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Nope, but it’s subjective. Open a tinder and change your location to the capitals of Poland, Hungary, Romania, Russia and Ukraine. Basically almost every woman looks good to great with plenty of immaculate mixed in as well.

I’m happy for you but sexy just doesn’t make my jaw drop with envy like that anymore. They are a dime a dozen east of Germany. If you were here you would be saying “if I showed you my last five girlfriends / lays yada yada” to another guy and if he wasn’t gay he would smirk and say the same back to you! Socialism in action There is a saying that the men are spoiled rotten and don’t appreciate the beauty here (former USSR).

Gotta be hella slow to still be following Tai Lopez. Maybe if it was their first foray into self help and happened to watch some youtube videos of his like five/six years ago? I think only people dumb enough to still be following him actively are naive teenage boys / young guys that are desperate to buy a sports car and have a hot girlfriend. Guy is a total conman. Only thing I envy about him is his work ethic and ability to commit to something for so long such as pulling one new scam after another.

Wonder if the guy who sold that FAKE green energy truck will get a similar sentence if he goes to trial. pretty crazy how the same dog and pony scam shows happen at all levels of society all the way up to the very top of the financial elite.

I like her message at the end. She isn't telling women to go all natural. Just to explore what feels right and comfortable for them and explore where these forces come from. Are they doing it for themselves, society, someone else, just to be aware of them.

The music and vibe in that club was whack and offensive tho. I'm still not sold on Vegas clubs. I will gladly die on this hill that I think Vegas is super overrated for game

Never seen him in the wild like that I want more content like this

Well put. Non duality is a pretty awful conceptualization of truth anyways to follow, especially if you are looking for healing and psychological well-being. I would even choose a religion over the non dual circle jerk. Almost everyone I’ve spoken to that’s super deep into it doesn’t seem happy or very fulfilled at all in their life. It’s dry and overlooks a vast amount of terrain and mystery and joy possible through spirituality and relationships. I wish this person was able to find the help they needed. A lot of people don’t have the support and grounding around them and it’s very unfortunate. I feel bad for their family.

I got secure. I did a tremendous amount of inner work to get here. Secure doesn’t mean a relationship without problems. You can still face some very challenging issues.

? love it if it’s keeping you from sleeping with them then maybe this dynamic is getting in the way of communicating what you want out of the relationship with them. I would say your level of consciousness and psychological well-being can be one of the best gifts you can give to a girl. I can relate a bit though cause sometimes it feels like I’m playing therapist with my gf. So I think it just requires a balance, trial and error with how for wnd setting boundaries and communicating what you want. You can be helpful and a strong container and radiate sexual energy.

You need to communicate better with your bf what you want. What you said sounds humiliating for him and unfulfilling for you. Tell him what’s missing. Don’t be so scared and run around like that behind his back. that’s going to be worse for your self esteem and reputation in the long run than just working on this or leaving him because you aren’t satisfied.

Looks are super subjective. I’ve seen lots of hot girls with physically average looking guys but here is the thing… the guy looks good because he dresses nice, takes care of himself, has a sense of fashion, looks confident cause he has a hot woman, etc. So usually I find it’s very hard to find a guy unattractive if he has a hot gf cause he takes care of himself and looks happy. I’ve rarely if ever seen a truly unhappy horribly maintained guy with a hot woman. Even the most chubby guys I’ve seen with a hot gf look happy and handsome and take good care of themselves.

This is just my thoughts from what I’ve read here. It could be off. Just take it as some random advice, take or leave it. I would say the central issue I see here is that you seem sort of indecisive and unsure and uneasy, sort of like a limp handshake. Unsure what to do, unsure what you want, uneasy about the whole thing. There is a sort of lack of leadership and ability to guide and progress things how YOU want them to go. Do you want to sleep with her? Don’t think long term like a relationship. A girl will say she is not looking for a relationship whenever she isn’t feeling the vibe between the both of you and loses interest on a date. You can have sex before a relationship. Sex almost always comes before a relationship forms. You seem like you are unsure if you even want to be flirty / “lover” with her or just friends. This usually can come off as emotionally unsafe for women cause they aren’t sure what you are communicating to them. I’m not talking about physical but emotional safety. She isn’t sure if she can trust you because you don’t seem to trust the process and trust your feelings that you certainly want to make love to her after a date in the park. I had a similar experience happen to me like this when I was younger and starting out with women. A way to fix this is both through exposing yourself to more dates/women and secondly working on your inner world so you feel more emotionally confident, decisive and clear in what you feel/want. The experience will teach you how to communicate, the inner work will teach you how to feel chill and good in your body and able to follower your emotions clearly.

I can relate to this experience. It seems from reading this you feel like you are misunderstood by them and you don’t feel like they are trying to understand you. You then sort of feel closed off and don’t feel like being emotionally open. Perhaps this is one aspect to it, you know if there are other layers to it but from what I read here this kinda sounds like one of them. It feels a bit unsafe and/or can feel like talking to a dog that doesn’t understand a word you’re saying and is running through the procedures. In this case I would just look for a person you “click” with. You know what I mean? You know how some people you just get along with cause you feel sort of aligned with their world view or their energy, conditions feel different, etc, whatever. Look around so to speak and open up when you feel safe and like you can trust this person. For me it becomes quickly apparent if I can work with someone after a couple sessions so just give it a bit of time. Write down your values and world views and look for a therapist that seems to hold similar stuff. I like therapists that are spiritually informed, have experience with psychedelics but also aren’t too deep into new agey stuff or are too overly esoteric when handling spiritual concepts in the sessions or pushing anything too much. Just compassion, openness, a willingness to understand, no judgment and a strong sense of containment and integrity.

This forum has a masculine / male bias for sure. I would say it’s largely because that’s the sort of crowd Leo’s videos attract. It’s very much male oriented and your sort of space that values masculine cognitive expression. I sometimes wish it was more of a space that welcomed different energies.

Traditional blue is like a Chinese finger trap. It feels super good getting into it but will be hard getting out. I also think blue values devotion more which is lost in orange.. it’s a key component to making long term work. Devotion is undervalued today in orange society and I think it makes it harder for people to get married and date. Incel and that sort of “hard finding a partner” stuff doesn’t exist as much in blue societies with an equal balance of men/women. At the same time one could make an argument that lots of stage blue marriages should of ended a while ago for both individuals to grow but it hasn’t due to it being stage blue. It’s tricky. I personally am fine dating orange/blue girls. A healthy blue / orange is possible for the short to semi long term (1-2 years). I’ve yet to see it play out in my personal experience going deep communion and long marriage (5-10+ years). To me I have a preference for women from stage blue countries too cause I find them them the most beautiful IMO.

I wouldn’t say most therapists are unconscious or in a “blind leading the blind” sort of situation. I think it’s 50/50 from my own experience. I would say relationship aspects come into play as well kinda like how different people get along better with different people. For me I’ve had sessions with therapists I didn’t jive with at all and some that helped a tremendous amount, helped me transform into a different person. I would say just keep an open mind and keep looking. You can feel out a few different therapists and decide on one after meeting with a few. You can bring some questions you want to ask them and get an idea for how accepting and open minded they are. For me I look for a therapist that gives me signs of high emotional intelligence and isn’t trying to push or “teach.” I prefer a more hands off approach because I realize such a person isn’t there to be my parent or teach me how to live my life. I also take into account that the therapist is human too and has their own strengths and weaknesses. Some topics the therapist can handle better than others. I look for a therapist I feel safe around disclosing everything to and if they are a good communicator, so they subtly communicate with judgement or do they have a strong grasp on how shame works and are very careful and compassionate. I basically look for a therapist that feels emotionally strong to me, safe to talk to, open minded and is not shaming. The one I’ve seen that helped a lot really facilitated for me letting go of a lot of shame and negative beliefs about myself formed from past experiences. How to handle OCD mind symptoms usually through expressing and talking about what lies behind them. From my experience obsessive/compulsive thought experiences usually have a deeper fear or trauma bellow them. The obsessive thoughts is sort of a very crude and unconsciously constructed defense mechanism to the stuff bellow it. When the defenses are safely let down and the stuff behind the obsessive thoughts is explored, a tremendous amount of mind clarity, grounding and a sense of embodiment with the present moment returns, kinda like leaving a self imposed prison for presences and well-being. It can be scary to leave this stuff sometimes because it’s familiar and there can be lots of defense mechanisms that can’t be just forcefully disarmed but slowly unraveled. I can relate to what you are saying about the obsessive mind. I struggled with that for years but really healed and brought back a tremendous amount of clarity and shame free self esteem and grounding/embodiment through therapy so I do proclaim that I think it’s probably the best treatment for a person really wrapped deeply in shame and strong negative self beliefs and trauma. It’s not something I’ve seen many people handle or heal on their own. Many people who say otherwise can’t appreciate just how entangled things can get. When you have a broken leg you need a surgeon to help you realign it. When you have a cut you can take a bandaid from cabinet. It took thousands of people to build beautiful buildings. Your emotional well-being is similar. We are all in this together and getting help and support for something you have problems doing on your own is not a problem. You may even find yourself stronger and more mentally healthy letting go of the heavy self responsibility to do it on your own and open up more where real change and healing can take place.

This is a good approach. I think from there, how much you “take yourself” subconsciously will be how attractive you are or rather how cool and relaxed you can be in your body. From there your social skills and stuff will sort of fall into place from experience. And you can do a bit of contemplating when you feel really calm and good. Going into that stuff when you’re feeling bad isn’t productive and can actually cause all sorts of emotional problems and entanglements. Do the reflecting when you feel good. For now just give yourself love and accept the feelings. Painful feelings like this are good because they are basically telling you there are some needs you have that aren’t being met and it’s usually self love and acceptance. It will pass

Sounds like you are trying to “figure it out.” I’ve found this to be unhelpful for the most part. I’m talking for myself so maybe it doesn’t apply to you. A bit of contemplation on improving is fine but I would just sit with the uncomfortable feelings and move on to the next date. Give yourself some self love. I’ve found just focusing on getting abundance and focusing on having fun and being care free on dates works best to find someone. When you focus on something like there is a problem it creates more problems. If you focus on just having avenues for experience like meeting lots of women then focus on being chill and having fun then that is what you will get. They mix together and you are then bound to find someone. Worked for me

I’m an idealist as well sometimes but I am not sure I’m totally anti death. It won’t ever be so black and white but there are ways to consciously handle inflicting death on other humans and it is sometimes necessary through war. Through the courts I’m not sure. I lean latterly towards not ok. There are some people so wrapped up in something violent and disturbing that having them dead may be mentally better for the guards around them. Thing is though the person that pulls the trigger won’t feel ok it’s tricky.

I think flossing is overrated. I think brushing is very important. I think you can floss once a day to occasionally or not even bother flossing and be fine. There is even some evidence that suggests flossing is overrated and gives such a tiny benefit that it’s not even that noticeable. I think diet plays an important role as well.

Ok fair enough, just seemed like you were trying to paint things more grimly than they are about infidelity. Maybe I misread your point.

This is where Vegas and your Peter Pan PUA lifestyle / RSD stuff is misguiding you. Like a war veteran who thinks every place is dangerous or a drug addict who thinks no friend can be trusted. You have a skewed picture of women and attraction. You are seeing low integrity all around you in the city of sin and painting it as a key component and some common thing in attraction. I’m not saying it doesn’t happen but check your bias and how you formed this view. You are attracting such women into your life because there is something fundamentally wrong with your approach if you are encountering this often. High integrity attracts high integrity. I’m not saying infidelity doesn’t happen but it’s not something to be so worried about or paint as incredibly common if you are conscious enough to avoid it and find the women that don’t partake. If you have a lot of experience and know how to screen you will rarely encounter it but some will become wounded and jaded by it cause it is like all unpleasant things in life. They do happen but not that often and you can learn to avoid hitting your hand with the hammer if you are keen and wise to.

My bad I think I confused you with like two other people cause you don’t have a photo

The guy has his wings in jail like you said and went to court for rape. That automatically should disqualify him from being discussed in this community as a viable source for men to improve with women. Fox News threads and conspiracy threads are closed here. The same level of integrity should be applied to male dating advice here.