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We have been spending a lot of time together so I have been focusing more now on recharging this masculine energy in myself. I'm going to start prioritizing this more. Thanks! Yeah I see what you are saying. I've found more balance within myself since this and have released a lot. I think I've learned a lot from this and will prioritize more having this self care and balance within me. Yeah, I did own it and I think I expanded her mind and her views as well. She was really receptive and is now being very sweet and feminine after our talk. I did just this actually after this event and the next morning We had extremely passionate make up sex. I see how important that is. Overall I think I handled it well and I think she came back to it this way in our second conversation because she was still processing the experience and some of the fear she felt from it was still there. I'm going to start prioritizing more making sure she feels emotionally safe with me. I agree with you. I'm not going to try and "change" myself to fit her traumas but rather display and communicate what I know is healthy and a true masculine way of being emotional. I think I handled it well. I think it just needed more handling which I did a great job at as well. I think going forward I can prioritize making her feel more emotionally safe when emotional stuff like this happens between us. That's the one thing I think I could improve on so to speak. It's fine to be emotional and vulnerable but I can also still hold space at the same time for my masculine and make her feel more protected when we go through these situations.

I see your point more broadly now. I just got dismissive cause PUA is very reductionistic and basically everything most PUAs teach is super surface level, they have actually very little experience besides maybe getting a number or having sex with a girl after a date or two. God knows most of them can't keep a chick around after a few fucks to save their life cause they haven't gone deep enough. Most are far from being anywhere close to a true Casanova. I wouldn't really consider David Deida a PUA or even put him on their level. So I just got dismissive when this word was brought up but I see what you are broadly saying now. I think there may be some elements of a "shit test" (stupid term) in this situation, maybe, but either way if there was I passed it with flying colors after the conversation I just had with her also good point on intimacy, I think relationships are largely about the separation and the oneness and the dance between being away from this intimacy, the barriers that arise, and then breaking through them to come back to it again, growing each time.

No, but they do have various strengths that serve them in ways socially that men have to put more effort into developing. In a way men have strengths that benefit them in different ways that women also have to put more effort into cultivating.

Thanks! Very wise words. The thing about my girlfriend is that she is actually very inquisitive and working on growing herself. Our relationship is extremely healing for the both of us. I've touched her deeply and even though we have been through a ton I always find the words to and a way to be strong and lead us to another level. I would say my girlfriend is actually quite supportive and is learning how to support positive behaviors in men (I'm teaching her and she deeply trusts me). Just what happened this weekend was the most powerful experience we both have been through to date and in her words the most powerful release she has felt in years so she is still processing it and actually gave me an incredibly sweet comment about how I've helped her more through this relationship than anyone she's been with. We just got done talking about it and have found some great understanding between us so I look forward to what life throws at us next now and what new layer is uncovered

It's a real possibility my body could be crushed by a car tomorrow as well

I wasn't being reactive. you don't know the whole situation. I was venting here cause a forum like this is a good place to sort of "let it out." you mentioned PUA so it was just automatically a red flag. not a single thing any PUA I know besides maybe James Marshall or David Deida touches on anything I've dealt with here given the context, so I got dismissive of your post because of this.

thanks, we actually just had a really deep conversation about it and reached a new level in our relationship. she explained a lot of it and what beliefs and experiences she had behind it. she told me I've helped her a tremendous amount and when we talk we work through these things even though they are painful. I guess I made this thread cause I was wanting to vent some. I'm glad I'm finding some resolution with her

I talked to her about it some and we are reaching a resolution. She opened a ton up about it after we talked some and said it's linked to her views formed from childhood about how her parents treated crying and the display of emotions. wrap in what society teaches about it as well. she's actually quite aware and willing to explore this stuff in conversation with me. we will work through this and learn from it. what I'm working through here is beyond anything a PUA can teach you or even what most PUAs can understand or have experienced in their dating lives. I've gone far beyond anything 99% of PUAs on YouTube are teaching or have experienced when it comes to women, attraction and relationships.

I feel fully justified for crying in this situation. It was a totally valid situation. She got emotional and started crying once cause tickets for a dj she wanted to see sold out. To me that is erratic. I'm not like that at all. Both partners crying about the potential end and limitations in a deeply passionate and loving relationship is very justified. I feel very grounded and strong in myself and in life. I don't see crying as a sign of weakness when it is in a justifiably emotional situation that I was in with her this night. I think she is still processing what happened but also she has a all sorts of unhealthy beliefs about masculinity.

All sorts of ways to get somewhat good at it. A lot of guys focus on very surface level stuff to get good when their root problems are keeping them from truly being an amazing lover, "seducer" and boyfriend. I would say one of the single best things you can do to improve your game is get into a deep relationship with a woman you are deeply (mentally and physically) attracted to and reach the point where you both have expressed in words how deeply you love each other. You have to love them so much it hurts. From this point things can get very ugly and painful, fights and painful words will be exchanged, but a ton of shit is going to surface, like you're in a deep psychedelic trip. This will surface all sorts of emotional traumas, negative beliefs, sexual shames, childhood issues, etc. You basically have to enter a relationship like this from a place of wanting to grow and be as conscious as possible and wanting to learn how to love. This then dovetails with becoming an incredible lover in bed. This is equally as important and is part of this experience I'm describing. When you are growing sexually with a woman, and working through all the shit that is keeping your true masculine energy from shining through you are then making real progress. Release the passion and the sex will be healing the both of you. You will find this experience has an incredibly deep and long lasting effect on your overall attraction and ability to find future lovers and get sex. That is if you are willing to integrate, understand and learn from the experience, just like a psychedelic trip. Also, you should be focusing on yourself and your life purpose and other passions and building your dream life. It's next level shit.

I'm getting a decent amount of matches with attractive women but I am still improving at messaging / flirting on tinder. A lot of my matches don't respond or the conversation only goes back and forth a few times. I realize a simple "hello/hey" wont work most times. You have to be edgy, clever and perhaps a little sexual while subtle about it when starting a conversation. What are some tips for writing matches to both a) stand out and be polarizing / edgy (in a good way) / interesting / flirty b) not in a try hard or overly obvious sexual way. I will post pics of my matches/conversations and maybe you guys can help me brainstorm on conversation starters or how to improve.

So I'm looking to set up a daily check list for my diet consisting of a healthy and recommended amount of Calories Protein Carbs Fats Sodium Vitamins & minerals (any ideas?) Fiber What else should I add to the list? How can I figure out recommended amounts for each category? I need to take into account my weight lifting. I'm a man in his 20s.

I actually intentionally and silently left the forum a week ago with no plans to return, but just heard on another channel about this. My main concern (and this started after some reflecting) was the Connor stuff recently and how I feel your videos and this community may have played a role. I see a lot of mentally and emotionally unwell people on your forum getting advice to do psychedelics and in general just taking on stuff that is way over their heads from where they are at. I just don’t think you have a degree of wisdom or embodiment or life experience that is needed to be a spiritual teacher yet or run a community of this size. You helped me a ton when I was younger with getting out of a victim mindset and taking action but as I caught up and got into psychedelics myself I found myself diverging with you more and more in many areas especially contradictory in experience as well. You’ll always have a special place in my heart Leo and you are a great dude and someone I still very much admire but I don’t feel I wanna continue following your project. I hope this recent event leads to an evolution of your work and this forum in some way that is more healthily and functional than how it is now.

If anyone hasn't seen the first season, watch it. This show is SUPER WOKE and I was not expecting that when I watched it. People on this forum will appreciate what it has to offer.

WARNING: ANIMAL DEATH IN VIDEO I'm feeling very angry after seeing this video. I understand that the way this guy kills these animals is much more conscious over factory farms. I'm wondering though does society have to rely on animal meat to survive especially as it gets more developed? I can understand why it is done in developing countries but it seems like it's more a luxury and habit now for most people in first world countries so to speak. I also understand that if it was banned tons of people would then be out of jobs so it's more complex than just saying don't eat meat. SO the question is does killing and eating animals have a place in conscious society or is it more so a feature of a less conscious scarcity based society ?

The experience of thoughts for my lower self is such that it is very quiet and like a radio turned wayyyyyyy down but still mostly playing in the background. Sometimes the radio is off and I’m just engrossed and merged with the moment, there is space and things are just flowing with just the slightest feeling of separation which is just floating in the background and tends to mostly be concerned with not crashing the car while driving or tripping while walking. Honestly I don’t really pay too much attention to my thoughts or if I find the radio gets loud I let it go and it turns down on it’s own. I get all the usual human thoughts, some negative, some positive, some worrying, some strange, etc. I am not really in conflict with them so if I think something that would be offensive as fuck to say out loud I don’t really feel any resistance to it. If I’m overcome by a powerful painful emotion my mind tends to become very nurturing and calming with thoughts “you are safe, you are loved. It’s okay, I’m here, have faith, etc” I cultivated this.

I’ve come out of this before. I didn’t solve it with contemplation or thinking but letting go. Joy and a sense of well-being is just the natural state if you are able to let go. You don’t have to really do anything for it per say. It’s consciousness’ natural state and by extension the body’s as well. From there you return to the natural state of joy and b/c you feel good you create what is meaningful to you. For me that has been an increase in travel now that I’m vaccinated. Try to let go of trying to figure it all out or understand it or make it personal. Even let go of what comes after like some feeling of resistance to the present moment like it’s boring. The answer and well being you seek lies outside some logical understanding or trying to think your way to it. Subsequently I’ve found the answers to existence lie outside thinking and model making as well.

Well said ?

I like following that little tickle I call it. Sometimes I feel very creative while other times not so much. Not the biggest fan of forcing it but there are things we can do to nurture it.

All things self love. YouTube has a ton of content. Also look up John Bradshaw books, inner child healing and Matt Kahn. All for Love!

Women live longer than men because men are drinking more, smoking more, fighting more, doing drugs more, and taking far more material risks than women in just about every way from physical work, driving and sports. All that stuff adds up over time. If blood letting reduces these formers then maybe we can see a connection but somehow I don't think it relatively works like that.

lol I can tell you're angry and just venting but you aren't done with women. If you were you wouldn't give a fuck and be writing this. I was reflecting on all my success and failures with women the other day and I realized that in the past I had way over invested in girls and was in an emotional place where flakes and stuff would destroy my mood. This was like a deep embodiment and realization that flakey/uninterested girls really isn't something that bothers me so much these days. You're doing day game which tbh is kinda overhyped and a waste of time imo. It really depends where you are located but there are plenty of hacks around and alternatives to day game which are way better and will lead to more attractive women imo.

No, I don't agree. It depends where I am. I've been in some countries and cities where it seems like almost every woman I pass (in my age range, 20s) is quite attractive. I have pretty high beauty standards too. Some places I've been this is less so the case. I agree, like I said sexual value is a thing, but it's more comparable to collectables or antiques than gold/money. Some antiques are seen as ugly and obscure to some and are a really hard sell, then someone comes along and a buyer is found. Other antiques are in high demand across the board. I don't think money is comparable quantifier for this like I've said above.

Are there? Doesn’t look that way to me when I’m walking around the street and see all sorts of couples. I mean sure there are guys that have higher sexual value and ones with lower but it looks more like a bell curve than how drastic incels online make it. Seems like the lower ones marry women on the low end kinda like how rich people tend to marry rich people and poor people tend to marry poor people. The whole alpha/beta thing is dumb though. It’s a social theory that was applied by some scientist to wolves and turned out to be totally off. Humans do not have set roles and are more so limited by their socioeconomic status/role, emotional health amongst other things. it’s all about raising your sexual value as a man if you want to raise your chances with women instead of having to settle. This is done through a lot of ways. This binary is too reductionist for me.

I don’t like the word save. It’s more so the universe is quite chaotic and brutal with various wills being exercised and humanity is sort of tasked with figuring it out for themselves with their own survival, joy and subsequent awakening.