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Definitely not the perspective of all men. You basically just listed all YOUR own insecurities here Women will compare you to their exes no matter the number. This shouldn't sway you too much if you are confident in yourself. She will almost always be staying with you as well if she values you as a whole more than she does an ex of her's from her past. Women live and learn you know. If you have any question about this then there is something wrong with your current relationship at it's root that likely doesn't have to do with her past. Find loyal, honest women, build better relationships. Women are much more ruthless in their settling than what is appreciated on here. Guys here far overvalue the ticking biological clock high value/ low value BS that is said to play a role on female psychology. Most would long and far become crazy single cat ladies before settling with a loser guy or guy they think is lower than those they fucked. She's in a relationship with you precisely because she sees you as a high value guy. The bolded is probably the silliest part of your post. Especially today with the career focused path and being able to have a baby into the late 30s. Women have a lot of options today besides starting a family. I've dated a woman who was scarred after dating (LTR) a single guy and having slept with 5 total at the age of 24. Playboys don't scar women even though they wish they had this amount of sway/influence/impact on a woman they hooked up with for a few months. The scarring comes from dysfunctional LTR. I'm also far more suspicious of the envious partner that has less experience over the experienced partner that clearly knows what they want now out of a relationship. This list you made doesn't hold up at all. It's fine if this is the stuff going on in your mind finding out your girl has slept with more people than you but you are far away from speaking for all or even a sizable portion of men on this topic.

Having an imbalance in a relationship that stirs up some painful feelings is perfectly normal. Imbalances are an aspect of relationships that can sometimes cause some issues but can also be overcome if both sides wish to do so. For instance a financial imbalance is a good example. You don't see rich people marry middle class or poor people too often but it sometimes happens. When it comes to sex partners you can feel intimidated or even feel some envy if your partner is more experienced than you. You can even prioritize wanting to go and gain more experience and fulfill your desires with more partners over being in a relationship. That's fine too. Creating some sort of toxic world view that any woman who has had more sex than you is untouchable and any guy that is with her is a beta is pure insecurity and pathetic small dick energy stuff.

If you want a highly passionate romantic loving relationship with you feeling like a superior man that has a beautiful woman by his side then yes. It's a very important aspect. You're free to settle for letting it fizzle out and having a platonic life partner instead though if you so wish.

It's largely insecurity. Red pill is shit, stop listening to it. Some loser pick up coaches that have the word beta in their vocabulary will harp on about this because they are under developed and actually incredibly inexperienced with women. I would firstly watch your information intake. Tons of toxic ideologies and mindsets in this domain and it's presented as advice which is stored in your mind and transmitted out through your body making you insecure and weak. When such clowns find out the girl they like has been with other guys their feelings curdle like milk and they have an existential crisis. They think they were the ones with game when the game was playing them all along. Let me be clear, It's one thing to still want to fulfill your own sexual desires. To want to have lots of sexual experiences with various women, because women are awesome and beautiful. The feeling of sexual freedom in this domain as a man feels great. I feel this way sometimes as well, wanting freedom from my relationship to have sex with other women. It's perfectly normal. It feels good to be single or have the opportunity to experience different women and have various sexual partners. And it's also perfectly normal to have some envy or frustration when you can't do this because you are in a relationship. Sometimes your partner may have already fulfilled or explored these desires or aspect for herself. This may even bring up some envy in you and some anger that you can't do the same. That's all normal and the feelings that come about because of that are healthy. This can be handled through healthy forms of discussion and working on having a fulfilling sex life with your partner. You can also choose to be single again and pursue other women if you so please. You are free to choose and free to fulfill your desires in healthy ways. Her sexual past says nothing about who you are and if you think it does you are purely assigning that meaning to yourself. It's another thing to create some sort of toxic judgement based ideology because you are intimidated by a woman choosing to do whatever she so pleases with her body. All you need to be concerned with here is if you are having safe sex and the past doesn't affect present health, being honest with each other about your desires and what counts as infidelities, and being transparent with each other about your pasts with boundaries that are comfortable with both partners, and then you are free to choose to invest in this woman knowing the information you do about her. She is under no obligation to disclose everything about her sexual past to you. That can feel very judging and painful for her. She may have been assaulted or been in a dark pattern where she had sex due to a traumatic response. You are free to choose if you do / don't want to be with her based off what you do / don't know about her past but not in a way where you judge her for it, force her to disclose more information she isn't comfortable with, or make labels up for her and shame other guys that are happy to be with her. The guys who get all defensive and butt hurt about this couldn't hold down a healthy relationship to save their lives. Their dick game is awful too and far from great. You can't reach sex god statues holding onto this type of judgement AND at the same time fuse your passion and love energies together. It's not possible. Stop listening to this awful advice, start trusting your own guidance and focus on fulfilling your own desires in healthy ways.

Eastern Europe IMO has less dogma than the Bible Belt in the USA but more than Western Europe. Corruption and a lack of industry is a huge factor why it’s behind development compared to the west. Middle America would be a third world slum if it weren’t connected to the liberal east and west coasts.

I thought this shit blew over already. Borders haven’t closed yet. I think this is gonna be another delta thing where it will get a bit of coverage and stuff will stay the same.

Agreed OP, you probably are making mistakes very early on in your interactions with women and are still very much inexperienced and still have some inner work to do in this domain. You mention being ghosted or friend zoned which is something I've only seen/experienced this happen before a guy starts hooking up with a woman. You are not a thing before you have sex. Stop talking about giving love to any woman before you have had sex. It takes a couple months usually before a couple really falls in love. So I'm confused what you are talking about. You need to expand your consciousness and just expose yourself to much more experience and meet much more women. You sound very inexperienced. It's hard to really pinpoint what is going on here or in your post but it just reads like a cover up or a different way of framing that you aren't meeting women and you are getting turned down after a couple dates. You don't need to dress it up and make all sorts of conclusions and beliefs off this experience about love. Women and men fall in love like in some of the deepest tear jerking corny ways right out of a hollywood movie. It's possible and it happens and it is life changing. You just haven't experienced it yet.

Yes, a bit Sometimes I am bit tryhard with wanting to be right in a conversation.

Yes, this is a good take. He definitely can have sound judgements lobbed at him by normal folk that still stands up after criticism and inspection. I see that he has moved some industry forward and made some interesting contributions when it comes to automobiles but I'm not going to turn a blind eye to his dumb circle jerk cult and in general his unabashed and unremorseful exploitation of capitalist society. His ingenuity has moved aspects of society forward while simultaneously rewarding plenty of the toxic aspects as well.

could be a sensory thing. I used to put all sorts of stuff into my mouth and even now as an adult I feel a sight temptation to. I like fidget toys and certain sensory experiences that have to do with touching and playing with certain things. It feels good experiencing different things. Only real harm would be ingesting something poisonous.

I don’t think we will face a civil war in the sort of classical sense of states conducting military operations against each other. What could occur is severe corrosion and a sort of collapse of the system where various institutions are in just gridlock and the government stops working properly. It’s already done this. Imagine this on steroids.

I see you post in here often. I can imagine growing and developing yourself is much harder in a country like Iraq over a liberal democracy like Germany. I think your analysis could go deeper though. The society itself hasn’t fully embraced human sexuality so it’s sort of simplified through this barter system. A man should have enough to ensure the survival of himself and his wife with money. Since survival is hard there it’s still a lot of work just to ensure this so it makes sense why there aren’t deeper aspects of relationships and sex in Iraq yet.

Make outs mean less with girls you just met at the bar/club. You should have a very high close rate for girls you made out with on a date, etc.

Interesting how dems disagree more with him being named it over republicans. This is a solid orange pick this year. Also this isn’t necessarily a positive award for people who aren’t familiar with it. Hitler was named it once. It just is recognizing who has swayed society the most in a particular year. As a bit of an idealist myself I think Musk is not the best type of leadership for the development of humanity but it is what it is. Def had the most influence this year.

if you want your body to live long and healthy, you most definitely need money.

Never really happens like this with me. I do gain a lot of wisdom from my dreams though. Points me to stuff I'm holding onto or still hurts. Can also be a muse and fuel creativity.

yeah not a bad way of looking at it, agreed. years ago the best advice I got from a friend that was getting laid was "you're over thinking it."

had several of the same experience myself. pick up guys have to create all sorts of bullshit products and produce tons of useless content so they can stay relevant and have something they can sell/scam lonely desperate guys. the best coaches out there know that basically all pick up is is trying to get a guy to be his authentic, normal healthy self. from there fun and chill vibes come and attraction unfolds seamless and naturally.

probably uses his congregation to find concubines, ethically questionable for a spiritual teacher. like mooji. at least it seems like leo doesn't shit where he eats. that one time he made a post on his blog to try and find someone was funny though, but he quickly deleted it, so kudos.

There is nothing wrong with making some cash and living comfortably. You’re over valuing an image of Leo as your guru if you are bothered by him having some cash and having some fun in Vegas. Not everyone needs to fit some sort of mold to talk about some spiritual stuff. If you are bothered by that find other people to look up to. He says some silly and questionable advice sometimes and is immature on the forum sometimes but he’s far from some guy exploiting people for cash in the name of spirituality.

I’ll be calling on you if I ever need some advice on how to get over a painful breakup!

This is terrible. It’s a hard aspect of life. I’ve lost a few family members to cancer. Support her and give her space to make her choices. Let her know her fight will be helped by the support of friends and family. Send her love and prayers.

It’s not needy persay if you know how to do it right. A lot of behavior that requires effort and kinda shows it is over labeled as needy in pick up IMO. isolating is not needy if you are giving fun and leading vibes. It’s not necessarily needy when you claim your girl(s) and keep your territory also. It usually has to be done in high quality ways though through social skills and a gentleness, sometimes a bit firmly. A very low quality way would be getting angry and being aggressive. Obviously this is a turn off. A guy that displays confident body language though and can smoothly and firmly lead the vibe back to his leadership however isn’t seen as needy even though it does take some effort to do. Effortless effort in a way.

Slightly unrelated but three years ago when I was still doing day game I found a wing. We went out three times. I started opening sets and the greedy little shit would then sorta ride off of them. After I did the hard work of putting a bit of energy into starting a conversation he would sorta swoop in bypass having to do a bit of the initial needy stuff and take the number. He did it two or three times on the third day so I just stopped going out with him. Pussy parasite.

Does this work for you ? I never do this. I sort of just mirror how they are and really just play it cool. Like sort of slightly neutral chill texts with a friend. I won’t text a lot unless they show interest in that but even then I ain’t got time for that. I text a lot if they my gf / fwb though, spam memes.