful or resenting of these mistakes but I don’t think you should be. I’ve done this before and I’ve even managed to turn a relationship around from being out of alignment with my spirit back to being on a path towards greater authenticity. We have to honor our human side here that just wants to share love with others and it’s a learning opportunity every time we forget our own inner greatness even when there isn’t someone else there to reflect that back to us.

A lot of issues men face in dating is they have unrealistic expectations, this is not living aligned with truth. A lot of men will find out the women they are taking to aren’t as aligned with them as they believe and they then label everything as “misleading” or they realize that the dynamics between men and women has aspects of a pay to play system, needs and value exchanges, with no real oversight. But that is dating. Dating isn’t rules based order. Having realistic expectations about women, how you want to live your life, your boundaries, how money will be handled, how different paths between both people will be discussed. And in addition to that we aren’t given guarantees on anything. That’s life. We can live in accordance with reality and when we do that, that is being honest, not imposing our ideas of purity on reality.

What do you mean by “if you dare tell women the truth?” I don’t understand this. I think you can be honest and truthful and still do just fine dating. A lot of people believe that being honest is confessing and almost like exposing themselves to constant reproach by making themselves an open book. But having your own personal boundaries isn’t being dishonest. The thing is a lot of men were raised and told they have to be good, and their idea of good is almost sort of sacrificing themselves. To me this is not being truthful, navigating life of a way where you subject yourself to being split apart by competing interests is not being honest. You can definitely have a very balanced idea of honesty and integrity in your relationships and consider all factors when making considerations. Truth is not exactly pinning yourself to a cross like Jesus. The thing is many guys that get red pilled thought things would go their way, they had expectations that were untrue. So when they find out a woman is human and is alive and has her own needs and values to help support her own life and ambitions, they are shocked when they don’t necessarily align with that can can’t find someone who wants to be with them. I think we need to really define what we consider honesty in relationships, which I consider open and balanced communication that is appropriate for the relationship itself. Many guys do not make appropriate decisions and it’s equally a part of being honest as is saying what’s on your mind and not lying. You have to build up those skills and they require many considerations. The problem is guys just expected things to be their way even if they are just a wallflower who hasn’t worked on themselves.

Why the fuck is the USA still writing checks to Israel

I’ve been to China and as a foreigner I found it incredibly interesting. I think living there is very different. There’s a lot of people who really don’t take the time to understand China. I can also tell you that the USA has lost a ton of credibility and integrity with its criticisms of China considering who is president now. We are just economic competitors and we are intertwined as well so there is no getting rid of the other.

https://www.actualized.org/insights/facebook-corruption-exposed

Some of y'all are crazy but that's ok, you gotta be a little crazy to value spirituality and make it a central focus of one's life. thanks!

Claude is amazing for this and self inquiry. I have a whole project set up I use to understand my beliefs and so self inquiry with.

I’m not saying there isn’t any nut jobs on the left but this is a false comparison. Right wing brain rot and conservative ideologies are far more combative, oppressive and destructive to relationships, people and the planet by a wide margin compared to the nut jobs on the left Well yeah, of course. Like every child deep down wishes from their parents. But I’ve accepted I won’t get that from him nor should I build my life or perspective around being reliant on my dad’s support or approval (or anyone for that matter). He’s stuck in his ways and no amount of talking to him will change that. He has to want to change himself if he wants to change, all I can do is accept life for what it is.