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I don't play dumb games like this. If you're trying to develop some sort of fun natural way of teasing her and having fun/charm it might work to show you how far is too far but I think there are other ways. Just look her deep in the eyes, breathe deep and visualize you having confident dick game and giving her multiple orgasms. That right there can change your vibe. You want a low key sexual vibe. It doesn't have to be through silly games like this. You're betting against the house when you adopt heavy tactical approaches. Just focus on developing and on your capacity to be in and relaxed in great states when interacting with women. It takes time to make these inner changes but it brings about the best long term results.

To be honest this discussion can kinda go both ways, either into useless JP mind garbage or touch on some wisdom. I'd say I sort of see it similar to this way. It's recognizing the sort of capacity or faculty of being cruel and not judging it and seeing it as a part of human psychology and behavior. Expressing it in healthy ways, usually it is attached to anger and other uncomfortable emotions. The video is kinda distracting though and probably would appeal to everyone that liked that Joe Rogan post in the other thread.

Make sure to be discreet. Also, look really good. Make sure to keep on top of the barber and dressing well. Dunno if this will actually translate to anything for you besides a paycheck.

He has some great qualities to him. He's a great example of discipline. I've found there are traps being stuck for too long in this mindset. There is a flow and unfolding and acceptance state that I think is equally important. I'm in the process of marrying this state and the discipline state. I think both are very important to have.

The same people nodding and going "yes" to a post like this are watching those weird cult of personality motivational Elon Musk videos on youtube where it's like a mashed together monstrosity of various clips and exciting music with flash transitions.

Agreed. The older generations back in the day committed genocide and literally almost nuked the world to charcoal. Orange and blue love to shit on green. Green is fun to make fun of but if we are actually looking at who is actually trying to set up a world based on the well-being of everyone it’s green.

Oh, that’s a tricky one. I can imagine that being painful. I would imagine a genuine apology would be in order if they forgot. Sounds like they acted kinda aloof after this happened though. I’d feel confused and hurt too. Are you sort of holding onto this friendship out of decorum? Or did you care about this person a lot and consider them a relevant friend? If it was someone close to me I’d bring it up to them and discuss it. If it was someone kinda distant and just a sort of party friend I’d let it go and either go or not depending on how hurt I felt by it.

I get it. You feel awful and angry about it. It's fine to vent and I hear your anger and how shitty such a situation is. You still deserve respect though regardless of this problem. You don't need to go around calling yourself a loser. At least be gentle with yourself and give yourself the love and respect you deserve while you take the actions to find or create some fulfillment for this issue.

Nothing wrong with being a virgin. You don't deserve to be hated on for it or made fun of it in any way. When you feel ready and the opportunity arrises have some sex. You do you. Some people may judge you for it but fuck them. Some people may not feel it and not want to sleep with you because of it. That is their right but also know there is plenty of opportunity to still lose it. You can still always find and work towards having sex. Your v-card is not a problem. The stuff limiting you and making you feel bad is.

Doesn't have to be just for online dating like tinder. Having it on your Instagram as well helps a lot. I would make sure all your clothes looks good and fits well on you. Also make sure you just went to the barber in all your photos. Motorcycle photo is always good. I think you have a ton of ideas here. If it's a good photo, it's a good photo.

A lot of those goofy PUAs don't know shit about maintaining a relationship much less been able to keep one around for longer than a couple months. Yes, you can talk about your problems with your girlfriend. It just depends on the quality of the conversation, how you go about doing it and how you are able to handle the ruptures/repairs when they occur. Lead her and guide her to appreciating this more conscious fork of masculinity. My girl was sort of confused by this and she is now very accepting of it. If you are a man of integrity and she is a cool girl she will be open minded. She isn't your therapist so try to avoid all sorts of heavy dumping and expecting her to solve it for you. Get a feel for when it's appropriate to share. You are going to need to open up like this with your girl or else you will feel like a stranger. The relationship will be kinda shallow and pathetic then which is where such advice about being closed off will lead you.

I agree for the most part. I buy flowers and stuff for my girl but we have been together a while and are super close. Wasn’t a thing at the start. The thing is though I’ve noticed in some cultures a guy is expected to sort of win over a girl early on with flowers and fancy dates. It’s kinda dated but still a bit of a thing and valued in some places.

I mean I do agree it gets much better the more you fall in love. I don’t like the feeling of waiting long though for the first time. I don’t have time for that lol. I’d rather get started on it right away and see how we vibe physically.

I'm sort of the opposite. I want to get into bed quickly before so I know we have a physical connection. Somewhere on the first to third date. Maybe it's a bit fast but it feels right for me. It also builds a ton of intimacy between us. I find the long drawn out approach never leads anywhere. Maybe I just don't fit into this approach idk?

I faced the same issue in the past after hooking up. From my experience I realized I was being too cold and closed off because I was scared of being needy. I learned from this mistake. If she likes you she will be down and be delighted to have your affection, especially after sleeping with you. Send her memes, have some fun chit chat, complain with her about her shitty boss, etc. Texting a lot is not necessarily neediness. How compliant and how much she invests along side you is important but you also have to take the initiative first to see how interested she is. What you probably have done is somewhere in the past shown interest and were rejected and then labeled this situation as something wrong with yourself or you having neediness. I can tell you now if you act too conservative after sex she will think you just wanted a fuck and it will not turn into a relationship.

it exists for sure but I wouldn't worry about it. if you respect yourself and nurture your ability to feel things out you will find chicks that won't run around your back like this. it's kinda like how low self esteem people end up with shitty friends that use them. you will spot the signs and know it before walking into a trap like this. Even then we learn through mistakes. Worrying about it won't help though. Stick your values, always screen and keep your self esteem high. You should do fine.

yes, text her the next day. you can even get her out the day after hooking up for some lunch. she will go if she likes you and doesn't have other plans. she may have even slept over the that night at your flat anyways if your flat wasn't awful so the next day you should spend with her. basically it's not too different and a lot of it is common sense. don't over think it. text her a decent amount and get an idea of what her schedule is like. if she has a decent amount of free time and likes you she will prioritize time with you. just be cool and fun and caring. I wouldn't go into it with mindset of absolutely making a specific girl to be your girlfriend after hooking up. you won't even know if you want her as your girlfriend until you've spent a good bit of time together over 2/3 weeks. just continue to see her often with no pressure if you like her a lot. after a few weeks of pure fun and enjoyment with you she will be wondering what you are and at that point take the lead and make it clear you want to be more exclusive. you can even get tested together at that point and start doing the deed without protection if that's your thing from there then you can tell her you want her as your girlfriend, introduce her as your girlfriend, etc. Introduce her to your friends early on. from my experience most girls aren't sleeping with multiple men at a time. some do this but from my experience most don't. so claim her as your own after these first few weeks of spending time together and enjoying each other. you will know if you want her as your gf or just wanna be fwb after 2-4 weeks. don't be scared to commit and find a gf. lots of guys missing out on the best sex just keeping a girl as a fwb until they get tired of his shitty dick game and move onto another guy.

Nah, you did everything right actually. You escalated which is also a form of screening. A lot of guys getting into pick up think it’s magic and you are in complete control and can get any woman depending how good you are. No. A big part of it is making your move and screening for those that are down in the first place and knowing when to fold it when you come across those playing games or uninterested.

You're over thinking it. Yes, this sometimes happens. If she wants some company and wants to just chat cause she's out alone that night for whatever reason. You can pick up on those vibes sometimes or sometimes you just have to find out. I think you did the right thing going with the flow and finding out if she was into you or not though.

My relationship is facing the exact same thing right now so I can relate. You aren’t alone. I made this very thread a few weeks back. It sounds like you have a distinct direction you want to go. I’m lucky to have a job where I can potentially relocate but I’m still not sure I want to do it. It’s hard man, going through the same thing

This is why these people are just as useless interacting with as right wing nutjobs. You can't build a consensus with such people or actually enact change. Democratic socialism is still very much baking in the oven. It has yet to materialize and no one knows what it will actually look like when it arrives in 20-60 years from now. The liberal's heart may be in the right place but they are as useful at getting the job done as a croissant used as a dildo.

The party is JUST popping off at 2 in cities that actually have good clubs Main DJ usually doesn’t go on until at least 1.

Interesting post, I like your thoughts on this especially the part about how the job acts as a container and it can help you develop your own.

It may be a bit unrelated to you but one blind spot of mine that I've sort of filled in recently is you have to let go of your models and beliefs about women. If you find yourself feeling angry at women because they have it easy, or slightly judgement or resentful even on a subtle level, explore those feelings. Put those emotion into writing and get clear on your beliefs about women and what is triggered when you get rejected. Women do pick up subtly on this. Beliefs like "the hotter she is the more crazy she is", "women are spoiled", etc. Let go of all your beliefs about women and approach each and every one with wisdom but also an intuitive curiosity that she is her own person and unique in her own way. Attune. Don't shoehorn her based on how hot she is or what you think women are like due to some pick up model that you saw in a youtube video. This can be very freeing and give you a level of presence around each woman that will greatly aid in your leadership, influence and fulfilling both your desires and helping her fulfill hers and share your love with her. And even if sometimes it feels like you do everything right, it may not go your way, and even sometimes when it feels like you did everything wrong, it may sometimes go your way still. Look at things from a large perspective and don't be afraid to make mistakes and address triggers when they arise with compassionate self reflection.

All those premium systems, exclusive programs and complete theories from pick up guys are played up way more than they are worth and used to grift desperate guys out of cash. They can create a lot of tunnel vision for guys and I've seen a plenty get stuck in the theory loop or even just stuck in one approach hopping from one program to the next making little progress. You can learn a thing or two from them for sure but I remember seeing some of them costing like $5000..... the fuck Real ones know that pick up theory is basically useless once you reach a level of consciousness, usually through trial and error, where you realize it's about the principles and values you embody and aligning yourself with authentic desire. The theory I oddly find most helpful now will be books on more broader topics on relationships, sex and love, and even then I'm very hesitant and flexible when applying such theory. It's about finding out what works through experience, reflection and flexibility, not trying to shoehorn your experience desperately trying to get it to fit some theory you overpaid for.