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What do you really want in life? I think getting crystal clear on what you want and your intentions is what’s most important. You sound like you lack guidance in this area of life. Do you actually want to be doing IT? Is your highest and true potential working for this company, in this job or field? You got to get clear because then everything else won’t matter, you’ll just have your own path to focus on.

This is survival / modern business. It’s competitive and to do well you have to constantly be pushing yourself for new skills, how to market yourself, networking, niching down, etc. And even then someone new could come along who has some interesting thing to offer and your clients could choose them over you because they like them more for that. Do not get so involved in the nitty gritty and tou definitely need to work on your inner voices and inner child to maintain your wellbeing in the face of adversity. This is why it’s so important to be journaling and doing self inquiry and keeping your mental health straight and mind clear. Get clear on your heart felt intentions and get a clear mind and then just strive and try your best. Don’t be looking around and getting distracted by what’s going on. You’re focusing on unfairness rather than yourself. Keep tabs on the outside for feedback, keep your ear to the ground, but don’t concern yourself with the unfairness of business. Just focus on you and believe in you because you can create your dream life if you do not falter.

This conversation would look very different if we could see into each and every one of your guy’s bank accounts, love life, relationships, career, living situation. A bunch of kids wowed by juvenile ideals set forth by a guru who had a bunch of brainwashed minions paying his bills. Little of what he’s saying can reasonably be applied to any of your guys’ lives in the practical sense and even how it fits in with your own personal path towards transcending. Back to work people. Thread #10000000000 of the same exact conversation on this non duality / neo advita / guru crap take on transcendence.

What he’s talking about is living as a fully integrated spiritual being, a true adult, not through the lens of the inner child / human scented. Many people spend most of their time on the level of the inner child, because they believe all the limiting beliefs and painful experiences define them, and with that gone they choose to create fear because they think they are losing themselves. Many people think because they have a job they are an adult but you only really reach the level of adult, head above the water, when you are actively choosing to not go under and live as the inner child / survival mind. He’s not saying you don’t have to work or don’t need money. He’s saying those are separate from living in Wu Wei, integrated. And many people think because they have a job they are an adult which they are not mentally, integration is actually being an adult.

I think the most realistic strategic path to diminishing Israel is actively supporting politicians in the USA to cut all spending on Israel. It's moving slowy.

it's his pov. what's wrong? look through lenses you prefer to explain things then.

Remember to work on your belief system. Your day to day wellbeing should be your top priority but you should also have the wisdom to admit you don’t really know anything even after awakening, and to get straight with what is unfolding within you. If you have painful emotions then you need to actively resolve what issues you are choosing to create, but then further more be responsible and take appropriate action over what you believe is right and true and in alignment with the intentions you set. This is how to you escape society and return to nature. Do you want to experience society or nature? You don’t have to cut yourself off from society nor not take part in it in order to escape it. Return to nature, the flow. This will resolve your inner doubt and return self esteem in yourself and your faculties. Integrate the lower and allow it to play its role with the higher guiding, both create a balance to live life beautifully.

guys remember to leave a little room mentally into what views you are sharing. I do agree with most of you that humanity does not live with integrity. Many people do not and commerce and capitalism are filled with dishonesty and a lack of integrity. But that doesn’t mean we as spiritual beings have to. We are lucky in the sense that we are on the spiritual path and I can tell you now when you align your energies and mind with what’s true, resolve any beliefs or mental issues, and then lastly align your action with integrity, survival becomes less painful and you gain the ability to live in Wu Wei and harness the law of attraction. So just because some people living dishonestly and exploiting people for money does not mean we have to in order to live up to our highest and true potential and transcend survival. You or I are not responsible for the collective which is just going as it go, no one is in control of anything in this sense, it’s just unfolding. Focus on you and focus on what you choose to believe and focus on how hard or easy you are making life for yourself. Just because you see people disconnecting form truth doesn’t mean you have to. Stay committed and engaged and responsible and connected to spirit, you will always have peace of mind and see beauty and value even in all the challenges humanity faces.

Bro I’m reading your posts and am starting to wonder if you’re playing a gimmick here at this point or if you’ve actually been with a woman for any meaningful period of time

Embrace simplicity for issues like this. I’ve experienced ED when with my ex, when some issue would not resolve it would be hard to get aroused because this stress and pain in the relationship would get in the way. I was out of integrity and it was hard having sex. We would sometimes do cocaine to have sex, it was not healthy dynamic.. It’s as simple as that. It’s not hard getting aroused if your belief system is clear and you are in flow. I also would only sleep with beautiful women that are my type. There was a woman I slept with who had an amazing body but she wasn’t my type so I was super unaroused. You said it yourself, out of integrity, have sex when you know it’s right and you won’t have ED, unless it’s purely a physiological issue.

I can relate man, you ain’t the only one on this path. I am coming out of a relationship with a woman I’ve chose to be addicted to. I’m in the process of building a business. Let’s accept uncertainty. It’s the fertile ground which allows for possibilities. Let’s accept change, without it we would never grow. Let’s accept redirection, the world is too big to control, wouldn’t it be more peaceful going with the flow? take this analogy of a sailer; the sailer can not control the ocean or weather, but with wisdom sail to here he desires. Life redirected you on your career, life has redirected me on my relationship. Let’s go into this with an open mind and heart. its so unbelievably cliche but really open your mind and heart, you will see new possibilities from this redirection and one day look back and laugh at how seriously you took it. You won’t care or regret anything in a bit of time when you’re on your new chapter. Just have gratitude.

I read it once. It’s good. I will reread it.

Nah, fairness isn’t a straight line down the middle it’s a ying yang symbol i def think it’s the man’s role to support his woman financially and be able to solve most of her survival issues if he wants to have sexual freedom and leadership in the relationship, which is what most men desire same with having mistresses. Most men want a girlfriend or wife and then one or two other women just for sex on the side

You guys are wild for hating on anal sex. Anal sex is fine (and beautiful) but it’s not a casual thing to do, imo for a relationship only. Most straight men love anal and want to do it with their girlfriend,

Woke up today and I’m doing alright I asked myself something like this “so I probably will choose to think about this for the next couple days if not weeks” “yes” “why?” im going to self inquire on this.

You’re projecting your own problems. I’m not saying no one struggles with their porn use but you you have to realize not everyone has a problem balancing this part of reality with their life. Just because you have problems watching porn doesn’t mean it causes the same problems for everyone else.

Porn is a form of entertainment and does satisfy certain bodily needs. The women in porn are often unbelievably beautiful. It’s definitely not garbage to want to see unbelievably beautiful women having sex. I’ve had a ton of sex in my life and have had an abundant access to sex with very beautiful women for about 7 years now and I still enjoy porn.

Everything really is connected from this perspective and I accept this. I don’t think we need to purity test everything but just focus on ourselves and try to be as honest as possible. I think porn will have some degree of people being dishonest and mistreating people but at the same time also have honesty to it and allow opportunities for people. A close friend of mine did porn and only fans and she sits in over 300k followers on instagram. She’s actually quite grateful for the adult industry and it’s afforded her and amazing life based off her natural beauty. I think we can engage with all aspects of life honestly to the best of our ability and we don’t have to go to such radical extremes to transcend. I like porn too, ok I’ll watch porn that’s well made and wasn’t made through exploitation. I eat animals too, I’ll try to not waste meat and choose meat that was once part of an animal that was treated well.

Thanks for sharing and I agree. I like your cat story as well and to be honest it isn’t so different from what I’m experiencing. I agree I think I need to really let her go and grieve and allow this inner resolution to unfold. I accept this has ended. I do not accept it has ended, but I am accepting that I do not accept this has ended. I do not accept she is gone but I accept I do not accept she is gone. I’m creating longing and will self inquire on this. I think the reason losing a loved one due to a break up can be so devastating and challenging is because there’s just so many dynamics that come to the surface. All the relationship issues and unresolved stuff, inner child issues, logistical stuff for example one person realizes how they have been neglecting their career due to this relationship, kids and money and divorce papers, just all this stuff that needs to be dealt with. I think I’m in a very good position in life given this break up. It hasn’t ruined me financially and I did not have kids with her. I think now it’s really being present for myself and understanding to myself and really listening, without going to extremes.

IC = Inner child ME = Adult me IC: I cannot accept my ex is not prioritizing me anymore. ME: Why do I want to be with someone who won’t prioritize me? IC: I don’t believe I can do better ME: Why do I believe I cannot do better than her, a person who does not want to prioritize me anymore? IC: because I believe there is no one else like her ME: I do agree that there is no one else like her, every human is unique, why does that prove that I cannot do better than her? Wouldn’t the next person I’m with be unique and no one else like them? IC: Yes, the next woman would be unique and no one else like them, but I’m not sure I will meet someone I will want to love as much as her. ME: If I believe it is absolutely true that I will never meet another woman that I will want to love as much as her, then I absolutely should keep fighting for her. I did some self inquiry and had a breakthrough, i realized the belief holding me back is that I believe I won't find a woman that I will want to love as much as her. I found the video above and am going to focus on this perspective. Can any of you speak on this? Please only if you have actual lived experience similar to mine and not some goofy ideology about game. If you went through the end of a long term relationship and then one day you met someone else you loved as much as your ex, if not more so. Is this possible? My inner child believes it's not exactly possible or at least the chances are low but my adult mind knows I could meet another woman I will love just as much as my ex and be able to build an even longer lasting relationship built on honesty and integrity. When did you turn the leaf on this belief that you may not meet someone you want to love as much as your ex? I loved this woman like the sun, we became one for years, we were everything until we weren't

wow thanks, I looked it up and this channel seems really helpful.

Thanks for the replies and different perspectives everyone. This experience has been one of my greatest teachers. That one girl who was so special and beautiful can be really hard to let go. I am not going to pretend like I’m a player even thought I do have other options. We have these beliefs we hold and I know there is a degree of believing she completes me. Very normal I think when you grow so close. I think many of you can relate when you’ve spent years with someone. Working on so many issues together. So much sex and reflections of love. It really is like a family member going away.

So it’s good that you agree that you create your own emotions through your thoughts and beliefs. That right there is a huge step. You would be surprised how many people believe they are a victim to their state and think they have little to no control over how they feel. 1. Ok these are good answers and I’m glad you’re not filtering what you’re writing and speaking honestly because I can tell you that is how you find your way back to peace, clarity, and wholeness. “well because, I haven't achieved enough to feel like I am good enough” So you believe a person has to achieve something in order to be good enough? Is that true? What do they have to achieve? According to who? Does this rule apply to every human or just to you? What if someone you loved and cared about came up to you, perhaps a child, and said they aren’t good enough because they haven’t achieved something, would you agree with them and tell them they aren’t good enough? “I know this reeks as the most superficial statement which goes against the whole love yourself unconditionally idea, and I am aware it is wrong intellectually, but I am just saying what I deep down feel I suppose.” Dude this is good that you’re being honest cause like I said this is how you find your way back to truth. You aren’t sugar coating it. This is something I hear a lot too that someone intellectually understands but deep down they feel differently. This is where we can do self inquiry and dig deep to really understand what some people call the subconscious mind / ego / inner child believes. The sub conscious mind or ego or what I call the inner child is that sort of part of the mind that has an identity that is formed by beliefs going way back or childhood. And it order to return you to clarity we have to go back and sort of reverse engineer it to sort of release any beliefs that sort of go against your true nature, what I believe is that you (and everyone else) have innate spiritual value, true value, it can’t be given to you nor taken away. It’s intrinsic and just always here if we allow ourselves to connect with it. The belief you have about needing to earn your value goes against this belief I stated. So now either I’m right and you’re wrong or you’re right and I’m wrong. So I invite you to tell me why you believe a person has to achieve enough in order to be good enough? 2. “Again I will give the superficial answer that I feel deep down, which is, feeling ugly and lots of rejection from girls, maybe as well the fact that my father abandoned us since I was young?,” Again, I personally wouldn’t call that superficial but instead you’re being honest. And I can see why you’re sort of having this issue you’re having. Because on one hand you have these lofty ideas and beliefs you think you’re supposed to believe and feel but then deep down you actually feel how you describe here and this is your experience. So you have two belief systems at odds with one another. Let’s break this down more and maybe it can help you go deeper to return to integrity on this. Why do you create an emotion you label as “feeling ugly”? Give me a belief or an explanation, please don’t give an emotion. It’s very easy to get stuck on the emotion but it’s the belief that’s causing it. W “Lots of rejections from girls” ok so I believe a girl cannot reject you. A girl can communicate her choice to you on whether or not she wishes to be with you but it’s not possible for her to reject you, the reason is because the word reject has the connotation that your value has been affect, but like I said I believe everyone has innate spiritual value which can not ever change no matter what. So a woman communicating her choice to you does not change your value. “maybe as well the fact that my father abandoned us since I was young?” I think this is where you should be focusing most. Do you believe if a child is left by a father that they are unlovable? If a parent abandons a child, does that mean the child is unlovable? If a child said to you they believe they are unlovable because their father left them would you tell them they are correct? I believe we are always lovable because we have true value that can’t be given or taken away. I believe love is not a commodity that can be given or taken away but it’s something we experience when we connect to our true value. Again, either im right or you’re wrong or you’re right and I’m wrong. This isn’t a debate or anything. I’m just trying to break down the logic behind your beliefs that are creating these painful emotions and confusion for you. I’m trying to show you the power of self inquiry and how you can resolve many of these issues by just questioning them. So I invite you to please explain why you believe if a father leaves a family that the child is now unlovable? Why do you believe this?

Does it have to take years though? Seems like the only thing keeping it that way is myself if I choose so. I’m already open minded some to new experiences. The thing is I do know what I want in a woman to some extent. Some of it is what she was like, some of it is different, I’m also open to being surprised. I know there won’t be another like her cause every person is unique but also I know I can find someone who fulfills everything like she did, perhaps even more.

Remember that you are not a victim. You are the creator of your emotions, not the victim of it. Any painful emotions or confusion you are experiencing now are of your own creation and they are done so through your beliefs. This is really crucial I found to resolving and working with hard times like this. Are you aware that your own finger is on the button? I’m not saying this to be hard on you, it’s just absolutely crucial in order to find resolution and return to both peace of mind and clarity. It’s very easy for that human minded side of us to want to sit in painful emotions and want to feel bad. What we have to do is sort of get in touch with our inner sage, the spiritual parent to help take care of our inner child. 1) you say you don’t believe you are good enough. Why? I believe you are good enough. Now either you’re right about being not good enough or I’m right that you are good enough. What evidence that you have that proves you are not good enough? 2) why do you believe you are not lovable? I believe you are. So again, what evidence do you have that proves that you are unlovable? 3) ok so you have this belief that you can cope and survive, which I agree I believe you can too. I think your main area of focus should be on resolving any beliefs you have on your self worth and value. It looks like you aren’t fully connected to your true value. I would look to do self inquiry and really hone in on why you don’t believe you are good enough or lovable. What makes a person good enough and lovable? the good thing about a situation like this is even though it seems so complicated, in actuality it usually just boils down to a few unresolved issues we have about our self worth