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dude gives me black republican vibes, at least he's more stylish. probably has the money to dress nice grifting donos from his toxic audience.

You basically just described online dating. You aren’t doing anything wrong per say. This is just the nature of the beast. You get matches and then a percent of them reply and then a percent of that give the number and then a percent of that are free to meet. The conversion rate is low when you add it up. But if you have 200 hot matches and you can sleep with 5% of them that’s not bad. All you can do is continue to improve your photos and profile. Also not internalize this and form judgements and beliefs about yourself. I would not overthink your texting. It’s online texting in a dating app. It means basically nothing. Just make small basic chit chat, a little joke, whatever, and get the number. Doesn’t sound like you are doing too much crazy or hoping for fireworks from texting but also sort of expecting more from it. Just continue improving your profile. You can send me screens of your texts if you want a second set of eyes to give you pointers in case you think you are over writing.

So let me start. Sometimes at night I can get wound up and triggered by something and it can make it hard to sleep. I’ll find myself in a mild to moderate fight or flight state. I’ll have uncomfortable sensations at the back of my neck, chest, etc. A lot of emotions. I’ll feel a little ungrounded as well. I’m very careful not to jump into my head, follow thoughts, etc when feeling like this. In general it’s just very uncomfortable sitting with the sensations. I’m doing other stuff to address the underlying causes for it but there is a time and place for that so I don’t jump into this sort of stuff at night or especially when triggered like this cause it’s kinda like a rusty valve, once it’s open it’s hard to close it. So I’m mature and carful when to navigate and explore this stuff. I at one point had what many might classify as PTSD but I’ve been able to handle the symptoms on my own for years now and overall am doing great. Some stuff in my relationship or work will sometimes trigger it and I’ll have problems sleeping at night cause I’ll be stuck in a sort of mild episode that just makes my body very uncomfortable and emotional. I’m also staying up really late at night and it’s been challenging to get my sleep schedule to more usual hours of rest. I'm looking for tips on how to handle such a situation when it’s occurring and anyone who has faced this before as well and what has worked for you. Overall I’m super grateful to be where I am though because it was so much worse years ago. I overcame facing when it was chronic and severe and now it’s just moderate to mild sporadically (2-4 times a month, maybe a bit more sometimes), usually on days I was stressed by something or during nights I have something important to do the next day. Thanks !

All therapy modalities, even basic talk therapy, can be healing in a way as long as the practitioner has integrity and there is a sense of trust, connection and safety. From there you can build on this or take away. I like that there are lots of different modalities. I think a mix of cognitive/thought based, body based and spirituality is for me. Holistic sort of approach. Sometimes I benefit from something more in one area than another. Right now I greatly benefit from practical relationship advice.

Bruh, not dick game, pull out game. And that game begins on hardcore mode when you are super in love. You’re going to nut in her precisely because you have amazing dick game. It can be insanely hard to pull out when you’re super hard and having extremely passionate sex and she’s riding your cock, cumming multiple times, crying tears of joy and sexual ecstasy is reached. Everyone that OD’d on heroin was telling themselves the same shit when they started. You can be clever and time it with her ovulation like you said though. Girls that have that period tracking app get a thumbs up from me. I personally am wary of pull out with a partner not on the pill cause the sex I have is like heroin. I could OD on it and not just be daddy in bed anymore if I’m not careful. Glad my girl is on the pill though. It’s entirely her choice and not my place to tell her what to do with her body.

Because most gurus and yogis are uneducated, ignorant people who have just spent all their time meditating and not contemplating from a larger more embodied perspective about material issues facing society. Scientists and the educated are for that, not yogis.

People are just tired of this. Either take the vaccine or don’t but shut the f up. We are in war times so to speak, but it isn’t between countries but a virus. Wishy washy democratic measures for all sorts of various takes on an issue are not prioritized during war time. You don’t have time to discuss this stuff and unite the conflicting parts when a unified enemy is at your gates. I hope they start forcing this more on people who are healthy to take it.

I think Bitcoin (specifically) lacking political institutions and government support is going to keep it from advancing to some sort of new gold reserve. The invisible hand of the free market works in mysterious ways but I don’t think it will be Bitcoin. Just too many issues with it, lots covered in the op, for it to transition to that. There is also basically zero infrastructure for using it like a regular currency. It’s too volatile. As for the technology of crypto emerging in some form and changing economics and economies, sure. Bitcoin I think will be like one of those early computers that didn’t take off. What it has going for it is the brand name of it though but stuff like that can switch overnight. Hopefully something better gets adopted.

I’m looking for accountability and support partners for motivating each other to make a career shift.

I’m not into older women than me. Slept with a 24 yo when I was 21. Lied and said I was 25 lol. This was several years ago. I’m 30 now. Not knocking anyone. Women of all ages are beautiful. Prefer a younger partner though. Want to leave her a big pile of cash when I die lol.

Break ups are painful but always lead to growth. The relationship will eventually end in the highest sense that one partner will physically pass on before the other if both are so lucky to have a marriage last this long. That can be very painful to acknowledge but also lots of wisdom and love to be found there. Lots of gratitude and acceptance to be found in recognizing and resting with this. Relationships can really help a person accept they are aging and life is changing. Lots of beauty and joy to be found here and I’m glad people get the opportunity to grow through relationships.

I think MDMA is better than most psychedelics for growth. I've seen tons of people have huge mushroom or dmt trips and not really make much progress but mdma made them rethink how kind they are to their family and friends.

why not both? I think bdsm when practiced in a healthy way is expressing anger in a healthy way. It's not really my cup of tea though. Too "culty" and weird for me like some sort of star trek fandom. I think some light bondage stuff, consensual rapey themed role play and a toy whip from a sex shop doesn't really count as bdsm since it's so common today. bdsm is kinda underground. I think you kinda have to connect all the sort of emotions that arise (anger being one of them) when feeling that strong passion and then connect a path for them to the heart. This also pulls me out of my head in the process. I've found myself having this surge of passion during sex that feels similar to anger, has some shades of it so to speak, but it connects to my heart area and love is guiding it and sort of using it as fuel to further love deeper and rejuvenate the passion. Really rough, life changing passionate sex happens during this process. It ended in tears with both of us professing our love and trust for each other just recently. Anger isn't a problem so to speak when it arrises. It just depends how it's used during the sexual process. I do think it's possible for abuse and very dysfunctional sexual habits to take place under a bdsm / femdom guise however.

Don’t take what they say seriously. Like another poster said this is the woman equivalent to red pill / pick up. Every thread about dating is a dumpster fire on that site.

dude you’re asking creepy personal questions, take a hint

I have a friend who does femdom. She’s pretty good looking. I kind of resent her though for this. Her weirdo boyfriend broke her heart so she’s going through a “I hate men” phase and transitioned from general onlyfans nudes to femdom. It attracts some really sad men and some really unhealthy women. It’s not healthy. As for fapping, dude I literally came like 4 times with my gf over the weekend 1 sat 3 sun and then fapped twice on Monday on my own. My sex drive is insanely high especially since I’ve gotten active at the gym again and am super in love. Cultivate passion energy. If your passion for life is super high your sex drive will usually be super high, although I think you then have to learn to transmute all this passion so you aren’t just fucking for several hours a day.

Agreed, control and blame will lead to a literal never ending back and forth that just gets uglier and uglier till it burns out bitterly and leaves both people traumatized. “Nonviolent Communication By Marshall Rosenberg” is a must read for avoiding this or coming back from a back and forth like this. It literally saved my relationship! It’s a short book too. Must read for anyone here in a relationship or just getting into a relationship.

Have any women here experienced hair loss? What were the causes and what cured it? My girlfriend is having issues. She is seeing a doctor and they think it is hormonal and related to her birth control. anyone have any advice in such a situation?

Like 90% of this thread is you just whining about your shitty roommates. I'm not entirely against the whole notion of white woman feminism being myopic in modern times given all the other issues of discrimination going on but your thread barely examines this in any sort of intelligent way.

Settle down when it feels right for yourself and feel it's worthy to commit to. When you feel like you have worked through enough psychological stuff, when your T levels have dipped some with age maybe, when you have worked through painful/dysfunctional beliefs, explored your desires fully, etc. There may even come some sacrifice and compromise still when it comes to settling down cause a couple of these may not have had a book end to them. No one here can tell you when the right time is for you. Just shed some light on the various factors needed for settling down and prioritizing / deepening relationship love.

Hello, thank you for this advice. So I have an update and am looking for some further advice. She had her thyroid checked by an endocrinologist and it's perfectly healthy, that doctor recommended she see a therapist and a psychiatrist. She can be an incredibly stressed woman at times and has her own psychological/trauma stuff she is just beginning to work on. She says she feels stressed a lot. She will get triggered and become very upset so I know she could use some healing here. So the factors at play here I see are her overall mental health and her current ability to handle/release the stress of life, triggers, and traumatic reactions. Secondly her birth control pill could play a role IE the psychological swings as added stress to her life or maybe some hormonal imbalance from the pill could be playing a role, not entirely sure. We haven't totally ruled out the pill as the primary cause or a contributing factor cause however I do think stress is play a role, pill could be adding or intertwining with that. She has seen another doctor that has switched her birth control pill and is still in contact with her for support with this factor. The last pill she was on she would experience some pretty strong mood swings and when this pill was changed recently to a new one it got so bad that she had to go to the doctor to have them switch her again to another one. I'm hoping this new one is more gentle and is the right one for her. Thirdly, general lifestyle improvement like less partying, better sleep and not skipping regular healthy meals (she does this sometimes) will aid her during this. It hurts her tummy and makes her stressed when she skips meals. She has a decent diet but does miss meals sometimes and she takes all the usual supplements so I think nutritional deficiency can be either ruled out or considered not a top primary cause/contributor but of course it can be improved with her not missing meals. Fourthly, COVID and the vaccine I think could have also played a BIGGGG role here. She had covid in 2020 and then she got the vaccine. I don't know the entire history of events but she says her hair loss coincides with the vaccine several months prior, her dermatologist also asked about this as well if she had COVID or had the vaccine. This started a few months after she got the vaccine. I can't remember if she went through a faze before this after COVID but I will ask her. I wonder if the vaccine as a main stress put her into a sort of shedding cycle. I'm hoping it slows down soon so she can get her hair back as thick as it used to be. She has beautiful hair so it hurts to see it thinning. I know it's painful for her cause this is a slow process and it can take several months for something like this to stop and then the new hairs to grow in again Any other follow up advice with more info on her situation?

I’m with you here. Both of those companies are cutting edge for sure and creating some very interesting things. There are these really weird Elon Musk videos on YouTube though with him talking about space where they have been cut and chopped over music from some science fiction movie. This channel has a ton of them. He does benefit from a lot of stage orange bros simping for him and sharing motivational videos of him. It’s weird. The read I get on the guy is that he is incredibly savvy and has world class entrepreneurial, business management and marketing skills. I think he was a very skilled programmer at one time as well. His personality is kinda the equivalent to one of those toxic/selfish Wall Street finance bros but he was clever enough to position himself in some Silicon Valley future techn industry. He’s kind of modern society’s version of an emperor. Whereas we are thanking him for making some luxury electric cars no one can afford and validating capitalism, the romans were thanking Caesar for killing the barbarians and taxing them into submission.

I’m not jealous of Elon Musk. I do think he’s a dumb person’s idea of a smart person though. He’s a world class one of a kind business man and bullshitter that cultivated a cult of personality and legitimately moved the electric car industry forward. He has also managed to manipulate the stock market like crazy. The guy has shit values though and I can see through what is a good bit of facade and his goofy cult. Planet would be better off if some advanced spiritual leader or humanitarian had this level of influence and eyes on them but it’s whatever so I’m not so bothered or unsurprised.

Basically I am not very passionate about my work (exam preparatory work). I don’t put in the most outstanding and attentive effort I could. I find the work boring and not very rewarding. I’m somewhat lazy with it. I don’t do a horrible job, I’m doing okay. Some clients I put in more effort because they are willing to work harder. I feel I am being lazy though and cutting corners at times and it makes me feel like a cheat. It pays alright and provides me some freedom however and I currently don’t have an opportunity to switch to something I’m passionate about (working on it though). Still, I feel a bit bad that I’m not giving it 100% and feel a bit like a cheat, but I’m also emotionally drained nor motivated to do a better job. I think the root solution is to transition to a new career. In the mean time I think pushing myself to do a better job while I transition will make me feel better than having tiny holes poked in my integrity. Anyone here ever have passionless work that made them feel lazy and a bit guilty?

How many days or weeks? hmm. I would say it usually moves pretty fast for me like this but there have been some exceptions. Usually it’s like a week after or a few days. Once we start texting I usually meet the girls that are interested a week or two after max. It’s rare but sometimes the numbers you get from tinder will be good a few months later if you text them out of the blue. It’s rare though. Just keep moving things forward with the girls you want to meet, you’re overthinking things a bit here.