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Careful with James. He’s a good dude that a lot of guys can learn from but his number scale rating is kinda dopey and something he needs to let go of. You will never reach 10 statue in your own eyes. You will always feel you have to improve something about yourself if you are still even watching videos on pick up. I also agree that you won’t find a “perfect” match. You can become conscious enough as to understand why relationships will always take some work and why there is friction when there is polarity. I would say if you have time though to play the field that it is good to date around and be in a number of relationships to get an idea of what works for you and what doesn’t. You won’t find this perfect dream person but you can find someone you are able to relate to easier and better with than others. Be careful about having your prayers answered though lol, what’s that about how answered prayers are more tragic than unanswered? You might find this “compatible” partner boring and passionless. I have no clue what I’m saying lol

The only personal problem I have with porn is my obvious double standard. I love porn, but would I date or marry a woman that did porn. Probably not. So I feel this inner contradiction. I’ll continue to watch though. I have other stuff to think about.

I’m leaving Russia next week. I’m quite devastated this is happening. Ive been panicked sometimes and a bit scared but mostly sad. I am sort of emotionally overwhelmed also and can’t even process all this. I’m feeling all sorts of things. I do know I’ll get through this because I’m strong and capable and lovable as well. Probably the craziest last couple weeks, even more than when covid hit.

Putin is everyone’s conservative grandpa if they were molded by corruption and brutality for decades and had to run a mafia state. Putin has also isolated himself since COVID. He’s replaced anyone that might challenge him. He also seems to have deteriorated some health wise so physiologically he may be different. This isn’t the charismatic guy that was having memes made about him like 10 years ago. He seems just off and warped by a number of factors. I would not be surprised if he is acting on some deeply held angry impulses that are leading to all these strategic blunders. To simply hand wave criticisms of him as pro western subjective bias would be a half disagreement from me. Yes, we’ve been through the discussion before that Russia does have some genuine security concerns. One man’s deteriorating state while in a position power absolutely can lead to some really negative rippling consequences.

This has actually been a pretty big strategic catastrophe and huge blunder in many ways for Russia. Russia spoke for a long time about having some big bad army and then look at how much trouble they are having and how much supplies they have lost. Basically all they have is Nukes. Their army is kinda a joke and it proves a clear mind and a will to fight is more important than expensive gear. I think all their showing off with their army over the years has largely been posturing to compensate for their geographic and economic weaknesses. I think if Ukraine can keep up the resistance for another 9 days Russia may be in a position where they won’t be able to continue this. They won’t have lost land themselves or be exposed to any advancements from Ukraine but they will have failed to topple the government and military. Ukraine could get a stalemate here which would be fucking crazy.

I’m in Russia. Leaving it next week with my girlfriend. Don’t know when we will be back but we are set to live abroad for years so we will be fine. Hope things calm back down soon.

Google the prime minister of Finland, also Estonia. Beautiful women. They don’t strike me as particularly ruthless or tough either. I think depending on the development of a country determines what leader arise. A tough guy like Putin would not be elected in a country like Finland where they value more social empathy and holistic wellbeing for all. The less developed a country is the more ruthless the leader. Countries like Finland are some of the most psychologically and holistically developed countries in the world. I’m not talking solely material/economics here but that is one factor.

I can’t help but wonder though what would the Iraq invasion would of looked like in 2022. What Russia is doing is basically the same. Not right. But it is fucked up how a stronger country with more influence can get away with it unscathed while a weaker country has its entire innocent civilians punished with sanctions and their entire economy ruined.

I’m sure there is a level of corruption going on with onlyfans. I do think it does take a bit advantage of emotionally stunted men for sure but I don’t think it’s that bad and I think far worse has happened in the sex work industry. For the most part it’s a legitimate service but it needs to be checked and balanced a bit so things don’t get too out of hand.

Those countries in the Baltic, Poland, Romania, etc willfully joined NATO however. It’s not like they were forced or bribed to do that. They all genuinely felt security concerns being next to Russia. Who knows if Russia would of been this benevolent non-violent state if they didn’t have their neighbors join or would Russia still have had its eyes set on expansion and regaining control over territory lost in the fall of the Soviet Union? It’s not so clear. Obviously there was a lack of diplomacy and communication around this issue though.

It’s really cold here and snowy. Like -6 or lower. Makes me so sleepy and I wanna do stuff at night but it’s so cold and I feel so lazy to go out. I just got a really expensive winter coat. I’m still kinda sleepy after work. How can I trouble shoot this and get more energy during these cold winter days and nights? I don’t really drink much coffee. Eating more makes me feel fat. What am I potentially missing?

You know what would of been hilarious? if OP was actually being hit on and she was just hinting at him inviting her back to his place to "get warm" but he took it as her trying to be scammy

My girl freaked out and wants me to buy her a $800 hairdryer after not bringing her flowers on Valentine's Day even though I have basically an excuse and told her over the weekend while I was IN BED SICK WITH A FEVER that I'd need a raincheck and we would celebrate next weekend instead, she's apologized since but how she was kinda bi polar for a bit and making no sense I sometimes don't understand women

They move in quickly where I am, like in the first year. People drag their feet a ton in the west. It’s low key gross IMO.

I forgot to get my girl flowers and a gift on Valentine’s Day ? I’m sick the whole damn week and forgot. She was actually really hurt by it and I felt bad but another part of me doesn’t give a fuck. Feel like a do a ton for her already. I have a fever the last week and the first day it’s down and she’s all whining about how I’m not being romantic. Annoying.

These girls are rare but occasionally some will try to ask for things form guys they aren’t even with. One chick asked me once if I’d meet her off tinder but in exchange for a gift. It’s happened to me several times in different ways. You will come across it a lot when you put yourself out there often. It can be sorta scammy sometimes too so be careful. There are simp guys who will actually do this so they are sorta screening for them. Just ignore such women. Don’t even try to “game” them or change them.

Too damn long. If you ain’t getting married after two years it’s time to move on!

“Dating for 4 years and engaged for a year” wtf ? these Reddit threads are crazy. I would NOT go there for advice ever.

why bother eating? why bother showering after passing a turd?

Just don't be this guy Ukraine is SUPER SCAMMY and they take desperate guys looking for a girl there for a ride all the time

I was pretty awful at falling asleep till recently. I was staying up incredibly late at night (bed at 5am, wake up at 1pm). I wasn't sure if it was physiological or mental. I wasn't pressed to fix it so I just let it stay like this. Have you recently went on a holiday? I went on a holiday with my gf and we started going to bed at 9pm every night there. It was at the beach. When I came back I noticed the resistance and sleeping problems I was having were gone. For me it was all mental. I think finding a way to tackle this side is important if it isn't physiological. Talking about it with trained professional or seeing a sleep therapist. The good thing is this is something that can clear up quick if it isn't too serious.

ah yeah, this is tricky. I still feel this way kinda as well. I'm kinda at a point though where I don't give a fuck. I am who I am. Just got fed up and found myself letting go. I think it's about just surrounding yourself with people who will accept you for you flaws and all. Treating those around you with at least the amount of respect you'd like to be treated with. idk I just got so sick of feeling shame and working on it and exploring it that I just found myself letting a lot of it go. I've done literally hundreds of hours on shame and hard inner work related to regrets from the past and thing I felt ashamed of about myself. I think I just got tired of it and realized I was wasting my time. Exploring it was necessary though, and still is sometimes. I think finding a balance of authenticity where you explore it through all the various means that have been discussed on this site but also then changing focus to other stuff you'd rather do that is fun or interesting. It's a lot about balance I've noticed. Self work needs to be balanced with rest needs to be balanced with creating needs to be balanced with more rest.

half of all hook ups probably happened cause of alcohol I'm fine with having a few cocktails. It's part of having fun. Talking to women is then just a natural progression of the night.

stayed, but tried to do a more honest job gotta pay the bills