Lyubov

I would talk to a therapist. I think you are a fine person but it will help a lot and make you feel more comfortable around people. What it sounds to me is like that somewhere in your life you were hurt by people and you formed all sorts of beliefs to keep yourself safe and now you feel resistance, anger and pain when you are pressed to get close and intimate. Totally normal reaction. Talking about it will make you feel more comfortable and passionate to get closer to people and you will find yourself having less defensive thoughts your life will improve and you will soon be writing how much you enjoy getting close to women (or men)

This is actually a great idea and really satisfying too.

Oh yeah I understand you, I think they are violent cause they have to do with punching, kicking and harnessing anger/passion in class to do well at then but they are not the kind of violence you are talking about which is destructive and non consensual .

I think It should be expressed physically in a healthy way. I’m thinking martial arts for mastering this energy and physical exercise/sports like wrestling, boxing, weight lifting, etc are the best bet. I want to join a gym for this and consciously harness it and transform it through physical activity. Im looking right now at kick boxing and martial arts.

I rarely even interact with such people. Usually they are out of my life if I come across something I don’t like.

Hey man, I think I’ve found a way. I’m talking to a therapist again via zoom so that has actually helped a ton. I’ve realized some hardships I’m proud to have overcome in other domains of life still have kinda seeped into this domain. So I’m kinda working through the same old stuff but from a different perspective this time. Feeling like a failure but instead of it having to do with being bullied in school or family issues it is now about career and money. Since I’ve already greatly overcome the forever I feel hopeful I’ll change my relationship with money, creativity and career stuff and feel motivated to make the switch soon. Basically I’m going to write down everything that interests me, both practical jobs and impractical dreams. I have practical ideas which I think would be cool but I feel sorta shoehorned and not as inspired by these roles. My less practical stuff are what dreams are made of for me (online content creator) but this is where the fear of failure comes in. So I sorta have two general camps, stuff I sorta see a road towards and can practically transition to and stuff that is more abstract and wishful thinking. From there I’m going to make a list of skills and action steps that would potential be required to start materializing this stuff. From there I will narrow it down and choose one of each. Choose the practical switch to focus on and then the more wishful dream to focus on as well. Then do that. I will prioritize one I’ve the other and then focus on the second when I’m tired of focusing on the first. Ive noticed people can really only focus on one thing at a time and then focus on a second thing when they need a break from the first. So from here I’m in the stages of just narrowing down what I’m interested in, contemplating action steps, working with what emotions come up and then doing it all!

I feel so resentful right now. I feel tricked. I feel like I was tricked to fall in love. And there are some things I just fucking hate so much about this woman. I resent them and hate them and I don’t care. I want them to know that and I want them to hurt. I will literally throw out all logic and rationality and fairness and integrity just to tell them how much I fucking resent and hate them and think they are fucking scum. I hate them so much. But then I love them so much, more than any girl I have before. I am not even going to try and figure it out. Just tired of thinking. Feeling now. Sitting with it and letting go of control. I fucking resent them so much and even if the path they were on was totally separate from me and maybe soon our paths will diverge, I fucking hate them and want revenge for them tricking me into falling in love with them. I detest this person for what they have made me feel and what they have put me through and I want them to hurt even more than me as revenge. Fuck them so hard, piece of shit. Just letting my inner child vent here. Kinda scary to let these feelings have space and talk but I think it’s healthy and keeps from some super angry fight where I’ll say things I will regret. Feels good to be petty in writing and just write from really raw places of anger and pain. I think it’s good to let out these raw feelings in writing.

Well, we are living in some of the most peaceful times ever. WWII was a huge lynch pin for the world realizing that war has got to be phased out from conflict resolution. And since then it has gone down. I'm not saying humanity is free from it but I would say it comes from learning communication skills and alternatives to violence where everyone's needs are met. We have to simultaneously build a world where everyone's needs are met as well as have the institutions that facilitate proper communication between conflicting sides. We are making progress slowly in all areas here regardless of what the news has told you. We are living in some of the most least violent times.

It's tricky cause the paradigm of being "good enough" is just setting one up for later failure. You'll always find yourself on the scale you've used towards others to judge their value. My sort of approach to game is much more inner/body based so for me I've largely resolved this conundrum by changing the channel and creating my own paradigm that works for me. I don't supplicate and when I game it isn't about impressing or being different to win their approval but rather do it as a game or an act of giving, fulfilling their needs. It's kinda hard to put into words for me but I'm sorta comfortable with these paradoxes and I just don't overthink them, rather appreciate and have fun with them. It's all about being in the present moment for me and just moving sexual/penetrative energy outward of my body when I game. I would fill your mind with stuff that gets your mind off of this. More body based approaches when you're around women and then just go from there and make your desires clear to them. Overthinking stuff like this won't resolve it. Exposure to experience and getting the results you want will.

Hasan is entertaining but he is kinda the left wing zoomer equivalent of Rush Limbaugh

Some of y'all need to stop simping so hard for Leo. Yes it's his site but it's a bit embarrassing. It's simple... if you not black you don't say n*****, especially if you from the USA. Maybe when some stuff changes in the future things wont be so PC and ridiculous. But as of now, that is not where we at. It's common curtesy.

They don't necessarily. You've made assumptions and are presuming a lot. When it comes to social skills, people act very different and it's due to a wide range of factors why they act the way they do.

OP is allowed to feel angry about it. The video was made 6 years ago though so times have even changed a bit since then. Things are super PC now. Even using it in a classroom setting is too touchy and inappropriate these days. Maybe when race stuff calms down and is resolved things won’t be as touchy as it is now but who knows?

I kinda cringe laughed myself ?

The Colossus of Rhodes was also a very interesting and ancient wonder if the world for it's time. Pretty incredible they could build something like that so long ago with what would not be considered incredibly primitive.

Has this episode come out? I’m in Russia and I’ve probably encountered more scamming here than ever before. It’s almost worked into everyday culture. A dentist literally made up a lie I had cavities so he could drill in my mouth and get some cash. Went to a friend dentist and they told me my mouth had zero cavities. Private clinics will literally run bullshit tests and scare patients into getting treatment they don’t need. It’s insane. At best you lose some cash to some benign treatment, at worst they ruin your perfectly healthy teeth for some cash. Fuck them honestly.

just went through a breakup? very, very painful stuff. sorry.

yep, gotten great results (sex, relationship) on tinder and instagram, and once on badoo as well. Never on Bumble or any of the others.

He was like my first taste of spirituality in a way like 9 years ago. Love and miss him already!

In a way. I would say it more-so has a greater design baked into it where these hardships lead to greater wisdom. We can make society so conscious that conflict won't have to be solved through violence. Humans largely learn through mistakes and trial and error however. So war leads to a lot of pain and misfortune but from that wisdom then comes. Thus the same mistake isn't made again.

yes, the body has needs. food, water, shelter, care and sex. fulfill them all in healthy ways!

I’ve started to work through why I am resistant to financial change, working towards a different career, etc. I feel kinda good about it because I made some breakthroughs and gained some insights. I’ve realized that all the past painful stuff, “trauma” if you will, all that stuff can kinda hide in different domains of life. It’s been largely cleared up in relationships, general self image, etc but it still sorta floats around in creativity and my finances. So I felt hopeful because since I’ve resolved it before it’s just a different flavor of resolving it this time around. I sometimes feel I need either to do something really practical with my career switch, with which I then feel afraid of being boxed in. Or I want to chase my passions which then I’m afraid of failing at it and never making it. There are some other threads to it as well that I’m unraveling. I just started this process to unravel the inner stuff as to why I feel a lot of disorientation and inner conflict over career/life purpose/money but I feel hopeful because I’ve done it before in other areas of life. I’m open to this process taking some time but also open to it resolving quickly so I can focus on building and improving my finances with whatever paths I may take

I’m not one of those “eat the rich” types, but I think a more advanced society will just make being some super billionaire not possible. Society will sort of remove this power structure with the billionaire at the top, or greatly curb it. I just wonder what this redistribution will look like. Will we just have stronger governments or will it be sorta spread throughout the economy where everyone has a pretty decent standard of living, guaranteed basic income, etc? What would happen to luxury goods and all the stuff people are competing to own? I feel like it’s unrealistic to just expect people to move beyond competing and falling for supply and demand. We can greatly diminish and even eradicate poverty, health care disparities, food shortages, etc but there will always be some stuff in limited supply to go around like that luxurious LA mansion and private jet.

this dude looks like some league of legends bullshit

The point he's trying to make is that there is fertile ground for this to occur in India. The 2002 Gujarat riots for instance could be seen as this happening on a small scale. I don't see some huge state institution carrying out a genocide but I don't think it's totally out of the question to see something akin to what has happened in Myanmar happen in parts of India.