Lyubov

Nothing wrong with being a virgin. You don't deserve to be hated on for it or made fun of it in any way. When you feel ready and the opportunity arrises have some sex. You do you. Some people may judge you for it but fuck them. Some people may not feel it and not want to sleep with you because of it. That is their right but also know there is plenty of opportunity to still lose it. You can still always find and work towards having sex. Your v-card is not a problem. The stuff limiting you and making you feel bad is.

Doesn't have to be just for online dating like tinder. Having it on your Instagram as well helps a lot. I would make sure all your clothes looks good and fits well on you. Also make sure you just went to the barber in all your photos. Motorcycle photo is always good. I think you have a ton of ideas here. If it's a good photo, it's a good photo.

I agree for the most part. I buy flowers and stuff for my girl but we have been together a while and are super close. Wasn’t a thing at the start. The thing is though I’ve noticed in some cultures a guy is expected to sort of win over a girl early on with flowers and fancy dates. It’s kinda dated but still a bit of a thing and valued in some places.

I mean I do agree it gets much better the more you fall in love. I don’t like the feeling of waiting long though for the first time. I don’t have time for that lol. I’d rather get started on it right away and see how we vibe physically.

I'm sort of the opposite. I want to get into bed quickly before so I know we have a physical connection. Somewhere on the first to third date. Maybe it's a bit fast but it feels right for me. It also builds a ton of intimacy between us. I find the long drawn out approach never leads anywhere. Maybe I just don't fit into this approach idk?

I faced the same issue in the past after hooking up. From my experience I realized I was being too cold and closed off because I was scared of being needy. I learned from this mistake. If she likes you she will be down and be delighted to have your affection, especially after sleeping with you. Send her memes, have some fun chit chat, complain with her about her shitty boss, etc. Texting a lot is not necessarily neediness. How compliant and how much she invests along side you is important but you also have to take the initiative first to see how interested she is. What you probably have done is somewhere in the past shown interest and were rejected and then labeled this situation as something wrong with yourself or you having neediness. I can tell you now if you act too conservative after sex she will think you just wanted a fuck and it will not turn into a relationship.

it exists for sure but I wouldn't worry about it. if you respect yourself and nurture your ability to feel things out you will find chicks that won't run around your back like this. it's kinda like how low self esteem people end up with shitty friends that use them. you will spot the signs and know it before walking into a trap like this. Even then we learn through mistakes. Worrying about it won't help though. Stick your values, always screen and keep your self esteem high. You should do fine.

yes, text her the next day. you can even get her out the day after hooking up for some lunch. she will go if she likes you and doesn't have other plans. she may have even slept over the that night at your flat anyways if your flat wasn't awful so the next day you should spend with her. basically it's not too different and a lot of it is common sense. don't over think it. text her a decent amount and get an idea of what her schedule is like. if she has a decent amount of free time and likes you she will prioritize time with you. just be cool and fun and caring. I wouldn't go into it with mindset of absolutely making a specific girl to be your girlfriend after hooking up. you won't even know if you want her as your girlfriend until you've spent a good bit of time together over 2/3 weeks. just continue to see her often with no pressure if you like her a lot. after a few weeks of pure fun and enjoyment with you she will be wondering what you are and at that point take the lead and make it clear you want to be more exclusive. you can even get tested together at that point and start doing the deed without protection if that's your thing from there then you can tell her you want her as your girlfriend, introduce her as your girlfriend, etc. Introduce her to your friends early on. from my experience most girls aren't sleeping with multiple men at a time. some do this but from my experience most don't. so claim her as your own after these first few weeks of spending time together and enjoying each other. you will know if you want her as your gf or just wanna be fwb after 2-4 weeks. don't be scared to commit and find a gf. lots of guys missing out on the best sex just keeping a girl as a fwb until they get tired of his shitty dick game and move onto another guy.

Nah, you did everything right actually. You escalated which is also a form of screening. A lot of guys getting into pick up think it’s magic and you are in complete control and can get any woman depending how good you are. No. A big part of it is making your move and screening for those that are down in the first place and knowing when to fold it when you come across those playing games or uninterested.

You're over thinking it. Yes, this sometimes happens. If she wants some company and wants to just chat cause she's out alone that night for whatever reason. You can pick up on those vibes sometimes or sometimes you just have to find out. I think you did the right thing going with the flow and finding out if she was into you or not though.

My relationship is facing the exact same thing right now so I can relate. You aren’t alone. I made this very thread a few weeks back. It sounds like you have a distinct direction you want to go. I’m lucky to have a job where I can potentially relocate but I’m still not sure I want to do it. It’s hard man, going through the same thing

This is why these people are just as useless interacting with as right wing nutjobs. You can't build a consensus with such people or actually enact change. Democratic socialism is still very much baking in the oven. It has yet to materialize and no one knows what it will actually look like when it arrives in 20-60 years from now. The liberal's heart may be in the right place but they are as useful at getting the job done as a croissant used as a dildo.

The party is JUST popping off at 2 in cities that actually have good clubs Main DJ usually doesn’t go on until at least 1.

Interesting post, I like your thoughts on this especially the part about how the job acts as a container and it can help you develop your own.

It may be a bit unrelated to you but one blind spot of mine that I've sort of filled in recently is you have to let go of your models and beliefs about women. If you find yourself feeling angry at women because they have it easy, or slightly judgement or resentful even on a subtle level, explore those feelings. Put those emotion into writing and get clear on your beliefs about women and what is triggered when you get rejected. Women do pick up subtly on this. Beliefs like "the hotter she is the more crazy she is", "women are spoiled", etc. Let go of all your beliefs about women and approach each and every one with wisdom but also an intuitive curiosity that she is her own person and unique in her own way. Attune. Don't shoehorn her based on how hot she is or what you think women are like due to some pick up model that you saw in a youtube video. This can be very freeing and give you a level of presence around each woman that will greatly aid in your leadership, influence and fulfilling both your desires and helping her fulfill hers and share your love with her. And even if sometimes it feels like you do everything right, it may not go your way, and even sometimes when it feels like you did everything wrong, it may sometimes go your way still. Look at things from a large perspective and don't be afraid to make mistakes and address triggers when they arise with compassionate self reflection.

All those premium systems, exclusive programs and complete theories from pick up guys are played up way more than they are worth and used to grift desperate guys out of cash. They can create a lot of tunnel vision for guys and I've seen a plenty get stuck in the theory loop or even just stuck in one approach hopping from one program to the next making little progress. You can learn a thing or two from them for sure but I remember seeing some of them costing like $5000..... the fuck Real ones know that pick up theory is basically useless once you reach a level of consciousness, usually through trial and error, where you realize it's about the principles and values you embody and aligning yourself with authentic desire. The theory I oddly find most helpful now will be books on more broader topics on relationships, sex and love, and even then I'm very hesitant and flexible when applying such theory. It's about finding out what works through experience, reflection and flexibility, not trying to shoehorn your experience desperately trying to get it to fit some theory you overpaid for.

Nah, loud music is good for your health. If the music is good that is I also don't like to go clubbing more than once a week. I've never liked going on a rager / bender. I may go twice a week max, and that won't be every weekend.

live and learn, the more you text and reflect you'll get an idea of what feels right. sometimes you won't get a reply. it's fine. focus on the girls that do reply.

Gun laws are just fucked in the USA. The very fact that a 17 year old kid can go around pretending to be a cop is crazy. I think there are tons of issues and factors that lead us here but the issue runs deeper than the sort of surface level problem the trial was about.

Size does matter for many women. If you’re a cool guy it usually won’t be a deal breaker though if you’re not gifted down there. If you got this you know it tends to help in most situations. The size satisfies a lot of women and feels good and makes her feel filled fully with you. It makes it easier hitting all the spots properly in her vagina as well. You gotta be careful though cause it can hurt her if you aren’t careful with your technique. A lot of Girls like it rough too so it takes some finesse and skill if you got a large D but it’s easy to learn. Kinda takes anal off the table too unless if she really trusts you and you know what you’re doing.

One thing that can make this sort of situation slightly more tolerable is just hunkering down and focusing on it being an exercise of discipline. You can learn to sit better with uncomfortable emotions. No need to look for conflict in this situation. Be mindful of your body, keep your chest out and keep breathing deep. Focus on your work and doing it to perfection with no mistakes, like you are a master craftsmen. This deliberate exercise will aid you in the future. Make sure to get plenty of rest and not bite off too much outside work. Also remember it will change, do your best at this job and get a good reference and move companies when the opportunity arises.

This is why you need a balance of both the boyfriend sort of approach and the horn dog. It’s sort of an intuitive skill where you feel it out and know when to ramp up which side in which moment. You need both for sure if you want to feel fulfilled in your dating life l. You can get action being too far off to either side but it will cause problems. Too far in the boyfriend frame? You’re gonna be passed over a lot and seen as boring and platonic. Too far in the horn dog frame? You’ll get action, but it may not be the quality of woman you most desire. just a quick personal story: I had this exact conversation with my gf the other day. I’ve been initiating her into the male POV of dating and she is kinda blown away by it. I illustrated these two points and she sorta had a totally different paradigm where from her POV it’s most important for a guy to be in boyfriend frame so both people see if they are a good fit together. I basically was finally able to fill in her blind spots. She admitted that the guy that’s pure boyfriend frame can get boring and after a couple dates with such a guy she is praying to god he has a huge dick cause everything else about him is making her dry. A lot of women are simply blind to the sort of aspects of masculinity men sort of have to play and act through to be attractive and turn women. They don’t care and just go with the flow and feel if it’s fun or not. Many women don’t like to conceptualize this stuff at all like guys do.

Holy crap, I just looked through that thread and then went down a bit of a rabbit hole looking at that subreddit. What a bunch of clowns. Makes me appreciate the discourse here about dating way more.

He drank Aya, of course he had an awakening. That’s kinda the point of drinking it.

didn't this john anthony guy have sexual assault charges brought against him before? I remember it was mentioned here before.