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I would say this is mostly something that comes down to how you view vulnerability. What do you believe vulnerable means? To me it takes great strength to be vulnerable and tremendous courage. I don’t think it’s weak at all. Some may view it that way and that’s their own perception of it. Own your vulnerability.

I think people will attract all different kinds of people for various reasons. I actually don't like ranking in any way and try to avoid it. I've found even ranking stuff like "better communicator" or "more conscious" is just another ranking system akin to the beauty scale. I'm not against evaluating and saying what I prefer but I don't like to buy into some objective scale. I think you should just screen and look for what you want in a partner and expect that they won't be perfect and fit every single need of yours.

I'm still with my girlfriend. It's been kinda hard and had a lot of ups and down cause her plans change but she will likely still move for work when COVID is more under control (who knows when?) It kinda hurts cause I'm not sure I will go with her :\ I have envy and would be open to starting over here even though I don't want to and it hurts. Right now I wanna be in the relationship and will consider all my options. I'm not going to just say I won't move with her nor I will. I'll cross this bridge when it comes. Part of me still very much thirsts for other female bodies and I feel envy sometimes that I can't go out and meet new women for sex. The perks and sex in my relationship is amazing though so I recognize I do have envy and desire still. I feel I've been focusing too much on my problems, relationship and complexes instead of putting energy into my life purpose. I've been doing personal development seriously for a while now. I am kinda tired of the "healing" mindset. I will always hold onto it and still prioritize emotional wellbeing and care but I'm putting a bit of space between all the stuff that is emotionally painful and focus more on my passions. I wanna make more money. I want to start a business. I want a career shift. I want to make online video content. I want to start focusing on my hobbies more and stuff I enjoy rather than putting in mental and emotional energy focusing on my problems. I will allot a certain amount of time a week to reflect on emotional problems and all that shit. Aside from that I'm going to focus more on my life purpose, my interests, having fun and working hard while enjoying it. I love the feeling when I'm busy doing something I enjoy. I feel so alive. So that's what I'm gonna do Hopefully I can look back on this post in 6 months and see what I've done to make myself more money and enjoy doing it in the process!

Anyone watching this? Apparently it broke HBO records for most viewed thing ever on their streaming platforms.

It’s one of the most beautiful experiences I’ve ever had, probably the most ugly as well. Life without a woman by my side is like flipping through the pages of a new coloring book. Doesn’t feel alive at all.

I never label my feelings good or bad. They are just feelings. They each are valid and important in their own way. They may signify a need of mine looking to be fulfilled, a belief/thought, a way to communicate, something wanting to be expressed, etc. I would say there is a sort of wisdom to them that I just trust, it's largely centered in my heart area. My mind is used for strategizing. When both mind and heart come together it sorta forms wisdom for me. I also try to face fears and accept I'll make mistakes. I don't read into it too much about intuition. Intuition can be a very confusing thing for cognitively heavy expressions of life (people). I think there are many different kinds of intuition as well. I would say don't label feelings as good or bad though or expect them to be some sort of clear roadmap to the good life.

same, meditation is more for me kinda a good way to just be less reactive and triggered, keep the mind more focused and feel bodily sensations so I can identify emotions better. compassion has grown more for me when I'm sorta thrown into situations with people and in life, I feel them, I'm faced with the reality of change, I hear what they been through, face my problems in a compassionate way. This has grown me more than any retreat I've done. It's why I don't do retreats anymore, I don't get much more from them that regular life already gifts me.

Not advised at all. Therapy, books, exercise, diet, volunteering/community, self love, etc. This stuff is dangerous if there isn't that foundation and container. These substances are proving very useful in helping people who already have established a healthy container and resources around them to recover from issues. You're going in dark, very risky, like performing surgery on yourself without any training or knowledge of medicine.

Were you talking (yelling) too much and it seemed like she wasn’t interested in listening? You didn’t describe that so it doesn’t sound like you made some mistake so to speak. Sounds like you just need more practice in such a setting to get a feel of what works and what doesn’t. Sounds like you learned something too so I would say try to go to some more parties and enjoy yourself.

I’d LOVE to be a techno dj

You don't really talk in this setting as much. Think about it, this isn't the place to have some long conversation. You're trying to put your foot into a shoe that doesn't fit. You make some small talk by getting close to their face, dance, touch, eye fuck, get a little physical, etc. You pull her to the side where it's more quiet (and darker) when you feel a connection and want to have a conversation. Also what you do when you feel it's time to make out

I think you have a somewhat narrow idea of integrity and truthfulness when applied to this domain of life. I’m not trying to twist it but this very dry, masculine, precise form of communication is not always the most honest either. There are other ways that are just as truthful. You gotta follow your heart. I’ve noticed what women consider to be the truth especially in relationships can be kinda different in an odd way i quite don’t understand myself. Often it has more grey to it and doesn’t have the same sort of sharp corners found in how men interpret integrity and truthfulness. I would say seeing all these differences and learning how to navigate and bridge them is the sign of a master. Lead with your heart, tap into your own feminine to learn. Look at her and take in her beauty and try to let your heart guide the dialogue, not pick up lines you heard in a video being recited from your head.

I think you have some underlying shame and insecurity about getting your needs met. Little white lies and stuff like this shouldn’t bother as much as it sounds it does. This is a matter of beliefs and stuff you are holding onto and seeing the world through. All the same you could say “just walking around and enjoying my afternoon.” You don’t have to say that meeting friends stuff. You could just say I gotta go. There is always a level of cordial disclosure when it comes to interacting with strangers. You are at no liberty to disclose all that stuff and tbh I would not say you are approaching women on the street like that. It’s just socially weird. Maybe it won’t blow you out but I think you are overthinking this all a bit too much cause you’re nervous about approaching women and then it’s sending you to your head and you are then finding yourself in this cycle about feeling guilty about saying some white lie no one cares about cause you wanna add some social lubrication to the situation. What you gotta do is dig deeper here and resolve more of your self esteem and emotional stuff. You’ll find yourself just saying things congruent (and more truthful ) to how you feel the more emotionally healthy you feel inside.

It’s just part of the forum software or whatever and it has gone unused. Leo isn’t a web developer. He didn’t write the coding of this site from scratch himself. He’s using 3rd party stuff.

I have, most of that land it borders (that leads straight into Russia's capital) is as flat as a piece of paper. They are incredibly vulnerable there. Look up history on battles in WWII and also the French invasion of Russia. They have a long history of being invaded there.

It absolutely would. Russia is basically impenetrable from the south, north and east. You are aiming at the head of a turtle with those countries in NATO.

#1 Ukraine joining NATO would basically give a clear entrance through the steppe to the heart of Russia. It is absolutely not in their best interest to have their neighbors aligned with nations that have a history of setting up aggressive military waypoints leading to their capital. #2 From the spiral perspective, in a way it is. EU is Orange with a bit of blue and green. Russia is Blue with a bit of Orange and Red. The society's way of life is challenged having such different norms sitting right next to them. If the police are coming up to you and waving their guns in your face then yes you will feel threatened.

What I understand about Turkey is that they actually are a pretty stable country that allows for a nice transition from the west to the middle east and also they have decent relations with Russia. There are a number of factors holding up Turkey from joining the EU though Ukrainian nationalists will absolutely not like what I have to say on this and I do have a bit of a Russia bias on this particular topic about geopolitics so be warned: but I think the best thing for the region would be for the EU to be very careful with how it associates with Ukraine. There isn't some genocide going on there. Is it unfortunate the region is corrupt and people lack liberties? sure, but we gotta pick and choose our battles and how we influence change if we want stage blue countries to further develop without conflict. It's a fairly stable country when it isn't being pulled apart by two powers. It serves as a decent buffer for Russia and I absolutely don't see Russia expanding beyond former Soviet territory or even much into Ukraine if it is given influence over this territory it once controlled. Soft power like giving Ukrainians visa free travel to the Schengen is fine and I see positive change happening if they gave Russians visa free travel to the Schengen region as well. This army stuff like providing Ukraine with military support is not a good idea at all.

Afterlife label

The material problems: diseases like COVID and climate/water issues, wealth inequality. I would like to think Nuclear war is a thing of the past generation. The mental problems: Lack of consciousness, mental development, emotional mastery and understanding, communication skills.

Afghans are mountain people with a geographic terrain and a social system the west is not accustom to. They stand no chance to hold it down or really control something that isn't even there to be controlled because things are incredibly different there in so many ways. It's barely even a country, just a bunch of tribes held loosely together.

I mean, maybe? I guess theorists of this are scared of Russia? I don't really see the point at the moment. Europe is quite peaceful with every country around it. I don't think Russia will test boundaries as long as Belarus and Ukraine are not encroached upon. These are buffer countries. People need to stop pretended they are autonomous countries or can just suddenly become one. It's unfortunate they don't have the same human rights as the west but the alternative is Crimea situations in them if the west pushes their agenda and gets too entangled in business and strategy with them.

Women are far more social than men. You will not find them sitting in their room alone as much as guys. They will have a couple friends, a roommate, be at the gym with a trainer, doing something they like around other people, etc. I've seen on several occasions single beautiful women go to clubs alone just to hear a dj they like play. When they get totally alone like this they will hop on tinder or go to the club to meet a guy for some company. I've actually found some of the most eager women to be ones that just moved to a new city and didn't know anyone. Women take advantage of how easy it is to find them a guy when they feel lonely. Women that are solo traveling as a single tourist are some of the most eager to socialize and hook up. Probably some of the coolest girls you will meet too.

From my experience honesty and boundaries are sort of built up and reevaluated regularly in such a relationship that started out unserious. I think this is the case for any relationship. I am with Leo here in terms of approach about getting into a relationship. I've never gotten into a relationship that didn't start out unserious or from a fling/fwb. It starts out unserious, you spend a lot of time together hooking up and having fun (usually over a couple weeks to a month), get to know each other and value each other, you decide you want something more serious with her and you start discussing boundaries and expectations. Some things are kinda awkward to ask for in the boundaries right away or early on. From my experience most girls are pretty honest and not sleeping with multiple guys at once and the ones that decide they wanna be your girlfriend will usually expect that you are doing the same. She will be sorta committed to you as a FWB/fling for the first month (you the same) while she feels you out and you feel her out for a relationship and then she will wait for you to call her your girlfriend and have a conversation about how you want to see where it goes as a relationship. From my experience just being super upfront saying you are looking for a relationship on the first few dates has always scared off women for me They realize they'd have to be fucking crazy to date a guy like me (they usually are) but they haven't been hooked on my powerful GODCOCK yet so they turn tail and run!

Yep, I have. They are great for building public speaking skills. It looks easy but when you get up there it is not easy freezing up a bit and getting a bit shy. I would recommend you go. It’s a great way to meet people too. It can really help your social skills.