Lyubov

this full audio book is a good starting point. also lot's of self love, you aren't flawed or broken right now. don't label yourself as that and that you need to improve yourself. try to cultivate a mindset where you are doing things that make you feel strong because you enjoy it and you enjoy being a creator, rather than some guy trying to fix his flawed weak self.

yeah for sure, I know to be finite is to always have an ever present element of survival to it. nothing bad about that. I think it's just overused here as a reductionist way of dismissing more complex systems and labeling things as automatic and low conscious when really they are more complex than that. masculine/feminine interaction has a huge survival element at it's core but I would not label it solely as that especially in more developed societies where people are doing things more for their personal interest/preference for experience rather than survival.

“Survival” is this forums subtle code word for bad It’s kind of annoying and I think a bit reductionist

It's undeniable that you can't help but love this guy He's doing energy work and spreading love to people he meets and is documenting it.

I really am torn and confused. I’ve seen personal examples of all kinds with “assholes” doing well with women and guys who were a bit more timid doing well. I’m so tired of this “asshole” tag though. Because basically what it means is a guy who is putting his own interests, desires and self bias before his partner, which is kinda paradoxical that this is found to be attractive considering partnership. I don’t think just because a guy is self interested and self biased he is automatically an asshole. An asshole to me is someone who is selfish to the point of abnormality and abuse.

some of you are way too tryhard sorry

I'll mull over and try some of the stuff in this thread and report back in a week to see if my response rate has gone up.

I didn’t read all the comments but the ones with the most thumbs up were hilarious. Hardest I had laughed in a long time.

You honestly get 100% response rate from that? I know Todd V, he is pretty good for advice on how to flirt

This is why I've cut out eating mammals a year ago. I still eat chicken and fish because I haven't figured out a consistent diet without this meat for nutrition. My long term goal is to go vegetarian.

Ayahuasca is truly one of the bravest things you can take for spiritual/personal reasons. it is no walk in the park. I would say anyone brave enough to take a DMT substance as their first psyche deserves a medal. DMT is the crown jewel.

it depends on what perspective you take and how broad it is. On the broadest level everything happens for a reason so to speak, finding your way back home. If you narrow it down, you could say it's just a random experience. relatively speaking a lot of stuff just happens due to cause and effect and isn't worth over analyzing. from the absolute it is all a miracle and a sign.

nah, in door dining and bars/clubs are still heavily restricted here. it's also quite cold so no one really goes out here during this time to walk around. I don't feel like walking around the mall either approaching girls. basically my window for talking to girls and the volume is quite limited during the day at this time.

lol I just started 4 days ago and I have no way to meet girls in person due to lockdown here. I usually don't do online dating when bars and clubs are open.

I think my reply is kinda bleh ._. I think I'm overthinking this. I'm a bit of a perfectionist and am over thinking what to write. I think I should also avoid writing anything about myself that could come off making me look goofy or bad even if it's jokingly, trust that feeling if it feels "try hard" or trying to be overly clever/silly, don't send it. Just focus on a good opener and transitioning to a simple convo that isn't too gamey but sprinkle it in if something comes to mind that feels natural. Gonna try to message a bunch this week and post some updates next week to see if there is anything I can improve on in my conversations.

stole your line bruh! you think this is better? think I should add anything else or expand it? thanks for the help everyone!

if only it were that easy ._.

Hmm ok, I got rid of the BS line. I'll add a little more interesting stuff that's more specific about myself after my opening in my bio. I'll brainstorm and flesh out the qualifier as well.

memes in my profile cuz I noticed these are a thing a lot of girls have in theirs and i thought these were funny

Ok, I removed the memes line and the stuff after 6'1 I also changed it to "Thrill seeker and adventure enthusiast" and added a weight lifting, camera and motorcycle emoji Do you think "Looking for a girl that is more than just an instagram photo" or "Looking for a girl as cool as me" are fine? Any other ideas for a qualifier? Should I add anything else? I feel like less is more when it comes to this stuff but I'm not sure entirely I'll try to make my messages I send especially openers congruent with my bio

what are some other good ways to start a conversation without giving any sort of compliment of any kind? I just sent a few more messages: for example a hot girl in a cute dress by a painting I wrote "Cute dress but you aren't holding a glass of red wine, not sophisticated enough :smugfaceemoji" trying to figure out other ways to start conversations that are engaging. maybe I should go full edgy/polarizing and just wrote "you aren't holding a glass of red wine, not sophisticated enough :smugfaceemoji" ??

Yeah, I agree. I think for the convo that went well I tried to implement the idea of "push/pull" where I give a compliment but I sort of take it away a little with something else so it kinda has that feel of not being kiss ass and it sort of balances it out and seems not as needy. The girl with the tats I did this as well which got a response (she was showing off her tats super try hard in her pics and talking about how she doesn't care about guys with them)

So basically I was on a free account and wasn't getting matches. I have six photos of myself that have all been approved by two girls and a few other friends of mine. They are great photos. I decided to add 3 memes as well which are sort of cocky funny / "bad boyish" and a little sexual. Also added a dumb bio I found online that makes me sound sorta fuckboyish which idk I think girls react to this stuff over something "nice." Kinda corny but it seems to have improved my profile I think. I used this opening on one other girl. she liked my pic but I didn't get a response. this seems to be going somewhere. gonna think of something to reply back that isn't low effort but also not tryhard. maybe best to just transition to basic conversation since she seems into me. another fail with this line grifting her art work on tinder??? feel like my reply was a fail have gotten 14 matches with hot girls in the last four days since getting the prem service and adding some memes and a dumb stuff to my bio any advice?

I wonder what can be done about this on the short term or is this going to go down in the history books as a forgotten tragedy?

has this been posted? this is insane and fucked up is it even possible to boycott China? I am trying consciously to try my best not to spend any money on stuff made there. China has the largest mass incarceration of an ethnic group since the holocaust.