Lyubov

I would try but it’s easier said than done. Just because I wouldn’t want to be so reliant on another person. There’s a lot of opportunities beautiful women have which sorta give them the freedom while still cashing in on sex and their looks, flip the script, but it’s still at the end of the day coming from a man. Sex with beautiful women will always be a very valuable commodity. First category: Onlyfans, bottle girl, pornstar, cam girl, stripper, karaoke girl, escort, etc. More independent forms of it. Refined in such a way where men act like suckers and empty their wallets for these women. The age old profession comes in different forms. Second category: There are more relationship based versions, sugar baby, gold digger, even house wife to some degree (trad wife) you are still relying on men and exchanging sex and beauty but you have less say and power in these situations, but it depends. Many beautiful women will place themselves to some degree in the second category. Most beautiful women will expect you to pay the rent and cover most of the bills. Some (not all) women weaponize it and run it as sort of a scam, they prey on gullible men and the ambiguity and know how to milk men with their beauty while having very different intentions behind their actions. For example I met girls who would go on dates with guys they had zero interest in or get a bill paid but they have zero interest in sleeping with them or anything more than getting some cash out of the experience. Gotta be careful for these hoes.

Most beautiful women are either gold diggers, some sort of sex worker (influencer, OF, etc.) or stay at home moms. Beautiful women usually base their survival off men in some form. It's some of the most stable income.

correction: sorry he is being criminally charged for rape, there is nothing that says he has been arrested (yet)

A lot easier said than done to block and delete

Interesting the parallel to the teaching I keep saying here that you have inherent worth and value as you are now. You do not nor ever need validating. This truth trickles right down to relationships and daily living. It’s pretty cool how all of this connects like a beautiful puzzle or woven tapestry.

It's difficult to do this work and have completely original self generated insights that haven't been somewhat shaped by teachers and other people you read their firsthand accounts about.

Classic tragedy of the commons. This is the issue with the USA in general.

Yeah, It’s a really good book and he nails just about everything I would say. You can apply what he teaches to your own self talk as well. Very powerful stuff. I listened to the audio version then I read it because I knew I didn’t get everything I wanted out of it.

I reinstalled IG to upload a reel today. It has been around 16 days since I used the app. I started scrolling and maybe put in about an hour of watching short videos, it is a pretty heavy dopamine rush when you detox from it and go at it again. Low and behold I started getting all sorts of negative trash in my feed 30 minutes in and yeah, it’s engineered to really push my buttons. I scrolled consciously and noticed how I would have instant emotional reactions to all the controversial stuff and want to continue to scroll because of it. I observed my mind and noticed how the algorithm is designed to reward content which you see with either fear, envy or outrage. I even noticed that after scrolling I was more likely to watch similar content on YouTube so it’s possible for this app to pollute your mind for the day and can carry it over into everything else. I’ve contemplated it a bit and I will try now for 30 days this next time. I want to see how far I can push not consuming short content.

Serenity to accept things you cannot change Courage to change things you can Wisdom to know the difference

Saw this the other day. Very common for mentally unstable and disabled people like this to be riding city buses (USA). It’s why riding the bus has a dangerous connotation to it.

Um ok but I have a real job and AI can’t do what I do nor deal with the clients I deal with. I’m a tutor and guidance counselor for high net worth families based out of Eastern Europe, Dubai and Miami looking to send their kids to prestigious private universities. The scaling for what I do is up-skilling myself for more expensive subject and targeted ads to capture more of the market, I am building a brand but the fundamental problem still exists where I do the face to face work.. There is this idea that I can reach a critical mass with my brand where I can pass on students to other professions for commission which I’ve done before but I don’t want to go in that direction and it’s chasing chicken feed. I need to look for an entirely different business idea that turns into passive income and I need a vision for what I would be willing to commit to. I have my YouTube travel channel but it’s for my own personal baby to share my travel vlogs and I wouldn’t dare put heavy expectations on that, it takes a ton of views before I can Adsense it or get a sponsor (I got denied by Adsense for some reason). So idk 🤷‍♂️ if these concepts apply to me, I’ve chosen this but in the moment it’s the clearest and best path. I’m fully remote and have no boss which is something to be thankful for.

I can't stand Reddit.

AI doom is so silly. These people are so out of touch. These guys think the terminator is coming. When we have brainrot, idiot investors gutting the middle class and Israel using it to kill kids. It’s just ironic. They have these wild fantasies about what harm it will bring yet ignore the obvious consequences of it NOW. Idiots act like we didn’t have this shit before 2021 and like we have reorganized so critically around it. Their investments have reorganized around it, not us

I also use the word “dynamic” for this. I’ve had plenty of awakenings on it and I think I rarely go back into the familiar on this because I’ve really come to understand it and grow deeply. I’m always interested in fresh perspectives on its of course I don’t do think perfectly, I think I’ve gotten much better at my reactivity and I don’t often blame my emotions which I create on other people. Understanding is indeed key. I would say a key which really moves the needle on our day to day experience is responsibility. It’s possible to know about the dynamic and even understand it pretty well but you gotta embrace a stillness and I’d say give yourself what you needed when you started to believe you were bad. This always goes back to childhood. A lot of kids grow up in families where they are taught that if they make a mistake or do something wrong or don’t do well at something their value is questioned. It’s rare but the people who do not have this dynamic are people who often grew up as kids in a family that was able to communicate to them that they still were valuable even when they made a mistake or didn’t live up to an expectation. I would say that is one of the most important parts. You basically need to reparent yourself which sorta reengineers the whole belief system (dynamic).

Nonviolent Communication The Six Pillars of Self Esteem The Big Leap Thick Face, Black Heart Tao Te Ching These are my S tier books for self work.

Vetting is very important though. It’s obviously really inefficient to sit down and read books that aren’t helpful. I found that AI is really good for this and also going on YouTube and researching a book beforehand. Especially for nonfiction and stuff you’re reading for your life, you don’t need to worry about being spoiled or anything. You can get an idea in what ways it’s good. I’ve saved a lot of time cutting down my read list with AI.

The problem with male value or this line of thinking is it’s subject to change. You’re building your house on shifting sands. Even when I was growing up and a young adult I can see things were different from even now with what is expected of you. So it’s not what you need to align with. If you build yourself on any judgement of value you will always be chasing a carrot on a stick dangling in front of you, caring what others think of you. Now obviously there are choices you can make after having observed the world with a very clear mind where you can clearly reason why and intuitively take action in a certain way or choose to shape your life a certain way. But this framing of it as an expectation or your value is ultimately going to fuck you. Me choosing to earn money and build a business has nothing to do with how valuable I perceive myself. I want to grow something and live nicely and support my family. I worked on my mind and education because I genuinely wanted to access those dimensions. Whatever people perceive of me now because of that is their business.

I’ve believed I’m bad since I’ve been a child. I’ll listen. The belief “I’m bad” is self destructive from my experience.

Been here. You’re over correcting now. You start off nice, starting convos, etc. But you don’t get results you want. So you go in the opposite direction. The guys who you often perceive as a douche may be kinda wild and selfish and unapologetic but trust me when you try to be them you will come across far differently. How much inner work have you actually done? You would benefit from deep self inquiry and journaling, reengineering your belief system and your relationship with yourself. You would then be able to observe your environment with a much clear mind and catch your flow. I’d also do energy work too to balance your chi.

It’s possible to be so attuned and in your flow that you can pull a girl that doesn’t even speak your own language. The night becomes the narrative and body language the words.

How attuned are you? You usually don’t have to do too much. I noticed that if you’re in your flow and just having fun there is usually a solid chance you will be invited for something or able to invite others as well. Being attuned and dropping expectations and reading the room is very important or else you can waste your time on 40 sets where you were opening strong, but it was evident you had a sort of “intent” so people feel like they are standing next to a salesman or someone desperate to close them on something. I would slow down and actually take time to just really observe people when you go out, get a feel for what mood people are in, people sense your presence. I know in Europe people can be quite chatty and like talking to strangers on the street and when out but when you’re in your flow you will find people you actually want to spend more than 3 minutes with. Trust me there ain’t 40 sets even worth opening when you’re tuned in and present. You walk into a space, you scan the room, then rest in your presence and then when you get a sense of what’s going on you put a little gas in it and be outgoing. Just spamming sets without presence and with expectation can become a trap.

Bro good effort but you gotta redirect it into keeping stuff going. I used to spam sets, it’s easy to keep doing that thinking stuff will start progressing in your interactions but really you’re the equivalent of a pop up ad in real life. Are you able to find a few girls who seem receptive to you and wanna go grab a drink NOW? Like you chat for 10-20 mins and then ask them with your wingmen to go to a bar or something? Sounds like you can open which is good but you gotta now start watching how guys pull and close.

I’ll check it out thanks. I have no idea what to do though other than trade my time for my valuable skills.