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I want to address what I call “the glue.” What I’ve noticed which holds it all together for many people is the idea they need to be on the app or else they will miss some important bit of information, current events or miss out on opportunities social or business. Instagram sells a lot of young people the dream they can become a sorta quasi influencer type if they reach enough followers and sell something, what is that something? Well for a lot of accounts I’ve come across it’s unclear to me… I think they’re selling a dream, or motivation on how to grow your socials. It’s just so circulars. You scroll and post on IG to grow your IG to the point you can eventually have other people scrolling for you where you tell them how to grow your IG... Apart from the multi level marketing crap there are some actual brands on there selling products, clothes, restaurants, tour guides, etc. If you’re self employed then IG is actually worth posting on. It’s sorta like one big commercial though. I remember we used to mute the tv during commercials. Reels is filled with ads and it’s not as simple as muting. I work a lot so doom scrolling is something I’ve had an issue with. It is a very easy was to sorta “relax” after and between work. It’s kinda like taking constant smoke breaks. I’m testing this myself now at 35. I could see it being a lot harder to not be on this app if I was single in my twenties. If I was ten years younger I’d probably have a much harder time being off it. The thing is I still need to be sometimes posting on it which I plan to continue to do. Even after detoxing and getting off the consuming side I still need to feed the beast, it’s just reality now.

This is maybe the one thing of value I won’t have anymore. There’s some decent recommendations for like restaurants and shops. I’ll have to lean on word of mouth more now but even that opens up more for me just by virtue of talking to people. You see? You trade the convenience for earned experience.

You have to put basically no effort into women if you clear the bar in their mind if you are in their fuckzone or not. Effort and pandering is what guys do for women they aren’t able to pull. This is what I’ve been saying here. She knows if she wants to fuck you in 15 minutes after meeting you. The rest is you dancing like a monkey for her enjoyment OR getting out of your own way so you don’t sabotage it and kill her attraction for you. What women say they want “effort, men doing everything, etc” is very different from reality, that effort they only want from guys in the fuckzone and even then too much of it gives too much of your power away and kills the sexual tension. Your batting average is the girls you can pull and what women make it easy for you to sleep with them. Rarely a girl may give pity sex if like they’re broke and you’re always there for them but it’s not a route to lean on or the way to go.

I don’t like the word triggered but yeah I don’t like the app the same way when my lungs fill with smoke, I don’t like that. There are people who are marks who fall for IG and give the app a ton of their qi. There are people too who have leveraged it and managed to earn cash off of it (for better or worse). If you’re actually in the latter than by all means keep going. It’s pointless for me to be on there scrolling.

Authenticity is when you are living aligned with truth, that’s at least my view on it. Not living aligned with familiar limiting beliefs, running around the maze of confusion.

The algorithm is based off pushing your buttons and turning you into a zombie. It’s engineered to capitalize on fear, anger fomo, and comparisons. Half the comments on reels are bots as well if you click on them. I’ve reset my content preferences 1000 times, it always finds a way to funnel me somewhere back to crap. All roads lead to the crap with IG. Obviously its use-case is very specific, so if you’ve chosen a certain hustle it may be mandatory to be there. Like if you’re a dj or promoter yeah you have no other options. I personally have never once nor probably ever will hire or send money to someone I’ve seen on IG. Every service or product I ever found through social media has been through YouTubers. YouTube has some legit real experts and I have had my life racially changed by YouTubers. I can’t say the same about IG influencers. My brand needs it only somewhat and I have a separate account for it anyways which is apart from my content account which feeds me all the shit I don’t wanna see. So all I have to do is upload ads for the service I’m selling and respond to messages and I’m fine, can all be done from desktop. Telegram and word of mouth is just as important for me.

YouTube is far better. By almost every metric of wellbeing in my personal opinion. I find comments on YouTube are better, content is better (but by no means perfect). There is usually much more context on YouTube and even the disturbing stuff has more background to it which allows you to learn from it. Short for is like smoking for the mind.

The violent videos, troll bait, and constant lies. It is an app selling dreams and largely for voyeurs. I couldn’t care less about someone having more money than me, all the posers pretending they do is what annoys me. On top of that the app sexualizes children, is harmful for teenagers, has nefarious ads selling drugs and AI porn. I realized that the dream they sell which you mentioned is the glue they hold it all together and leech your precious life energy from. You are better off not consuming anything on the app than you are leaving what little views you would otherwise get on the table peddling whatever you’re peddling. Upload from desktop and don’t consume the poison. Anyone doing anything worthwhile with regards to content is on YouTube anyways and that is where you build something if you want an actual brick and mortar business based on quality. I’ll continue on YouTube no problem, it’s a much better platform in comparison to IG. I also deleted TikTok too.

Oh nice I will try this too

yeah, that is legit the way it seems. I plan to upload from my browser. so much easier to ignore all the filth this app peddles.

Seems like a failing of government where the rule of law isn’t able to produce an outcome which the public sees as justice. I’m getting a lot of right wingers (bots) who are using this as propaganda against the left. Obviously she killed her kids and should be incarcerated for the rest of her life.

It’s two things tangled up. I would say that hard is largely a perception of it. We have expectations and wish things were different, when these don’t align with reality we feel resistance and uncomfortable emotions. TRUTH: Regarding life being hard, life is just life. It’s possible to cultivate an experience of flow, shape your life in a way where even when things get challenging and we wish something were different, that there is greater peace and sense of wholeness and belonging in this world. The truth is life is just life, it is what it is, we are here, we exist, we are whole as we are, we ARE. PRACTICALITY: Now, practically speaking, reality itself can get very nuanced and things we set out to do can be incredibly complicated. They may take hundreds of ours if our time, our energy, our focus. We will most likely make all sorts of mistakes, some with life changing consequences. So just by sitting and observing reality, yeah there are indeed some very important things we need to be responsible for, many things we need to know, many traps we can fall into. The spiritual path (Wu Wei) recognizes both of these and balances them. If you go too far into either direction it can create an imbalance in your life.

It’s important. people’s paths can be very different so you don’t need it to justify being here nor do you need it as evidence to prove you’re on the right path. Its education and generally speaking people benefit greatly from education.

Just chill, do nothing. You don't need to do anything, just make it clear that it is professional when he steps over a boundary. Don't send him photos, keep discussion on his kids only. Be brief if he asks you personal questions and don't share information outside work with him. If he sends emojis jsut ignore them. he is a flirty old man that likes you, just keep an eye on him, it will likely be fine..

Where you’re located plays a big role in the most effective way go take to find a girlfriend or get laid. The culture, the climate, what people value and what is seen as an asset. Let’s make a list of cities and what they value. I’ll start us off. Let’s make a list and compare and see how this affects what you choose to shape your life when it comes to this domain of life. Ok I’ll start. Rio de Janerio, Brazil - Probably one of the most looksmaxxed places you could go as a guy. Being physically fit and looking amazing with your shirt off is almost crucial here if you want the best looking women off the beach. You can go to some areas where there are more white Brazilians and try to pick up women at more traditional clubs but they can get pricey and there are dudes everywhere trying to get laid here because the women of this city have a reputation for giving sex quickly. You need to really cultivate an extroverted lifestyle here to pull the top girls. This is not an intellectual city. Being able to dance and go with the flow and enjoy a long night out is important in this city. Online dating is completely flooded, instagram too. Moscow, Russia - You have to be literally fucking retarded if you aren’t able to pull as a mediocre white guy from the USA or UK here. The most beautiful women on earth and you will notice the sheer volume. Girls here in general need more trust building. They do not respond well to quick moves for kissing and dirty remarks. That’s a rule of thumb, obviously they’re freaks in the bedroom but they are usually very protective of their image and I found they are very scared of being labeled as a slur. This is a great place for introverts. Intellectualism is rewarded. You can be kinda fat but if you dress well and have style you can pull a supermodel still. Money talks here too but can attract the wrong girl. Add cities and discuss.

Spain is good. I was there. I didn't get to go out though. I saw the volume was alright on the streets. It's no eastern Europe but it's def better than USA/UK/Canada/Australia/

Yeah I mean being ugly you def do get ignored more. I think hate is a strong word for this.

I found that Rio is very competitive and slants heavily towards a certain look and type of person. I also think the way the socializing works there and lifestyle makes it so hot girls are completely overwhelmed by horny guys. It’s not a bad city for hooking up. I also fucked a couple incredibly hot woman there, I still reminisce about one of them to this day… but the city and way dating works there has a lot of problems. Girls are flooded with horny dudes, athletic look and extroversion is crucial for building volume and it’s both dangerous and expensive. But the city is easily the most beautiful I been to and I love the beach lifestyle

Apparently he’s tweeting now that he “may have taken the anti aging stuff too far.” I’m paraphrasing but it’s basically what he said. Bro is finally making some sense.

My plans have changed but yeah I was emigrating to Russia until 2022, I had plans to buy a flat in Moscow and everything, had the cash, had spent 3 years there getting ready to be based out of there, was going to buy summer 2022…. Invasion happened in Feb 2022 so I pulled out. I’ve since been traveling the last 4 years doing digital nomad life since I work online. Two were spent in Brazil. I’ve gotten married in this time. I’m based out of South East Asia now.

Sounds like an amazing client to be honest, pays for canceled lessons and increases pay without having to negotiate. I tutor as well and that sounds like a dream…. But you need to learn to enforce boundaries. He is kinda flirting with you. Don’t send photos to him, put a wall up if he advances on you. Keep it professional and be strict about it.

Colombia is top tier for women, nothing useless going there for sex. It is a night and day experience going from a shitty city to a good one. But I will say going to Colombia has a lot of other problems which can make the trade of going there come with more issues. Moving is not excessive at all for getting high caliber women. If you can’t pull back home obviously you won’t pull a super model where you go but it def will give you a much better deal. London is kinda shit. It’s expensive and has gotten dangerous. Western English speaking countries in general are not good unless you have an incredible lifestyle, income and look. They’re just very inefficient places for normal guys and you’ll have to settle for less beauty and choices. I haven’t been to Poland but I heard it’s super overrun now as a spot. All the Euro puas started flooding it precovid and apparently now from what I heard the girls there react far less warmly than they used to. I’m sure it’s still miles better than the USA or UK though.

Medellin Colombia. I think this place has easily the most beautiful women in South America and they are pretty keen on white gringos. Easy flights have completely overran the place. A lot of shady shit tourists too but the worst part is the crime, this is a very dangerous city. Lots of disingenuous women as well. I’d say you have to exercise a tremendous amount of caution wherever you go here and with whoever you meet.

Inner game all the way.

I’m 35 so I’m already quite aware of aging and how it’s affected me, which it definitely has with how I’m noticed when I go out, in fact a lot of what I wrote here has been 15 years of experience and deep contemplation and a lot of insight into what I actually experienced during my pua journey vs the story I laid over it (survivorship bias) I agree with you that you should be cultivating a confidence that is so thick and blind to what others think that you are always delighted with yourself and optimistic of what’s to come. I don’t disagree here. It’s very empowering to go from a very mediocre depressed guy who doesn’t pull to pick up speeches which say you’re already hot and all you need is game to pull a high caliber woman. That was really empowering for me to take action and do the whole game thing ages ago and being delusional like this actually sets into motion a lot of internal changes. The funny thing is in hindsight while that played a role in getting me out, it wasn’t my game which got me laid but my swag and authentic self and my general foundation (white, tall, foreign guy, wealthy lifestyle) and confidence which was only mirrored back to me when women looked at me and made eyes with me, which they weren’t evaluating my game, they were checking me out seeing if I’m in their fuckzone or not, like I said women need on my 15 minutes of chatting and being around you to know if you’re in their fuckzone or not. Women evaluate you based on a combination of your looks, style, swag, height, quick personality traits, how authentic you appear and how in tune you are with their subcommunications.