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Her explanation was useful for understanding this preference and some of the definitions in this conversation. I would file this alongside really any other sort of preference one has in a relationship. When choosing a wife or husband they will almost always have their own quirks and uniqueness and may not be how we want them to be or be a certain way they are not. Many women / men we meet simply don’t check off enough of the boxes. If you believe you cannot relate with someone well enough in conversation and meet them in nuance on things than idk 🤷‍♂️ to me this conversation just culminates in a guy simply not yet finding someone he’s interested in enough to commit to. There are a ton of people who feel a bit down and disconnected because they haven’t found someone they can connect with through conversations which suit their preference, usually people will word things vaguely and in nuance when they’re having some sorts problem. I’m not diminishing his issue at all, I just believe it’s better to word it very concisely and clearly to get to the bottom of it. Finding a life partner can take a lot of time and for many people these days they simple just never meet anyone compelling enough to choose. From an internal perspective this is an issue of perception, you can sometimes change your perspective and make the best with what you got but simultaneously also it is just what one has encountered in life so far, sometimes it’s hard and rare to meet someone we like enough to commit to. The more boxes on one’s checklist the more difficult it will be. I think I’ve made my peace with that my wife / partner won’t always fit my expectations or how I wish she was but I’ve made my choice anyway.

Ok got it. It does sound like you have reflected on this a good bit and I trust that you know yourself well enough to stand on this. I do think for some people our uniqueness doesn’t always fit perfectly with what we desire. You have your own uniqueness and maybe due to that and maybe the trends in society, it makes it difficult to navigate and fulfill what you were hoping to. A few things I’d suggest sitting with. I would question your needs here and your definitions on them. What does it mean no intellectual intimacy? What are you believing about women and dating and what were you hoping to get out of it? Getting much more clear on your definitions and expectations. Intellectual intimacy is a very abstract thing. What you consider to be deep may not be deep to another person. What do you consider limitations in your partner’s thinking? I do know that though sometimes you’re in a place and things just click and you feel good because you believe and see another person has a shared experience with you and similar values. You say you’re holding back but what are you holding back discussing? Why do you need to hold anything back and when you don’t hold back what are you afraid will happen? A few questions to mull over.

You aren’t going to meet anyone who is physically attractive there if you aren’t able to bring something exceptional. It’s that simple. If you’re willing to choose a post modernist relationship with a woman who isn’t conventional attractive you will find someone. If you want a hot girl you better get to work.

Bashar is great. Love his messages and kindness even if it’s a bit looney.

I make travel vlogs. It is not easy at all. One of the hardest niches since you have travel often and it can get expensive and difficult to take trips all the time. But I live abroad so it’s fine.

Dude chill out you don't need to approach as many girls as possible, you need to calm the f down and try to actually pull one back. Slow down. Have a drink. Get into a good conversation and just chill. You're doing too much. See who likes you. They will laugh and give you singles if they like you. Do you know how to read body language and gage if a girl is warm for you or if you're somewhat in her fuck zone? Basically she will put energy into the interaction, laugh a little while speaking to you, smile, you will feel the tension. Step into the room and see who makes eye contact with you. Read the room. You gotta pick up on the signs and see who is somewhat into you. Obviously you can cold open and sometimes it's a little tricky to tell off the bat but you should sense it as you're enjoying yourself who is enjoying being around you and attracted to you.

dating apps are complete shit in the USA. it's always like trans women flooding the straight girl stack and a lot of really overweight women. tinder is an absolute nightmare in the USA. I haven't been on it in a few years but I imagine it's still darn good in Europe the further east you go. USA/Canada are shite for dating in general.

yeah same, sex is all about the beautify and fun and excitement for me personally, closeness is obviously a part of it. It is kinda like coffee. You mix a bit of the strong beans (love) in with the smooth beans for taste (beauty and excitement). My wife is beautiful, I wanna enjoy her beautiful body lol. We rarely have some deep loving sex and I am not saying it's not a great way to bond, i just enjoy the more passionate side of it. The love side I much prefer words of encouragement and thoughtful actions. The 5 love languages is an easy book to get an idea of what you want from a relationship. I hit peak love experiences on my own through self inquiry and meditating.

I’ve followed this thread and I think I can speak on a bit more of the core issues it revolves around and perhaps also a bit of cope as well for lack of a better word. There is a notion here in this community that goes something like “spirituality is in opposition to raising your consciousness or exploring this domain.” I’m not really sure I agree with this. I believe this is an expectation one sets and it becomes true the more you believe it and can be used as a cope as well when you have your expectations about the world and it it doesn’t align with reality. A marriage or girlfriend isn’t two bros having a beer no string attached. You aren’t going to be able to do 5meo enemas all the time while you have a family to look after, you’ll have to find balance with it and with this balance it can add new depth to your spiritual pursuits. A drop of water in a desert is invaluable in comparison to it in the ocean. There is also the idea of needs, why you want a relationship and what you hope to get out of it in the first place. Are your needs realistic? Are they something you can honestly expect another person to help with or have you created a bunch of standards and ideas about how you think the world should work? Not everyone needs a relationship and that is just fine. Sometimes we take part in them partially because of old beliefs we have about needing approval from other people. What I see is a lot of different beliefs here. I would do a lot of self inquiry on this and put precisely into words what needs you have and how relating has fallen short for you. I’d then very soberly also exam your expectations. What are you expecting form women? What is a conscious woman? Is your idea of how the relationship should be a personal bias or actually in flow with truth? This is a very sneaky topic because there is a lot of bias and your own mistakes and perceptions that could actually be clouding your path towards finding fulfillment and enjoyment in this area of life.

I've decided to delete this app. I believe it does more harm than good. For what I'm doing I don't need it on my main phone. Has anyone decided to detox fro social media and short form videos? I believe I'm done for good with the app. It is just a gross place and it's not worth being there for me anymore.

Some of you guys are brainrotted wackos. Good lord, did some of you guys form your opinion from the Instagram comments? The thing is that yeah, the world does interpret highjacking planes and doing all the Arab Muslim terrorism stuff as barbaric and playing dirty. Of course what Israel is doing is awful, but the optics is much cleaner. It’s not some grand conspiracy that brainrot folks try to set it up as “it’s just the mainstream media!” It’s easier for a normie to see a country drop a bomb and it’s president making speeches about how they are sorry for casualties and gave out warnings to leave etc vs some guy stealing a plane with civilians and crashing it into the ground. It is much harder to sell the idea that crashing a place like that is self defense and justified.

Yeah fetlife is a weird platform I didn’t even know it still exists

Be honest though, would you date yourself? Like are you able to relate and keep a long term relationship with a woman? I’m not saying anyone has to. There are great benefits to being single. But I wouldn’t just set up normal life stuff like relationships and whatnot at one oppositional end of a dichotomy with the other side being spirituality. Maybe some people aren’t wired for long term relations with women? Not as a spiritual truth (although I think it could be one aspect of it) but just your own authenticity and uniqueness not boding well with the female populace. Maybe some people simply don’t see the benefit for them on their path. I can’t say being married is so so much better than being single. But it’s nice to have a family and be together with someone you enjoy the company of.

What do you mean by all the fakery though?

msulim/arab world always doing baboon shit like this. allahu akbar! I can't judge them though. An animal in a corner always lashes out even at it's own expense. I have zero plans to fly to the middle east and won't ever go to Israel. Fuck that.

How old are you? You sound frustrated. What lead you to making this post?

Tantra I think is different. I never tried it and tbh I’m not really interested in it or bdsm. My sex life has always been kinda crazy and fun without labels and names on stuff. But yeah I’m sure tantra can be powerful in its own way. What I was speaking about is like doing some mindfulness before pick up. Idk meditation removes desire usually and desire can be really powerful when channeled into socializing and pick up. It’s a weird tightrope of walking between being detached but also having a ton of energy to fuck and pull a woman back with your tenacity and sharpness. I would also say the alcohol you drink matters as well. Beer is kinda dirty, spirits can take it too far. I’ve found wine is the ultimate elixir but I also think the environment you take it in is very important. Some environments are just fucking messy and getting drunk along with the rest of the cattle has its consequences. A couple glasses of wine with your wife or girlfriend or date or with your girl and a couple of her girlfriends works wonders. I’m not talking about slamming a bunch of beers and getting all gassy and in a carb high and making a fool of oneself.

Yeah that’s true. I think their drones and EV technology is pretty much their foray though and they are damn good at it too. I’m far from an expert on this subject. China is able to create a lot of really great consumer electronics and goods at an excellent price. They take stuff that was created in other countries and do an unbelievable job at making it themselves more efficiently. They maybe don’t put as much effort into R&D.

Crazy the amount of time and work people put into scamming. I was trying to exchange cash on Telegram yesterday. Seems like there are people who have made it their full time hustle to scam people in the crypto sphere.

Ask Deepseek ai what happened in 1989 on Tiananmen Square

What’s keeping us from stealing from them back? Sounds to me like we got outwitted.

Bro you are not going to create sexual tension with a meditation high

We all are slowly dying. Pick your poison.

Peter Thiel's astroturf'd influencer for poisoning the male youth and getting them to go right wing is now catching chargers